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ImaIma1:
The guys on this forum expect that once you are married, you severe every friendships with guys and talk to only ladies

Thats not what they are saying.

A married woman should keep distance. Still be friends with them, but on long distance basis.

This isnt hard except you are a cheat. And they that are still gluing with you after your wedding are trying to wreck your life.

Roseey0:
All the waiting just for drilling...

Trust me 99% of them

johnstar:
Shut up weytn pogba dey play,, shey pogba don win epl player of the year before??

U dey mad ni?? No quote me again oo


Manure fan, ugo no say na manure fan
Focus on ur match and stop talking shit

The whole Pogba is one leg of kante... the difference is clear..lol

Is Digea a statue or what?
That Fred lol..I thought Manunited fans called him box to box..
That guy no cross manu half. Box to box ko...circle to circle ni.

Alteast bakayoko dey cross half field

Joginho, kovasic..kieta, best buy so far..

victorian:
Story. Keep deceiving yourself!
Smhhh

I have seen a strong boss lady falling well fcked by a driver who was later sacked. Sack or no sack...the deed has been done.

Men are masters of trickery .

Even those pastors you so trrust are masters of sleeping with married women.

Roseey0:
Which folish man stays on the queue of a married woman.

What is it you are waiting to gain....

It's quiet unfortunate that those guys u chatting with on whatsap are not just their as friends, they are waiting for your mistake to pounce on you and drill that hole.

Reality 101

I have noticed some females on this thread trying to twist this topic. The topic is about keeping opposite sex as close/best friends. Majority of them can't agree that a married woman or engaged lady should refrain from close contact with besties.

Examples of close contacts are

Going out to dinner
Meeting him/her in a private place
Discussing ur relationship
Calling in the night when you should be discussing with your husband or wife.

There is no harm is having opposite sex as friend solely for business and connections, work colleagues, academics, career..

Most of these 'close' friends have ulterior motivates. But they would pretend.

The women arguing here will go crazy the moment they realize their husband have female best friends. Women are known to dish out what they can't take.

And we know of some women who will say he is just a friend and they have fcked him. They will even say he is business partner nothing else and they have actually fcked.

Women sha.

AZeD1:
I don't get all guys saying men are men. Please stop it. If you are a dog, accept you are a dog and leave others out of if.

I have female friends that have stayed with me (slept on the same bed) and we were both singles and nothing happened.


If you can't control yourself, don't have friends of the opposite sex. Your life doesn't end because you got married.

A lady slept with you and your body was frigid like statue. Your wife will cheat on you like kilode.

SO how many guys are sexually dull like you?

Mr nice guy!

Seunnzy:
Yhu knw say karma sabi everybody's address

No be my own house

pcguru1:
I didn't get the survey o, how did you reach 90% ? You're those type of guys that paint all men to be thirsty, and its not every girl we want to fvck some of us recognize that friendship is okay, I have female friends I've never thought about fvcking not one day.

100 - 90=10

Consider the 10%

Seunnzy:
To the OP,Karma go soon visit cos u have done it to others too

I no publish my house address na.

pocohantas:
They will soon develop high BP.
Married women shouldn't wear this, they shouldn't go here, they shouldn't work here, they shouldn't associate with males...

Na wetin?! Na prison abi marriage?

Very soon they'll say married woman shouldn't work with male colleagues, enter bus with male passengers...etc

Then stay away from marriage. Be a single mother who will not be under anyone.

WHy be in a marriage and still have close boyfriends.

Why marry ur husband when you know you are not best friends?

Hanseel1:
Change your mentality , it's wrong.

We are in 2018 not 1980. It's people like you that can't stay in the same house with a lady without having sex with her

We know life was saner in 1980. But in 2018, the rate at which people becoming dishonest ...even the devil is afraid

victorian:
Not all ladies are like your female friends.
My lawyer is a married man, we are good friends and he has not slept with me nor even made any attempt to.

My best friend's husband is like a big brother to me, a senior official in FIRS, we became close through my best friend , when she introduced us during her engagement. He's from my state, our village is close, while my best friend is a Yoruba lady. He helps me professionally ,in short we are this close but it has never occured to me, to betray my friend and have sex with her husband.. Not even the devil can trick me on that. Am a fairer version of his wife but he has never hit on me.
And He knows I will never hit on him.. The respect I have towards him will fall below low, if he tries any hanky panky move. In fact none of us drink, so we can't blame alcohol. Our senses and Brains are up to date.

In short we are better off as family friends.

People should stop blaming Devil for everything.. And take responsibility for once!

Nice one

victorian:
When there are set boundaries and self control between a married lady and her male friends , there is nothing wrong having a married male friend who believes in respecting his marital vows to his wife.
It's all about using the brain coupled with having a conscience.

Yes. thats what female friends tell me before they mistakenly open their legs. AFter doing it, they will say its the devil

Hanseel1:
But a man is allowed to have a best friend?

Why will a responsible man have female as best friend?

Its a precursor to cheating

ImaIma1:
Your post said nothing about "best friends" but "just friends" but it is fine if that is the story you want to stick to.

"They told her that when a woman is married, the only best friend she should have is her husband. Her best friends before getting married should maintain distance if they are responsible except they are nurturing bad intentions too."

