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Dyt:
The love of summer
Just getting in after a long day
Pizza at 11:47pm


Thesourcerer

We have this in common.

Nairalandmonika:
Ion think babes like geni n Rita need a man. They get advance from men all the time, all this one fuçk as they like n they have money so they don't see the need for a man. Geni even has a child so what could a man possibly do for her now

And this ladies and gentlemen is what pains guys who like to remind women of their menopause like they care that they are or will be lonely when in fact they don't care if they are happy or unhappy, sick or healthy, rich or poor. The fear of becoming irrelevant is the motivation behind all their twitching, ranting and unnecessary convulsions.

kulobyno:
Why do we have to cite the personal opinion of a masturbating professor to counter nature. Find your own man, marry for the right reason, you will enjoy life better.

Marriage is the most unnatural invention ever so your point is null and void.

Dottore:
Not everybody is a thing of the lips not of the mind.

If it came from my lips then it was on my mind first so it's from the mind through the lips.
Not everybody needs marriage in their life. The sooner you understand that not everybody is the same, the better for you.

Even in better economic climes most families need two incomes to pay for the house and college fees so what the heck are we discussing here? It's ridiculous.

kulobyno:
Forget the camera smile and packaging. There's inner pain that an aging single lady suffers. The pain grows as she gets older. Forget the "marriage is not everything" and liberated woman bulshit. They all deny it publicly. When you are close to one you will understand her pain.

Unmarried women are the healthiest and the happiest: professor

Single ladies – the secret to happiness may never be putting a ring on it.

Women who are never married and don’t have children are the most content and outlive their married counterparts, according to Paul Dolan, a behavioral science professor at the London School of Economics.

https://nypost.com/2019/05/28/unmarried-women-are-the-healthiest-and-the-happiest-professor/



Cry me a river ...

Dottore:
She's a pretty lady but walahi she needs a man. Having a companion is very important in life. Everybunny needs somebunny

Not everybody.

alfredilly:
[b]Trying to load her pics to see the extent of wrinkle in her ageing face [/b]then I realize this is an era of 21 century makeup. Happy birthday Rita

And the era of anti aging stupidity as you have demonstrated.

Unmarried women are the healthiest and the happiest: professor

Single ladies – the secret to happiness may never be putting a ring on it.

Women who are never married and don’t have children are the most content and outlive their married counterparts, according to Paul Dolan, a behavioral science professor at the London School of Economics.

https://nypost.com/2019/05/28/unmarried-women-are-the-healthiest-and-the-happiest-professor/



Cry me a river ...

Akposy:
See plantain o. This is inviting.

Where's D.yt and Huncle Blu.eRayDick. I never see their pics. Even aeio.n and hathor

I miss Aeion and Dyt too.

I haven't been cooking much lately, too many invitations.
Dyt is right, it's summer time.

Mariangeles:
I swear, you make me feel good about my pictures. I didn't think they were that good
(The weather played a fast one on me )

Thank you

You can be very proud of your pictures. They are great. I wish mine were as good as yours.

Mariangeles:
Fried beans and plantain

Yummy!
Your pictures are something else dear!
Delicious deluxe!

CsRockefeller:
Leave your Dad alone, he has lived his life, probably made some mistakes but don't come here to malign him.

You will soon be a father, focus on being a good one.

Maybe someone needs to talk here to get it off their chest and find people who share this experience. Don't try to silence them. It's an anonymous forum so it does no more harm to the alcoholic parent but may help someone to talk.

Graxie:
People will judge you based on your Action while judging themselves based on their intentions.

I like it and I am taking it with me.

Unnerve:
Ahh you're the one with the story. So in addition to my response to the lady above, she has to pick one problem.

Someone who is seriously in need of money and experiencing the fatigue and mental drain that a lack of it can bring, definitely should not be having thoughts of dicking, plus she has a little child too.
What time will she even have for the side nigga?

I'm beginning to believe this here is a hypothetical story but since we're all playing along, please tell 'her' to pick the battle she wants to fight and if fighting isn't even something she's willing to do anymore, then leaving her husband completely is the most reasonable thing to do.

