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Ndibuna:
Exactly, she has never been useful

She has been useful that is why you opened a thread online because of her. Nigerian men pretence of not been affected by the feminine gender.

Just be careful of any information you pass out to any of your colleagues, the work place is not an ideal place for trust and friendship.

Avoid any form of gossip.

Another extra marital affair gone wrong.

If the man was not in a relationship with her he wouldn't have Introduce her as a friend.

The killer would not have carried out her act.

He would have told his wife honestly that she was an ex.

He wouldn't have allowed his wife to cultivate any friendship with his ex.

The husband should be investigated properly. Hope this confession is even true.

jerosman2:
Delta doesn't belong to ipob o. Please leave our territory alone. We have peace in Delta and will continue to have peace. I don't have anywhere to run to if war come Nigeria. Ipob fools leave Delta now

These are just lies.

They aren't even anywhere in Delta, Okowa is waiting for them.

Last year when some biafra agitators ran to Asaba from onitsha Okowa immediately send trops to flush them out and chased them back to anambra with a strict warning against raising the biafra flag in Delta state. I was at Agbor that period and heavy security presence was even extended to Agbor.

Even local vigilantes came out and was ready for them. We want peace not their madness.

Whiteangel1234:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=370933141734497&id=100064534426548

Keep spreading your propaganda! Nothing like ipob or their nonsense in Asaba. Nobody here in Delta will tolerate them.

Hannania:
That you don't know, doesn't mean there isn't. I also don't see the need of kids. At best, I adopt orphans(twins to be precise) at old age.

I have a couple of friends on this also. Nigeria is not as myopic as it use to be.

I didn't know we are this much in NL. I have lots of friends and colleagues on this, Get married and adopt as you age.

Our media spoke man in Nigeria has been married for close to 20yrs without even adopting because the wife is not even interested in children. They are one of the best couple I know. So exposed and enlightened.

Poswahala:
Guys I genuinely need some advice
Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.

I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.

I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.

I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.

I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.

If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.

The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.

But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.

Please advise.

Relocate out of Nigeria first then see a doctor. Your health and peace of mind should be your priority first.

phemmyfour:
A typically excuse to back your decision. Why not give examples of a working marriage. For every one not working, there are thousands that are working.

Which decision?

Does marriage gurantee happiness or the solution to curb loneliness?

I am a fan of legally and divinely ordained marriages. I just stated the reality of these last days marriages, for every one working there are thousands not working.

Getting married is one of the biggest risk and challenge a person can embark on. If you want to trust God all u need is devotion but to trust a human u need courage.

The world is morally decayed and is fast declining. Most couple cheat on each other, they don't respect their marital vows, unthankful, disloyal, self assuming, puffed up with pride, falling economy, dishonesty with their partners. Hence the high rate of divorce and separation.

If not for the sigma of staying single, not having kids, and been a divorcee most people would not remain in their marriages, take a survey yourself.

Only when one of fortune to marry a person who loves God genuinely and both are ready to make God the third cord in their marriage that is only when their marriage will work and unfortunately people like that are few this time.

This is reality, I don't do fantasy.

Ever8090:
including the bride price and every traditional requirements?

Yes. The ones closest to me didn't even used the entire 120k. Another of my guy is getting married by June 11th am still part of the show. Dude hasn't spent up to 250 yet.

It all depends on you and your wife to be.

Ever8090:
including the bride price and every traditional requirements?

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Idonweak:
I suffer similar fate with mental illness. Mine is bdp and depression. I also determined not to have children and if at all i must have a child. My wife must be psychologically and emotionally stable.

Please make sure you Inform your future wife before marriage. No go put person for punishment.

phemmyfour:
At your old age , you will be seriously lonely. The first reason for marriage is COMPANIONSHIP.... loneliness kills

And so married people are lonely. The ones in my compound are perfect example, especially the wives then their husbands are busy with side chick in the name of traveling.

Marriage doesn't gurantee happiness or companionship except one is fortunate to meet a godly and discipline spouse which is very rare these days.

Ever8090:
500k is for everything including the bride price and wedding

Two different couples in my church used less than 120k for everything. I was among those that supervised the food of first couple.

Ever8090:
bross...my woman said she don't want traditional marriage and just low-key white wedding...if I get 500k now, I don become one of the most happiest person on earth..I go dey waka dey raise shoulder up...this one wey you ask weda 500k go do?...you want give me am I swear if person give me that one now, I no mind dey go him house go wash him children ynash

500k and u called it low key wedding? The low key white weddings we have had during this season were not up to 100k.

Oplomo:
You are a dirty almaijiri with that useless abokey cap wey you wear for NL profile.

Asaba is an Igbo-speaking city, go back to sokoto or whatever terrorist-ridden village you crawled out from.

Keep head like paiko yam tuber. Mugu.

Asaba is never an igbo speaking city. Call them igbos and see what they will do to you including the ukwanis and ika people.

