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BrutusOj:
All that cry na format. God helped the young man to control konji. Only an ashi will meet a guy in a business center, collect his number, call the same day and ready to sleep in a hotel with him.

. Guy trust me, it depends on how you play your game. You certainly can convince a girl to sleep with you. Your doings alone

Riele:
I happened to come across one davido thread where chioma was unbothered about davido's unfaithfulness .

My problem is not about the post but some mo.fons saying chioma should not feel entitled . Like wtf ? . You're engaged to a man and he's still cheating ? and You shouldn't feel entitled ?

No one in that post criticized davido instead they diverted their hatred to chioma .

Had it been it was chioma who was rumored to be pregnant for another man while being engaged , internet would have been on fire .

All these Useless Men don't deserve commitment . Please , if you have a chance , CHEAT ON THEM

These days women are competing with men on the cheating scale. Generally I noticed this generation of men r unreasonable. Imagine blaming Chioma?

SweetCunt97:
Simple. Simply slap her mouth next time she says nasty stuff you don't like. Just a light slap to the mouth that will move some u of her lipstick without hurting her sha.

then she slap back and they start fighting

HenryDion:
Op, although you're due for marriage, you're still a kid. I would advice you suspend this marriage of a thing and grow up first. That is to avoid stories that touches.

In my years of experience, I have learnt that physical appearance matters only for a while.

It will get[b] to a stage where that ass and tallness starts to mean nothing. When you sleep and wake up with her everyday, the thrills and excitement you derive from that ass or tallness would evaporate.[/b]

Overall, the only thing that will determine if you will have a happy marriage or not is character. If she has a nice character, I would advice you go ahead. Overlook the ass and height, do you love her? If you don't, let her go.

Ass and tallness that would give you High BP is not worth it!

Peace!

Thank you, I think I agree with you here @ bolded. I am matured just seeking opinion

Ishilove:
You make it a habit to fvck random young girls you meet? That's pretty risky, this kind of random fvcking.

To your OP: the girls sounds like a character in a Amos Tutuola story.

The Girl Who Always Cried. "She cried when she was happy, she cried when she was sad. Crying was her business, the gods bear me witness. I did a juju so she could stop crying, but she made me cry and I didn't stop crying until I ran away from her with all my loads."

No, I don't go around looking for girls to Bleep, gone are those days. I haven't had sex in 11 months

luminouz:
That is some serious Stockholm syndrome shiit!!


You broke up with cuz of this?

. Since she knows him, she can try to get him arrested. I know it's been several years.

MoodyQueen:
Lamentations of a useless community prick.

you can't judge by a random event. I'm not a sexual person generally

Onojanson:
God save you, that is part of their ritual in their marine kingdom

Nigerians and spirituality smh

Reading through most comments, it seems physical attraction does not really count in marriage. So all you need is the inner character? Strange how we reason. Just marry the character?

pmoye:
Op, you're a smart son of Naija.
Abeg next time you touch a babe and she dey cry like that, no dey think say na cry of joy o. Run. Run for your life. If she turn around come claim say you rape her na im word against urs e go be o.

Na like this e for go down bro...

Prosecution counsel: Why did you rape my client?
Impostor: Walahi ta lai, I no rape Sindi! (licks finger points it heaven-ward). In fact, na she call me dat dey come tell me say she dey lonely.

Prosecution counsel: But you checked in at Raper's Logde hotel 24th Bourdillon Street on the fateful day... My Lord, I am presenting exhibit 12, the receipt the accused got for checking in at Raper's Lodge hotel.
Sitting judge: Prosecution counsel approach the bench...(receives exhibit 12)... You may continue your questioning.

Prosecution counsel: So Mr Impostor, did you or did you not lodge at the said hotel on the said day just within few hours of meeting the victim?
Impostor: Ah, god see my heart o, say I no rape am... I no be rapist...
Prosecution counsel: Please answer the question, yes or no?
Impostor: No... I mean yes.

