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BonPatrick:
How can u say is wrong when we didn't do anything after she finished she left no feelings attached

If you already made up your mind that it was right, why then are you disturbing us with intellectually nauseating questions on a beautiful Sunday morning?

OnionBandit:
Miss Nigeria with those your thick legs?

Check for her pictures taken during that era, the legs hadn't gotten thick.

BonPatrick:
Good morning guys I leave alone and I don't know how to cook soup but can cook stew and others so I called my ex girlfriend yesterday and she is married last year so she came we went to market and buy food stuffs and she cooked for me. I want to know if is wrong for a married lady to do that?

If at your age, you don't know the difference between right and wrong, I'm really sorry.

Just imagine if it were your wife going to do all you described for her ex, tell me how you'd feel.

I don't blame you but the senseless woman who had no sense to talk sense into you for calling her to make such requests in the first instance.

She's gone ahead to be successful. As dumb, shallow or vapid he may have sounded, equating success to personal imagery, he is right. The entertainment industry, favors those with a certain look. It's even worse Abroad. I mean, with the success Missy Elliot and Adele had they still went ahead to drop the fat skin.

By the way, why do fat people always have that nonsense delusional talk about, "the fact that I'm fat don't mean I'm not healthy"?

xpressionx:
Can he make BUBU his close aid?
I want to check something.

LOL.

Oliviajones:
Hi Sure. Please hit me up when you come around. I have exams next week but I can make out time.

Great .

So, I must say you're doing great. He's missing you already keep the distance and create some suspense LOL. No he didn't call you cos he thought you did something crazy, he called cos he actually missed you Girl power.

And success in your exams

Oliviajones:
Definitely

Hey babe @oliviajones, where you at? Come let's gist.

I may be at your location next week, attending a conference. Trips not confirmed yet cos I'm exhausted. Done a couple of round trips these past months so I need a break.

If I don't succeed in wriggling myself out of this, will hit you up. Maybe we can hang.

Respond to this message oh. LOL.

UjuJoan2:
We are assuming his is a ‘fine young man’. It may just be her feelings clouding her judgement and making her think he is special. for all we know he could be scum like the rest of them. Lol

Trust me he isn't. LOL.

Going by her fewly worded description of him, he is certainly a fine young man. He could have easily turned her to a sex buddy but he declined any form of intimacy (she said he didn't want sex).

He is also adamant about not having a relationship (temporarily I hope), that shows he is a strong willed guy who stays resolute in beneficial decisions made.

I am very certain that this guy is not your typical NL boy. LOL.

Klass99:
Lol, whatever you say. I can't help the lingua sometimes. I learnt it from here.

You realize I am female right? So, I don't know what you mean by my general perception of women being faulty and borne out of ignorant statistics

I don't realize you're female. Trans maybe but definitely not female.

Let's say I indulge you and agree you're female, does the way you see yourself make you an authority in accurately describing the female gender?

Klass99:
Lol , where did you get that impression from?

Truth is, I have a very low tolerance for BS and I don't suffer fools easily. I can be nasty and have been when dealing with some cunts and pained black simps on this forum, but I'm not one to throw the first punch.

I usually respond to people the way they treat me, quote me with nastiness and I'll hit you back with your dose of medicine, be civil and I'll reciprocate, if you're intelligent and fun with your thoughts/words I'll most likely want to engage, quote me with shallowness or stupidity and I'll ignore or not ignore, depending on my mood.

I don't go out of my way to be actively nasty to others, but give me a reason and I will. @Olivia, how are you doing and where's your heart at today?

LOL. I think I find you interesting... For now maybe

You can be brash in responding without going as low as using the gutter lingua like what I boldened above.

Plus your general perception of the Nigerian females which is obviously borne out of a faulty and ignorant statistics puts you on the pedestal labeled nasty element

Klass99:
Nah I won't delete my posts cos I'm not one of the nasty male elements nor am I looking to hook up with the OP.

Lol you're obviously not a fan of the hit series Game of Thrones. Seven blessings was a popular phrase/greeting used in the movie.

But, I like to use it as a way of hailing someone for a really good or very sensible post.

Your take on the phrase is cool as well, there are 7 days in a week so yeah one for each day.

LOL. I actually watched game of thrones for the first time during the lock down.
Was under aged before then so couldn't watch so my innocence won't be snatched from me.

