GMB is the best thing that can happen to Nigeria in 2015!
Please, let's support him.

One of the best of GEJ decisions in 4years.

Confirmation of the above subject matter!
This is surely good tidings for Chinedu Okoli, aka Flavour N'abania, and his girlfriend, Sandra Okagbue,are now proud parents as they were blessed with a bouncing baby girl on the 27th of September, 2014, in far away Houston, United States of America.
The Ada Ada crooner and Sandra, a former Delta Soap Queen who once dated Super Eagles midfielder, Mikel Obi, are said to be over the moon with the arrival of the tiny pair of feet and have taken to the social media to tell all their friends of the coming of the baby.
But what no one can say is if they are planning to tie the nuptial knots with the coming of the baby.
We congratulate them by the way!

Lordlexyy: Don't be blind with religious bigotry. Who is talking about islamization? The retired bishop has just spoken the truth. There is no area of national and religious importance he didn't touch. It is left for us the populace to decide whether we want an islamist, thieves, weak and corrupt people to govern us. He didn't spare anyone. The very truth we have itching to hear was what the Bishop delivered. So please, don't promote any religious war here. The best candidate irrespective of his party, tribe or religion is who we must gear to vote for. This message obviously call for a review of our value as a nation and should serve as a point of unification, to close rank, put aside partisanship and chart a course that we've all dreamt of. Anyone who object to this truthful saying must be marked a saboteur and a terrorist.

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SECONDED!

keypad1: if buhari or atiku or kwankwaso wins the presidential election next year then the islamization of nigeria will come immediately.

Muslims cleric doesnt talk down their fellow leaders like this. They have agenda. But christians cleric, na to open mouth wide and talk rubbish.

When another sects of islamists emerge, then our eyes will be clearer.

I no dey hide my own. It was buhari that said muslims should vote muslims and christians should vote christians.

Christians be warn.

What does Christianity mean to you, because I can't find any of its semblance in the present govt.?

Reiyvinn: According to FNN:

Exclusive and reliable reports reaching FNN from our State House correspondent states that the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria, Dr. Goodluck Jonathan has concluded plans to get married to a second wife.

According to the reports President GEJ decided on this after he was advised by his aids and political associates that it is the only way he’ll be able to win re-election come 2015.

The ploy became unavoidable, when it was becoming evident to his political strategists that Vice president Arch. Namandi Sambo’s political strength in the North is not strong enough to woo most Northerners to vote for him in the forthcoming elections and as such the President will be getting married to the daughter of a Prominent Political Leader in the North, hereby making him a member of the popular Northern family which will help him gather the much needed votes, especially with the support of his soon to be father-in law.

As at the time of this report, sources within Aso rock has refused to say who the prominent father in law of the President is,but have assured us it is a well-known political force in Nigeria.

It is worthy of note that this is not the first time a marriage of daughters of Nothern Politicians has been used as an avenue to win votes. from the Yaraduas to Atikus, IBBs and Muazus to name a few.

Meanwhile we have not been able to speak with our first lady Dame Patience Jonathan on her views on this development, neither can we confirm if they’ll be a change of first lady too but for now we just have to wait and see how events unfolds.

Is true or just a rumour?

Why isn't he coming out plane to Nigerians?
This dude already has a second wife (Barr. Mrs. Lot Goodluck Jonathan - LEJ), the mother of his kids which is unknown to most Nigerians. If the rumour of GEJ treading that path again is anything to go by, it should be his 3rd.
I salute you, GEJ!

hatux: Stephen Hawking makes it clear: There is no God. The physicist explains that science now offers more convincing explanations for existence. He is therefore an atheist.
Stephen Hawking comes right out and says it. He is an atheist.

