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NigeriaB:
I met this girl when I was in 300L[my second degree though]. I'm now in 600L. How we became friends and even started dating was very funny.

After a hectic day lecture, I needed to use the ATM within the campus before going home. There she was standing in the cue and immediately my eyes caught her, I liked her. The next question on my mind was how to initiate conversation and to get her contact given that so many persons were on cue and it could be embarrassing if the right approach wasn't adopted. She is the kind of girl that will catch any guy's attention, her height, her facial beauty, her shape, asss (lol) and all. There was no way I could have walked up to her; she was in company of friends and you all know how such things could be. It seemed practically impossible for me to make that move but fortunately for me she carried a transparent bag which housed her books and other items (she was in 100L at the time and doing some registration). There was a hard cover note book in that transparent bag and I could sight a phone number written on the edge of the book which I strongly believed was her number because that was the only notebook in that bag as I could see ,more so, given that they just resumed lectures. So, I quickly memorized the number (lolz) before she could finish withdrawing.

Later that day, after much rest, I called her ,she picked, she was so friendly and I of course was encouraged. She asked how I got her contact and I told her that I stole it , while she was at the ATM ; she laughed softly and I could at the instance feel the lines below my eyes go wrinkled.

While we continued talking, she told me at some point that she is in a complicated relationship but I didn't give up. We continued to be friends. On a certain Saturday, she called that she was coming to visit me (I stay off K),
I was super excited. That day she told me that she likes me and that we can step it up from just being friends. That was how we started dating..(we actually kissed that day..lolz).

While dating, I told her severally that I wouldn't sleep with a woman who is not my wife which means I wouldn't have sex until I'm married. This didn't go well with her because I realized she is the type that loves sex so much. Many times she had got herself naked before me, seducing me and all but I wouldn't give in. Her desire for sex is actually beyond what I can handle and if I continued in that relationship, one day I'm sure going to compromise my stand. So I had to let her know that I wouldn't be able to continue in the relationship, that I still have many more years to spend in school and I'm not even certain that at the end of it we were going to get married, that instead of me waisting her time, it would be better that we just put an end to the relationship while we remain just friends. She cried ,but it had to be that way because I need my wife to be proud of me and of course , heaven will stand pleased. We parted ways..

After we broke up, I didn't hear from her again for like 3 weeks, then I received a phone call from her and told me that she was pregnant and that she wanted to see me. Over the phone, I asked "how"? Since when?.. she was crying at the same time and i had to ask her to come to my place so we could talk. She came, narrated how after we broke up, got involved with another guy and that was how she became pregnant. She wanted to go for an abortion but I advised her against such move. I asked her to call her mummy and tell her the truth, that her mum will know how best to go about the whole stuff. I guessed she did, but her parents wouldn't have her in the house anymore because of shame and the indecent signal it may send to the other siblings. She had to pack to the guy's House and that was how they became husband and wife till date. She gave birth to a son and they are together as husband and wife till today.

The guy is a diploma holder and works in a photo studio ( the guy lied to her when they first met, that he was a graduate and that he was awaiting NYSC, I'm sure it was the reason she accepted him even though I could judge that she was desperate for sex).

Even though I'm still a student but God has been faithful such that I don't lack and everyone around me knows that I'm liberal.

She has been making request of me, asking for financial assistance and many times I have reached out to her.

Just yesterday, she asked that I help her with some money, that she is broke and her husband doesn't have anything, no food for her child. I was really touched. But is it proper that I continue doing this?

Please advise needed! I just want to avoid every form of temptation, is her husband aware that I give her money? What if this becomes an issue?

Please what should I do?

If you have watched Legend of the seeker, you will know this..

THE GREATEST HARM SOMETIMES COMES FROM THE BEST INTENTIONS. ~Zeddicus Zu'l Zorander.

you do realize what is going on here, you were the simp and still the simp.
she was probably dating both of you the same time in school.
since you have read sword of truth series and you quoted zed first wizard, then you should be more wise and act accordingly. the fact that you are asking this question already shows that you doubt the validity of your actions. you need to stop enabling the situation. anyway do your thing sha finally.

donnie:
Very clearly put. However ships/UFOs are real. I have seen them. They are described in scripture as the chariots of heaven, the wheel, the cloud etc. Many of the lights we see in the sky, the so-called stars are extraterrestrial beings. UFOs are the vehicles angels of YAH or fallen angels use.

