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Romance › Re: Dear Guys, Please avoid ladies with the Entitlement Mentality. by ibkonekt(m): 9:31pm On Jul 18, 2020

Goalnaldo:
Where is that Reno's post when you need it

https://mobile.twitter.com/renoomokri/status/1232037526065602565

Romance › Re: Dear Guys, Please avoid ladies with the Entitlement Mentality. by ibkonekt(m): 9:21pm On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
Whilst it is very sacrosanct for a guy to avoid stinginess towards a lady he deeply desires, I strongly believe that It is perfectly normal for any lady to want to be with a guy who can provide but not for her needs but for his family and until she becomes part of his family she has no right whatsoever to make demands except what the guy chooses to give to her.

Many ladies are quick to say... "I can't be with a man who can not take care of me, I can't suffer from any man''... and I tend to ponder over this statement...'' does it mean their ability to make wealth is dependent on a man or are they destined to suffer without a man fending for them?''...

In My opinion, the entitlement mentality is an easy bondage every woman must avoid at all costs. It breeds redundancy and loss of self-worth... It makes them look like leech only in search of a host to feed on. .. gives them a deluded self-belief and inflated sense of importance and in most cases makes them easy prey for sexual predators and men with Satanic motives.

I want ladies reading this to understand this homemade truth... YOU don't need any "well to do" man in your life before you can survive or make wealth regardless of your background, ... It is a silly mindset. You can make insane wealth all by yourself and this should be the paramount focus so that meeting a man ''who can take care of you'' will only be a plus and not a hustle...

Hope this makes sense.

hmmmm so now you decide to write about it from the man's point of view....lets see how many women will jump in and comment this time.

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Family › Re: Are Opposite-sex Friendships Okay In Marriage? by ibkonekt(m): 5:19pm On Jul 18, 2020

abysirius:
Hi Nairalanders,

Greetings to everyone in the house. Trust we are all enjoying the weekend. As regards to the above-mentioned subject. What is your take on this? Would u allow your partner have a close friend that is of opposite sex? Briefly give your reason (s) and state what you believe should be the ideal arrangement in a family setting.

I was listening to a program on the radio earlier this morning on Raypower FM before power outage. However, I have to put it on this platform out of curiosity to know how we feel about it. Personally, it is a capital NO for me. But of course, one of the 2 callers that called in before power cut termed it as insecurity as nothing seems to be wrong with the idea. Do you agree?

Mod pls help push this to the front page. Thanks.

IT WILL END IN TEARS

Romance › Re: Outside SEX, What Else Does She Have by ibkonekt(m): 5:14pm On Jul 18, 2020

apart from sex she can offer much more...see the list doggy style. cowgirl, reverse, donkey style, monkey style, cat and rat style, bat style....so apart from sex she can offer MORE SEX. grin

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 5:08pm On Jul 18, 2020

lexy2014:
Which family are u talking about? Are two people dating a family? I don't understand d family u are referring to and what it has got to do with d discussion. Infact I fail to see how d issues are raising answer d questions I asked. Who asked u about gender roles?

If u aren't talking about reward, then what does this statement imply?:

"Why is it hard to cater to the one you love, if she caters to you?"

According to u: "Women need security, time, love and provision".

Under what context are these supposed to be provided for a woman by a man?

you have HeavenlyCherub at check mate here.
the correct answer is women should get the security, time, love and provision", and all other goodies only if men are getting constant sex, attention, emotional support, cook, clean, raise kids etc. this already proves the gender roles which she is trying to deny.
she is a walking contradiction. each sex has their responsibilities in a marriage. from what i see women want to get full benefits from men but always shout equality and balance when it is their turn to walk the talk, they do this so they can share their own responsibility and be lazy. either way nice question. i am waiting to see the response to your question from HeavenlyCherub.

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 4:09pm On Jul 18, 2020*

Toks2008:
So if you can give your wife a gift or money then why can't you give a lady you intend marrying?

So you can see that there was no need for the rhetoric.

you didn't read my response that is why you don't understand. you are just wasting my time. go read the post where i said i can do whatever if i want to or if its needed. but i won't be compelled to do it, i already said that in my initial response.

dont blame me if you lose your testicles though

p.s you still failed to respond to my initial response

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 3:39pm On Jul 18, 2020*

Toks2008:
You just dey mess yourself up dey think sey you dey make sense.

You can only give a formidable opinion if you comprehended in the first instance.

you still haven't answered my initial response. stop wasting time. simp

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 3:38pm On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
I can bet my left testicle on it that you did not comprehend just like other guys.

Can I ask a question?