If I were a scientist, I'd stick to the Goldman Sachs
principle: bet on both sides.
"Believe in science, believe in God" seems to cover all the possibilities and gives you the best chance for a cheery afterlife. For a time, it was thought that astrophysicist Stephen Hawking had also left a tiny gap in his credo window
for a magical deity. However, he has now come out and declared that there is no God.
He gave an interview to Spain's El Mundo in which he expressed his firm belief that el mundo was the work of scientifically explainable phenomena, not of a supreme being.
Hawking said: "Before we understand science, it is natural to believe that God created the universe. But now science offers a more convincing explanation."
I'm not sure whether there was a specific moment in which science overtook the deistic explanation of
existence. However, El Mundo pressed him on the suggestion in "A Brief History of Time" that a unifying theory of science would help mankind "know the mind of God."
Hawking now explained: "What I meant by 'we would know the mind of God' is, we would know everything that God would know, if there were a God. Which
there isn't. I'm an atheist."
He added: "Religion believes in miracles, but these aren't compatible with science." Perhaps. But some look at, for example, the human eye and wonder how that exciting ball of jelly could have come about scientifically.
Hawking's been tending toward such an absolute pronouncement for a while. In a speech last year, he offered an explanation of how the world came to
being without God. He mused: "What was God doing before the divine creation? Was he preparing hell for
people who asked such questions?"
I do worry, though, about Hawking's sweetly divine
faith in humanity. He told El Mundo: "In my opinion,
there is no aspect of reality beyond the reach of the
human mind."
If that's true, the human mind still has to develop
exponentially to explain everyday phenomena, such
as social networking. And then there's Hawking's
insistence that his speech synthesizer, which gives
him a curiously American accent, has had this
consequence: "With the American accent, I've had far
more success with women."
We definitely need some serious research to explain
that.

May GOD have mercy on him.

Cashio: i am 22 yrs now and i'm yet to gain admission(not cos of dull brains though). Presently, i repair generators though i am planning to start up a small scale crayfish business by january(buy in bulk and sell to resellers). My problem is this.....owing to the fact that if by God's grace i finally gain admission by next year or so, i would graduate around 27,28,29yrs, can i still make it at that age?

Nothing stops you from making at any age, myfriend. Just be committed to whatever you findeth your hand to do, both in your artisanship, studies, et al. Above all, look up to GOD for direction and never give up on yourself.
Shalom!

Nigeria is a dire need of seasoned, honest and disciplined leadership.

TRADELYN:
Where are you based?

I need to know your study scope!

BTW, I urge you to add a signature to your account.

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The guy who reported this, is a health worker with one of the teaching hospitals in the country.

TRADELYN:
50% right
50% wrong.

Did you look around your neighborhood in providing this report? Because, from my studies and responses from colleagues on same subject, the topic is not far from the truth.

Hello, great Nairalanders. I wish to sort all of your kind views and opinions on a topic of discuss that has rattled my mind for a couple of days now. A friend mentioned during one of our discussions that; conducted studies showed that children born out of wedlock are 80% female. And I wish to know if there is/are any/some rationales behind this system of occurrence…
Your opinions and suggestions with cogent rationales are welcomed with a view to telling us observations from around your neighborhoods.
Let’s go there!

Glory to GOD.
An end to this menace is in sight. All involved should be persecuted like the 12 soldiers on death roll.

jonuel1:

I just pity Christians that forget history so soon. Boko haram is an Islamic agenda to islamise Nigeria.

Babangida gave IOC huge sums of money when Nigeria is a circular state.

How many time is Islam, Sharia and Allah mentioned in the constitution and has Christian nor Christ been mentioned at all and sharia is placed higher than the constitution. Haven't they divided the nation already?

Boko haram claim to be fighting western education but they use product of western education to fight the govt and the people.
Northern politicians know Rªt as power has left the north, it will be difficult to return it there and that is why they are fighting hard to reclaim it and ignorant Christian are been coaxed into believing lies. Many Christians don't know the history of Turkey, It was once a Christian domineering country but since they exhibited the same attitude as Nigerians, they are where they are today.

APC says they are the saviour but check out the composition; top offices are occupied by Muslims and Christians are tools used to fight against Christians.

Boko haram use sophisticated arms to the point they have Armoured Personnel Carrier; how did it enter the country and nobody raised alarm?

Before the enthronement of GEJ, why were Northerners tops in the Army, Custom and other paramillitary forces? Upon reshuffling they started crying foul.

Christians should open their eyes and see beyond the words of some Islam propagating politician.

I don't have Muslims, I have them as friends but Idi-Araba 2002 incident changed my view about them. Imagine an hausa man rising to kill a neighbour (an innocent one at that).

If Christians fold their arms, God will arise and defend His name and those that worship Him in spirit and in truth.