You not nasty? that's an unpopular opinion

MALIGNANTGuest:
To you she looks innocent becos she's PRETTY.
We have entered a state of decadence.
Indirectly, some People hav bin clamoring 4ha release. Dis is someone who committed MURDER.
EVEN the police are too lenient with her.
I bet u such MAKEUP face & looks wouldn't be found next time d police arrests an Ugly Lady.

UGLY LADIES and humans don suffer.
Dat's d reason POLICE arrest Ugly people most.
UGLY people don't get jobs even if they present 1st class papers to CEOs, Banks & other units.
They are never employed as Flight attendants no matter how intelligent.
UGLY people should throw their weights behind the HEAVENS for that's where their last hope lie.

LOL.

Klass99:
I enjoyed reading this. Seven blessings to you!

But, you will make the nasty elements on this forum to start deleting their history/footprints in a bid to make a first good impression.

LOL. Would you delete your posts? Not insinuating you nasty oh

And why seven blessings? Oh! I get it, one for each day of the week right?

Mrsoft3:
Have been following your advice to the lady, I love your maturity. It's top notch

Well... Thank you Sir! we try...

Oliviajones:
Definitely

If you're really certain of this, give him time. Stop all forms of communication to enable you detach emotionally, then engage in platonic conversations, when you're sure you're completely sorted.

He needs time and he needs to know he can trust you again.

By the way, we can chat on NL, whenever you feel like it. Just tag me okay...

You'll be fine babe.

Oliviajones:
You're very kind. Thanks a lot .

I'll just talk to some people in real life and throw myself into work to keep busy. Yes, I create time for fun.

Hopefully, I get over this phase quickly and God willing, he doesn't meet someone else. Because it's a possibility.

Emotions aside, can you really tell if he was into you?

Oliviajones:
Bleep

Bummer... If we were in the same location, I would have gone out of my way to do the unusual by connecting with you cos I can tell that you're actually a sweet girl.

Sis, you're going to have lots of private messages as a result of this post, especially since you've revealed you're financially well off!

Trust me, don't take the messages from the guys seriously, cos it's those boys that pretend to be alpha males on here that'd be all over your PM clowning themselves LOL. (I know they'll come for me for exposing them, but like Buhari, I no send)

Infact, if you find any interesting message, take your time and research the person's history on NL before engaging in any form of convo.

You need to create emotional distractions so you can slowly get your mind off le boo but be careful to avoid entanglements cos you're really vulnerable right now.

Are you sociable?

MODIFIED

just saw you edited your location, will do same.

Oliviajones:
I've heard you. I understand. Thank you

Awww you're more than welcome.

Now you have to deliberately take on activities that'd replace whatever reminds you of him.

Where's your location?

Oliviajones:
I acted unnecessary drama thrice. He doesn't like that.

See... I didn't even see this response before I knew exactly what happened.

Search for my comments on this topic and take it if you really want results.

Oliviajones:
Yeah he said he wants space and time. I think I should give him that now because my pleadings aren't doing much. If anything, it's pushing him away. Will he come back after thinking things over? We had a beautiful thing going.

He will ONLY come back when he can trust that you have dealt with your anger issues and immaturity. Tough advise sis.

Truth is, you had a fine young man, which is an exception to what we have these days. I mean, you're on NL, take a look around you.

He won't listen to you cos this is not the first time you've messed up and apologized, so now he don't trust you no more.

You have to earn his trust again and to do this, genuinely work on your insecurities and give him the MUCH NEEDED space he's asked for.

Charlex23:
Of course people tend to fall out of love for no just reason.it happens, maybe what he had for you was infatuation anyway . It could also be possible that he's just going through a phase. But all the same let him be. That's humans for you always inconsistent

Oga, you don't know what the guy saw that made him run . Smart decision if you ask me.

NoApology:
Yes. That's peaky binders. You should watch it

Many thanks.

Kriss216:
Doctor advised I stay away from Nigerian girls. Effective remedy.

LOL. She sure did you in, it's the sarcasm for me... Continue your female bashing cruise, I think it helps you heal. LOL.

Oliviajones:
He broke up with me over a month ago. We still talk because I keep trying to convince him why we should get back together but he'd rather we remain friends. I've begged, I've cried, I promised changed attitude.
I get panic attacks at night, I can't cope properly during the day. I had built my life around him.

