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Leviticus 26:1 Ye shall make you no idols nor graven image, neither rear you up a standing image, neither shall ye set up any image of stone in your land, to bow down unto it: for I am the LORD your God.

He met her online, they became friends. They wife got to know about it before they could get deeper to sleep together. Hence the relationship ended and they both moved on.
Now about 7 years later, she resurfaces again to wanting him by all means.
He had moved on with his new wife and now enjoying his happy family. What should be his next line of actions?
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lielbree:
The husband must be very stingy to make her this desperate.

What has stinginess got to do with criminality? Looking for an imaginary excuse to support wickedness. It's a pity.

Herrmes:
The part about shaming? There is no such thing as weakness.

What do u mean by shaming? Nobody is responsible for your life. Weak people blame others for their failures. Strong people make their decisions and take the consequent responsibility .

I don't believe in all those excuses and pressure talks. Some things remain the realities of life, they won't go away just because you don't like it. It's how you choose to handle and face it. If you marry someone because u feel pressured to do so, don't cone and rant the blame on anybody. U married because you were emotionally and mentally weak to establish your will and decision, and that is nobody's fault but yours. There are millions of people who have refused to do what they were "pressured" to do because they had a mind of their own, got mentally and emotionally mature enough to chart the course of their lives according to their personal choices. Stop shifting the blame of ur mental and emotional weakness on others. They only "pressured", they didn't force you. Even a horse cannot be forced to drink from the well it doesn't want to. How a horse is more strong-willed than a lot of humans is quite unfortunate. Whether the pressure in life, you are the one with the final decision. We should learn to take responsibility over our lives. That's the first mark of maturity and until you can do that, you are not fit for marriage. There are so many "babies" unknowingly walking about with adult age and unfortunately they are those who become victims of such experiences blaming others for their weaknesses.

mknigeriagreat:
Stupidity. And I don't blame the OP, I blame the person that moved this to front page. Please when you get home today, address your father by his first name or middle name. And when you get to the office, when you want to refer to your boss as your oga, refer to him as your colleague.

God bless you. Now every Dick and Harry wants to be a critic, even in stack ignorance

Zaynabtemmy:
My dad always advise that, even if u are at d doorstep and u know the person is inside, just pick up, perhaps d person is trying to save u from danger

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Vanguard
2019: PDP, SDP, APGA, 39 other parties move to produce one candidate On July 7, 2018 9:49 am In Headlines, News
•To form Govt of National Unity if victorious •Say its agenda is to save Nigeria from Buhari •Imoke heads PDP Contact Committee By Henry Umoru & Dirisu Yakubu AHEAD of 2019 presidential election, Nigeria’s major opposition party, Peoples Democratic Party, PDP, and 41 other political parties have moved to come together to form a coalition aimed at producing a formidable candidate. The objective of the alliance is to field a consensus candidate to be presented by one of the parties. Against this backdrop, and desirous to defeat President Muhammadu Buhari, the parties had been engaged in marathon meetings on the viability of the agenda. Saturday Vanguard gathered that the latest forum was well attended by representatives of the various parties last Wednesday at the Abuja residence of a former Minister of Foreign Affairs, Chief Tom Ikimi. A Source told Saturday Vanguard that the PDP was well represented with its Contact Committee Chairman and former governor of Cross River State, Sen Liyel Imoke in attendance. Also present were the party’s National Secretary, Senator Ibrahim Tsauri; National Legal Adviser, Barrister Emmanuel Enoindem; former National Woman Leader, Ambassador Kema Chikwe, and Ambassador Aminu Wali, among others. The Action Peoples Party, APP, was represented by its National Chairman, Ugochinyere Ikenga. The source further said another meeting was scheduled for yesterday at 5 pm. But as at press time, it was not clear if the gathering had taken place. Speaking with Saturday Vanguard on the condition of anonymity, a National Chairman of one of the parties said: “ What we have is not a merger, but a coalition of over 42 registered political parties coming together to challenge the President Muhammadu Buhari’s administration. The parties have voluntarily come together on their own to save Nigeria from its present challenges. “We plan to form a Government of National Unity. Buhari is already an outgoing President. He will be defeated like a baby boxer. At the end of the day, the political parties will confront Buhari with one individual that will defeat him. The person may come from the PDP, SDP, LP, or PPA.” Apart from the PDP, other parties in the coalition are the Accord Party,AP; Action Alliance, AA; Advanced Congress of Democrats, ACD; Alliance for New Nigeria, ANN; Advanced Peoples Democratic Alliance, APDA; All Progressives Grand Alliance, APGA; African Peoples Party, APP; Democratic Alternative, DA; Democratic Peoples Congress, DPC and Democratic Peoples Party, DPP. Others are Fresh Democratic Party; Hope Democratic Party, HDP; Labour Party, LP; Social Democratic Party, SDP; Kowa Party, KP; Modern Democratic Party, MDP; Mega Progressive Peoples Party, MPPP; Peoples Democratic Movement, PDM, and Socialist Party of Nigeria, SPN, among others. An SDP source said: “The political parties have resolved to take a cue from what the then legacy parties did to defeat the PDP three years ago. They will be stronger by coming together and weaker if they choose to enter the contest as independent parties. Aware of this, they are meeting frequently and what I can tell Nigerians is that the parties have decided to put Nigeria first. Whatever it takes to defend the interest of Nigeria, we will come up with it and ensure we take this country back from those who think it is exclusively theirs.”