He did in in bible times, His arm shall arise against everyone that wants to destabilize Nigeria. He plagued Biblical Egypt and fought for Children. He fought the enemies in biblical times with honet and the Hosts of heaven. If He is the God of then, more shall He do in Nigeria.

I find it difficult to accept that a normal human could write this rubbish.

phreakabit:

Sorry but I am Igbo, I We have no business in this. This is simply a classic case of the Northerners ganging up with their loyal Southwestern subordinates to play chess with the outsider. Simply observing things unfold.

You are Igbo that's why you are spewing in so blindedly and confused manner, bringing disgrace and causing embarassment to very illustrous and hardworking Igbo sons and daughters in every part of the globe. Those who claim to represent your interest at the top, have since sold you guys for a pack of peanuts.
Until the Igbos wake up from their deep slumber and realize that GEJ is beind this insurgency just like his own brother, Gen. Azazi told the world earlier; the crises of which your Igbo brothers are the most hit and affected, you guys will continue to thrive in great despair, if your steps are not reconsidered.

Shalom!

atlwireles: Lemme leave this thread with words of encouragement. Look at the man call Goodluck Jonathan, you people will call him President till 2019. There is nothing, absolutely nothing, you almajiris can do to stop. it. Your lamentations are for the dogs.

To keep Nigeria one, is a project that must be accomplished. Including buying black market arms to kill all the boko haram, bent on acting otherwise.

You must be suffering from chronic levels of selective hallucination. I have no doubt about this.

lexdino: $9.3 million? Na beans? Guess the money was intended to buy arms for boko boys coz i'm beginning to suspect #PraiseDiPapa party might be the ones sponsoring BH

You are still suspecting in 2014, after when Gen. A.O. Azazi informed you of this in 2012 before his life was cut short by the same people?

mukykaffe: if the muslims open mouth to talk the xtains would say their mouth is smelling but today cos of the blatant evidence, it is obviously undeniable that the so called AYO is involved in sponsorship of boko haram all with the aim of degrading islam and to my greatest surprise our nigerian government is involved......please my fellow nigerians if nigeria wants to purchase weapons is it the xtian association that is in the right position to buy?? likewise what did church haas to do with weapons, fight their fellow xtians or kill the muslims? i must confess with no atom of doubt that our shameful president is one of the sponsors of boko haram just to tarnish the image of islam and the muslims.....and incase you would like to know the scratch of the matter south africa knows better!!!!!!!!!

You seem immersed in great astonishment but Gen. Andrew Owoye AZAZI of blessed memory told all of us those behind the insurgency in the North East, North West, North Central but you guys never cared to listen.
GOD is still very much in the business of revealing the truth as HE did, much before the creation of the world. HE can't be bribed, remember.
I salute Gen. AO Azazi's bravery as posterity has vindicated him.

97loodbre: How come this is not on front page? By d way, what is d CAN president and Federal govt of Nigeria saying about it? If they keep quite it means dat d whole story is true!

Were you expecting it to be the reverse?
GOD has started revealing to the world who the real bastards are, those sponsoring the killing of Nigerians in Northern Nigeria.

akum123: pls my gud Friends, it is proper to call bk a company after u had interview with them to knw ur fate abt d job, so confused.

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Wait for some weeks.

