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[quote author=Demain_man link=topic=655187.msg8269242#msg8269242 date=1304678948]I hate the fact that UDENWA is supporting ROCHAS. Udenwa did absolutely nothing when he was the governor of the state.

I really hate to think that this same man will now become godfather to Rochas and hence calling the shots.

IMO STATE!! welcome back to UDENWA government of NOTHING TO SHOW FOR IT [/quote]dumbest post on this thread.

Udenwa becomes Rochas's godfather?Please go back to sleep.

TOYOSI20:
rofl. . . . . my boo is good enough for moi,. . . . . . we're now "N-guaged". . . .if u must know. . . . .

Ma sweetest lil'sis 

Where is Ori eja ?  N-Guage 1 Dayokanu 0

. . .who resurrected this thread?

[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=660395.msg8265218#msg8265218 date=1304609645]On the phone so can't modify, but the point I am driving at is that this is a very very very petty thing for a man to be worried about, so if he is worried about such enough to throw his toys outta his pram, you should be worried too, starting from right about now.[/quote]LOL
Which kain chinko phone be dat?Dayo gives out free 'Droid phones that lets u modify,upgrade,quote,unquote,attach n do just about everything only If you wud flash him somethiiiiiing. 

@Topic,Thinking of printing 2 IV's is as childish and unrealistic as they come,IMO.
[quote author=baby.me link=topic=660395.msg8263465#msg8263465 date=1304592955]@Ify: Personally i don't have any problem with printing his name first on the card,it's just that i wanted to know if there is a good reason why it's usually the woman's name first. I googled it and it seems it's always the woman first,but as you said it's our wedding and we can afford to do as we wish. [/quote]Cool but deep down you,are u very comfortable with the way he handled this and the part you too played?
Does this say anything to you,warning bells on how to handle this man in future ?

As it seems u have no further objections,sit your man down and let him know you agree to his suggestion but most importantly the way and manner he went with it is definitely not the best.Now you know u have a hard nut to crack so brace urself for the ride.

Congratulations btw.

Amya:
would text  do?

Mi God,are you even listening?

You are 25 for God's sake,don't start acting like a high school sophomore here.

What precisely are you calling,texting or gonna ask him?You are that jobless to bother your life with his updates?Jeez.

Grow or buy some[b] ignore and move on pills[/b] please.Don't even dream of re-tweeting or getting a funny status/update urself unless you are a drama queen . . .an old one at that.(sorry for sounding this way)  

Just chin up and let it be,is that too hard to ask?

If you could create such a stir for a fuCkbuddy what wud u do when u get into a real relationship  

Nne biko,advice urself.shuooooooooooooooooooooo.

jay bee:
The issue at hand calls for face-to-face dialogue if she wanna be the bigger person.
What's wrong with asking him just before you guys do the doodoo d next time y'all meet?

IMO,there is absolutely nothing to ask or discuss.

They were not into any agreement or relationship so on what basis is she gonna ask

If she felt insulted/cheated or bad with that update best bet is to move on.Forget the guy,the good s3x and just move on !when the guy calls or comes around for s3x,you tell him you ain't game anymore or you have upgraded to something meaningful with someone else.If she wants the s3x et all,she should just keep shut and get the s3x . . .that's it.

The guy owes her no explanation whatsoever and her asking for any would only lead to one sure thing . . .more insult and drama.

Amya:
I wasn't stalking him! he's my friend on facebook, and i couldn't help but see the update

This is where your maturity comes into place . . .Ignore his update or status chikena!

He did not put your name there,It could be for you and a zillion other girls out there,it could be nothing really.

Stalking does not end with going out of your way to chase someone,when you start twisting someone's words,read meanings to the person's every step you are stalking,IMO.

Lose sleep cos of a mere FBK status/update ,common gurl,step up ya game biko.

A big girl is one who knows when to look the other way,one who knows when to ignore and keep shut,one who's  good  at strategies and most importantly one who knows how to chin up when she losses.

If the dude is not picking or returning your calls anymore then take it to mean that playtime is over for him and just move on.No point in creating this thread.  

Agaba,move on,Kafanchan locomotive 

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=659853.msg8264368#msg8264368 date=1304602094]You don't necessarily have to check on people to view their Fb status update.    [/quote]LOL

Anyhow,Even if the updates gets thrown at your inbox,spam box or wall,its still none of her biz.

IMO,this is just unnecessary drama.What they share (sex and companionship) is still going on fine so whats new or wrong?I think I know the OP's problem though . . .She wants more than sex,she wants commitment but don't know how to go about it especially after claiming Miss Good-s3x is all I want.  

agabaI23:
Nne sorry about that silly cow. At least he should have been wise enough not to broadcast it the way he did.
People who knew you were close would decode.