Thats a copy from my post

MajorJeffery:
A married man or woman who keeps opposite sex as close friend is already cheating emotionally and the real deal is only one pole away because one day, it will surely happen.

If you wanna hang out with a guy, why not marry him, why marry a completely different man from the type you like?

You got the point.

ImaIma1:
Maybe because people do not understand friendships. I have always had more male friends than females.

It is just like asking what my intentions are with my female friends. You expect me to avoid talking to or mixing up with my male colleagues but just the female ones.

Well, maybe some people only think about sex when it comes to the opposite sex. That is their mindset, not mine.

The married women that cheated with whoever did so because they decided to. They don't need to have male friends. They could have all female friends and still cheat with the only male they happen to meet.

But its quite unfortunate that 90% of men think about sex when they see opposite sex especially none blood relatives.

Friendship is best for same sex. But for opposite, care should be taken. Men can pretend for life.

FYI. This post is about "best friends" and not friends.

You can have many male friends who you dont meet or go out together. Maybe just at work or on whatsap. This is not in the scope of this discussion. We are talking about best friends.

ImaIma1:
I am married and i have male friends

Nobody said all our friends have to be same sex.

No problem with having friends. We all need friends in life.

But the question is. Do you trust those friends? Are you sure they are not after you to pounce on you when opportunity shows up? Do you know their intention?

Or we should ask you.

What is your intention with those friends?

The rate at which married women engage in office romance these days, you wonder whats they really understand by the word "Just friends"

nadalion:
Op, that was an educative Post?

Yeah

mrbaba18:
I cal it chain luv cus all of us are in a chain cycle just check it u luv ur gal frnd bt ur gal frnd luv another guy nd dat guy luv another gal nd dat gal luv another guy so enjoy life dnt take it serious

I dont have any problem with that. But our female folks always bad mouth guys as if guys are the evil. We are in the chain together. No one is saint here

kinibigdil:
What is even proper in relationship this days anymore, a lady said if she's dating or single depends on how her partner is behaving at the moment, No 3 is the problem of most relationships this days, wo Na olosho all of us go marry last last lol, Na who them catch be thief!

eh tire me.

This topic has been controversial from time immemorial.

Here is my take on the matter. Feel free to express your opinions.
Based on my life experiences, I got to know that most ‘just friends’ friendship between opposite sex end up as a smoke screen. Below are what I observed.

1. Most guys will pretend to be ‘just friends’ with girls that turned down their sexual advance. They do this to stay connected with the lady in case opportunity will resurface again. They are like lions laying in waiting, hiding, monitoring a stubborn antelope. Some of them are masters of this pretence that the lady will not suspect anything. This lady will trust them to the extent of even sleeping in their houses.
At the end, these girls fall victim of forceful sexual intercourse, sex under influence of chemical/alcohol or emotional trauma.

E.g, A lady I approached sometimes ago, turned me down. We agreed to be ‘just friends’. One day, she had a disagreement with his guy to the extent of physical assault. She cried to my house. As we were talking through the night, one thing led to another, we had sex.
This is one major reason when my girlfriend tells me a guy is her best friend, I frown at it. In fact I can end that relationship because of it.

2. My uncle’s wife had a man friend ‘just friend’, which nearly rattled his marriage. She is always on phone with this man. They even go out to have dinner together. Even I was pissed off personally but could not express my opinion in someone else’s marriage. She was always playing the jealousy card. My uncle is jealous blahblah. The matter later came to an end when her parents called her to order. They told her that when a woman is married, the only best friend she should have is her husband. Her best friends before getting married should maintain distance if they are responsible except they are nurturing bad intentions too.

3. Young girls these days have mastered the art of queuing up guys. When they are in serious relationship, they friend-zones their toasters and keep communicating with them. When they have little disagreement in their serious relationships, they upgrade the next guy in the friend-zone to bed mate. They don’t make effort to make their failing relationship work because they know they have a queue of guys on their whatsap.

What they don’t realize is that these guys also moved on to the next girl when she turned them down the first time. So when the girl resurface again, they accept her as a bonus “extra p*ssy”. When the relationship breaks down again, they go on social media and rant on how men are dogs, men are liars, men cannot be trusted, they prefer to stay single. Anyways, this is out of scope for this discussion.

4. I had a girlfriend in the past, she made me realize we are not dating because she had a serious relationship. But we played one day and mistakenly had sex. And after that we had sex multiple times. And she keeps ringing it in my ear that we are not dating. She even introduced me to her man as her best friend ‘just friends’

In conclusion, I am not saying being friends with opposite sex is bad, but distance should be maintain if no-dating clause is there. Maintain minimum visits and contacts. Some guys will says “I can’t be taking you out to eateries, spending on you without getting anything back”. So girls, watch your back, nothing is free in freeland.

This yeye sofore..tinubu boy.

Your family members wont even vote for you. A snake..

How that one take concern minister of health?

Trekin for Buhari is a political stunt. Its not a national/official duty. So what is minister of health duty to that?

True SHiiithole

experimentist:
Only six?

Kwankwaso is still a learner.

pls how many?

LOLZ

When this backfires, they will say Saraki is using Magu again.

These people are idiots

The funniest part is the pastor involved. Thats a blow to Redeemed Church members...Oyedepo was right before the election. People attacked him...Those same people are feeling guilty to admit they were wrong..but still shouting sai barber up and down.