My thoughts exactly. And it's been only two years.

Sixfeetbelle:
Leaving the marriage may be the best thing for her mental health. We don't want a case where wifey poisoned husband cause she was frustrated with his 'uselessness'

You have raised an important point. There have been many cases of abusive caretakers in challenging and overwhelming situations like that. No matter how ideological we want to be on NL in reality we are human and flawed and in situations like that stronger or weaker than we thought we were.

Having said that something tells me the story is fake anyway.

miniziter:
Both.

And she told you? Who is she to you?

Acidosis:
My point is we shouldn't justify the woman's consideration/decision to abandon her husband. The moment you're married, you've become a family. It shouldn't matter whether extended families come to our aid or not. These same extended families will be heavily criticized when they come to claim inheritance.

I agree with you that marriage is for better or worse but not every human being is equally strong to cope in her situation. I don't have a problem with you taking a stand that one should remain with their spouse till the end but I have a problem when you and your friend claim the moral high ground where you don't have it. If you want to be the better Christians behave like that.

cococandy:
Girl I’m full of stories with this one but I can’t talk about my actual patients because of HIPAA. It’s hard even when you’re just a temporary care giver.

this young man in his 20s working under my DH had an accident one day at work. ‘Lucky’ for him it happened at work so it was obviously ruled as work-related injury. That’s why he was able to get 100% of all the benefits he was entitled to.
Got his early retirement based on injury. That means his full retirement pay plus disability pay. Got all his medical expenses paid for.

Therapy upon therapy. Was in a skilled nursing facility for a long time before he went home with home health and outpatient physical and occupational therapy. Now he’s able to write with his hands but still wheelchair-bound. They say he will never walk again.

Their house was set up for disability access, with the necessary hand bars and ramps he needs to move in and out by himself. he of course has his motorized wheelchair and is able to move himself somewhat from location to location. He’s also starting to learn handicapped -driving now. So hopefully soon he can start driving himself places.

With all the help from professionals and the fact that the wife doesn’t really have to work for money if she doesn’t want to, she is still having a hell of a hard time. Poor child (she’s early 20s) lost so much weight and was having a legit breakdown.

Imagine doing this without any of the help/amenities I described above. I mean I know there must be people out there who do it. But I can’t even offer anything that remotely sounds like judgement to them.

Why would we show any empathy for her if Acidosis can stay in a hospital to look after a relative for two months?
His entire family has done this and much more. No biggie. It's easy. We should call them names for complaining IN THE NAME OF JESUS.

I just hope to have a nurse like you whenever I have to go to a hospital.
Don't want any heartless creature to attend to me. What can you expect from people who think it is ok to chop off hands if someone steals because they are hungry. I guess Jesus also taught them not to feed the hungry but mutilate them.

Acidosis:
If your aunt could do it, what then gave you impression that others haven't done even more?

I once left Lagos for 2 months to take care of a relative in the hospital. I left my job (business), left everything behind. Some of us also took our grandparents in for years. My grandmom couldn't even walk on her on for 2 years before she passed on. We do basically everything for her and hired a maid to assist because someone has to stay with her whenever my parents go to church, outings, market, etc. This is the reality in many homes in Nigeria. There are families with children suffering from congenital malformations, stroke, etc. There are no support systems here yet we don't see the people on the street, except the few "Northerners begging alms.." It simply means they're getting help somewhere.

Your point is?

bukatyne:
There are different types of Christ.

Even the Oyinbo one.

Like someone would say: Many people want Him to be their personal saviour; they don't want Him to be their Lord.

Don't be a coward.

Acidosis:
And what need can I possibly offer OP? Make myself her side guy or gigolo? I don't like to waste my time romanticizing negativity.

If you have no help to offer, don't comment to call someone in this extremely terrible situation names. Doing so is as far from Christ as can be.

