what has this got to do with Obama, is he now God that watches over everyone, some people are stupid with the way they think, just because he is a president doesn't mean he is carrying the entire world and dhould be responsible for everyone.

Run away as far as ur legs can carry u cuz if the husband finds out he just might have ur head for dinner.

i volunteer to be the moderator.

lemme guess he walked out on his wife and kids to be with his downfall (another woman), such a man should have his balls cut off, cuz there is no explanation for abandoning your 8 month old kids and your wife who you swore for better for worse in the presence of God, for anything, cuz its a man's duty to take care of his family. don't get married and have kids, infact don't even have sex if you don't want to those responsibilities or will chicken out like an idiot.

lol Nothing Photoshop can't do, and Tom cruise is not yet that desperate.

i think he should get his kidney back or she pay him the money cuz he saved her life and she just go out and cheat on him, i think she is heartless, he worked his butt off and she just screwed him over. paybacks a bitch.

i don't think there is any problem with your relationship, because most men go ahead to marry their wife's sisters and if they don't see a problem with that then i don't know why they see a problem with your relationship because you are not neccessarily related to her.

simple, ignore her and leave her alone, move on to another woman, and she'll come back begging.

well you asked her if she will like to be ur friend and she said yes, so wats with you guys dating, u never asked her to be ur gf.

well i tried but my husband does not even want me to call her his sister, he said their family do not neccessarily reconcile, they alienate. which sucks cuz we had a fight about it and he said i wasn't supporting him, turns out this stuff is an ongoing issue, even with their most senior brother, the sisters do not speak to the wife, and his brother warned him about this sister in law, but he wanted to give her a chance, i am stuck in the middle, who do i support, but i'm not going to be fighting with my husbad over this issue, its his family and he wants me to let him handle it and just stay out of it. which is wat i am going to do.

chika98:

In law issues! If it doesn't come with the parents then it comes with the siblings. I understand how you feel in regards to staying away from her. If you husband doesn't want you to call her then don't because if she gets into it with you on the phone . . . she will then go and tell lies about what you said to her and what you didn't say. Your husband would be even more annoyed with you for doing that which he told you not to do. Just calm down and watch. Let your husband deal with this issue as much as you want to settle it . . he knows his sister more than you and he will handle all of this better than you can.

thats what i intend to do, stay out of it. will be worse if my husband is pissed at me for stuff like this.

well i just had an argument with my husband about this and he does not want to call her, he does not want me to call her and get into a shouting match with her bcoz thats what she wants, he said text her and let her know she cannot threaten and harass anyone in the U.S. all these really sucks.

i told him to call his sister and settle this matter if not then i will, she has rained so much curses on me, calling me a witch and all that stuff, thinking i am the one adding kerosine to the fire not knowing she started this herself, i will let her know i forgive her and i can't wait til she finds out it was all her fault. all her curses does not affect me 1 bit cuz i know i am innocent, its just funny looking at all the shit you get into all bcoz you marry a man.

did you call your husband to let him know.

davidylan:

your husband hasnt talked to her in years and you agreed to go spend time in her house?   women na wa.

Next time even if you can only afford a studio, do not go staying with relatives.

you have no idea how much i resisted, i told him i do not stay with in-laws, it got to the point that we were arguing everyday about this, and to stop the argument i decided to go, it was a very big mistake on my part which i absolutely regret, i have told him i am never staying with your family again even if it means i have to sleep on the streets. i would rather go back to my father's house when i will be welcomed. sometimes i think i should just leave him cuz i don't have the strength for all these family wahala, in my own family, if we fight it doesn't last uptil 1 week b4 we start talking to each other again because we are really close, i am honestly tired.

i get all what you guys are trying to say, i have suggested that to my husband in order to make peace but he said no, all these started when their big sister told my husband what she said behind his back, so its their family that started this, and it gets even deeper because this sister in law hates my husband and her senior brother because they left naija and did not send for her to come, so her most senior brother hates her guts and has cut her out of his life, he does not call her, her second senior sisters hates her and they do not talk, my husband hadn't spoken to her for years bcoz he knows she doesn't like him for something that is not his fault, because it was their mom that sent them abroad, i told him to make peace with her which he did.
my mom told me to stay out of their family issues cuz it can turn around against me, which of course i am trying to stay out of it, but i was thinking, i should call her and let her know that i do not control the actions of her brother and she should know her brother, he does whatever he likes i cannot control him like she controls her husband, and if she was smart enough to realize that all these started when my husband returned from naija, he handed her the money and i was not even there, i told him not to but he wouldn't listen to me. my husband does not want me to call her or pick up her calls, he doesn't even want me to call her his sister, but i'm gonna call her and talk to her even though my husband will be pissed at me, and let her know the fight is between her and her brother and not me, i have said enough thank you to her.
she is the one that wants to call the cops on me, and i would not until she physically comes to my work and try to harass me.

i did thank her before i moved, before i left her house on the day i was moving i went to her to say thanks, i called her family members to thank her, my husband thanked her and she said everything was fine, and that she did everything she did from her heart. she was pissed bcoz after i left her house i did not call her, i was just trying to stay away cuz i did not want her around me and i am not a confrontational person, she even came to my house after i moved and asked if she offended me and i said no, i was just busy with work and school, i don't know how long i should keep saying thanks to her, but i'm not gonna worship her for what she did for me, i do appreciate it.

its the bomb, can't stop watching and listening to it.