By Michael DrBiggie Adeyemi I

Deceptions, Deceits,Lies upon Lies &the Campaign of Calumny by TAN Thieves Around Nigeria,Predators of Nigerian Posterity et al
Nigerian TV has been flooded recently by many adverts, campaigns by some groups campaigning for President.Goodluck Jonathan highlighting his multiple achievements ( even though they are very few,even where it exists) ,even comparing him with some greats like Nelson Mandela, Barack Obama et al (I see that sacrilegious though). I see the adverts have flooded TV stations like AIT, NTA, STV and many others. Apart from the many lies upon lies that are being told of his achievements where few,even if any exist, I think it's sacrilegious to compare a snail to a rhinocerous just because both appear "horned". It's sacrilegious to compare his works to that of Martin Luther King jnr, Mandela et al,even in the face of blatant lies. At least 2 groups have spearheaded this : Thieves Association of Nigeria who claim to be Transformation Ambassadors of Nigeria (TAN) and Predators of Nigerian Posterity who falsely claimed they are Protectors of Nigerian Posterity PNP.
The factual point is that we don't need TAN to come and remind us GEJ achievement if indeed he has performed very well. We have eyes and we can see! One of the things that baffles me in all of these road show is why the eastern part of Nigeria must always be the region to produce the chief executive of such hand twisting organization, in a country of over 150 million people! If at the end of Youth Earnestly Ask of Abacha and Association of Better Nigeria the proprietors disappeared into limbo, is it not enough for the realities of time to be democratic in their choice of leadership for an association that would project the achievements of the current leadership maybe if not for anything just to give a dog a good name. Daniel Kanu, Author Nzeribe and now Chris Mba, they mean danger for this country as far as my opinion is concerned.
We've been here before. There was a time we had such ignoble and ubiquitous groups like ABN Association for Better Nigeria, led by Francis Arthur Nzeribe and YEAA Youths Earnestly Ask for Abacha led by Daniel Kanu who had ignoble roles in annulment of June 12 presidential election and the abortive late Emperor.General Sani Abacha (of cursed memory). We know what happened eventually and the bad memories they bring. They surely made bad names for themselves that last till this day. The Good Book says a good name is better than riches. Surely these folks prefer a bad name lasting for generations for filthy lucre,rather than a good name. So bad ! What a pity ! O ma se o,like my big brother - The Oracle usually says. To cap it all,they not only imported all the ignoble Daniel Kanu's YEAA methods,they went on gathering millions of non existent phantom signatures claiming outrageous numbers in an attempt to "persuade" President.Goodluck Jonathan to contest another term. A person's good or bad works lives after him and may even trail him till The Judgement Day. What these groups have failed to tell us is the greed behind all these. They have collected huge sums discreetly and hope to collect more.
SOUTHWEST zonal rally in Ibadan produced 1.4million voters signatures asked GEJ to carry go. SOUTH SOUTH zonal rally in Port-Hacourt produced 4million voters signatures asked GEJ to carry go. North central, Northwest, Northeast and Southeast are still mobilising signatures that will asked GEJ to carry go. Are all these signatures real or imaginary? If they actually are, how much exchange hands?
The TAN campaign Team is on campaign train against INEC electoral instructions.TAN campaign conducted rallies in SE,SW and SS that for the first time any known record any where in the world that citizens are made/induced to sign a register to show support for any political candidate or Party as if the collected signatures translate in a yet to be conducted voting in the year 2015,barring that such signatories will still be there if God so will to cast their votes. Correct me if i am wrong that those that signed register can translate into actual part of a possible total votes that will decide the out come of 2015 general election. Many Nigerians see through hunger and deprivation that our votes if not sold for poverty is our power to install good governance .
I remember Late Emperor. General Sani Abacha days when all political parties endorsed him and some even organized 1million match for him in Abuja to deceive him. OBJ was also deceived , they asked him to continue third term in office because he was in charge then and he coughed money. IBB also coughed his looted fund when they deceived him to contest in 2003 & 2011 presidential election. Iyiola Omisore in Osun was also deceived and he was forced to cough some of his ill-gotten wealth when he was asked to contest against an anointed candidate which he loss woefully. Many people that cannot win their houses have been deceived in other to pump money out in which they later lost. It is not different in many states where virtually all beneficiaries are telling their governors, Senators,& honourable members to carry go despite poor performance . After they collected their monies and empty their pockets, they still deny them and pay them back with an abuse of any kind.
How do u persuade ( or dissuade) a man whose mind is fully made up to contest 2015 elections? Now it's obvious the body language (apologies to Tambuwal) says the same. This man is obviously gonna run again. He isn't doing any illegality. Though he said that his presidency isn't worth any man's blood,even though correctly,is rather a smokescreen. Any wise person would have seen it coming. I actually saw it coming right from the tail end of 2010 and told all who cared to listen.
If a man assesses himself, and feels that his country has been worse off under him than at any other time, and that there is even almost no country again, why then does he jostle to hold aloft a flag that is at half-mast? It pays everybody that he drops such flag, and give room for change. If the air around you is stultifying, almost to point of asphyxiating the populace, then quit, and give room for a breath of fresh air. That should be a food for thought for him and his hossanna grand opera of worshippers, praise-singers and bootlickers.
Is his contesting gonna move Nigeria forward or backwards? Time will decide and many are remembered in history for good or bad purposes. Surely,his would be in the sandmarks of history in Nigeria.
I know incumbents can be defeated despite all intimidation and rigging if the people are united and tenacious in their will. Countless examples abound, even in Africa - Kenya, Zambia, Cote d'Ivoire, Senegal and even Ghana. I hope our votes will count this time like it did 4yrs ago,despite glaring irregularities in some states.
It is high time President Goodluck realised that the electorates are wiser now and cannot be fooled again. Federal might or the so called incumbency factor cannot be a substitute for dismal failure. The election that was held in Osun state is a pointer to the character of the forthcoming nationwide elections in February .
Nigerian politicians , especially the president and other PDP members seeking elective posts should better realised that goodwill is the most important factor that will determine their fortune or misfortune. The goodwill is earned. It is not a commodity you buy overnight with market place politrickcian.
Those who believes that gun and braggadocio will fetch them votes are better advised to change tactics.
Any person with a record of poor performance must recognise that he can never enjoy any iota of goodwill. The dose for winning an election in Nigeria is grade A level of performance, meeting the yearnings and expectations of the governed is the surest way for winning and election. Any other medicine can only lead to anarchy.
GEJ don't be deceived by business politicians who will later turn their back against you if things don't go your way.
Disregard Nostra II to your peril!
God rules in the affairs of men!