In fact, the government only recently began to admit publicly to their existence but they have been in touch with aliens ever since.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K-DX1lmBlyE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yeu2XiZyCM

i will look it up...thanks for the links

donnie:
Very clearly put. However ships/UFOs are real. I have seen them. They are described in scripture as the chariots of heaven, the wheel, the cloud etc. Many of the lights we see in the sky, the so-called stars are extraterrestrial beings. UFOs are the vehicles angels of YAH or fallen angels use.

In fact, the government only recently began to admit publicly to their existence but they have been in touch with aliens ever since.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K-DX1lmBlyE


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yeu2XiZyCM

i have not researched UFO yet, however i have done some research on project bluebeam and chemtrails and usually categorize UFO as deception that will be perfected by hologram. but i will search on it again.
for example there was a city in the sky 4 years ago in china....

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mIAKYoV6AlU

if she asks can you take care of me, i will say yes only if you are a virgin below 25, if either answer is NO....Then she Belongs to the streets. you get to be entitled at your peak fertility but would be trained by me in the process. the indoctrination must be cleansed.

THUNDAR:
Seriously guys! things are not Really what they seems on the first date, just because she asked "can you take care of me" on the first date does not mean Jack, there are smart and intelligent ladies Who would purposely say annoying things on first date to see How you react, and may turn up to be independent women. just the way you keep checklists and tick Which she fails and passes so some of them do too. But some of them (a lot actually) na Akamu they say it as they feel!

sounds like an excuse to enable bad behavior, if a woman wants to shiit test an Alpha then she should be ready to face the repercussions. no time for female manipulative nonsense. on that ground maybe she is not that intelligent

Sulele04:
@donnie
1 you said all isrealites are black but not all blacks are isrealites.
so how do you know isrealites from non isrealites.
2 yahuah is the name of eloyihm of isreal in bantu(hebrew), what is name of satan in bantu(hebrew).
3 also pastors and imam have spiritual powers, do you have spiritual powers.
4 is it true that the earth is flat, if true why is nasa and the government hiding it.
5 how do i have powers like pastors and imam.
6 you said there are many gods, is yahuah also part of this gods. Is it that the creator of blacks is different from the creator of whites.
7 how do you pray to yahuah
8 what makes christianity different from worshipping yah
thanks i just want to know more

the earth is flat, as for the reason for hiding it.
this particular conspiracy is probably the ultimate wake up call, think about it if the earth is flat and Antarctica is an ice wall all around the earth. and we have a firmament above and below.
then.
1. the globe is a lie, space is a lie, evolution 2 million years is a lie, gravity is a lie, we never went to the moon. so many past history fall apart due to flat earth. as for one of the reason why its being hidden is because it is needed for man to depend on science and make science replace God. it is also needed for us to believe in aliens and ufo so when they use holograms to introduce demons they can masquerade them as aliens. these are just my speculations as per reasons though.

this is pretty impressive

anuofGod:
I didn't mention nag in any of my previous comment.
But all the same, thanks for the advice

sorry about this, i instinctively responded to you thinking you were another person. since you quoted my response to another post. APOLOGIES AGAIN. bye bye

anuofGod:
Okay

apologies if things got messy along the way of proving my point....have a great day...bye bye

anuofGod:
Yes, nagging is different from corrective discussion and scolding

so dont nag your man. i assume its probably was a misuse of vocabulary at your initial comment. cheers

anuofGod:
Well, don't throw a shade at me over whatever ugly experiences you've gathered from people.
If not for anything, just for the sake of female relatives around you. Try to relax on this your conclusion that all females are so bad
Those people you knew that experienced it still gives women some chances in their lives. Maybe not as lovers but definitely as friends.
So why let the criticism for all females run deep in you. Is there something you ain't saying? Is it really the experiences of people around you? Or you're still hurting from a betrayal?

