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miss00000:
We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.

We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).

He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.

Crying and starving yourself won’t change a thing. Put yourself together, be strong for your baby and leave his ass while you can, life goes on. Good luck with whatever decision you make.

I wouldn’t bother trying anymore, would also act like him it’s that simple. Life is too short to babysit someone’s feelings, a grown man at that.

The comments on here is sickening, the way some of you, mostly men love tearing down a black woman is sad af. Y’all need help.

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

Do not take her to the US, you will regret it forever.

melvinjames:
Obo
After just 4 days of releasing blow your mind, the video views are now almost 4 million. All hail the king of Naija pop.
Obo

"We rise by lifting others" - David Adeleke

That quote is by _Robert Ingersoll

simonlee:
Born again for where?
with all that ass you're tapping in your music videos,promoting immorality and all sorts... you think you're a christian?....

Who are you to judge her? Let God be the judge, worry about yourself.

nairafamedotcom:
Am a hardworking man, people don't support me because am a son of rich man, Davido laments aggressively asking Nigerian is it his fault ?

Watch video below
Source: https://www.nairafame.com/2019/07/people-dont-support-me-because-my.html?m=1


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZBkiXVU62W8

Why does he care so about the hate he gets? Not everyone will like you regardless of what you do that’s life.

MrAnele:
Burna boy is widely considered to be at the top of his game. Prior to releasing his African Giant album, he helped make Beyoncé’s The Lion King: The Gift album a success. Now, the star musician can add a pair of custom Beats by dre wireless headphones to his list of accomplishments.

Burna Boy is the latest celebrity to have collaborated with the music equipment giant, as they, in partnership with Atlantic Records, have just created a custom pair of headphones for the afro-fusion star — inspired by his recently released studio album, African Giant.

Although it’s not available for purchase, as it was created specifically for him, this cosign is still a massive deal for Burna.

For Burna Boy’s custom piece, the matte black headphones were decorated with dangling gold cowrie shells – a symbol of wealth and status which has remained a part of West African culture. Speaking about the master piece, the headphone’s designer, Chelsea, tweeted:

“The idea was for it to be something avant garde, not thinking about the functionality of it. An actual statement, something that will be kept in a glass box to mark a moment.”

Congratulations Burna Boy!




https://listwand.com/burna-boy-gets-custom-beats-by-dre-headphones-inspired-by-his-african-giant-album/

That sh!t is ugly

Breakingfamous:
Source: http://www..com/2019/07/regina-daniels-and-husband-in-other-room.html?m=1

Y’all need to leave this girl and her family alone.

[quote author=itspzpics post=80727181]Celebrity lover birds, Davido and his beautiful girlfriend Chioma was spotted together recently after a long As Davido plant a kiss on her to show his undying love for her. Excited chioma shares tge short clip on her gram recently. Who else loves this couple?

Watch the video below after the cut

Gist From Praizenews ; http://www.praizenews.com/davido-and-excited-chioma-spotted-together-as-davido-kissed-her

ZWorld:
Popular Instagrammer, Tunde Ednut has expressed how he felt tonight, after the host of BBNaija, Ebuka Uchendu asked Tacha to mention 3 characteristics of a BBNaija winner.

See the exchange below...



Tunde Ednut of recent has expressed his hatred for the popular Instagram slay queen ever since she made it into the BBNaija house.

Basically for her arrogance and ignorance to fellow housemates and matters at hand.

However on sharing the video of Ebuka and Tacha digging it out, he wrote;



Watch the video
https://zenithnaija.com/bbnaija-tunde-ednut-blasts-tacha-for-failing-to-answer-ebukas-question/

Not a fan of bbnaija, but she just might win. God has a way of turning things around..

MhizMuna:
The African Giant is indeed standing tall amongst the rest.

Burna Boy’s recently released album, ‘African Giant’ has bagged the number one spot on Apple Music in more than ten countries in the world.
The album which is less than a week old, released last Friday, 26th July, 2019, is doing good in numbers as it stands. It was one of the most anticipated albums from an African artiste.

‘African Giant’ has topped in countries such as Nigeria, Ghana, South Africa, Kenya, Niger, Swaziland, Uganda, Zimbabwe, Gambia, Dominica and more.