(CNN) -- A U.S. air marshal was assaulted with a syringe containing an "unknown substance" at the Lagos, Nigeria, airport on Sunday, according to the FBI, which said it is investigating the incident.
The air marshal flew back to the United States after the attack and "felt fine" the entire 12-hour flight, a U.S. law enforcement official told CNN.
"Out of an abundance of caution, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention conducted an on-scene screening of the victim when United Flight 143 landed in Houston early Monday morning," a statement from the FBI read.
"The victim did not exhibit any signs of illness during the flight and was transported to a hospital upon landing for further testing," the statement said, adding that "none of the testing conducted has indicated a danger to other passengers."
Investigators are looking at whether the air marshal, who did not exchange words with the attacker before the incident, was targeted because he's American. However, there is no concern at this point in the investigation that the attack is part of a bigger threat, according to the source.

Source - http://edition.cnn.com/2014/09/08/us/air-marshal-assaulted/index.html



Police officers stand guard at the departure hall of Murtala Muhammed International Airport in Lagos, Nigeria. ((AP PHOTO/SUNDAY ALAMBA))
A U.S. federal air marshal was attacked in the Lagos, Nigeria, airport on Sunday. The weapon of choice was a syringe filled with a mystery substance. While the incident seems thoroughly terrifying, it is the only one of its kind which has been reported at the moment.

Fox News exclusively obtained an alert issued by TSA in regards to the incident:

The [Air Marshal] reported that the subject stuck him with a syringe and it is believed he was injected with an unknown substance. After consultation with the consulate and physicians, the [Federal Air Marshal] was given precautionary medication."

The air marshal and his team were transported back the United States after Sunday's attack. The air marshal is still being tested and treated for ailments in connection with the injection. The syringe was also transported, so it could be examined here by the FBI and CDC, which are both now investigating the incident.

The CDC, FBI, and State Department have not commented on the syringe incident.

Source - http://www.thewire.com/global/2014/09/us-air-marshal-stabbed-with-mysterious-needle-in-lagos-airport/379825/

EKSamuel:

THE PROPHET SPEAKS

"The drummers have LONG SINCE drummed, and HE that should take THE JOURNEY has LONG SINCE taken HIS JOURNEY.

YOU WILL SOON HEAR!"

Yeah, I have been informed from circles within. However, I enjoy your way with words.

I bought one last month _ 2Face Ascension

Zillight: they are quite few compared to other tribes....meanwhile, no Yoruba man is ready to die for the sin of another or sin of the nation, its believed that there are other better ways of getting money than signing a death warrant in the name of service.

This was the perceived conception in the 50's and 60's, it's no longer obtainable today. Visit the various recruitment camps and you would re-appraise and re-position your belief.

OP, you have not seen because you have not looked hard enough. There are plenty of them in every cadre of the military.

Some serving and retired military generals have thrown their weight behind the Department of State Services (DSS) which cleared former chief of army staff, Lt. General Onyeabo Azubuike Ihejirika (rtd) of alleged funding of the Boko Haram terrorists.