make that 23 times because she just called me again and its 11:00 pm at night, and she has been calling since 7am in the morning. she left a message saying i turned her bother against her and that i am an evil woman, i am sick and tired of this shit. the fight is between her and i brother and i f*cking take the blame. she wants to call the cops on me, thank God i have all those harassing phone calls, and we'll see who will go to jail. she is crazy and i a freaking scared and trying to stay out of it. i really need some advice cuz i can't take this shit.

okay it all started when i went to stay with my sister in law, because i was moving to California without my husband, my husband asked her if it was fine for me to stay with her and she said yes, he asked if she wants me to pay rent and she said no, that i am her in law and its her duty to take care of her in law, so everything was going fine until she started behaving funny, i kept ignoring her acted like i wasn't noticing the changes, i stopped eating her food and tried hard to avoid her even though we were living in the same house, she asked me why i wasn't eating her food, and i said i wasn't really hungry, i did not want to be the complaining in law, nor did i want to start any beef with her, while i was trying to go to nursing school, she paid for my application fee, bought me a pant n shirt when i had an interview because i had to leave work n go for an interview and did not wear appropriate clothes. finally i moved out of her house and did not call her, she was pissed and my husband was pissed at me, but they both did not understand how she treated me and she was pretending, i just ignored everything cuz i don't have the strength to fight.
well my sister in law went everywhere bragging how she paid for my entire nursing school fee, (while she paid just the application fee which was 100 bux) how she did this and that, my husband found out and asked me if she paid my nursing school fee and i said no she just paid the application fee, so he decided to refund it back, because she was bragging about it, she and my husband had an argument because he wouldn't take her things to naija for her, so she decided to take everything out on me because she knows she cannot face her senior brother (my husband), she is now asking that i pay her for the rent, food, clothing, light, gas, for the 3 months since i stayed with her, you see i moved out of her house since july and she never asked me for anything until she started fighting with her brother, she has been harassing me on the phone saying she knows where i work and live, i did not reply her back she has called me 22 times in about 13 hours, left messages saying she cursed the day she met me and she curses the day she set her eyes on me, i saved all the messages because if she tries to do something to me, i will have her arrested, cuz we are not in naija anymore, she is really making me scared cuz i have done nothing wrong to be harrassed, i told my husband to keep his family fight away from me, but he said if she comes to your work or tries to do shit, then i should have her arrested. its just surprising how she was lieing and faking being nice while all these while she hated me.
i don't know what to do, i plan to return her money for rent and stuff, and my husband has vowed never to speak to her again, he is going to play the harassing calls for her senior sister and her family just for them to see how fake she is. its surprising to me, if she did not want to help she should have said so, instead of pretending.

calling me 22 times in a day in the U.S is harassment, coming to my work or home to harass me is really disturbing cuz i don't know what she will do next. i know i'll call the cops on her if she tries to hurt me, cuz if she is fighting with her brother she shouldn't take it out on me. i am really confused.

martho:

its either shes hooked up or she is playing´ games,if u really like her, hang on .The big chance will come,if she fall out with her guy,then u can strike.even now u still have a chance,it depends on how u play ur game,say the right words at the right time,and if u are very instinctive like me , it will be easy like abc.

when a woman says NO she means NO, get it through your head, not every woman wants to sleep with every guy she sees.

if your mama na naija woman then i no see the reason why you go dey generalize after you get bad experience with one girl. e no be like say you don dey with the whole naija women in the world.

Sagamite:


What about if it is a nice smack, would you still divorce?

You need to qualify what you mean by hitting. because some guys hit it.

there is a difference btw a nice smack on the but during sex and slapping and punching me when you are pissed off, drunk or just acting stupid, i would prefer you walk away until you calm down than raising your had to slap or punch me, cuz once you do it the first time n i forgive you, you will always do it, and i ain't jesus to turn the other cheek.

lol i have a very cheap gift idea for all you guys who cannot afford to buy your babe gifts.

here are the steps.

1. get an empty box and wrap it (make sure the box has where you can open it)
2. cut a hole on on the side of the box
3. put your d*ck in the hole you cut
4. have your babe open the box

i'm sure she'll love it.

Merry christmas ya'll

maybe she enjoys the beating, i'm not sure how some women think these days. as for me hitting me is grounds for divorce screw love.

Merry christmas n a Happy new year, may 2009 bring you blessings.

nope i wouldn't even want my ex to know i'm alive, thats why i changed my phone number n moved, because i believe once it ends, you need to get over it n move on. on the other hand yes if we were still close friends

Gaggi:

Topic said single most important thing

Me think, trust

if you can read what i wrote, then im sure u'll understand.

Forget about Love, trust, all those are secondary, i will say the most important thing in a relationship is GOD, and the next is money, even with love its hard to live without money, imagine you cannot afford life's essentials like food, shelter, clothing. love ain't gonna take you no where, it ain't gonna put food on the table, feed your kids and all that shit. if you ain't got money then wetin you wan trust.

i say GOD, money, love, trust, kids.

its crazy and really pathetic, at the end he'll just use them bcoz he wants a tv show, he ain't gonna marry any of them they too ghetto, and plies is an ugly m f_cker too

i feel sorry for u because u r still dwelling in the past instead of moving on, its obvious u r still hurting from ur last relationship, getting hurt sucks. i just hope u don't get a sexually trasmitted disease or spread it to those innocent women, who know u might have missed your wife in the process of getting revenge. but as we all know what goes around comes around, hope the kidz don't pay for the sins of the father. but u need to be a man n take care of  ur kid asshole.

well you can always tell him wat he wants to hear so he will leave u alone, if he doesn't know all of your bad side. so what he prolly knows would not do much harm.