Asaba has been so busy since morning and peaceful. We the people of Delta will never succumbed to your nonsense sit at home propaganda.

AfricanColumbus:
Eyewitness report: there was already word on the street yesterday that there will be sit at home today.

Lies!
Which Asaba? Where in Asaba?
Delta state is not an igbo state so that nonsense will not work here. Spreading terrifying lies all over the place.

Delaw44:
Seems you're not alone in this bro.
I go through shit but I don't let that weigh me down. Be prayerful, do excise and have enough sex.

After praying then you will commit still fornication and you expect God to answer that prayer? Na wah!

DropsMic:
As someone who is from a family of native doctors make i tell you the truth.. Your problem is not from the village. Your problem na say you dey live for Nigeria — aplace filled with People of God with no God in their hearts — and you are not willing to bend your morals.

Jehovah will never leave his children who will never bend their morals.

Without reading the story I know it can never be a Nigeria man.

Gospel2Day:
Your response reveals the sorry condition of your heart, full of insolence impudence and violence.
Sorry, may God heal your wounded heart.
No whole person spews out such incivility and irreverence.
Shalom.

Every right thinking individual will know that you just described yourself.

Gospel2Day:
Satan has a special interest in the feminine gender, since his encounter with Eve in the Garden of Eden.
If you have a female loved ones, you had better start praying really hard for them.
Devil will ensure that you will never see them in heaven forever and ever.

The same way satan used Adam to lure mankind into sin and death. Was it the woman that sinned?.

Check the bible record of those that were condemned by God because of their actions majority are men starting from Adam. Pray for your gender.

Mixing heaven in your stupidity.

abidem4real:
These celebs have sold their souls to the devil

All of them. Hollywood will soon reach out to her.

Obviously they have copied hollywood. Promoting satanism and nudity during award shows.

Mzee1Kahuna:
How do we tell our children that nudity is unafrican?

Yet most of you men admire them in the street compared to the decently dressed ones and go after them as side chick.

Same way they condemned ladies that bleached their skin but prefer them over the dark or chocolate ones.

Nigerian men and hypocrisy!

definitelyME:
He will soon fall back to square one....let him not be thinking that he has made it in life. Useless guy. I so much hate this guy!!

Drink snipper na.

totofukker:
Guys, here’s my account number and I’m updating this thread with my girlfriends phone. I have updates for you people.


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Kenedy

Sterling.

As soon as you send me cash, quote me with your monkier and email, i will send you the continuation of my ubaga thread and this one. One love

Your fav nairaland writer
The best of them all
Kingog

This is what I wanted to suggest in the other thread. Most writers on NL do this.

Sell your story to who ever wants to buy instead of asking for volunteery donations which some people will use to demeaning you.

Check LarrySun, oyinprince stories to get more ideas.

Drop your WhatsApp number I can't use my mail.

There is a difference between been desperate and going along with the flow. Some men don't have patience, next thing is they are married to someone else while you were the first choice.

Tonero5200:
I Just attended a wedding ceremony where the celebrants told the mc to announce to the public that people shouldn't bother spraying them. the mcee said it loud and clear, that we should eat and drink and keep our change to ourselves or we should come spray him the mcee or DJ. As a normal nigeria at first we were happy, atleast money is saved, but as time went on we realised they were certain people that were allowed and expected to sprayed while they were dancing, the celebrant peers and all, Rain of cash everywhere... meaning we that they saw we were likely coming to spray with 500# or 1k were rebuked, probably they don't need our 50naira, change.

I felt embarrassed and angry at the same time, that's ill-mannered from them, I hate it when people look down on me, because they are financially bouyant they think they can look down on people anyhow. Well I look to see them in few years time where they will be. I wished them a normal married Life and withold the happiness from it because I don't think they need it.

Your last paragraph shows that they made the right decision by dodging a bullet from your type.

You don't need to wish them well for their union to be happy.

Your problem is not poverty, there as so many poor people with good heart. Go work on your bad belle and low self esteem!

franchasofficia:
You weren't supposed to feel embarrassed at all.


I did almost the same thing during my wedding.


The only difference is that I wrote mine on the invitation card and it was also stated that its strictly by invite, and nobody is expected to spray money or give gift to the couple. There was no arrangement for couple to dance, only country music were played, and no room for high table or whatever they call it. Phones were not also allowed inside the reception hall, just come in and sit, eat and drink to your fill.



When it was time to take pictures, buses were stationed to convey people interested in
taking pictures to venue for snapping and back to the reception hotel where they boarded their private cars back to their various homes and destinations.



So these things depends on peoples choices, some people love private life, some want extra security, some don't want to burden their guests with worrying about money to spray them or what to gift them.

This is almost the same pattern I am going to do mine.

I have always said that I won't accept gift and cash which I will state on the IV except from very close friends and family.

U see that couple feeding is a total No for me.
Pictures and couple dance are ok for me.

Who wan vex 9 sabi.