1. i ain't throwing shade at you, i only speak generally about women. its not specific to you, try not to view it as a personal attack
2. the experiences i gathered are both good and bad and they are not from people i know personally, just look at will smith and jada pinkett for example. the point is women caused this by themselves by their actions and failure to play their role as biology dictates, thanks to feminism ruining that.
3. i really am relaxed, i dont hate females, i date them, but if you really understand women from a man's point of view you will see their true nature is really selfish.
4. its not a personal experience, i dont know why you keep repeating that, trying to look for something to hold onto personally about me. is it so hard to believe that majority of people (female included) are really self centered and dont care about anyone.
5. i agree that it is not all females that are selfish or evil, but the society that we have right now and the values that feminism has indoctrinated women with has resulted in majority of women to be damaged goods. this is based on facts and logic and what actually happens around the world. do your research if you are willing to search for the truth because main stream media will probably lie to you.
6. finally i use the word majority because its not all women, but the % is too substantial to start saying one or two are good. if you buy a crate of eggs and 10 out of 12 eggs are rotten you probably wont buy at that store again. majority of women are bad and thats the fact. men are not saints as well and they are equally horrible but the difference is men dont go about preaching false about their misgivings

Sixfeetbelle:
I won't always be motivating him and giving him words of encouragement; I need to motivate myself too. However, when he misbehaves or steps out of line and the situation calls for it, I need to drum it into his head as well.

i don't see where nagging has a place here.

call his boss and have him locked up

KenBen217:
what's most annoying is that a lot of people in the comments are trying to shy away from the topic,and honestly,it is a biological bias to give attractive people more advantages than the less attractive ones. yes,it's been proven. it's so bad that a study was conducted,and it showed that if there is a rape case, involving an attractive and an unattractive victim,the rapist of the attractive person is likely to be convicted and serve more time compared with the person considered unattractive. what's even funny is that on first impression, attractive people are considered more intelligent,more kind and more social. we all do it,we ignore ugly people and droll over the fine ones...it's a biological bias but you can consciously avoid it if you pay attention to your sub conscious trying to force you in this line of action. quick question,what will you do if an ugly girl/guy asks you out yh I thought as much

exactly what i wanted to type....its a biological bias.
but i think the counter should be for any ugly man to supersede the fine person in other areas like Godlike body physique. i think it sort of raises the chances a bit. a little grooming here and nice cloths there (if it can be afforded). that king of thing. self improvement is the answer

just a fake ploy to instigate fear...plandemic

copy and paste topic...gotten from a blog.

https://www.nairaland.com/5946522/wifes-friend-tried-seduce-me#91006411

Sixfeetbelle:
Nagging is a natural process done by people who care about you, even if you don't see it that way. If you're the type that spends money as soon as he sees it and I'm the opposite, expect to be nagged on a daily basis, no apologies. Although it can be annoying but I believe people who nag constantly are either unhappy with the life they have with their spouse, is disappointed their spouse isn't up to par with what they envisioned of, or are perfectionists who wants certain things done their way all the time. Both gender do such but women are more likely to nag.

But your choice is your choice and I respect that.

you know what it means to nag someone The dictionary defines nagging as “continually faultfinding, complaining, or petulant” how is this love, pray tell me.
you see the sickness and entitlement in the women of today, they are mental. i think what you are confusing nagging for is when a woman is trying to motivate her man with words, concern etc. if this is your intent then find a better word to express yourself. nagging is manipulative and selfish. a discussion between the spouses should suit your definition better, either way nagging is a witch tactic.

SweetBuns:
compared to the old days, marriage nowadays has become so trivialized that it seems like a waste of time.

everyday you hear of one divorce or the other. what made these things happen? did society change or something??

its women fault

feminism happened and women became worthless wh0res that show the world their debauchery. so men decided not to commit to them anymore. the simps that married them divorce them soon after.

Tabasco23:
Asians and Russians can be financially supportive, heck even some Nigerian women but it's low, and it's not all the time fantasies the SA women I've met and hella supportive

acknowledged, i can respect your stance here

Tabasco23:
not all women cheat don't talk about my Asians or south African, Caribbean or Russian only refer to Nigerians

i said 90% and yes it is worldwide, nigeria is even better than some places. you can have your fantasies though

Tabasco23:
Nigerian women right

bros its all over the world...its female nature...bait and switch

you didnt need advice when you wanted to slot inside RAW. now you share problem with us while you enjoyed the pleasure alone

generation x...i taya for this generation

Sixfeetbelle:
Now you're going completely off course. Typical


Even in the age where feminism wasn't available, women were still left behind in the "unmarried" category hence the spinster terms and the like. Elucidate the reason why for me if you can.

yeah i agree i went off course. i just decided to add that feminism also contributes to lowering a woman's SMV.

as for a response, as far as i know. a woman that kept her virtue almost always got a husband. most of the women that had the spinster issue were not virgins. you know virginity was very important in the past. eitherway the number of spinsters and single mothers were few

