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onyinye2:
You are not seeing it in my point of view.
1. Can you imagine the person you love pulls up a pre nup on you?

YEAH!!!! If Halle Berry pulls a prenup on me . . . . I will happily sign it.

I mean can you really imagine the hurt that comes with that? seriously just imagine that all this time you thought you loved the person but they still don't trust you. Why would i stay? If i stayed and signed it, i would never look at myself and still say "You did the right thing, Onyinye" i mean i would just hold in all that pain that comes with it. to you it is just a piece of paper to me, it shows you don't believe im with you to be with you.

It's about facing reality and knowing that you can still trust your wife but be real to catastrophe. Your pain will go away in two days. After one week of great sex you will forget you signed a piece of paper. You will not ever remember signing that paper unless you were planning on gold digging.

onyinye2:
You guys obviously don't know what the word simple means. And hell yeah i would discontinue my relationship if i was giving a pre nupt. I will leave hurt, turn, heartbroken,weak,played, but i will still leave. Because when i walk down that aisle, all i will remember is you still questioning if you really see yourself spending the rest of your life. When i say "i do" all im going to remember is that these vows mean nothing because you feel this marriage aint going to last. When we are on our honeymoon, at time of love and passion, all im going to think about is that the man i said that i will give my mind, soul, and body to feels that im only in the marriage for the money.

Onyin, you are really funny mehn.  As I told you, the prenup is a security deposit.  Landlords do it when you rent, you do it when you buy a house, etc.  But you are feeling all of that because you signed a prenup?    Leaving will only prove to him that you are what you said you weren't.

onyinye2:
Are you telling me, onyinye aka aphrodite, how to show my man love?? seriously come on now. If that is how you would want me to show you that i love you then, i wonder what distrust would look like.

Aphrodite    ur number please    
Come on, why would you let a simple thing as signing a prenup prevent you from continuing your relationship  

oya, he never reach that one o. i no wan make you cry oya come

ruby go away with your offtopic posts jare.  cover your face as you walk out. bye bye  

ruby~yawn~

Joseph6:
so hch and ruby couple of the year, hoppin hch did not fuckin shit in ya bleeped up mouth as he promised

i did. it was hot black shit

Onyinye, correction: to a man it is the ultimate sign of love. Wouldn't you like to show your man just how much you love him? Well here it is!

i told you to quit. keep wondering why your words weigh as much as nothing to me.

Pele o grandma

Ruby_Pearl:
You sound so much like your buddy over there. HCH. She na that one you call cuss words eh?

anywaz, could you alteast shed the light on both side of marriage institution? or is your light too dim?

go and play with acidrop jare. Olodo

She doesn't want to take time off work

Okija_juju:
Women!!

Just imagine sitting your ass in a court room seeing the woman who once told you she would stick with you till the very end scheming with her team of lawyers to fleece you of all you toiled for your entire life, Imagine seeing the woman you placed your trust in smiling as you move your stuff into a You-haul truck and leave all your stuff behind, Imagine your friends laughing at you when you move from crib in berverly hills to a shanty in the projects, imagine going from a Rolls Royce to a Renault, Imagine the pain of loosing both your love and your wealth all to the same person, Imagine the regret and psychological trauma of being fooled by the woman you thought was the one.

Ah!   It hurts man.            

onyinye2:
The second you put a pre nupt into the equation, your life is nothing but material things. because that is what a pre nupt really means. you are trying to protect your material things. not your so called heart, but your material things.

Aaaachooooally, some of those material things are my life.  Besides, the purpose of the prenup is to protect against theft and heartbreak, to verify your love, to guard my future.  I wouldn't be able to take care of myself, put a roof over my head, buy some of the things I need . . .

These are not women, these are girls.

They think life is cinderella.

Akinagirl:
YEp, THEIR own future, NOT including his wife!

OUR future.  The prenuptial agreement also includes her security . It's being done for the both of us.

so my life is now material things
how many years of hardwork did i put in to sweat out all those material things

Akinagirl:
ok

oh wow  so you will do it    your number please 

You don't know how it would feel when you though the man you are willing to sacrifice for feels that our marriage might end so sign this for "security".