Prior to the release of the album, Burna performed at one of America’s live shows, Jimmy Kimmel Live Show, a performance which was so iconic.

https://www./2019/07/african-giant-tops-chart-on-apple-music-in-more-than-10-countries.html

As he should. I love how he lets his success speak for him.

tunaguy:
From the look of thing's i need no one to tell me its over, This is my first relationship therefore my first heart break, i never believed such a day would come, if anybody told me this would happen i would stone the person to death ni.. But worse came to worse, and am feeling so much heart ache and emotional trauma
She hasn't even made it official yet maybe she's just feeling guilty.. But deep down have known for more than a month self i just don't know what to do, cause have never been in such a scenario.. Apparently she has a new boy friend she even posted pictures on Facebook gushing about the guy... Am just trying my best to be strong but deep down am feeling so f**ked up... I'll appreciate any advice y'all give. insults are welcomed sef.

She doesn’t want you anymore, it’s time to move on

FreeSpirited:
Ode ni e...This post is only trying to explore philosophical questions around fidelity...its not a brag about sexual prowess ode

You still can’t satisfy a woman in bed. Now carry on.

FreeSpirited:
You are probably a cheat. 90 to 99% of Nigerian married men have cheated on their wife at least once. Many even enjoy cheating almost all the time. As a result, you have no moral gumption to feel bad if another person fvck and cheats with your wife.

Married men fvck our girlfriends, they entice them with their cars, and money. Even as a boss at work, they fvck others people's wives too, so if your wife gives me green light, I'm going to fvck her to stupor. And I don't care if my wife gets fvck in future, cos she will most probably cheat just like most married women of today who appear as angel and saint in the eyes of their gullible husband who is also a cheat anyway.
So I'm not going to worry about what I can't control. So if u are a married woman and u flirt anyhow around me, just know I will so pound your brain out that you will lose the taste of your husband diick...Nonsense and unrealistic fidelity. mtcheww.

People who make this kind of noise only last 40 seconds in bed... next.

bronx4:
My birthday is up to a week old now and she has not ask me about it .
But she told me about her friends up coming birthday

Happy belated birthday.

Tantaliteweb:
Good morning Nairalanders,
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Please I need an advice on this matter. You can insult o but let your insult be base on the matter. I am so bothered right now. Note any where you see this punctuation mark _______ Know that I wanted to mention her name there but I withheld it
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I met a girl online not up to one month , base on say I am looking for a serious relationship for long . Deu to how we chatted, I fell in love with her and she did too. Letter I wanted to date her and she accepted. We have been talking both on phone. She always complain about her mom taking the phone and she told me it is her mom's own .
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There was a day I called her, I was discussing with her on the middle of the discussion, she answered yes Mom and she ended the call.
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Immidiately she called me back and it was her mummy. The next thing, her mom was so angry. She first asked me , Are you _______ friend? I said yes , She said I should stop disturbing her phone. If I want to be calling ________ I should buy pHone for her . She expressed it so angryly . She said she would travel on Thursday. And she would be spending two weeks on the travel. I should buy phone for her. If I want to keep talking to her. That she wanna travel with her phone.
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I said okay ma. And she ended the call. Minutes later the girl called me back and was apologizing. I should not mind her mom, almost ready to cry self . She even left the cooking she was cooking. she said would buy phone for herself. And she started complaining how her mummy always aggressive on her.
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Next she started sending countless of Text messages apologizing. She couldn't sleep that night according to her . After that night everything changed. She no longer flash or call. I learnt her mom collected the phone from her. Yesterday I called all through but her mom was the one picking she said that _____went to lesson and would come back around 8pm .
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That same yesterday, my girlfriend ,according to her she used her friend's phone to chat me me up . she sent me a message on FB saying I should stop calling until she gets her self a new phone. That last night her mum was bla bla bla hmmmmmm .
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Note she haven't said I should buy pHone for her o . It was only her mom that said that. Now I have started considering buying her phone. But I am still afraid, is this going to be a scam Las Las .
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Please I need your advice. Note we have not met fave to face . But we live in the same city shall. And she is under 18-. But I love her so much. According to her pics and how far our chats and discussions .