The fundamental mistake we make about love is when we think love is some magic spontaneous emotion. Love is a decision and a responsibility. My little summarized opinion.

See reasoning, a coach that had issue and offloaded players like Ronaldinho (Even as a World Best Player), Deco, Chichynzky, .Zambrota, Zlatan, Kroos, Schweinsteigger, 2015625797Ribery, Gotze, Nasri, Nolito (La Masia Product), Navas, Kolarov, Clichy, Hart ( English City Legend). How can just a few cases of Yaya and maybe Eto's make him a racist?

Two things stand out with all the players Pep has axed from his team. Either u are not fitting in to his style of play or u have some ego or undiscipline attitude which don't go down well with him. We all know Pep had his own fault esp when it comes to bring so demanding and unnecessary crave for perfection and getting things done his own way and any player (no matter who you are, judging from the above list) who tends to be found wanting in any of those his egocentric personality will have to either leave or get shifted out without apology.

Of course, we know that no two captains can be in a ship, in which case we all know Pep will always try to prove he's the boss. So I don't see any racist bearing in any of that as backed up by the players who happened to have been victims of his treatment. So Yaya is just playing cheap with the whole racist comment, not excusing Pep's egocentric and non-tolerant attitude though.

Sometimes I feel so disappointed that our leaders just look at us and deem all of us dummies by the kind of things they pride themselves of achieving in power.. And to make matters worse, some gullible group of people will join to applaud such show of ignorance and deceit. Eligible age requirements that are already spelt out in our existing constitution are now reported to be presented as a bill and people are just so ignorant not to condemn such waste of privilege and duplicity. Those that are excited by the so-called new bill should try and get a copy of our constitution and check the age qualifications for our elective positions in government.

Presidency goes for 40 years and above which the bill seeks to make it 35. So is it the 5 years gap that will guarantee that we have good leadership? I think they should rather make a bill to prohibit political parties from fixing their ticket fee for a candidate to be not less than let's say, #100k to allow financially average but good intellectual Youths to have the opportunity of picking the candidacy form instead of the #10million fees we have in some political parties. That to me is more meaningful than this age nonsense that still won't guarantee any youth anything.

Sometimes I feel so disappointed that our leaders just look at us and deem all of us dummies by the kind of things they pride themselves of achieving in power.. And to make matters worse, some gullible group of people will join to applaud such show of ignorance and deceit. Eligible age requirements that are already spelt out in our existing constitution are now reported to be presented as a bill and people are just so ignorant not to condemn such waste of privilege and duplicity. Those that are excited by the so-called new bill should try and get a copy of our constitution and check the age qualifications for our elective positions in government.

Presidency goes for 40 years and above which the bills seeks to make it 35. So is it the 5 years gap that will guarantee that we have good leadership? I think they should rather make a bill to prohibit political parties to fix their ticket fee for a candidate to be not less than #100k to allow financially average but good intellectual Youths to have the opportunity of picking the candidacy form instead of the #10million fees we have in some political parties. That to me is more meaningful than this age nonsense that still won't guarantee any youths anything.

Let me also respond in my secret language

When an Award or visit that was supposed to promote you is rather bringing up so much arguments and causing this kind of commotion even from the said donor family, then it speaks volume of the perception of your person. What an embarrassment to both the awarder, the awardee and the entire presidency. They could have just reported it as a private personal initiative of the selected few mentioned there without rubbing the MLK Jnr. family in and making it look like an acclaimed MLK affair. The emphasis of the visit as from MLK Jnr's family was not necessary. It would have spared us all this unnecessary global embarrassment.. Now see all the effort put in trying to control the damage. I cry for this Government.