They described the allegation as one of the diversionary tactics of the gang and vowed to end the terrorism.

Ihejirika and former governor of Borno State, Senator Ali Modu Sheriff were accused by the Australian negotiator, Dr Stephen Davis of funding the Boko Haram sect in a controversial interview granted Arise Television and SAHARA Reporters.

However, Ihejirika and some retired military generals on Friday faulted Davis at the Get-Together of Alumni of the Nigerian Defence Academy-18 Regular Course at the National Defence College.

Air Vice Marshal Chris Marizu (rtd) warned politicians against playing politics with the security of the country, adding that the nation’s security is not for the army alone but the collective responsibility of all Nigerians.

“Some unscrupulous elements in this country want to malign the country by using innuendos that they cannot corroborate. As at this week, the soldiers have killed over 1,200 Boko Haram, but what is happening is not what is being reflected in the newspapers.”

The President of 18 regular course (18RC) ,Air Commodore Olufemi Oguntuyi commended General Ihejirika for his contributions to the military as COAS and enumerated some of the landmarks which included creation of extra divisions, Brigades, battalions into the Nigerian army and building of so many barracks, among others achievements.

Hear him, “We can not allow national security to be toyed with, the need for security awareness, inspite of the effort I out at that time and the effort being put by the current leadership of the armed forces, the need for security awareness still persist”.

According to a serving general, “ We all know the efforts made by Ihejirika as COAS to ensure these criminals were flushed out of the sub-region and for someone to come out saying the same general is funding the terrorists is an insult to the military and the man must be summoned to the country to proof his grave allegeation.

“We all know that terrorists will never disclose their friends, supporters or financiers even at gun point. May be they sold a dummy for the so-called Davis and instead of him to present the report here, he now moves from one media to another abroad making wide allegations. What the DSS said is the true position. I have listen to the rubbish the guy was saying, it was full of contradictions and I am disappointed in those calling for the arrest of General Ihejirika.”

Speaking at the National Defence College, Ihejirika described the allegation as a way of fighting him back for his contribution to the counter-insurgency operation and called on all serving and retired officers to join hands together to put an end to the menace of terrorism.

“I want to once again call on all Nigerians to join hands to support Mr President and members of the armed forces in their onerous task to rid this country of terrorism. I want to further advice that baseless frivolous, and unfounded allegations like this have the capacity of diverting our attention away from the main problem.

“Nigeria must exist before you can hold a single political office, or be a business man, and there is no compromise in the effort to have a peaceful Nigeria. Therefore I have no apologies what so ever to those who thought that I was highhanded, every army makes a lot of effort to ensure that the troops operates within the rules of engagement, and our department of civil military affairs have done so much in this regard”.

egift: Jonathan has been shielding Corrupt Politicians since 2010

Soon, you will be 1st to clamour for his re-election.

valkaka:

There he is. The man you have been waiting to meet and you two have 'fallen in love'. It's grand, it's wonderful, it's just peachy! He adores you and wants to spend every waking moment with you. The 'newness' of this relationship is fresh and exciting. You are thrilled to have finally met the man who could be in your future and he tells you that you are like a dream come true. It always starts off this way, right?

Wouldn't it be just as grand if those emotions and the 'high' of a new relationship were still there say seven years later or how about twelve years later? Male friends have told me many times that it is easier for women because we can just sit there and wait to be chased. They have told me that the right woman can get any man she desires. This is where it gets tricky however. the art of keeping a man is another story. I am going to share with you what I have learned straight from the 'mouth's of men', male friends of mine who have told me in no uncertain terms what makes a woman a 'keeper'. What makes a man stay with one woman and not the other.

As I mentioned in the beginning, things are wonderful. This man in your life adores you. He thinks you are the best and why wouldn't he? You are uniquely you. There are things about you that just happened to draw him in, your looks, your personality, how you are with others and how you are with him. All these attributes combined are what make you 'the one for him'. What goes wrong then? What happens over the course of time that changes how he feels about you? I am going to share with you what many men have told me and tips on how to keep a man once you have caught him.

The most common complaint I have heard from different men in regards to their relationships with women is this. "I don't know what happened, she just changed".