Can you give your wife gift and money even without her asking?

you probably dont have testicles.
yes

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 3:07pm On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
I am the OP

Don't care

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 2:55pm On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
See ranting.

I pray GOD provides for you and all the guys crying over the fact that they need to give a lady they desire of their substance even if she does not demand. Go and get a lady that you wont even spend a dime for. Awon fvk boys.

see ignorance and deflection.
you still fail to make proper points and still fall back to throwing shade (ranting, crying), i pray God cures you from simp blood. you are lost, emotional, feminine and weak. you lack standards and reasoning to measure up with a man so you use emotions of fake tears and laughter to try to portray false confidence, it wont work. your weakness stinks. #Simpgang

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 2:39pm On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
What if she got raped?

what if she openly allowed multiple men run through her legs recklessly.
the same argument can be made for a man (money perspective) on the post i responded to.
what if he lost his job, what if this, what if that....the original poster clearly doesn't care about the other perspective and the response was channeled accordingly

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 2:36pm On Jul 18, 2020*

Zoie:
Damn. I never knew you had so much tears in you to spill. Keep crying

lol...your days of wailing are just beginning.....its not my fault that you will lose all beauty and fertility by 30, the wall will get you

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 10:45am On Jul 18, 2020

lisa286:
His loss
I have been a blessing to all I meet

the fact that they left you means you were not a blessing...nobody would leave a blessing, even if they say it, they are just trying to spare your feelings

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Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 10:43am On Jul 18, 2020

Zoie:
Keep crying

continue in vanity...in a few years this is to be expected of your type. the wall is coming for you

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Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 10:38am On Jul 18, 2020

LizBathory:
e pain dem
I repeat, if you are broke and stingy, you have no business being alive
like you're a waste of space, breath and oxygen
better drink sniper if you fall into this category

if you are not a virgin, you do not deserve a relationship or attention from a man. a woman that has donated herself to have multiple sperm sample dumped in her is worthless and full on infections. the only thing such a lady is good for is for sexual relief of random men. once a woman looses her virginity outside marriage she is useless. any woman that falls into this category should embrace her Wh0re of babylon nature.

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Christianity Etc › Re: Some May Trust In Science,Some May Trust In Technology, But We Will Trust In God by ibkonekt(m): 9:44am On Jul 18, 2020

MASTERCHIEF0847:
Between religion and science which has made efforts to improve the living conditions of mankind and preservation of life?
Religion has contributed nothing meaningful since the 18th century.

science has deceived you to high heavens that you dont even question it.

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Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 9:36am On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
I am a Man, the problem is that many Males who claim to be men are actually boys in reality.

You all want to see what you want to see and i am so appalled by the comments i have read from guys on this thread...my advice to them is to just remain single and not bother getting involved in any relationship...like wtf! so as a man are you saying you won't lavish your lady with material things once in while EVEN IF SHE DOES NOT ASK? What kind of mentality is that?

Look at all you wrote and please read again and you may be tempted to delete the post....where did i write all you pointed out? But because you just want to twist the narrative to justify their stingy mindset.

I think the problem with many guys is self-centeredness, complex issues and probably lack of money. If i decide to give my lady (and not just any lady i have no plans with) money or material things, i am doing it not because i want her to remain with me BUT BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO IT. So if she lives tomorrow for another man it is no big deal to me cos i was not coarse by her. It is when a lady makes demand and the man starts giving her money like mugu that i had always been against(Check my previous threads).

You guys should grow up biko.

1. You definitely don’t sound like a man.
2. You are appalled right, so are others about you (you come across as confused) …. keep your emotions in check and make your point concisely. You really don’t have any right to advice other men whether to marry or not. it’s up to them and women that love them. Like I said I would give as it is necessary…. if it is necessary to lavish her then I will…. if it is necessary and she makes a case for it then I will…. if it is necessary I will do whatever. The difference here is the compulsion that you are adding to the scenario like it is some kind of Ritual. Maybe you should calm down and look at your own mentality. Anyone can be wrong. You could be wrong here (so could I). So stop saying WTF. That will not earn you points. Make clear points if you have any.
3. I quoted the post I responded to, if you read it then you would understand what I responded to. Maybe what you wanted to express came out in a different manner. Either way people have the right to disagree with you. Stop shouting wtf like you are rabid.
4. We all have problems as men and women, if you want to generalize we can go there. But I would prefer you use MOST guys…. because if the same analogy is used for women they will come and start saying NOT all women this and that. Either way all the rubbish you wrote about self-centeredness and complex issue and lack of money is just a cheap way of a simp trying to use shaming tactics to force his opinion on others. You make such claims when you cannot justify it, everybody has different standards as to what must be met before acting or doing something, either giving money, attention, emotions etc. Just because other men have higher standards does not make them stingy. It makes them principled. (again this is relative to the individual). Stop trying to apply your standard to all the men. Because that is what your post is attempting to accomplish.
5. It is your money spend it how you want on whatever woman you want, but don’t throw tantrums when you post something online and people respond negatively, once a word has gone public people have every right to comment and make their own take on the subject matter whether you agree or not.
I think you are lost in the matrix

