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Omar09:
I can't believe I had the thought of getting married at the age of 25 or latest 28. But as I grew older, I've realized what you said here even before coming across it from you or any place here. Life ain't worth being in privation and bringing in kids or even adding extra burden to on one's neck.

My take is this, it's better to be comfortable before dabbling into marriage.

Sixfeetbelle:
Let's do this.

[s]Prior to writing this topic, I have been opportuned to view various writeups by other members who advise men not to date broke ladies or actually, ladies with entitlement mentality. And while the sagacious ones will pick the heart of the message and move on, the foolish ones will gather like crows to feast on the carcass, throwing insults and jabs like little boys that were denied treats at a Christmas party, thus picking nothing relevant from the post by the end of the day. I hope they know that It isn't the messenger's fault that comprehension is a difficult trait to acquire for some people.

Due to this behavioural menace, I have decided to tow a different path with my message today. Having said that, I'll like to reiterate for those hard of understanding that: Broke girls are cool to date but once she starts exhibiting entitlement mentality, end the relationship. To the ladies, I'll say this as well: Broke guys are cool to date but once he starts going on and on about prospects and dreams that look like castles in the air, please discard the relationship and move on. Since this thread is purposefully meant for the ladies, I'll give them reasons why I made that statement. Feel free to correct any mistakes you see and I'll rectify them. NB: Only corrections made without insults and/or jab will be considered.

[center]Characteristics of men without prospects[/center]

1) They are day dreamers: Inasmuch as I believe in struggling together with your man through his hard days, I always know human beings are fickle and loyalty isn't always rewarded. That said, some men who claim to be hustling are actually daydreamers who are too proud to work in the mud. They are hardly steady at any job, always dreaming and fantasising about the day they'll become millionaires or own a private jet or a mansion in banana island without actually making grand plans to achieve that. If care is not taken, it's very likely that he has changed jobs more than ten times in the past five years. While it's good to dream, it's best to have laid down plans that will connect your days of humble beginnings to your glorious future.

My take: Ladies, examine his prospects and see the viability of his dreams before making your decision.

2) They are charming: It always beats my imagination when I see visionless men get ladies so effortlessly. Then I realised the reason is because they're smooth talkers, as charming as a snake can be. I can't seem to understand the correlation between a passion for success and a need to swoon the ladies, and I believe that no man who is skillful in one will be that proficient in the other. While other men are hands and feet down in the mud striving to attain their future ambitions, his head and attention is buzzing like an antenna, waiting to pick up the next available lady, thus distracting him from achieving a single goal everytime.

My take: Ladies, take a good look at your relationship and recall how he wooed you. There are exceptions but a woman can always tell.

3) They are not loyal: Please, let's not dirty our minds and start imagining a cheating boyfriend, (although he may be one) rather, let's look at his life in general. He's never been in a position where his loyalty in life was tested. He's hardly the first child, thus never been in a position that makes him a core hustler. His siblings are doing much better than him, hence he may very likely live off of their crumbs. He's never had a successful relationship that ended due to health or tribal issues. They either ended due to his refusal to leave a job or his inability to keep one, more so the latter. It can be due to his inability to not avoid everything in skirt or his insecurity of the ladies' success as he'd be a trifle bit jealous of other's success as he can't seem to ever achieve his own. All in all, he's not one to trust to handle being the captain of the ship.

My take: Ladies, analyse him if you can and make your decision. But remember, dreamers who can't get what they want always end up jealous. He won't ever be that CEO he's always telling you about, not with the lackadaisical way he goes about it.

4) They are time wasters: This was supposed to be number one point, but the crows would have had a field day with my post if I did it that way. Anyway, men without prospects are invariably professional time wasters. No surprises there. And while their heart may be with you (they do know how to love greatly), they lack the wherewithal to do right by you in the appropriate time. Generally, they're never in a need to settle down or any of the other societal 'needs' that the rest of the population may desire because they lack the capacity to do so. Please do not confuse their inability to mean apathy. On the contrary, if they had their way, you'd be married to them before you can say Jack Robinson. However, their life will always be driven in whatever direction the wind takes them and when the dust finally settles, they'll find themselves approaching forty, with no reasonable evidence of their hustle in life and no lady by their side. Disclaimer: Not all men in that age gap were without prospects.