Prosecution counsel: Did you know that in the last two years a total of the 1,204 rape and sexual assault cases recorded for the state, 1,015 of those cases took place at Raper's Lodge hotel?
Impostor: Ah, I don die! I never rape for that side before...
Defense counsel: rushing to his feet. Objection! Objection!! The prosecution should stop his leading line of questioning...
Sitting judge: Sustained. Looks sternly at the prosecution counsel.
Defense counsel: May it please your Lordship to strike out my client's response to that question.

Prosecution counsel: Sorry your lordship. Let me rephrase (facing Mr Impostor). In a Facebook post credited to you on the 12th of July 2019, you said and I quote. "Raper's Lodge is da bomb. Perfect acoustics. The rooms dingy, the gals dizzy, your dearest impostor cruising between wetness and power. That's how we roll bi.t.ch. Y'all want it or not, y'all gonna get the best of yours dearest. Their father! Mic down! I'm out!".
Impostor: Ah mogbe mogbe... That one no mean anything. Na joke I dey joke bros! Looks at his defense counsel, Which kain questions my enemy come dey ask me biko. Abeg help me answer this one... I swear... on my mama's name, I swear I no rape am. In fact when im dey cry I dey worry, so I ask am waiting dey shele. She tell me say na joy, mek I continue. Na so I continue...

Prosecution counsel: Let it be on record that the accused just voluntarily confessed and under no duress at all that the victim was under so much pain and discomfort and was crying when the accused was having forceful sexual relations with her.
Defense counsel: Your lordship... I need five minutes time out with my client.
Sitting judge: We don't have time for all this. Your client is entirely in control of his faculty, and I see no reason to disrupt the cross examination. Waves at the prosecution, You may continue.

Prosecution counsel: Thank you my Lord. Mr Impostor, while raping...
Defense counsel: Objection...!

Prosecution counsel: I'll rephrase... While having penetrative sex with her, my client was crying... Yes or No.

Impostor: Ah...my enemies don catch me... just when I come hook one job...after all the suffering or joblessness... Ah.! My enemies strong o! I agree. I no dey argue again... I tell you say na my first salary I take carry that babe out...

Defense counsel turned down his head in dejection and helplessness as the clusters of laughter erupted from the court. The judge banged the gavel and bellowed Silence! A faint almost imperceptible smile creased the sitting judge's face. The Prosecution counsel knew he had him already.

Prosecution counsel: Please yes or no. The accused should stop deflecting. Yes or No!
Impostor: Yes o yes o! She dey cry. But not much... she dey cry o..

Prosecution counsel: Thank you Mr Impostor. I like your honesty. I want the court to note the cooperative demeanor of the accused.
Defense counsel: Objection!
Sitting judge: A little irritated. What is this objection for this time?
Defense counsel: The prosecution should stop patronizing my client.
The judge was momentarily lost on how to rule, but she wouldn't hide her disgust. She simply waved the Prosecution counsel to continue.
Defense counsel: Your lordship should kindly rule on my ....
Sitting judge: Overruled. Prosecution counsel can continue.

Prosecution counsel: So, Mr Impostor, how would you say a woman you're having s*x with that was crying had given her consent...or you just felt consent was not important for s*x?
Impostor: Noo. Noo.
Prosecution counsel: You mean, consent is not important for sex, or that it doesn't matter that my client was crying and begging you not to do it?
Impostor: No! Absolutely no! The accused looked at the despair on his counsel's face. Impostor started panicking again and addressed his monologue to his lawyer. Walahi talahi I no understand this man's questions. I no understand am shikinin. You tell me say if I no understand the questions I should just answer no... I am in trouble o.

Wow this guy is good. You got some useful talent that Bollywood could use. Or consider writing for magazines.

aeion:
Some of y'all will sleep with anybody, not giving a damn about who they are, the spiritual implications, etc. You met a girl one day and took her to the hotel to sleep with her on the same day. Na wa o. Women should start asking men for body counts before getting into relationships with them. Brostitutes everywhere.

Lol na wa o which one is Brostitutes again. Don't pretend these things don't happen all the time. Now I don't do such, I am a lot wiser and different now

SweetCunt97:
Well, there's always ass pad and high heels.

Which won't solve anything.

