well why don't you explain to her that the divorce will be final in a few days, and ya'll shld talk things over

i think you shld wait a while and let her get into the university, and when you are financially stable, get married. cuz if you do it now and start having kids, she'll end up with just a sec school education, and you might find it resentful in the future when you can't have an educated conversation with her, i say give her time to grow up. how old is she anyway?

Teaser4:

I mistakenly impregnates my gf,whl i told to flush it she refuse,nd said shes afraid.oh God my career is at stake,my popman mustnt knw. Pls advice me? Should I mix the stuff in her drinks,am totally Confused!

its men like you women shld be afraid of, did you not know that if you have sex with no protection it will lead to having a baby, now you want to risk the life of 2 people just to save your own a*s, how selfish can you be, all you think about its your self, you will end up dumping the girl anyway, how about being a man and owning up to your responsibilities. i hope your stupidity comes back to haunt you.

see devil sending temptation

Cuz we do have something called a biological clock, and we have a desire to build a lasting relationship, but guess what you men are also interested in married when you start hitting 40yrs of age cuz you know no one will be there for you if you become too old, so one way or the other everyone at some point is interested in marriage, women just happen to be interested sooner than men.

see how men put themselves in trouble, you don't make enough money to take care of yourself and you want to add another person to the mix and make her suffa

Dude get over it. don't blame a woman for being smarter and aiming higher than you.

yeah its crazy

No, i think everyone should have some degree of privacy.

Just saw this story on America Most Wanted about a naija guy called Tobechi Onwuhara who stole $44 million scamming people and is currently on the run.

check out the story and pic of the guy
http://www.amw.com/fugitives/case.cfm?id=59947

I saw it on tv, it was really bad, i knew she wasn't ready to come back, cuz her performance was awful

if you know u r not a virgin urself, don't pass judgement on others or expect to eat ur cake n have it. n your friends are idiots n this girl allowing you to use her is also a fool, and you r an a-hole, immature, (geez wat other names can i call you)

whitelexi:

After all the noise, they still end up marrying a naija man and doing the same things they call lame

i did end up with a naija man, who is smart enough to wash his plates when he is done eating, and help me around the house without me even having to ask

pro01:

^^^
Exactly my point. I'm an a-hole. But you? An AAA+ love-peddler. Breaking hearts is all in a day's work for you. Right?

lol does adding more AAAA++++ make it worse. only p*ss*es make such comments

tell him to move on, cuz he would not be able to satisfy such a woman who wants to be a show off.

pro01:

^^^
Wonder why you should spit such gutter language through your lip-stick soaked lips. Guess you're exactly the type that deserve the poster's revenge. **hisses in disgust**

what an a-hole, guess you fall in that category. is it the first time in the world that a man or a woman has broken someone's heart. and like i said, grow some balls, be a f*king man and move on, big deal she broke your heart, so what

most men on here are a-holes, the worst times a woman faces when she is pregnant is the first 3 months and last 3 months. and all i can hear is my mom probably did this, my mom probably did that. please grow up, times have changed and that silly naija man ego thing needs to be done with.

we have no idea how the wife in this case asked her husband to do the dishes, so we can't assume she bossed him around. most naija men just have this village type ego stupidity, n i'm sick n tired of it, i got that poo alot from my dad and it makes me sick to my stomach, when he tries to pull the my way or the highway crap.

why do we give idiots like this the time of d day, so wat a woman broke your heart n all u can do is whine for revenge. abeg grow some balls

there are some people who are homeless and can't help it, but its those who are pretending to be homeless that are annoying, sometimes you see people who could work for money but decide to beg.

i remember watching a show on tv about homeless kids that run away from their homes, some of them were from rich families, but there was a statement on of the kids made that stuck to me and made me think twice. he said "he didn't want to get a job because he didn't want to get stuck under the man (work)" and would rather prefer to beg.
it got me thinking. do you expect me to work and be under the man 40hrs a week and then give my sweat and labor to you.

i feel bad for those who are really homeless and try to help when i can, but if i see someone who can work but chooses not to, then i think twice.

