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I should have sent this many months ago. I had it all scripted then. I wrote it with so much anger but now, I'm writing this piece with peace and of course, a better understanding.

Then, it was one of my male friends that mentioned something sinister about career women. If you know me well enough, you should know issues like this push me into talking--- I won't call it arguing. It pushes me into a defensive state where the attorney part of me comes to play.

I know you want to read this already. Who is a career woman?

Before that... Can we like ask if there's something like career man? Or should we assume every man is a career man? OK. Every man is a career man. Assumed!

Few weeks ago, I was speaking to a friend. I've actually forgotten how the discussion started but I remember him telling me he must make money before he get married. I mean. I know. That's what all men do. They at least get specific things prepared for their future families. They build houses, buy cars etc. They obviously do what's necessary so they could live well. Then, you should have seen me raised my brows like 'why can't ladies too?'

I know the ladies ain't restricted from making money. But they have been restricted by how the societies view single rich women. I heard some guys get intimidated by successful women. I heard because I have not seen. This and many other reactions has made some ladies cut short their dreams. They belittle themselves so they can complement a man. However, there is an obvious mistake women do when making a career choice. Don't jeopardize your family life for a career choice. Don't neglect one for another. The two can agree. Men have careers too. They get very busy. Still, they have families. At the end of the day, when it's all dark and void, you have your family to keep you. You as a lady can have it all too. You can train those kids and still be a boss at what you do. The world is evolving and it needs strong women to do it's biddings.

And also, the young and upcoming career conscious lady, don't you ever be afraid to get to the pinnacle of your dreams. Pastor Sam Adewuyi said 'at whatever level you find yourself, there's a man/woman there for you'. So please, aspire great. Take that big break and launch. Someone who appreciates you will meet you. It's not for you to worry about.

You know what I tell people about myself? I know myself and I am just so sure of who I am. My self esteem can never be dragged and I can never be intimidated by people's wealth. I am too busy preparing for mine. Ladies. In my own world, I believe you can have it all. You are sufficient. You are not limited. You are enough. You are a woman and you'll make it. It's time for boss duties. Be simple yet classy.

Let me close with this. ' I have seen women that have achieved much without having to bend over. I will tell you this. If you as a lady refuse to utilize your brain, someone who can try will utilize you.'


PS: I'm posting this in the romance section intentionally because of the crowd it pulls.

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GEJDHERO:
nice am ready if u re keen

GEJDHERO:
really ?how old re u?

crunchyg:
You seems to be a funny and lively person and I love that, can we connect? So i can send you my digits

crunchyg:
How old are you?

Wuraola01:
Do you want proof?

Well, u don't have to believe me

Besides, who says girls aren't smart enough for d course?

I honestly can't understand why you're like this

Wuraola01:
Do you want proof?

Well, u don't have to believe me

Besides, who says girls aren't smart enough for d course?

I honestly can't understand why you're like this

Bloooody:
All this na talk until you see Benz.
You will open your legs up to your neck.

SAconnect247:
Guess you're Jose fan ! for the first time we are having exclusively men talk lolzzzzzzzzz (

omooba969:
Your nails though, just wondering how effective they are.