Phenomenal16:
If u know that u don't love her enough to be ur wife
Pls leave her alone
E get y
Don't go and suffer someboris pikin......sbdy that will love every part of her is coming.....
Go for ur spec

Where soffer enter this story?

Bornfool:
Na me won collect her number now , you no go fii manage d girl

grow up

funshint:
You don't deserve that girl. Please let her go so that you can both end up meeting your desires. Don't waste her time!

agreed

fyneboi79:
https://www.nairaland.com/5920042/experience-crying-pretty-19-year#90571686

meaning?

khia:
Maximus.

lol. Many people didn't like....

shawnfamous:
I love tall girls too. I met a girl about my height 6"2... she was happy she finally got someone her height.. so I was. but at the end I discovered that she wasn't very intelligent, maybe I expected too much.

I didn't see u talk about Her intelligence.. just a good job and physical appearance.. Find these inner things too to compliment the physical...

[b]meanwhile why would a girl b short and still doesn't have Ass.. [/quot[/b]e]

Exactly lol... I don't want to give too much away but I mean she's PERFECT. But sexual attraction is also important to me. I am not saying she should be that tall and big ass, average height and ass is ok. At least something to touch.

[quote author=Gaggi post=90580158]Why not ask any of your elderly male relatives? Most people here are kids and wouldn't know.

Thanks, I observe. Opinions are divided, some believe those attributes I am looking for are trivial while a few would say leave her.

Kobicove:
It's not always a good idea compromising on some attributes you want in a partner but also be aware that it's not possible to meet someone who has 100% of the qualities you desire!

I am not even looking for 100% . Some girls are average height with average ass and that's very ok

chiddyok:
Tall, big ass. Op talk true, which IndecentStar be your spec?

So only porn stars can be tall lol. I'm not even after big ass sef. At least average something.

Another thread from me again.

Hello everyone,

This is a very important issues and I would love to seek people's opinion on this. I don't think she knows about Nairaland so I will share and delete later.

Lately I have been dating with the intention of getting married but I don't think I have found the one. However, among the few ladies around me, there's this particular one that is perfect. I mean perfect. She's homely, caring and I really like her but the problem is I love two things in women:
A bit of ass - average or big ass & I don't find short girls attractive. I prefer average height to tall girls. I'm average height.

I don't know why but as far as I can remember I have always find tall ladies attractive or at least average height. Sometimes I am with this lady and in my mind I will be unhappy with her height and ass. She sometimes wear things that makes her height deficiency obvious.

She's 5ft.4, good job, family. She's just perfect and I really like her. This girl is every man's dream but I can't seem to look past the height. I tell myself, guy just manage, overlook these things but I keep having double mind.

I am still searching but I keep wondering if it is safe for me to just go with this lady despite the ass and height issue. I know these things would sound trivial and childish but we all have things we admire in the opposite sex. Even if I will overlook ass but height...

Please Nairalanders and married folks, is it ok to compromise on things you admire in the opposite sex when it comes to marriage? Afterall Nigerian women always get fat after marriage so even the ass may not be important then.

I would really appreciate your advice cos she has made it clear she's looking for a husband sensing that I won't marry her.

Is it childish thinking about ass size and height in marriage? Shouldn't I prioritize her homely and good character over those physical attributes? Pls advise

Iamundisputed:
Yea. Although it's not a new thing, women could be very emotional during sex, the fact that she gave you permission shows she wanted it, but you did well and you'll earn her respect for that.

On another note: flee fornication and try to settle down with one woman. Draw closer to your maker cos all these things get coded wahala. Peace bro!

I have received salvation. I'm a born again now, jokes apart.

Iamundisputed:
Hmm... Well I think this is common with a few ladies. For them it's just an emotional expression when someone is about to have sex with them for the first time. But you did good by leaving her that way to avoid stories that touch, make dem no say you rape am.

Lol especially now that rape is trending.

Alionamarshall:
Hi, greetings to everyone.

Please I need advice. Before now, I was sexually active. While growing up, I started having sex when I was 14yrs, I use to enjoy sex a lot with guys but suddenly when I became an adult, I noticed I stopped enjoying sex with guys. I noticed I was craving for a woman, at this point, I haven’t had sex with any girl yet (I was 19yrs).