ABIOLAXYZ:
Police need to recruit more.
Sometimes u c 3 policeman on duty.
They are too few

Why won't they be when 50% of them have been shifted out to go do personal boiboi for some Lebanese and other hungry people dem in the name of expertrates, gatemen for the rich and school runs for politicians' children etc

I think it's a societal problem. In a society where the general value system is screwed, we shouldn't be surprised to see most of our ladies with such mindset. I think we, as a society, have got our core values like decency, hard work and patience etc misplaced on the altar of quick wealth, comfort and the likes. So I wouldn't really blame the ladies that much. I still believe there are still a few ladies who are mature, sensible and enlightened enough to have overcome such infantile, myopic and shallow way of judging a valuable man. I remember proposing to my wife then when I could not even boast of a bicycle and her friends trying to dissuade her using these kinds of criteria, although she herself confessed it wasn't easy for her at the initial setout. However, she was eventually able to look beyond such side attractions. We courted, got married after a year of "trekking". Interestingly, my first car came just 2 months after the marriage, which I incidentally used to teach her how to drive. As I speak, to the glory of God, we are just 7 years into the marriage, 3 beautiful cars are already at her disposal - a Ford Taurus, Toyota Spider and Lexus RX 330. The funny thing is that most of those her friends are still single and hop(p)ing around guys with cars for "comfort". Pls ladies, much as the desire for these things is not out of place, but it's a misguided sense of value to use them in judging the real guys of value when destiny brings them your way. For the guys, please don't let any lady tag you "broke" and look down on you for it. Never get your head down even when it doesn't seem to click at the moment. Believe in yourself and get your focus right, keep at your "hustling" believing with God that the future is bright. It doesn't take anything to hammer when God's favor smiles at you. Time and chance happen to us all. *Pls pardon my grammar*

How much should we score this boy for his modeling sense?

obi123:
Truth is as a parent there will be a time when you actually think , omg what have i gotten myself into, you will wonder about your choice to get married , who you married, having kids, was this the right time and things like that ,it also ok to miss your single days when you had nothing to worry about and were free to do whatever.
its perfectly natural to feel less than a parent at times.

some people dont feel the pressure of parenthood because they dont do anything really and leave the caregiver responsibilities to someone else, for the main care giver and for some one who is very hands on with the kids, it can feel like a burden sometimes.

if your idea of parenthood is just to pay for school fees and watch someone else actually care for the child, then parenthood will be a breeze.

My dear, I guess u didn't take your time to understand my comment. Whatever you think u might be going thru or sacrificing for ur kids comes under parental responsibility. The challenges may differ to our unique environment, dreams and orientations. Whatever it is, it can never in any way make a burden of ur taking care of the child u brought into the world, which tomorrow all things being equal, is expected to in turn take care of u. There is nothing in life that doesn't come with their respective sacrifice. Those reasons she mentioned and many more can still be classified as part of the challenging responsibilities of parenthood unless the person was not prepared for it or probably was misinformed of it being a stroll in the park. When u see it as part of the responsibility, it ceases to be a burden. Unless u want to pray for God to relieve u of it by killing the kids so u can be free without distractions and "burden". I knew what she meant. I am equally a parent. So don't think I don't know what I am saying

[quote author=obi123 post=65660954]Truth is as a parent there will be a time when you actually think , omg what have i gotten myself into, you will wonder about your choice to get married , who you married, having kids, was this the right time and things like that ,it also ok to miss your single days when you had nothing to worry about and were free to do whatever.
its perfectly natural to feel less than a parent at times.

some people dont feel the pressure of parenthood because they dont do anything really and leave the caregiver responsibilities to someone else, for the main care giver and for some one who is very hands on with the kids, it can feel like a burden sometimes.

if your idea of parenthood is just to pay for school fees and watch someone else actually care for the child, then parenthood will be a breeze.

My dear, I guess u didn't take your time to understand my comment. Whatever you think u might be going thru or sacrificing for ur kids comes under parental responsibility. The challenges may differ to our unique environment, dreams and orientations. Whatever it is, it can never in any way make a burden of ur taking care of the child u brought into the world, which tomorrow all things being equal, is expected to in turn take care of u. There is nothing in life that doesn't come with their respective sacrifice. Those reasons she mentioned and many more can still be classified as part of the challenging responsibilities of parenthood unless the person was not prepared for it or probably was misinformed of it being a stroll in the park. When u see it as part of the responsibility, it ceases to be a burden. Unless u want to pray for God to relieve u of it by killing the kids so u can be free without distractions and "burden". I knew what she meant. I am equally a parent. So don't think I don't know what I am saying[color=#006600][/color]

[quote author=obi123 post=65660954]Truth is as a parent there will be a time when you actually think , omg what have i gotten myself into, you will wonder about your choice to get married , who you married, having kids, was this the right time and things like that ,it also ok to miss your single days when you had nothing to worry about and were free to do whatever.
its perfectly natural to feel less than a parent at times.

some people dont feel the pressure of parenthood because they dont do anything really and leave the caregiver responsibilities to someone else, for the main care giver and for some one who is very hands on with the kids, it can feel like a burden sometimes.

if your idea of parenthood is just to pay for school fees and watch someone else actually care for the child, then parenthood will be a breeze.