@poster, she said she has a bf and you begged for a chance, next min now you will come back calling her names, saying she is LovePeddler/s*ut.

when a woman says no or she has someone else, why don't men just move on, if she wants to be with you she will leave her bf voluntarily for you, and haba put yourself in the bf's shoe.

agathamari:

penicillin is still WIDELY used in the us dear

do your research, it is not widely used anymore. i work for a hospital and see n translate test results n it is no longer recommended

frank3.16:

if u continue seein dis one point of view or from just the female point of view u wil give the wrong advice. Hav u askd urself why d husband refusd or refuses 2 wash d plate 4 his lovin wife? He might just b respondin to something wrong she did or is doin. Neither u nor d poster hav knowledge of what goes on btw the couple in their bedroom, u dont know their conflict or its source. But always rememba dat they are not not newly weds. Not acceptin 2 help her when she demands is only a sign that they are havin other problems. D wife shuld better work on resolvin other issues b4 d husband bcomes a stranger 2 her. Is not washin plate or not helpin in domestic their only problem? U girl are makin noise about plate when d man is probably goin tru hell in his own house. But as per ladies way una b, una go dey pursue rat wen una house dey burn.

i see ur point of view, but that's still not a reason to not assist her with chores, it would not hurt him, and both of them need to work on their issues not just the woman trying her hardest. but its clear that she is pregnant and sick and is unable to perform some activities, the man should put his ego and their issues aside and help.

you don't have to add him, its not compulsory, move on

IMO some people need to shut the F up, you have no idea what women go through when they are pregnant, every pregnancy is different, one woman might have the strength to do all the household chores, and another might not. so saying someone should get off her lazy backside when she is sick and pregnant to go do household chore is just silly, when there is an man in the house who got her pregnant, contributed to the dirty dishes, and should be able to use his brain to understand that this woman is sick and will need help. makes me sick when most men think with their a**es.

if the man washed his plate immediately after he finish eating, will that hurt him. thinking a woman is trying to control you when she asks you to do the dishes is just s*upid.

Tell the man to get off his high horse and help that woman, afterall he promised to be there through thick and thin, so doing the dishes is not even close to the hard times they might face and if he is complaining now, what will he do then. and the fact of the matter is that she shouldn't even have to ask him to do the dishes, he needs to help, marriage is all about being a team.

I do agree with Viva, if he hasn't been in the U.S for long, chances are that he is looking for papers.

I am an AA, though born n raised in nigeria for 17 yrs, i can't tell you how many times me and my sisters have been asked by some naija guys to get married to them so they can get papers, sucks but try to find out if this guy is for real or he might be married with kids back home.

Missy B:

That's how You Guys put Yourselves in Trouble from the start
by acting Like Bill Gate$.

thank you, then they come here to complain about how their gf is all about their money, eh if you promise her heaven and earth, why shouldn't she be ready to collect.
men just gotta watch wat they say cuz most women take it as it is.

MCLOVIN:

Songbird5
I hope you know your staph isntsupposed to be an STI ? The fact youre Hiv +ve(immunocompromised) makes it easier for staphylococcus to infect broken skin and become a systemic blood infection.

i do agree with ya, staph infection is actually a secondary infection, we all carry these bacteria in our body and it only becomes an issue if these bacteria migrate to other parts of the body where they are not supposed to be, and for immunosuppressed individuals with HIV, this can become a huge issue, anti-bacterial drugs can help, but not penicillin (according to my teacher, that no longer works on bacteria because bacteria are now resistant to it, and penicillin is no longer given in the U.S to fight infection, cuz it no longer works) i would suggest taking vancomycin antibiotics.

and its sad but most individuals with HIV, don't necessarily die from HIV, they die from subsequent infections due to their immune system being suppressed.

Seun:

It's not as if you're a virgin yourself, so get over it.  She did not violate you so there's nothing to forgive.

abeg help me tell am,

some men need to grow up, afterall the bible says you and your wife becomes one, and it did not say add mother in law or anyone else. sure your mother did everything for you wen you were a child, that was her duty since she decided to have a baby, it does not give her control over your entire life.

i suspect she might be pregnant lol

i think you should stick with the one in London, because she is not looking to leave naija for another country, and the fact that you came back from the UK is appealing to the naija one cuz she believes one day you would take her back to the UK, where she would shine her eyes after she gets her papers, dump you and make ur life a living hell. trust me naija parents would want their daughters attached to a man who has access to another country.

I think what you feel for ur ex in naija is just attraction/lust men feel and end up cheating on their partner.
but hey its ur life do wat you want.