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PoliticsRe: Babatunde Gbadamosi Arrested For Attending Funke Akindele's Party Amid Lockdown by ibkayee(f): 8:24pm On Apr 06, 2020
Is this the one that said he 'suffered' a lapse in judgement
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Club World Cup Champions 2025-2029 by ibkayee(f): 3:25pm On Apr 06, 2020
chic2pimp:
I'll be Fine. It's simply a Precautionary step.
Yeah so they say, I figured it must be a bit more serious than they're trying to make out if he's being hospitalised. But it could also be 100% precautionary, who knows. In any case, I wish him a speedy recovery
CelebritiesRe: Police Take Funke Akindele To Court With Her Husband, JJC Skillz Over Lockdown by ibkayee(f): 12:26pm On Apr 06, 2020
Even if this doesn't have much of an effect on her in the long run, I'm glad they're making an example out of her

Idiots
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Official Chelsea Fan Thread: Club World Cup Champions 2025-2029 by ibkayee(f): 12:18pm On Apr 06, 2020
Ibime:
Boris Johnson receiving oxygen treatment

Also one of my colleagues husband was intubated last night, which is a 50-50 chance of survival. She is my age mate sef. E don dey red.
Regardless of what I think of him, I really hope he pulls through

All the best to your colleague's husband too
CelebritiesRe: JJC Skillz 43rd Birthday Party Amid Coronavirus. Funke Akindele Under Fire by ibkayee(f): 11:04am On Apr 05, 2020
F*cking idiots, all of them
TV/MoviesRe: Korean Movies Chatroom by ibkayee(f): 7:38pm On Apr 04, 2020
sarang60:
You will keep LOVING IT for sure
I hope so, thank you cheesy
TV/MoviesRe: Korean Movies Chatroom by ibkayee(f): 7:36pm On Apr 04, 2020
sarang60:
Yes. I hope you mean Fight for my way.
Haha yes I mean Fight for my way, my bad cheesy

Only 2 episodes in so far and enjoying it smiley
TV/MoviesRe: Korean Movies Chatroom by ibkayee(f): 7:32pm On Apr 04, 2020
sarang60:
Awesome
You've watched it?
TV/MoviesRe: Korean Movies Chatroom by ibkayee(f): 7:27pm On Apr 04, 2020
Watching Fight my way
FamilyRe: Polygamy Or Serial Monogamy? Will You Be A Second Wife? by ibkayee(f): 2:37pm On Apr 04, 2020
Acidosis:
So people see polygamy as anti-dote for cheating?

You have to realize that most polygamous homes today started as monogamy. So what happened along the line? Cheating happened cheesy Polygamy starts by cheating on the first wife.

Bottom line is simple; a useless man will always remain a useless man. No specific type of marriage (polygamy, poly-whatever) can take the place of commonsense, discipline and respect for self.
Yeah cheating on her, or flat out telling her, knowing she would not be happy with it but couldn't do anything about it or leave a life she had already invested in behind easily. So she just ends up 'falling in line'.

@OP
As I am now, I couldn't do it

Maybe I would if my life prospects were a lot less promising
RomanceRe: Interracial Couple In Russia: Nigerian Man Shares His Experience by ibkayee(f): 10:16pm On Apr 03, 2020
Lmao LadyGCrueDKilaB is my spirit animal
PoliticsRe: Umahi: "Arrest Anyone Not Wearing Face Mask In Ebonyi" by ibkayee(f): 9:43pm On Apr 03, 2020
Doing too much
RomanceRe: Between men and women who handles rejection and heartbreak better. by ibkayee(f):
I've found that men handle rejection better, in the long run, since they go through it more and are used to it

As for the two people in a relationship, the person who invested or cared more will naturally handle a heartbreak the worst

As for male and females generally, we deal with it..differently, whichever is 'better' is a matter of opinion I guess.