Romanticize negativity? You are negativity personified. Sorry.

cococandy:
Is my hypothetical decision if I were to hypothetically find myself in her shoes actually going to do anything to help her in her current situation? The most realistic thing I can tell her is that I won’t judge her and I won’t. (If anyone doesn’t like me saying that bit, too bad )

But It’s seem like it’s no longer about OP when it starts to sound like that. Like they clearly stated , it’s about them making a stand so we can know where they belong on the spectrum of righteousness. Not about advising the OP.

(I’m still doubting the OP a bit though because of the M in the moniker).

They came up with completely unrelated stuff making it as always ideological instead of giving practical advice which could actually make a difference. And this making a difference in terms of actually helping someone in their struggles would actually align with the Christian doctrine of loving your neighbor as you love yourself but it's not about that really. They are Christians where it serves them, oblivious of it where it doesn't.

I wish I could offer advice but I have no idea which support system exists in Nigeria for people in her situation. I appreciate you calling people to the thread who have more information on that. And you are absolutely right to refrain from judgement for the simple reason that you have not walked in her shoes.

I helped someone in my family take care of her husband before he died. With all the support system you get abroad this was one of the biggest challenges our family has ever had to face. The wife was a shadow of her self for five years, her health deteriorating from year to year and this with all hands on deck and the best medical support you can get. She once hurt herself badly by lifting the husband to change his clothes. She spent a week in the hospital and I stayed with her husband. My uncle and aunt stayed with me. It was a 24/7 job. Let me not share more details. I don't even want to go back there in my thoughts.

The loudest mouths here have no idea what they are talking about. As they say, talk is cheap so let them hype themselves some more theoretically.

Acidosis:
The Christ you were taught permits adultery ultimately. The Christ you were taught says you should enjoy marriage only when the weather is good and filled with milk and honey (Hot).

The Christ I know helped people in need, sinners or not, instead of calling them names Mr Moralist.
Those without sin throw the first stone.
Go and read your Bible again.
Not only Apostle Paul's writings please.
Thank me later.

Klass99:
Lol @ abi them dey talk to themselves?

I'm glad you at least agreed that I wasn't completely off base.

The sort of men I referred to in my first post have already shown up on this thread. One is telling me to stfu already, you see what I meant by rudeness and stupidity without provocation or justification?

Meanwhile his profile says Jesus is the only way to God, hid with Christ. I had a good laugh and just thought, they continue to give Christ and Christianity a bad rep.

I have seen his kind, plenty, here on NL in this section and romance, hence my first post. I don't visit romance section sef because of this, except a thread from there hits front page and catches my interest.

As for, whether dem dey talk to themselves, in my case, théy are often left talking to themselves because I don't engage with such people, if I throw stones at every dog that barked at me, what will happen?

Always amuses me.

cococandy:
That one pinches because it’s the truth. We always find you moralists when we are talking about women and sex.

LMAO

100%

Imagine someone jumping on this thread preaching Christianity where someone called a woman in an extremely difficult situation useless to go on and claim that to be Christian is to live 'in enmity with the world'. Is there a second Christ than the one I was taught about? You can't make this stuff up.

cutiereborn:
Chef Preston, it's my Birthday today!!!
As you are going to that market, remember to bake a cake and make cocktails for me

Happy Birthday!

lucianotawinji:
An advice from an older woman to a younger one:

"Don't learn how to do things better than your husband. A man needs to think he knows more than his wife so she will respsect him and depend on him. It makes him feel more like a man. "

What do you think about this advice?

He better knows how to do some things because I am no pretender.

GboyegaD:
Good you are liking it. Making some modifications to my good but not in terms of the proteins.

It's not a modification. It's an add-on.
What kind of modifications have you been making?

philybuck:
As much as people will oppose to divorce, it’s still the best option in such situation, can’t decide to be unhappy for the rest of your life

I agree but like someone pointed out he will pay the price of not having his kid around all the time.

Mariangeles:
Where have you been?

I been don dey take eyes find our healthy meals

I needed to give my brain a rest from the brain cell killing contents of NL for a while.
I miss healthy meals too. I was too lazy to cook today and ate anyhow.