My take: Ladies, iron out your situation with him and see if you both can reach a compromise. If he won't accept outside help to start off your married life (highly unadvisable), drop him like hot coal. When he gets to 40, someone young will marry him.

Summary, ladies even as you strive to become independent, strong women, always weigh your options in every relationship you go into. Don't always sit and wait for the man to make his intentions known. Incite him to state his desires and see if they tally with yours. At the end, whoever you choose to date, always think of the future your children will have. Think of the children, sisters.

Thank you[/s].

promzy9:
The Appeals Court have thrown out an
appeal filed against ex-Ghana International
Nii Odartey Lamptey by his former wife
Gloria Appiah, according to a report by
Kasapa FM’s Alex Anyankwaa.

Madam Appiah had appealed against a Court
decision to quash her plea to get 50% of the
former footballer’s asserts after the two
divorced.

Odartey Lamptey divorced Madam Appiah
back in 2016 for infidelity.
A DNA test revealed all three Children with
the woman was not his fruits forcing him to
quit the marriage.


In a counterbalance, the woman has been
fighting to get half of the player’s properties
as compensation, an action which has been
quashed by the Appeals Court.

After divorcing his ex-wife, the former Aston
Villa and PSV attacker got engaged to actress
and model Ruweida Yakuba with whom he
has two children.

skimena:
i moved into a new environment late last here so I decided to fellowship in a nearby church close to my new apartment. Everything about the church was ok with me except for the pastor. The pastor is a woman and I don't have issue with that. Where I have issue is that anytime she's praying my dick always get hard. this is worse when she's doing one on one prayer for me. I'm feeling this way because of how she behaves during the prayers. As she's praying she'll start making some sexy noise like hummm haaaah hmmmm yes! yes! yes lord hmmmm and this tune constantly reminds of my ex. exactly her ringtone when we are on acting service. when this happens I always feel embarrassed. Instead of feeling this way when I'm in church I decided to change my church.

catman [s:
post=91883530]Wondering how to make out for the first time because you want it to be amazing? It’s the first make-out session of your life, here’s 12 tip on how to make out for the first time !

Oh god, learning how to make out for the first time can be a stressful mess! I remember the first time I made out with someone. I was sixteen, sitting on the couch with my then-boyfriend. We would share innocent kisses when he then asked me, “do you want to French kiss?”

I was obviously mortified. French kiss? What do I do? How do I position my head? I was a sweaty, nervous mess. Needless to say, the first time wasn’t amazing. It wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t great. I was trying to figure out how this all worked, where does my tongue go, how much pressure I should use.

It took me some time to get the hang of things, that’s for sure. And though this story is embarrassing, I wanted to share it with you because you need to know your first time making out with someone may not look like something out of a movie.

Instead, it could be a little awkward at first, but that’s okay. It takes time to learn anything new for the first time, so don’t be hard on yourself. Instead, when it comes to learning how to make out for the first time, enjoy these 12 tip on how to make out for the first time and go with the flow

[Read:12 Secrets Women Will Always Hide From Their Men]

12 Tip On How to Make Out for the First Time
Okay, I don’t want to stress you out or make you panic, so let’s walk you through this straight away.

#1 Are you ready? Do you want to make out with this person? Or are you doing this because you think you have to? Because you don’t need to make out with anyone unless you want to, so don’t go into this feeling any pressure. If you want to do it, then do it. If not, don’t do it.

Read : 12 Reasons Most Men Patronize Prostitutes

#2 Use your manners. It can be a little hard to control yourself when you really want to kiss someone. But nothing is more frightening than having someone’s mouth charging to yours without any heads up. When it comes to kissing, use your manners. You can lean in slightly and see if they accept and lean in towards you. But if your partner is dodging any physical contact, don’t do it.

#3 There had to be physical contact before making out. You cannot just grab someone and start making out with them. Okay, you can, but depending on the circumstances, it can be frowned upon.