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Romance › Re: Why Do Possessive And Jealous Men Excite And Repulse Me? by ibkonekt(m): 9:10am On Jul 18, 2020

Hintona:
Thanks I suspected it because I watch our goats and I realized they get attracted to the alpha male in the herd.

true...even though we are not goats but we certainly respond through instinct in similar fashion sometimes. in such times our brains tend to play a secondary role while instinct plays primary. eitherway you are fine.

Christianity Etc › Re: God Is Actually Useless by ibkonekt(m): 8:23am On Jul 18, 2020

GodHead85:
As a matter a fact the universe started without a God’s help.

Do we absolutely know what caused the Big Bang?

Do we know for absolutely sure this is not the only universe?

We do know how old it is if we work backward to the size it would have been a certain number of billions of years ago. If we could somehow go back the whole 13.8 billion years we might have an idea what caused it to expand the way which it did. We might also find out if anything was possibly here before the Big Bang.

We can with the information we do have prove that it didn’t happen in six days suddenly everything was here, and earth would nearly be the center of the universe.

But the problem with that is earth is 4.5 billion years old and the the universe is 13.8 billion years old. The universe existed like over 9 billion years longer than our side of the universe.

Humans have existed on earth what is it, 50 million years or something?

In the beginning god created the heavens and the earth. It reads like humans were first, except there were many creatures here way before we evolved. How does anyone believe what Christians call the good book or holy book, when there’s no accuracy to anything in it? It is true that the universe had a period of rapid expansion as it would take more than 13.8 billion years to reach out like what is it, 35 billion light years in every direction? Or is it more? This universe is huge and did from what some scientists say somehow expanded faster than anything can travel within it. Expanded into where I don’t know. If fact there’s a lot I have no idea about when it comes to this universe and those answers may never come either but the answers are not in the Holy Bible, the Christian bible. That piece of junk pretty much puts us as first and that’s just not true.

In fact I have only bits and pieces of an understanding of it all, and don’t believe it will all be discovered in my lifetime. Could get froze for awhile like Larry King says he wants cryogenically frozen. I don’t understand that one bit but at least we agree there’s probably no god, and nothing after death.

your argument fall flat if science lied to you all the while...if the earth is flat and the big bang never happened. science is the perfect deception tool

Christianity Etc › Re: Is Jesus Not Supposed To Be Angry? by ibkonekt(m): 8:20am On Jul 18, 2020

TheRealProphet1:
First and foremost ; I believe in the existence of a supernatural being, God and I believe Jesus, is his son.

What puzzle me is the way Brazilians use Jesus as name, You will see somebody answering "Gabriel Jesus" "Jorge Jesus"

It seems Jesus don't even care, maybe until people start naming their children "God" that's when he will retaliate.

God is I AM, that is how he describes himself

the israelites called God YAHWEH, and Jesus was YASHUA or YESHUA. but God himself said he is I AM. that is all.

so if you are serious those are the names you are looking for.

Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 2:50am On Jul 18, 2020

Toks2008:
I once wrote about the need for guys to stop giving their money to ladies and I also wrote about the need for ladies to drop their entitlement mentality and YES I still reiterate these facts as they referred to ladies with an unrealistic sense of entitlement but nevertheless, there is a wide gap between a lady making lame financial demands from a man and a man being sensitive to the needs of his woman.

Giving should be a two-way street and it will be very selfish for any lady to expect her man to give without her reciprocating but it is no longer new that ladies love to be taken care of and any guy who has what it takes to take care of his lady and yet refrains is a stingy man who does not deserve to be with any lady and ladies who are looking for a real purposeful romance should avoid such guys not just for their sake but for the sake of the future as such a man may not be generous enough to take care of his family financially....and worse still, I believe a man who is not generous to his lady does not truly love her cos there is no love without giving.

Now I want ladies to understand this...it is one thing if a guy does not have and it is another if he has but just chooses to be stingy....it is also very important to note that generosity should not be measured by the amount of substance be it money or gift but must be accessed based on the proportionality of the gesture in relation to the resources at the guy's disposal....this means a guy who earns 100k a month but gives his woman an average of 10k in a month has given 10% of his total income and he is more generous than a guy who makes far more but gives his lady sparingly.