Never mind him you will get over it

You amaze me.
How do u know for sure the guy was talking about them

OP,You have no business checking out his Facebook or any other social site status.You guys are neither married nor into any kind of committed relationship so why stalk him and bother your life with his status  

Listen girl,don't ask him anything about his facebook status,you guys did not meet on fbk so whatever he says there ain't no biz of urs.Blimey,If you confront him,even If he meant to stay . . .he's gonna pick his shoes and run.Learn to let certain things lie as it were.
If he wants to call off the whole thing,he should be able to say it to ur face or take the easiest route ie avoid you.As it is now,he has done[b] NONE[/b] of the above so I really don't get whats ur problem here ?
I'm married and I know my marriage was not contacted on facebook so I try as much as possible to disregard whatever my husband does on fbk or at any online forum.Of course,I watch but I pay certain things no mind . . .He respects himself though.

What Im trying to say is this:Whatever he writes on fbk is none of your biz.You wanted constant s3x,companion and a friend and u got it,why stalk him now?Things happen and u saw urself falling in love,u are a woman . . .our mothers thought us that na,subtly but quietly change position.Corner and finally rope him-in without saying much. . .that is,If he too is interested.

While you haterz,fans and stalkers are here typing away furiously on ya keyboards,those 2 are somewhere cosy enjoying each other.

Life is goooood oooh.

Go Genny,Go D'banj.

@BestDoc . . .awww,ndo.

Ogwu na iwu forum bu onye gwa gi nke ojoo,i gba mbo nye ya triple portion same ma o buru okwu oma.

Anyway,O mela eme already,ozo emena,Iseeee !

Ngwa gbasapu iru.

Not an oldie per say but I know i enjoy reading from Islander,Eveseh,Omo -eko,Efuah and lol that Ennyluv thread,my all time favorite. 

AJ in all and every of her forms . . .my bestest nlder.

Wait first,3Rnest is Niceuzor? Ok,where ya crew at,lol . . .Bblack,seun001,zignor and his babe(they got married,i think) etc.

Dem no born you well simply means You dare not.

Dem no born you well to slap me,If dem born you well try slapping me . . . .You dare not slap me.

The spirit is willing but the flesh is weak.

Assuming there is no oil buried deep down in the soil,where do we get the water?

When its planted and done,how do I control the cursed cows and other predators?

Is there any bank willing to give me the much needed loan?How do i get the herbicides,fertilizers and seedlings?

I'm not making excuses,but we need to start from the scratch,put so many things in place.Btwn,this thread wud make more sense at the business section.

^True that.

People don't even know how to love themselves or know what love means so Yeah.

True love indeed.

Whatta gwan now?She went back to continue her life-maga job or she started loving herself and moving on already.

One thing that kills marriage is trying to follow/keep up norms,traditions or just doing it like others.

OP,Aside because it appears odd to you,what else are your reservations?Why does your man want his name before yours?

It makes alot of sense to see reasons,no matter how silly it might look.Its your wedding,do it exactly the way it suits you.If anyone has problems with the name arrangement,S/he can boycott the wedding simples  . I'm not saying you should just agree to your husband's plan but hey,pls come up with a more tangible reason aside the "it seems odd" blah blah and what are his own reasons for objecting 

I would not have batted an eyelid if it were a younger sister,maybe cos Im the eldest child and used to the pranks siblings play to get money off their elder and financially better-off sibling.

As she is your elder one,just laugh it off.If it were me,I wud call her,tell her what the real prices are and let her know I now know she played a fast one on me but I wud appreciate she come out straight to ask me for money rather than cheat me.

Not such a big deal,IMO.

. . .and OP,sure u never pulled such stunt on her in the past?Not saying it's payback time but If you have and she laughed it off then . . .One good turn deserves another.

NB;My [/b]opinion,[b]you don't have to agree with me.

OnyinyeGod:
I please an urgent reply from matured minds and christians too. I am a christian and a pentecostal for that matter, then there is suitor that is asking my hand in marriage. He is caring, loving but the problem is that he is a roman catholic. And i have told him to join me in my own church but he refused and said that he's whole family is catholic that he cant compromise his faith. I love this guy, pls what do i do?

Marry your Pastor.

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cold:
For someone who has lived in the UK for quite a while her accent is sooooo Ighoish

Mean you !

Nhanha:
That kinda makes sense of the private number, he promised to phone me with his mother, its been two months and i have not spoken to his family. I'm worried my baby girl wont know her nigerian family.

She would.

Just keep atleast a clear picture,names and state of origin.  

Nhanha:
Hi guys i've been dating an igbo man for two years, told me he's single back home but has a 6 yr old boy. He went home and phones me with private number. He has not told his parents that im 8months pregnant. Just worried.

He might be married.

Hard row u got for urself but u gotta hoe it.Concentrate on pushing out the baby first,every other thing wud fall in place . . .

youngestpr:
She is just about to finish school and her opinion is to go along with whatever i decide leaving me to the final decision making. I dont know how to explain rugged and rough more than using those words, i think you should understand.