I guess u didn't take your time to understand my comment. Whatever you think u might be going thru or sacrificing for ur kids comes under parental responsibility. The challenges may differ to our unique environment, dreams and orientations. Whatever it is, it can never in any way make a burden of ur taking care of the child u brought into the world, which tomorrow all things being equal, is expected to in turn take care of u. There is nothing in life that doesn't come with their respective sacrifice. Those reasons she mentioned and many more can still be classified as part of the challenging responsibilities of parenthood unless the person was not prepared for it or probably was misinformed of it being a stroll in the park. When u see it as part of the responsibility, it ceases to be a burden. Unless u want to pray for God to relieve u of it by killing the kids so u can be free without distractions and "burden".

The moment taking care and training your own child becomes a burden to you, u have lost the right to parenthood. So would you be happy if God decides to help you and relieve you of the burden or would He be wrong? I think she probably used the wrong word for a sound expression. I'd preferred seeing it as a responsibility than a burden. It's like saying a student in school considering reading for ur bright future as a burden. Then such a fellow being in school in the first place can be questioned. Much as I understood her thought, that's too much disconnect a word to use when it comes to parenting no matter the condition of a child. They just don't match. Responsibility better. That's what God gives parents: stewardship responsibility, not burden. I stand to be corrected though.

Small digression guys*

I JUST DON'T UNDERSTAND WOMEN!

Over the weekend my wife insisted that we should spend more time playing games together other than me watching football and going out for drinks with friends. Somehow, I grudgingly succumbed to her request.

Now The Game: She said let's make a list of 5 people that each of us could date if allowed by either one of us to date and given the opportunity. (In my mind I was like hmmm what a game) Well that sounds fun for her kind of game, I said Ok, she go first and pick her kind of men.

She picked :
1. Aliko Dangote,
2.Femi Otedola
3.King Sunny Ade
4 Otunba Subomi Balogun
5.Sen. Bola Tinubu.
Her choices were good and I cheered her up. Now it's my turn to pick,

Being the simple guy I am and to be modest, I just picked:
1.Bidemi - her younger sister. First choice �
2. Jane - her distant cousin. Second choice
3. Mercy - one of her friends.
4. Cynthia - one pretty lady within our neighbourhood and
4. Mrs Nwosu - our son's school teacher.

That was the end of the game, I have been answering questions upon questions explanations upon explanations. I can't remember the number of I'm sorry I have said so far. what a game ��meanwhile I didn't ask her for any explanations for hers!

SEE ME SEE TROUBLE Oooo!!! She now suspects every of my honest moves and interaction with any of them, esp Cynthia. Do you guys [color=#006600][/color]think my wife is fair to me?

Bro. I am inclined to sympathize and tell you sorry but I wont. Reason being that although it may look like a misfortune, I see it to be a closure of a good door for the opening of better ones ahead. I'd rather congratulate you in advance for a new crib full of new properties. Just remember to inform us here when the rains start falling again. More grace.

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Big fat lie

Old World Book Encyclopedia (Valentine's Day. Volume 19. 1966, page 205-206)

blaqroy:
VALENTINE is a name of a Priest called "Saint Valentine" A Bishop of Terni. During the 3rd Century.
During that period emperor Claudius of Roman Empire declared that there should be no marriage. The young men should rather be used for war in Army.
But, Saint Valentine the Priest disobeyed the law. He continued to perform marriage for young lovers in secret.Helping couples in their romantic life.
When Valentine's action was discovered, Claudius ordered that He should be put to death. He was killed on 14th February around 270 or 278AD.
After his death, the couples ( lovers) agree to use every 14th of February as a day of remembrance for St VALENTINE up to date.

Happy Valentine day!

Thanky you sir...And I think that is done for obvious reason

Statsocial:
In a bid to sound politically correct we must not deviate from the truth in the word of God.

"Give and it shall be given unto you, Pressed down shaken together shall men give unto your bossom"


Seed sowing isn't just for churches by the way, you can plant seeds in orphanages or aid ministries and you would reap it back as u desire.

The only issue that I have is many churches do not preach or emphasize on Alms(for the poor and destitute) which is equally or even more important than the tithe.

While we wait for many more lies from APC team of liars

hmmmmm.

More drama to come