Females tend to have more of an emotional support system since socially, it isn't a big deal for girls to be emotional, thus they tend to be provided with a 'healthier' space to grieve the relationship as soon as it ends

Males, on the other hand, aren't encouraged to express their emotions publicly. More often than not, they'll end up dealing with it by themselves or (if they're lucky) a VERY small handful of people who they probably can’t be vulnerable with because it isn’t considered ‘manly’. I've found that they usually do things to 'distract' themselves and fill the void vs actually 'tackling through’ it, at first anyway, then it 'hits' them later

This is just what I've noticed, there will always be exceptions obviously
RomanceRe: Please Help Me Suggest Ways A Jobless Person Can Find Love. by ibkayee(f): 6:13pm On Apr 03, 2020
Move out of Nigeria or hook up with an agbero
Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 3:47pm On Apr 03, 2020

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s3ZilgQX2-k

I got a bad bitch, yeah that bitch right

Music/RadioRe: What Music Are You Listening To Right Now? by ibkayee(f): 3:43pm On Apr 03, 2020

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yMt3o-I2ltY

I'm no classy laaaydaaaaaayyyyy...


...but I'm all woman

FamilyRe: How Would You Feel As A Woman? by ibkayee(f): 3:31pm On Apr 03, 2020
Blackmiserable:
I don't think there is any sentiments in wanting a name from your region regardless of who is doing the asking. The woman in question is a northerner.
Sentiments can be attached to anything, it's usually a personal thing
FamilyRe: How Would You Feel As A Woman? by ibkayee(f): 3:20pm On Apr 03, 2020
delishpot:
So what if uour husband also wants a particular name?
The only issue here is of the husband foes not permit the wife to even pick a name for her child. I would rather my child bear the name of the culture he is identified with. If hubby is Igbo, and child is olawale and child is expected to thrive in an Igbo community, how does that work? Best bet is for the child to be given a neutral name eg Nelson
If my husband wants a particular name, we can discuss it, who knows, maybe he has a 'better' reason than mine. It's not a deal breaker nor a big deal in the first place for me. My point is that if the choice over a name were down to sentimental value vs just 'custom', I wouldn't be AS willing to just go with whatever he wanted, otherwise I'm not that fussed

As for the 'community' you're talking about, you're adding new factors to this discussion, I wasn't thinking of all that. Funnily enough, the OP said his friend's children are in the North, bearing Yoruba names cheesy
FamilyRe: Married Men by ibkayee(f): 3:09pm On Apr 03, 2020
frozen70:
It depends on the affection they have for each other

They can be close but no affection
And since this isn't guaranteed, feelings can change and just out of respect for his spouse, the wisest thing to do is steer clear
FamilyRe: How Would You Feel As A Woman? by ibkayee(f):
delishpot:
If she no like the husbands tribe, why not marry a man from her village so that her child will bear the name from the tribe she likes?
Its silly to marry from a people you won't feel comfortable identifying with.
Lol why are you turning it into this? It's not that she doesn't like the husband's tribe, it's about children not completely losing their identity in favour of another. It's not an unreasonable point

@Blackmiserable
Most people I know give their children names from both tribes, but it's just tradition for the child's 'first' name to be from their father's side. Maybe this is the case with your friend? But I get your point, since the 'other' names are technically 'hidden' lol. Most of these things are just down to 'custom', rooted in patriarchy, yes lol that's a story for another day, most people don't think it's a big deal, or don't care enough to bother 'changing' anything

I don't think I'm that fussed, but if there was a name that I really wanted my child to bear and be referred to, I don't think I'd be as willing to forfeit it with my husband over so called 'custom'
FamilyRe: My Brother Raped My 11 Years Old House Help by ibkayee(f): 2:19pm On Apr 03, 2020
Theflint1:
Will you say it's totally a Nigerian thing? Even in the west, the number of rape cases is so much less than actual convictions.
Nowhere is perfect, but it isn't as shambolic and dismissive as Nigeria
FamilyRe: My Brother Raped My 11 Years Old House Help by ibkayee(f): 2:09pm On Apr 03, 2020
sassysure:
The system is heavily flawed.
Poor person hardly gets judgement.
It will be explained away.

But as for the sister, she will never hand her bro over.
We are Nigerians. The day we start doing things like that, Nigeria will become like Norway grin

But, hey, we are among the most hypocritical on planet earth grin.