If you two have kissed before, then you can slowly transition into making out. But there should be physical contact before the make-out session.

4 Go with the moment. If you’re wondering how to make out for the first time ever, you should remember that there will be a moment when you two will share this emotional connection that will lead to the kiss. Feel that moment, feel the energy. Are you two being pulled closer together? Is the sexual tension building?

Well, that’s the energy you want when going into a make-out session. Both people want to be kissing each other, and they want more.[/s]

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no1concept:
It has really become a common thing to hear from guys that women have nothing to offer asides sex. They go ahead to paint women as intimacy gadgets and worst of all label them as pit toilets. In as much as I wouldn't deny the fact that most women actually deserve those name tags, I vehemently refuse to exclude men from being among the major cause of such names . And this brings me to my advice to guys about dating random girls.

Don't ever expect anything asides sex from a girl that has nothing to offer intellectually. Such girls will never contribute to telling you how to make your life or finance grow as a man. They don't ever think or make plans concerning the future. All they care about is how to live for the moment, look good enough to be whistled down or stopped by a man in a car. All they care about is how to offer you the one thing they know you did part with your money for and that is sex. These girls are the kind I term random girls. Because these girls are so much out there, men are left confused and without hope of if there are actually still good girls. Because the majority of girls you did meet are random girls, you may be forced settle with the general cliché about women offering nothing but sex.

But the truth my fellow men is that; we actually meet good girls on a daily at every point but our quest and determination to test that lies hidden between her legs and underneath her clothes blinds our senses to at least go beyond trying to know who this girl is, what could be peculiar about her that I might come to love so much that could be of great importance to me in future at least as a wife (that is if that's where you want to go). The moment you hit it two or three times, you run off screaming like a little boy that you've done it. Many good girls have actually turned random cause when they encounter these kind of guys, they develop the mentality that all what guys want and would die for is the apple they carry and hence give it to you and nothing more in exchange for cash, jewelries etc

Many good girls who really don't want to be involved sexually in a relationship most times can't cope with the persistent request for sex from their guys who they really love so much that
they give in. As expected, the guy gets what he wants and in most cases tells the girl it's over after some more exploits. The girls who experience this are left hurt and many times evolve into random girls except for few who believe so much in God's word.

Therefore, it is important to advice my fellow young men out there that in your bid to count census, you might have actually met that one girl that would have been of great importance to you in so many ways if only you can at least try to control your magic stick and look well into her soul to see how beautiful it is as a person. If she agrees to your woos and tells you 'no sex', no matter if she's still a virgin or not, please respect her decisions and try building something with her. Such girls are no random girls. Some disvirgined girls have lost their virginity due to naivety and peer pressure and when they realize their mistakes, decide to make a better use of their brains than their bodies. Please don't ruin their life resolution just because you wanna count census.

Well, I do hope this piece helps someone out there and enlightens them.

Righteousness89:


Surrender your Life Completely to JESUS !

That's the Greatest Gift you can gift yourself!

Handover every other Matters to Him..

I wanna Pray For you.

By the Mercies of God Almighty, I Expel and Terminate that Chronic disease in your system!

I Request by the Mercy of My Father in Heaven, The Medical team from Heaven Visit you and Correct every error in your blood and body !

I Declare you Healed in the Name of JESUS..

kenzysmith:

[s]Have notice that girls from poor background re ve proud have bad mouth they lack manners the worst of it some of them can't cook and dirty[/s].

Ariza:
On Nairaland....

[s]Toks: Dear Guys, avoid ladies with entitlement mentality

Guys: "You made sense" avoid them! " If only they will listen" "Nigerians girls have entitlement issues" "I can't date an entitled girl" "I dump her once I see the sign" .......

Off Nairaland..

Guy: Hi babe.
Girl: No answer
Guy: babe what have I done wrong? What's up
Girl: Aren't you suppose to sub for me?
Guy: Oh babe ,! I'm sorry, I've forgotten your sub will end soon. Lemme do that now
Girl: Do it quick
Guy: Done, seen it... I'm so sorry.
Girl: I've seen it, Thanks
Guy: Now that you are happy, when will I see you?
Girl:


Upon your rants here, that's the reality of many Nigerian guys[/s]...

sylve11:
All right o.

pappilo:
Never! It is never okay if one of the 'friends' is in any sort of relationship.