Do you know how it feels when my future is stolen away from me by a gold digger, because I failed to use protection?  It feels like I just got raped physically and emotionally by a big horse.

You don't know how it would feel to see the look on my friend's and family's face when they eventually find out that i signed a pre nupt. You don't know how it would feel to see my friend and her husband together in trust and happiness while my marriage is built on distrust.

What about my family?  They would be so happy that our marriage is built on love, and that I have finally found a woman who truly loves me for me  

Akinagirl:
You should have known if she was a gold digger or not before you decided to marry her!

how    nothing can protect you against a professional gold digging assassin.

onyinye2:
You men are nothing but insecure, no trusting creatures.

A court once blamed a man for trusting his wife shey you know.

how dare you approach me your future wife with a pre nupt.

It's hard for me to do something like this baby, but with some ice water I hope you can work up the courage to prove your love.

I would be hurt out of my mind.

you hurt me more by not signing it.[quote][/quote]

Oh summer school is over . . . sorry it's taking to long to respond though. Do you also drive to this area once in a while . . .

He's helping his friend who needs the money for an upgrade.

Moreover, talking doesn't protect you when a bitter wife decides to seek revenge.

onyinye2:
What about the woman's feelings?? I mean how do you expect her to sign it?? With a kool-aid smile on her face and her lucky pen? When you marry someone, they become apart of your future. By you throwing a pre nupt in her face, it shows you are locking her out of your future and heart. If you want to feel secure, talk to me about it. Don't go around giving me papers to sign.

The woman's feelings are also being considered here.  She not only proves to me that she is not a stinking gold digger, she proves it to herself and the whole world.  So yes, I expect her to sign it as an act done out of love.  Just talking to you about it will not do the job . . . you know talk is cheap.

Prenuptial agreements can also help people facilitate marriages.  Take this crazy example of a woman like say Oprah with so much money.  If she finds a guy who really loves her like she hopes, she will see his willingness to sign a prenuptial agreement as a true sign of love   .

Akinagirl:
Exactly.

What is exactly    That appeak to pity is not going to work jare.   What about protecting my own dignity    After you leave me with nothing, then you start demanding child support . . . . uhhhh   what dignity do i have left  

Akinagirl:
I don't understand, if they are both rich, what is $60,000?

James is the rich one here.
That is a lot of money o.  Over 6 million naira 

Okija_juju:
Now you've got it all wrong

A pre-nupt simply shows that

1. I really do want this marriage to be about love and not about money
2. That although I believe that you love me, the only certain thing in life is change.
What happens when you runinto that sexy argentinian you were talking bout??
3. I am a very careful person who is trying to protect his heart against gold-diggers and hustlers.
4. I want to be able to feel secure with you, knowing your heart is fully with me in this marriage.
5. And last but not the least, that you'll truly be there for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, i sickness and in health, till the very end.

 

onyinye2:
I'm not concerned about myself. I'm concerned on how he views me, us, him,our relationship. A pre nupt shows that

1. you have thoughts that this marriage aint going to last.
2. you don't have any trust in me
3. you don't view me as a sincere woman but a gold digger.
4. you feel that you aint secure enough on our love so you still need "insurance" on it.
5. And last but not least, you don't love or trust me enough with all of you.

Not signing that love certificate shows me that
1.  You care too much about yourself and can't put your feelings aside to consider mine
2.  your thoughts do not include my security
3.  you don't think it's appropriate for me to worry about my future
4.  you don't want me to live with the truth that divorce is a reality
5.  you might be a gold digger
5.  you don't love me enough with all of you

Akinagirl:
Thats crazy, either you love her and trust her or you don't. I personally would not marry a man that does not trust me.

I would not marry a woman who has me worried that she will steal what I have worked for my whole life.

tpia:
@ OP: its important to know the genotype before you marry or even start dating someone. No need to be sentimental about things like this.

Its not easy raising a child with sickle cell. And thats an understatement.

concur with the statement