₦airaland Forum

Orimili:
Dude, I lived in Nigeria and the US long enough to experience both cultures, and frankly, I cannot agree with you on this one. The same problems you see with American culture existed in Nigeria for a long time. It's not fair to bring this "I grew up in X, so I'm better than you" mess into this. The only reason such problems are not obvious in Naija is because they are silenced. We are living in a time where women can do many of the things that man can do. I don't think Onyinye was trying to say that women are going to replace men, which you seem to be implying. It is because of this mentality that Nigeria is falling behind, when it should have been a progressive first-world country decades ago. If Nigerian-born Nigerians were so great, we would not be here having this discussion at all.

/rant

Now back to the topic . . .

blah blah blah.  no one is saying growing up in nigeria means you should have a holier-than-thou attitude, or that you are a better person.  there is a gigantic difference between the two breeds that can be noticed from a mile away.  we don't really conduct too much research on these stuvvs but if you were to carry out a survey, i'm sure you will find it to be true.  america has basically no culture, and american kids have way too much freedom to behave like hooligans.  i am speaking from what i have noticed.  you don't have to agree.

Orimili:
I've noticed that a lot in this forum. There's a lot of people here that know nothing about American-born and raised Nigerians beyond what they see on TV. I also grew up in the church, with much discipline and respect for others. One of the things I learned from this forum is that ignorance know no borders, and that there probably isn't much you can do about it, because they are too far gone to realize it.

ignorance will always know no borders. ignorance is also turning a blind eye to unfathomable racism because it is protected by law. but here sits ye, talking about ignorance.

Orimili:
I'm saying that people say things about others all the time, but it's always us black people that sit around and bitch about it. As bad as it sounds, yes, it is protected by the first amendment. That's what America is about. I think it's because we complain about this that the news is going to continue "painting the Obamas."

this is ignorance. you are just accepting all sorts of stupid tags of inferiority from white people.  you don't need race or political correctness to tell you what's right or wrong.  the first amendment protects your free speech but it does not guarantee you a right to be stupid.  even stupidity has its limits. by the same accounts you can say racism is a right, but that doesn't make it right, does it?  complaining in this situation is completely justified.

no mind beauteous na so she go dey chop odo for skool

Are you saying it's okay for fox news to call Michelle a ho because it's their first amendment right

onyinye2:
wouldnt matter if i was born in naija, america, mexico, or freakin china. i would still be the same person. i was born independent and head strong so don't put that on american culture. and most if not all naija born kids i know are pretty well disciplined compared to other cultures. so don't give me that. and a relationship can be 50/50 if you are willing to work at it.

not really. culture and environment play a big role in determining how you turn out.  the culture shock i experienced when i moved here was just    .  you are a gross domestic product of america's privacy-obsessed individualized society.  whereas in nigeria religion, discipline, and commanded respect sets the tone for the rest of your upbringing. American bred kids usually lack that discipline and tenacity.  i'm suer if you grew up in that third-world slum called nigeria you will value the opportunities you are given here in America more.   Equality-seeking deranged women everywhere.  How do you even begin to arrive at that equality.  There's no way it can be evenly split.  Even the bible deems the man the head of the house.

Fox's "baby mama" incidence was outright racism. No doubt.  It also carries the implication that Obama's two daughters are bastards.  According to the definition of baby mama:  in African American  community a baby mama is a woman who bears a child out of wedlock.

In all honesty, I just feel that American society has had too much effect on most of you. If your parents did a good job of raising you to be culturally aware, respectful, and responsible then maybe you deviate from the behavior of a typical Nigerian American born-bred here. Some of the side effects I've seen from you, include toeing the line with your man in a relationship 50/50. Which is god knows impossible.

over dinner maybe

onyinye2:
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have you dated any american born nigerians?? to me they seem pretty cool but i guess you are one of those people looking for the "authentic" naija men. oh well. any ways, i would consider finding a new man. don't go looking at your ex. the only thing between yal is memories.

onyin! so you still dey?  I don't think she's looking abroad to find so called "authentic" naija men as you put it.  She is just in searc of a correct man that's ready to be with her for good.  So far, by her accounts, she is yet to find one in America.  The boneheads she's run into are weirdos, so I don't really fault her for looking outside the black jar.

Even if she does choose to look in Naija for the reasons you said, I don't blame her. I hate to generalize, but y'all american-bred naija chicks get too much sikon sikon for head.

Read about this on msn. No surprise.

I forgot Tarzan, Space Jam, and Garfield.

Nevermind, you're right. She's 23.

I'm whining about your

motun_rayo:
You see michelin89. . . .when you find that "someone" you can't help yourelf  

don't mind her she's jealous.  
michelle, keep sampling jare.

michelin89:
Why are you so in a hurry to get married? You are young. Take your time to look around carefully. You can even allow yourself to start building one up from nowhere! Exes are exes for a reason. Let your past be your past and your guidance for the future.

michelle, she's 32.

michelin89:
What are you doing with that forgotten son of nature?

ewo na me be son of nature i will call on gabe_logan to teach you a lesson

motun_rayo:
Dont do it, . . find someone in the US

awwwwww like I found you _crying

fionaa:
awwh, thanx. i see some responce about the possibility of him turning into one of those nig_american guys i'm running from, and also the chance that he could use this opportunity 2 bring one of his ex's or someone new,

does the fact that he is exactly 10yrs older than me count? i mean, do y'all think he would want to go through the process of dumping me and starting over?

yes woman.  there's a possibility the man wouldn't mind going through the process of dumping you.  it's happened many times before.

lol

abi o. if he plays his cards right he might win a 3some

Emmii:
I'm chasing a lady and a lady is chasing 4 dating. tell me what to do.

maybe she's bisexual? may the best man/woman win. goodluck!

just go out with your girls instead. nothing beats girls night out right? ah ahn

motun_rayo:
I think its possible but I either the girl will secretly have a crush on the guy or the guy will secretly have a crush on the girl. , .

ibkaye:
hmmmmmm

lol.

michelin89:
I'm not so superficial!

yeap. just sexist

ibkaye:
not all the time

but it happens
especially when they're intoxicated or Hot. they don't even care who it is they're with . any girl becomes fair game.

of course you don't care .  vida guerra oshi 

yes it is. guys will always grab on something that's not their property. no matter what.

except me . i'm fresh

michelin89:
I have never bought the idea of going home to get married or going to the village to get married or going to one particular place to get married. Gosh you've been offered the opportunity of a new land. Make use of it.

what if the caliber of girls around you are crap    naija girls over my area here to me are crap.  everyone has sampled one another.

. This one dangerous o. Men should never leave their girlfriends around other guys, dem go wound o.

motun_rayo:
What are you "whatever jor"-ing about

olodo! i don send you email she you get am?

Okija_juju:
My dear, here in our state how dare you run into a police station to report the case of assault on you by your wife, by the time they finish laughing at you. No be person go show you where them they sell boxing gloves go defend yourself.
Infact, it is punishable offence, to be beaten by a woman in Naija.

lol !!! Which kain stupid man go do that one for naija.