I can't do the no contact thing because I fear he'd forget about me and move on. Please talk to me. This is the worst I've felt.

If this post of yours hits FP, what are the odds that he'd read it and know it's you? If he does, you'd have succeeded in making him more resolute in his decision to walk out of your life for good.

I don't know what the issues were that made him reach that decision but I can guess, from what you have communicated that obssessiveness and possessiveness definitely played a huge role.

You need to let yourself heal. I know you don't want to hear this, but see this letting go process as the necessary step you need to make to help yourself become better for you and for building healthy, non toxic relationships.

NoApology:
We've all been there at some point in our lives. I hope the ordeal doesn't leave you cold like it did many of us.

In the end they are just feelings. They'll surely go away.


My advice is go through this pain and heal because it is inevitable, no matter how much you try to avoid it.

Are these memes from a movie? This guy (funny I don't know his name) is one of my my favorite actors.

Such a pretty innocent looking girl. Now your life is spiraling down a path that on the mercies of God can deliver you from. So sad...

RadioMOUTH:
I have been dating a girl over a year now, she has been so nice to me over this one year, I was in another relationship before I met her... she was so nice to me that I had to dump the other girl which I dated from 2014 till early (2020... about 6 years)

Right now, I don't know what to comment on my relationship anymore.... she helped me stop crack and other hard drugs which I was taking...(I appreciate that from her)


Before I met her she has a 6year old daughter which is now 7... ever since I met her.. I've been doing my best, I Normally spend my money in hotels and clubs but now it ends in the house... I love her daughter like she's mine, and she knows that... I pay her fees..


BUT HERE IS THE PROBLEM



I'm a hot tempered person, words annoy me rather than action... I destroy things when I'm angry... I'm just 27 years old and she's 28... a programmer by profession..m I own a land and a personal car today...


She's respectful and does what a woman will do to satisfy every man, but most times when I'm broke, there's always trouble in the house... and I feel loved when I have money...


I have never hit a woman my whole life till I met her, now I'm used to beating and shouting... now she's even telling me I talk too much when I'm complaining..

This was never my life...


Please I need options..m what do I do, I've just few hours ago hit her, because I saw her texting someone and she rescued to open her phone... causing damage on her left eye .... please what do I do....


I don't want to kill someone because I now feel I'm obsessed about her... I'm confused


Modified:

My old relationship was worst... I found love and care in this lady...

You said, "I feel loved", you didn't say, "I am loved". Those are two very different things.

You can be shown love but your insecurities blocks your perception and you are not able to recognize it.

You are the insecure one projecting your insecurities. You know your life is messed up bad and can't believe anything good can come to you. You know you don't deserve this girl so when you experience your usual season of brokeness, you start assuming she will leave cos on top of all your shittiness, brokeness join. So, you act on these thoughts forgetting that she saw how messed up you are and still accepted you.

I hope she realizes she is exposing her daughter to grave harm. Cos this you are just a ticking bomb.

Contekbbc:
Does it mean that you're only loved when you have money?
If this is true then I reserve my comment!
SHALOM

No, read the comment again, this time slowly. He said, "I feel loved", he didn't say, "I am loved". Those are two very different things. You can show someone love but their insecurities will block their perception and not recognize it.

He is the insecure one projecting his insecurities. Can't you see how he described the girl? He knows his life is messed up bad and can't believe anything good can come to him. He knows he doesn't deserve this girl so when he has his season of brokeness, he starts assuming she will leave cos on top of all his shittiness, brokeness join. So, he acts on these thoughts forgetting that she saw how messed up he is and still accepted him.

I hope she realizes she is exposing her daughter to grave harm. Cos this guy is just a ticking bomb.

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WriterX:


calm down, he says his a programmer[b], they do well a lot if they know what they are doing, I know this cos that's partially my area of career since I studied CSC as wel

I know programmers do well that is why I wonder why he is always broke! It's yahoo guys that have momentary bucks followed by extended seasons of brokenness. I also think he's a yahoo guy cos it's hard to separate drug abuse from their lifestyle. I guess cos he always works with computers, he has assumed himself to be a programmer.

Octopusssy:
How about you try beating someone who can actually fight back? You hit her because you know she can't hit back. If she hits you back once or twice I'm pretty sure the demon spirit of anger will leave your body

Thank you very much for this post. I can bet my flawless skin that the guy is a yahoo boy.