My ex-wife started off as friends with a colleague. But once she started hiding to take calls from him, it was obvious this was more than friendship.

Like a bad Nollywood movie, I ended up out of my own home, sleeping in a freaking cold garage that had been converted to a single room while her friend ended up in my warm bed and became the de facto dad to my kids.

Fear women o!

nadel:
I appreciate. May God continue to bless you

Farki:
Would the kids be a problem or you would not mind it? Would you also be OK if he got you pregnant as well?

temijoshuaa:
I met this lady in 2012 while at achool and we started dating same year. She is a very gentle and quiet girl and i am also quiet but better than her. She gives me no problem and does not demand too much. She earns a living for herself and comfortable.

I have one major problem with our relationship. We cant have good conversations together and we are not friends. Over the years, she has promised to improve in terms of communication, but i am not feeling it at all. We are not friends. Whenever we are together, i have to call my friends to have conversations and relieve my boredom. A friend advised me to go see her parents, maybe she will change afterwards, this did not change anything. Throughout our 5 hours journey from her parent's house to mine, we did not discuss at all, despite my effort to engage.

She does not show emotions. I have tried several times to get her angry, but she would not show emotions. One time, i did a photoshop of me having a video call with a naked girl, and i gave her my phone to check pictures. She saw the picture, but gave no emotion at all. She just checked it and scrolled to the next picture. I WAS FLABBERGASTED.

Please, its been 7 years in this relationship, and her parents are already talking about marriage. I need advise as i want a fun marriage, and be friends with my wife.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, my mother always wants me to accompany her when she wants to go visiting my married cousin or other people

Why is that? Is it a cultural thing?[/color]

Zeal810:
Hello everyone, I’m going to be very brief about this... I work in a hotel somewhere in Nigeria as a cleaner for about 3 years + now

Few days ago efcc stormed the hotel to arrest a fraudster who just bought a car, After the arrest my manager sent me to the room to clean, When cleaning the room I found a black nylon bag, opening the bag I discover it was a huge amount of money so I place the nylon inside my trouser, After cleaning I kept the nylon around the hotel premises

On my closing time I went to pick it up, got home after counting, I discover it was 2.9 million naira, I’m writing this to ask my fellow nairalanders if this was a blessing from God ? Nobody is aware including my parents although I still live with them, I will be turning 24 in few months time so I’m not sure what to do with this amount of funds, I’m currently having just my waec result and I plan to further my education because I have been doing this job just to save enough funds to further my education as my parents are not financially stable, I’m just being skeptical about the whole thing and I’m not sure about what to do yet, my only fear is that the guy might disclose that he kept some funds in the hotel room to the efcc and they might come back to investigate if it was true or not

Kindly advice my elders in the house, Thank You


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Jeux:
thanks very much baba, please how much is the least amount I can get and hows the process like ? thanks in advance

Queenlovely:
this world is full of mystery, I am weeping while I am typing this

before the covid lockdown, my cousin introduced his future wife to the family in portharcourt we welcomed her warmly and asked questions, she seemed nice.

fast forward 3 days ago, I saw our future sister in-law lapdancing in a club in Abuja, I wanted to take photos but opted for video instead, I just weak, I wanted to catch her in the very act of kpanshing.

I went closer to her and she could not remember me, I introduced myself and she fell like a pack of card, she fainted and people rushed to help her,

she is pleading with me to keep her secret, but my conscience is heavy, she said she wanted to buy ashobi uniform, that's why she is doing it.

see seriously I don't know if I should take this to my grave and allow the wedding to continue. she had lied to her husband about her whereabouts.

Sebastine1994:
exactly, she told me she was pregnant, I just weak, plus her mama die

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chelsea1116:
I got the video from someone..i have it but i dont have d link.
I can send it through mail,facebook etc if u want.