Make sure to see her before anything else. Could be cat fishing. Be careful.

GistNet:
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I wish her well.

Who does he think he is ? Desmond IDIOT.

Ilamina:
Don't know if I will ever have the chance to finish school

Do you guys think my reasoning is different from someone who has graduated from university

I am just happy you guys have been nice to.me despite. the fact I haven't graduated from uni

Do what makes you happy.

temmypotter:
Wizkid killed brown skin girl no doubt.

But we know Davido would have killed on that album as well. Yall should quit hating on him.

Both are Legends

Davido is talent no doubt, but he can’t deliver like Wizkid, truth be told.

WisdomFlakes:
What of Dafido??

Why must everything include Davido? This goes to show the real talent in Nigerian music, it’s not all how much money you have in your bank account. Talent always win.

Who does know this already ? Nobody gets out of life alive.

Lol, she’s pulling a telemundo or whatever soap opera she watches on you. “She lost her memory” indeed. I have to laugh.

Guys are still out there wanting sex with some random girl without condom? The next post will be one that touches the heart “she gave me HIV or STD” you people don’t value your life o.

Not good enough reason to divorce her unless you don’t love her anymore, even if that is the case try rekindling that love. Why is divorce so easy for people these days? What about the vows you took before marriage, didn’t that mean anything? what about the good times you once had? Please seek counseling for both of you on how to fix your marriage. Good luck!

Research shows that sucking a man's penis can cause throat cancer, HIV/AIDS, gonorrhea, influenza, pneumonia, bronchitis, tuberculosis, stroke, coronary artery disease, Ebola, lassa, rabies and the list goes on.

A Nigerian woman has advised her women to always wash the penis with Alcohol and spirit if they must suck the penis of any man.

Celebrityblog:
Source: http://www..com/2019/07/video-ned-nwoko-admires-regina-daniels.html?m=1

Leave them alone, she made her choice and she is happy. Some of you commenting hate need to go find happiness while minding your business

soberdrunk:
The truth is in this era of 'slay queens' and 'instagram celebs', it is very hard to find a 'single', 'beautiful', 'intelligent', 'mature' lady that is worth settling down with, 'almost' every fine girl now has the 'runs girl' mentality and even our musicians like Yemi Alade are not helping matters, what type of song is "If you love me you go buy me ferrari, if you love me, you go pay me salary"! Gone are the days when ladies used to pick their partners based on 'prospects', now its based on 'wallet', the annoying part is that even the 'working class' ladies too have also developed this 'runs girl' mentality that my man must reward me financially, as if relationship is now 'employment'

Don’t forget “assurance” by Davido. Lmao

MrMumu:
Pastor please keep shut her period just dropped this morning.

Thanks everyone

Lol, you won’t be lucky next time

ladiesreject:
Just very recently....
We agreed we were going to meet, went to the location and waited for her for close to four hours she didn't turn up.

I nearly died out of anger.

I regretted ever meeting her. I cursed the day and the circumstance that made me saw and picked interest in her. I wanted to insult her destiny through SMS but I just let it slide as she's way too small for me to stoop so low.

Finally, I deleted her number and am at peace with myself.

But she's the biggest idiot I've come across since the beginning of the year.

But did you get to know why she didn’t show up?

MrMumu:
Nairalanders please I'm in deep poo.

I was having sex with my babe last month, that should be a day to her period and I didn't know when my condom got burst and i released inside her and during noon that same day she told me that she's no longer feeling any sign of her period coming again after i released inside her.

So I quickly went outside that day to get Postinor 2 which she took two tablets i think and her period came the next day. ( Thank God)

The problem now is that this month she hasn't seen her period, she was supposed to see her period on the 27th of June but up till today which is 1st of July it's still yet to come.
I'm really scared she's pregnant. She has done the urine pregnancy test twice it was negative and she later did the blood pregnancy test at the hospital and it was still negative.
Someone told me that it's the effect of the Postinor she took the last time, he said that the drug always delay period that I shouldn't be scared.

But seriously i can't sleep. I'm really scared she's pregnant.

If you’re not ready for the aftermath of sexual inter course then you shouldn’t be having sex. If she’s pregnant all you need do is man up to it and take up full responsibility first by marrying her.