Brother is far.
Open your mouth and tell somebody your husband raped your daughter or househelp first without thinking of how it will affect u as a married woman first grin

Lots of cases of married men sex escapades are covered and settled by their wives. And they move on as nothing happened. grin

See this lady, she will send the poor girl home and kill the matter. If tomorrow, her brother is caught outside doing the same thing, she will deny she dont know her brother is like that grin
My brother is a good man grin
What came over him? grin
Haaaa shocked
It must be the devil or the girl tempted him grin
Unfortunately this is common, but OP may be an exception, who knows
RomanceRe: Interracial Couple In Russia: Nigerian Man Shares His Experience by ibkayee(f): 1:35pm On Apr 03, 2020
Jim99:
Wanted you to see the cute interracial couple. To clear your doubts

Weird right?
Clear my doubts about what? I have no issue with interracial relationships, 'love is love' afterall. I just found the fact that you said 'Black men are like gold to white women' funny lol and this couple doesn't change that
FamilyRe: My Brother Raped My 11 Years Old House Help by ibkayee(f): 1:33pm On Apr 03, 2020
asapeola:
I swear! Goto police stations and c constables "settling" cases of domestic violence! Its not as if some women or men (as the case maybe) were silent until death but the system stacks up against them.

In d sector i currently work, when a power thief is caught and handed over to the police for possible prosecution, before u know it the guy is back on the streets at the same game! U hear something like "E no kee pesin na, no b small hanging e do. Abeg free am!"

We all know the OP wouldnt turn her bro in n her posting this issue here was to justify her intending evil act. So i wont be a party to that!
I actually agree with her turning her brother in though, my point is that I also kind of understand some of what roseb1 said
FamilyRe: My Brother Raped My 11 Years Old House Help by ibkayee(f): 1:18pm On Apr 03, 2020
roseb1:
Now This is the problem I have with most of y'all here in nairaland. You come online and be blabbing as self righteous persons but in reality y'all hypocrite. I can put it to y'all that non of u will arrest ur blood for such a heinious crime. Instead it will be resolved as a family matter.
I actually get what you're saying, I don't think you're saying he doesn't deserve serious punishment for the heinous crime, but that if we look at the pattern of Nigerians, the average would 'settle' it as a family matter or worse, sweep it under the rug. Nigeria's 'system' is designed in such a way that both allows and forces this kind of response. It's f*cked up and I wish that idiot would get the punishment deserves

I don't think the people asking for him to be arrested are 'hypocrites' per se though, they know how bad their country is and more than likely want justice, despite the system that's set up against this, but they can't exactly tell the OP to settle it with family...not that simple either

I wish these things were taken more seriously in Nigeria, it's so sickening, poor little girl. The legal system is just useless, especially when you don't belong to a certain social class
RomanceRe: Interracial Couple In Russia: Nigerian Man Shares His Experience by ibkayee(f): 12:46pm On Apr 03, 2020
Jim99:
#Teamwhitewomen

Black man + White woman

Pocohantas, Ibkayee comman see oh grin
Lol what am I looking at?
RomanceRe: When A Girl Plays Hard To Get, What Should A Guy Do? by ibkayee(f): 12:45pm On Apr 03, 2020
0KNM:
Is that so?
grin
RomanceRe: When A Girl Plays Hard To Get, What Should A Guy Do? by ibkayee(f): 12:45pm On Apr 03, 2020
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Nairaland's Off Topic Chat Room + Derailers Paradise by ibkayee(f): 12:44pm On Apr 03, 2020
chic2pimp:
She is doing ok thank you for asking. The daily death toll increase is doing nothing to allay my fears and neither is the fact they are running incredibly low on supplies of PPE. On the plus side though, they are now testing NHS Staffs in numbers which I suppose is a move in the right direction. How are you btw?
Really good to hear, I completely avoid the news now to be very honest. It's about damn time they did, I'm ok dear, thank you. You and your mum will genuinely be in my prayers
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Nairaland's Off Topic Chat Room + Derailers Paradise by ibkayee(f): 7:22pm On Apr 02, 2020
chic2pimp

How's your mum doing?
Dating And Meet-up ZoneRe: Nairaland's Off Topic Chat Room + Derailers Paradise by ibkayee(f): 6:54pm On Apr 02, 2020
Thegamingorca

I know you work in the medical field, how're you doing?
FashionRe: Ladies, Why Do You Wear Waist Beads? by ibkayee(f): 5:36pm On Apr 02, 2020
ornicus:
Why do you use those cat filters on Instagram? Is it a message to your fellow winches? You all turn to cat at night and start hunting peoples destiny angry
Yes, exactly tongue

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