What is the point?

John 3:16 KJV 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave... You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving.
When a man truly loves a woman he will give even without her asking, he will be sensitive to her needs and will always give her from what he has no matter how small even if the lady is financially buoyant, there are still little gestures that go a long way to express your affection for her. If a man truly loves his woman he will give of his time and his resources. Those who truly love, hold nothing back.

The measure of your giving reveals the measure of your love. Love is something we can't see, but we can see the evidence of love in the action it produces, which is giving. Where you give your time and resources also reveals what you love. If we think we love someone, yet never give to them of our resources, then we are just deceiving ourselves.

Hope this makes sense.

you women are funny and cunning.
1. you say there is no love without giving...this is true. a man does not have only money to give...he gives attention, love, emotional support, care, protection etc. your post is predicated on the point that the only thing men have to give is MONEY, that is the whole premise of your argument. i hope you see how shallow this reasoning is. there are other things to give even when money is present.

2. you raise the argument that the measure of love is by the percentage that the man gives his woman financially in respect to his income...i call gold digger mentality. i say give as the need arises and what is necessary financially not as she demands. either way your argument is selfish to your perspective only

3. you say giving is a 2 way street, pray tell what women give to a man apart from emotional and intangible things. a woman does not have anything material or physical to give to a man except her body. which is fine if we only want to look at it from a man for money and a woman for sex

p.s i understand the point you are trying to make but your points are really selfish...look at it from a man's point of view

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Romance › Re: Why Do Possessive And Jealous Men Excite And Repulse Me? by ibkonekt(m): 12:00am On Jul 18, 2020

Hintona:
I know that it's psychological but I don't have anyone to talk to about it.

But whenever I watch a possessive/jealous man on TV or read a book about one I get excited I feel tremors go through but at the same it repulses and disgusts me, I just want to know if this is normal, is it a primeval instinct that affects all females?

And also I think it contradicts feminism which disturbs me because I'm kinda in the process of being one

this is normal and we are all like that. its primal instinct for a woman to be attracted to a man that is jealous because the attribute usually shows strength in some form and willingness to fight for his woman. its called mate guarding. there is nothing wrong with it. but due to the society that we live in, it is demonized and condemned and they say such a man is insecure. that is why you have multiple influx of emotions. one is nature compulsion one is societal compulsion

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Education › Re: Students Give FG Two Weeks To Announce Schools Resumption Date by ibkonekt(m): 9:32pm On Jul 16, 2020

FG that is busy drinking corona scam money

Celebrities › Re: Rita Dominic Celebrates Her 45th Birthday Today. by ibkonekt(m): 9:31pm On Jul 16, 2020

Immarocks:
you quoted me first and you are telling me am spitting fire online? see me ooo
high value women don't kill to marry"high value men"as u think get my point?
obviously you are very ignorant and shallow in ur thinking. no one said a woman who is establish and become high valued to compliment her man is feminist. alot of feminist who know what feminism is are established and successful in their marriage.
mind you I know well enough what the fight for feminism has accomplish and I can see you need mental freedom.Mr researcher and online educator.
it's my posterior I will see it whenever I want to.

I do not need you flexing muscle to educate me online,I know where to get knowledge when I need it.channel your energy to be "high valued" please
abeg no quote me again.

1. i only said quote me if you want a debate...nothing else, so dont make it seem as if dont quote me because of some made up rubbish i your mindset
2. you are obviously naive...a high value woman is a woman that is young and a virgin. you obviously need a lecture because the value a woman has is her youth, beauty, fertility and chastity. other factors are extra in a woman. no high value man wants a wh0re that has been passed around by multiple men no matter what she has accomplished or how many masters degree or how much she has in the bank (except simps). you can talk all you want but the truth is that old useless women are still single and alone or single mothers.
3. a lot of feminist dont have successful marriages...just look at the divorce rate 70% divorce is by women, most of the cheating is done by women, feminism has made female nature to be exposed, women are Hypergamous Wh0RES by nature. feminist are the single mothers, feminist are used and dumped, feminist marry (simps if at all).
4. you really dont have any clue what to say, if you have any proper sense, you would give evidence to back up your claim. rather than just say i know this and know that.
5. you are ignorant and you know nothing. marriage rate has declined, single mothers abound, female wh0redom is too high, females dont respect their husbands, females are overly entitled. you seem deeply indoctrinated and lost in the matrix. go and seek knowledge

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Romance › Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 7:51pm On Jul 16, 2020

Toks2008:
I once wrote about the need for guys to stop giving their money to ladies and I also wrote about the need for ladies to drop their entitlement mentality and YES I still reiterate these facts as they referred to ladies with an unrealistic sense of entitlement but nevertheless, there is a wide gap between a lady making lame financial demands from a man and a man being sensitive to the needs of his woman.