Sixfeetbelle:
I read it and there was nothing there. Women will always have declining "Smv" even without feminism. So I fail to see how feminism is responsible for a natural phenomenon

this is true, feminism has nothing to do with declining smv (age wise). that is nature at work. (but SMV is not only limited to aging)
How feminism affects a woman's SMV
1. women are told to explore their sexuality....aka become a wh0re in your prime years and settle to marry a simp later
2. refuse to be submissive.....aka we are equal and i don't have to listen to him, i can do what i want without my husband permission
3. be masculine and not feminine....women power hear me roar nonsense, not know how to cook clean or take care of a home
4. body positivity......aka get as fat as a land whale but the man should love you all the same when she now has a ugly body

i think they are more but these are what i can recall....either way feminism is truly the catalyst that destroyed relationships as we know it...we are headed for uncharted territories now

QueenMelinda:
foolish man did i quote you,are you not the one who started with insults.dont you have something to do instead of attacking women all day,i wonder who told this factory rejected fowl i'm a feminist who got triggered over my post.it's not my fault that your wretched mum had no value got f.uck.ed like a rat,gave birth to a dim witted swine like you and dumped you in a gutter because she could not believe the useless horror she bought to the world.you are so useless that even your miserable family will pick corona virus over you,you are a product of a prostitute mum who doesnt even know who got her pregnant.this jobless animal wants tag himself a high value man yet he has not contributed value to even this forum,add value to your wretched existence first because even a blind person will reject something like you.

1. you still did not give any answers to the post, still throwing insults without substance.
2. the op clearly and logically put his reasoning forth which lead him to a conclusion, you saw this, probably felt attacked and called him a simp
3. you are yet to offer a proper response as to why the OP is wrong for his reasoning and why he is a simp. he is a smart man to dump sperm toilets like yourself and your kind (wh0res of babylon)

now for your last post
i dont care what you call yourself feminist or not, but i see those characteristics in your attitude. loud, obnoxious, defending wh0redom, insulting and so on. i really dont have a response to your rant though and i wont refer to your siblings or family. i will only refer to you yourself and people that behave like you. you will remain in the street, the street is where you belong. you offered no answer to challenges to your views except insult, this already shows your mental capacity. you cannot face any high value man on a chat debate so you have to bring my family into it. that shows your mental state. you belong to the street not in a home. as the saying goes "you cant turn a sperm toilet into a housewife" she will always seek the street. anyway the OP is right you women of today and this generation (90% at least) are only good for sperm dumping

Tabasco23:
I disagree with everything except sex

married couples have less sex with each other than singles, do the research...women offer nothing

QueenMelinda:
jobless riff raff is forming established but we all know the established men dont spend time online attacking women,only miserable monkeys like you do.tell us how many men your mum fu.cked before she gave birth to a swine like you,i'm sure you inherited your stupidity from her.the fool is forming wise up but he spends all day talking about women,what a sorry excuse of a human being.

again you offer no concrete response to the initial argument, you just throw insults around. like i said earlier the women in today's society (generation x) them are worthless std infested whores. if you feel attacked that is your problem. you wouldnt feel attacked if you did not sleep around, you wouldnt feel attacked if you kept your virginity, you wouldnt feel attacked if you were submissive. you are a product of feminism. you belong to the street, no high value man will put you in the home because the street is where you belong. the best you can hope for is to be a single mom to a deadbeat rascal thug. that in itself is a man giving value to a woman that has used her vagina recklessly and incurred multiple std. once again you are the one that chose of your own will to sleep around and become a sperm toilet. men dont wife up another man's DNA. blame yourself and blame feminism

anuofGod:
It is the person with shoes that knows where it pinches

that is just a shallow attempt to throw shaming tactics around. your female manipulation does not work and can be seen. wise men learn from others experiences

QueenMelinda:
i'm glad you admitted how useless your mum and sisters are,women have nothing to offer but you beg them for relationship,sex,love,attention all the time.useless man all you do is cry over women affairs in this section and even open a topic over women affairs,are you that jobless,wretched and miserable in life.channel your frustrations somewhere else.

this std infested wh0re that is carrying 396 men DNA in her vagina is mental.
simps are the ones that beg wh0res for their worthless companionship. what value does a woman give an established man asides vagina. you have no response so you just throw insults. see this sperm toilet that has received multiple DNA sample. its not my fault that men of today have wised up to female hypocrisy and infidelity and Wh0re of babylon nature. blame feminism