So when she finishes school where wud she work,assuming she don't plan on being a housewife ?

Rough and rugged is relative,depends on how you see it.IMO,every city is rough and rugged,you can't escape that.Besides,Ibadan is more or less an extension of Lagos in every aspect(good,bad,ugly) so wud it really make any difference 

The first 3 years of marriage are sometimes,[/b]what makes or mars a marriage so be careful and apply wisdom.

Its all good and dandy for your wife to tell you [b]NOW that whatever you decide is ok for her but when the talk gets to walk,wud she walk it?Does she have the personality and capability of handling,dealing with and resolving petty conflicts and everyday challenges alone or is she the type that is emotionally weak and dependent ?

nikkykay:
Please her guy's parents are late so he has decided to start the family introduction by taking  her to his aunt (his mum elder sista) first. This is the woman that represents his mum now and he so  much respects her The aunt has told him that he shld not impregnant d girl until she sees her. He told his babe that his prayer is that this aunt shld like her. Girl has decided to take it to God in prayer that any power that doesnt want ds woman to love her must die be4 dat day ooooo.
The guy has told her how to dress and if she is asked when dey met she shld say 2yrs ago. Meanwhile the met like 2months ago and d guy doesnt want long courtship so he wants all preparations to start frm now and within 6mths, they shld get married.
Her question is " is it worth it to lie and shld d aunt decides for him? Also wot shld she buy for the aunt?
Please your candid and matured opinions will b appreciated.

@OP,Use the search button. 

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-628975.0.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-628713.0.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-3270.0.html

@Bolded,you guys are not YET married and your fate/position is already almost to be decided or hanging on what the aunt thinks and feels  I should be worried If I were you.

While you are praying and fasting,have u had a vision of what wud happen If this so-called aunt does not approve of you?

Dress to please the aunt,blah blah,I dey laff oooh.  If she get the aunt smile today with a gift,what happens the day she can't afford a gift or another eligible girl gets her a better gift ?

BTWN,2 months ago and already planning on marriage?Well,Goodluck to both parties but even trial marriage demands atleast 6 months courtship or 

youngestpr:
Hello nairalanders, I need your contributions as regards this piece.
I am a young graduate who is just about to complete his NYSC (National Youth Service) programme. I am serving in lagos state and Planning to get married at the completion of the programme. I have been able to secure a job in which i will continue after the NYSC programme. The issue is that i have been thinking of how to settle down when i get married. I dont want to build a family here in Lagos state because of the rugged and rough nature of the cities, so i thought of getting a room apartment here in Lagos for myself and another main apartment elsewhere(maybe in Ibadan which is like an hour drive from Lagos ) where my wife and children will be stay while i go to meet them every weekend or forthnightly. Or i should get a full apartment here in Lagos and just grow my family there.
Pls wats your opinion about this. Sharing of experiences will be appreciated. Thanks

I this,I that . . . .whatever happened to WE ?

Have u sought ur wud-be wife's opinion?Is she working or in school and in which city?

What do u mean by rugged and rough

[quote author=Missy ★ B link=topic=659525.msg8255838#msg8255838 date=1304493665]I cringed when I first saw the pictures. Esp. the one in which she's in red. Like, what and who is this? 
Face= 2/10
Body = 3/10
Everything else worth rating = 1/10

I like the dress though.

<<snip>> WTF? 

Btw, if y'all think she's bad, wait till you see the representative of Ghana. You will weep.[/quote]LOL

Missy,Confidence is not all that bad . . .I like her  She owns and runs 1 of the biggest nite club in Ghana and still very much level headed.
@Topic,I really don't like the Igho girl(calling someone b1tch to get her attention),luckily there is another Nigerian contestant so hopefully she wud rep. us well . . .not that I care anyways.

[quote author=tpia@ link=topic=658930.msg8252704#msg8252704 date=1304439291]He put that at the end.[/quote]

Kachichi:
my spouse just happened to have cheated on me with a white woman. apparently he must have done this while I was away and I took the kids with me, do I tell his family in nigeria for our dissolution in marriage as I feel like I cannot continue anymore with this character?pls help

How did u know or found out he cheated?
Are u black or white?

The divorce decision is urs ALONE to take,You married the man so you know whats best for you.

Lots of catching up to do.

Layla won Michelle?

[quote author=nwaigbo_mg link=topic=658043.msg8247290#msg8247290 date=1304366720]Nkwerre,

the correct spelling is Nkwere,  meaning "i agree" people believe that the name about because of long dispute among the founders which they settled
another town similar in meaning is ikwerre (ikwere) which means "do u agree?" that's the reason why ikwerres have not "agreed"[/quote]Sir,Nkwelle Ezunaka wud then be ?