Giving should be a two-way street and it will be very selfish for any lady to expect her man to give without her reciprocating but it is no longer new that ladies love to be taken care of and any guy who has what it takes to take care of his lady and yet refrains is a stingy man who does not deserve to be with any lady and ladies who are looking for a real purposeful romance should avoid such guys not just for their sake but for the sake of the future as such a man may not be generous enough to take care of his family financially....and worse still, I believe a man who is not generous to his lady does not truly love her cos there is no love without giving.

Now I want ladies to understand this...it is one thing if a guy does not have and it is another if he has but just chooses to be stingy....it is also very important to note that generosity should not be measured by the amount of substance be it money or gift but must be accessed based on the proportionality of the gesture in relation to the resources at the guy's disposal....this means a guy who earns 100k a month but gives his woman an average of 10k in a month has given 10% of his total income and he is more generous than a guy who makes far more but gives his lady sparingly.

What is the point?

John 3:16 KJV 16 For God so loved the world, that he gave... You can give without loving, but you can't love without giving.
When a man truly loves a woman he will give even without her asking, he will be sensitive to her needs and will always give her from what he has no matter how small even if the lady is financially buoyant, there are still little gestures that go a long way to express your affection for her. If a man truly loves his woman he will give of his time and his resources. Those who truly love, hold nothing back.

The measure of your giving reveals the measure of your love. Love is something we can't see, but we can see the evidence of love in the action it produces, which is giving. Where you give your time and resources also reveals what you love. If we think we love someone, yet never give to them of our resources, then we are just deceiving ourselves.

Hope this makes sense.

MEN, this is why you dont tell a woman your salary

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Romance › Re: What Are The Advantages And Disadvantages Of The Wedding Of Two Virgins? by ibkonekt(m): 6:56pm On Jul 16, 2020

its the perfect union where they can pair bond perfectly

Celebrities › Re: Rita Dominic Celebrates Her 45th Birthday Today. by ibkonekt(m): 6:51pm On Jul 16, 2020*

Immarocks:
.

"high value man"my posterior what does that even mean?....do u even know what feminism is all about?....anything a woman says in respect to her self worth u n ur lots term her as feminist...if marriage is d highest achievement for ur daughters it is not for me...

maybe you should do your research before spitting fire online.
1. a high value man is an established man that really doesnt need a woman to elevate him in society. take for example dangote, Jay Z, Jeff bezos, otedola etc either way their charactteristics are tall, dark, handsome, super-rich, good physique, intelligent....you get my point. and women kill (literately) to marry these type of men (it happens all the time).
2. you should really learn more about feminism because you sound ignorant of what it has accomplished in today's society.
3. a woman can strive to achieve whatever she wants and her self worth thats not a problem and that is not feminism...go and do the research. if you want to be educated feel free to quote me again. but otherwise go and learn from society reality and not fake talking points
4. nobody wants to see your posterior.

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Romance › Re: I Suffered With My Husband When Poverty Overwhelmed Us, Now He Is Rich & Calling by ibkonekt(m): 5:57pm On Jul 16, 2020

Rozz:
That's how most of these men are, recklessness sets in when they become rich

wouldn't it be cliche if someone says not all men are like that....this is exactly how it sounds when women start to say not all women are like that. take note i am only referring to your quote of MOST men here. either way point is if this is the full story then the man is an asshole and alot of guys are. its a shitty world

Romance › Re: I Told Her I Wouldn't Have Sex Until I'm Married. Now, This Is Happening! by ibkonekt(m): 5:39pm On Jul 16, 2020

SweetCunt97:
Reasoning of a selfish non empathic fellow. Life happened.

reasoning of a gold digging, 2 timing, worthless wench. when she was opening her legs where was her reasoning then. defending wh0redom. life didnt just happen like you claim she was a wh0re who slept around.

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Romance › Re: I Told Her I Wouldn't Have Sex Until I'm Married. Now, This Is Happening! by ibkonekt(m): 4:24pm On Jul 16, 2020

SweetCunt97:
Give and it shall b given back to you. Atleast for d sake of d kid. Too bad she allowed d good for nothing man rope her with lies. Mtcheeew

1. its not his kid, why should he take responsibility for another man's semen.
2. whether a man lied to her or not does not excuse the fact that she herself fell for these lies and chose to open her legs without thinking. she has 50% of the blame.

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