1. DON'T CHANGE.

Women who were busy just living life had a tendency to put everything onto the back burner when a man entered their life. Women who were easy going and 'FUN' to be around now morphed into these 'Drill Sargeants' who had incorporated all these rules of 'to dos' and 'don'ts' into a relationship that was carefree and even a haven to these men. Don't change who you were when you met him. I am all for self-improvment and bettering yourself to lead a successful and productive life, however that kind of change is always a good thing.

I am talking about the person you used to be when you first attracted him to you in the beginning. If you were a woman who loved to go jogging each afternoon and have a weekly night out with the girls after work, by all means don't put that aside so you can 'spend quality time with your man'. Imagine six months down the line, are you going to be the same woman he met if you gave up certain parts of yourself just to be with him? The truth is, you won't be the same person he met and fell in love with six months ago. The second highest complaint I heard from my male friends is, "She just let herself go".

2. Don't get TOO COMFORTABLE.

Do you remember when you first started to date him and sometimes it would take you a few extra minutes to straigten your hair or add makeup? Do you remember the time you took to find the perfect outfit to accentuate your legs that he goes 'ga ga' over? Well just because you have him does not mean you should throw on a pair of PJ's and eat popcorn with your feet propped up for another episode of 'Grey's Anatomy'. Ok, but if I can't be comfortable with him, if he can't love me even when I am looking my worst what is the point in being in a relationship with him?

That is a question that may pop into your mind and that is not what I am talking about. It's important as a relationship develops to be comfortable with the person you are with. Just don't forget to dress up for him on occasion. If after a few months or a year all he sees you in are sweat pants and a ponytail when you used to wear skirts and heels before, you will change his perception of you. Men are extremely visual and it does not take that much time or effort to look your best with him as much as possible. The third highest complaint I heard from my male friends is, "She acts like my mother and she is smothering me".

3. Let him be a man, let him be himself.

What does this mean? Don't mother him. Don't treat him as if he is your child. Don't belittle him or talk down to him. Let him be the man you fell in love with and please don't try to change him into something he is not. When you do these things to a man, you are communicating that you do not accept him as he is and that could have been the main reason he fell in love with you in the first place. He at one time believed you accepted him, plain and simple, as he was. If you try to curb his weekend hunting trips or poker night with the guys or whatever interests/hobbies he had long before he met you, he will feel invalidated. If you try to 'make him over' he will feel all kinds of emotions but it will no longer be love. Some men need more space than others. If a man needs more space than you are giving him, he will build up a resentment towards you. One of the greatest threats to love in a relationship is resentment.

So there it is, straight from the 'mouth's of men' a few tips on how to keep a man once you have caught him.

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Thanks, Val. You are so spot on with these points.

egopersonified:

U are really the principal, u posted this twice and both times I burst into laughter.

Op, u do not sound happy in this r/ship at all, so why be in it? Much as people find it hard to believe, there are forces that work against or for u. Why are u 'chucking' your head where the situation looks hopeless and u arent satisfied? Are you afraid to take that step of being alone? Do you want to cut down on the number of bf u have before marriage by sticking it out with him against all odds as a result of our believe in the virgin system of marriage? Do you know you can actually deliver yrself spiritually if u attend a 'do it yrself' church and not a 'pastor is god' church? Even when it is obvious everything is falling apart around u, keep working hard at succeeding, dont slow down becos of hardship but move faster and be more determined to prove to yrself that u are more than where u are. Life is full of challenges but those challenges are avenues for a life of endless testimonies.

Hey, ego.
I really don't the point of your quoting me.

Serenity22: thr is nothing I have been doing differently, infact, for someone as hardworking as he is, I wonder why tins r not working for him. Altho I agree most times I get lost in trying to help him out. But these bad things that have been happening to me are misterious for example wen I wrote my masters exams amd passed but when d admission list came my name was excluded due to an error. As much as I ran all around to make sure the mistake is rectified yet nothing came out of it.
Another time I was called up for a job and just when I had called him to share the good news with him I received a call that same evening that the job was no longer available (one of the top bosses in the organisation had a candidate).
Another thing, before I met him, I have been hail and hearty but these days its from one drug to d other
There are so many other instances. And these are things that are totally beyond my control

Girlfriend, you know the answer to this already. That guy isn't a good deal for you and in your very best interest, run as far as your legs can carry you from that 'destiny destroyer' you call a relationship, in a bid to save your future from the glaring doom that's already started to manifest