So I decided to have sex with a girl so that all the craziness can stop because I know my mother will kill if she find out what am thinking (my mother and I are very close). But honestly, it become worse, I literally turned to lesbian sex addict. I had sex with any girl that showed interest on me, I even had sex with most of my friends ( I will indirectly lure them with nice things)

I know this is very wrong but I couldn’t tell anyone my problem not even my mom because I didn’t want to hurt her feelings! I decided to go to church and seek for deliverance, after delivery, it will feel like I’m healed but throughout that period, I will not be my normal self. I will be so lonely and depressed and before you know it, I will commit another sin.

I tried to get a man and fall in love with him but it didn’t go well because I couldn’t satisfy him sexually, I have gone to every church I can for deliverance and I have taken doctor’s prescription to boost my sexual libido but to no avail.

The only time I can have normal sex with a guy and enjoy it is when I’m on drugs.

I really hate myself and I have lost interest in having sex with everyone both men and women.

I don’t know how to improve my situation please help me.

I’m very scared of disappointing my mother! She means the world to me.

A little about myself.

I’m done with school and waiting for NYSC, would have been serving if not for covid 19.

I’m 26yrs old

I’m currently learning software engineering!

It is ok to lose interest in sex. Take this time to concentrate on your I.T skills and other career stuff. Don't worry about sex. The urge will return when you focus on other things. As for the usuage of drugs, it is a no no pls

khia:
My friend got married to a Nigerian immigrant. She is a member of the Church of Christ he was a Catholic and he converted to her faith. She had a 3 year old son whom he adopted, he didn't have any children. They have another son together now. He had no family members in the US so he sent for his mother and his aunt to attend the wedding.

He also bought traditional wedding attire for his bride and her bridesmaids. He and his best man were dressed in traditional attire as well. It was very colorful and beautiful. The color green was the theme. They met on a black people dating site. He drove from Wisconsin to California to meet her and go on their first date, 2,170 miles.

They have been married for at least 11 years now. When they first met they both were in school. He is a Nurse Practitioner and she is a Social Worker now.

Wow lovely, she will enjoy him cos Nigerians are generally family oriented. I once tried to marry a foreigner but she was too scared lol. She had heard so many things about Nigerians.

MedicH:
Okay before u start insulting, remember I said I have no answers to the questions I threw into the discourse. When a couple gets married in the traditional way and they later consult consulates for visa or something, what evidence do they present to the consulate as a proof of the union?

What is insulting about my message? Nothing. There's no physical paper evidence but these days people get papers from the court. But if u ask me, we should focus on our traditional values

This was an experience I still cannot interpret. Anybody ever experienced such?


This happened a while back, I saw this 19 yr old girl, very pretty face as I was leaving a business center, she was also leaving so I jokingly told her to ride with me. She joined me, I chatted her up as we drove, she was very jovial and chatty. We arranged to meet that evening. Shortly after dropping her, she called, sir I am just bored at home. Lol @ sir.

I picked her, we checked into this hotel, as I started touching this girl, she started crying. I tried to pacify her and know what was wrong but she said I should continue what I was doing that she's not crying because of me so I continued touching and rubbing while she continued crying.

The more I touch, the more she cries, every few minutes I will stop to ask what exactly is the problem, she kept saying just continue, continue. As she removed her clothes I stood to admire her fine body, she was still crying then I suggested we leave it for another day since she's not in a good mood but she insisted we continue.

When she removed her pant, I observed that she didn't smell fresh, nothing too bad but I was already so tired of her endless cries, it was beginning to look like I was forcing her even though I wasn't. I got up and insisted on leaving as I haven't experienced a girl crying instead of mourning for joy, it felt weird though she assured me her cries werent related to my touches but she REFUSED to tell me why she kept crying. I tried convincing her to talk, sweet talk her, praised her etc she refused.

As I started getting dressed she remained on the bed trying to convince me to stay saying I shouldn't waste the money paid for the hotel and that she does not want to return home but my mind was made up. I wasn't angry and I made her understand that, I promised that I will meet her next time when she's in a good mood.

But what baffles me, this girl was happy as I picked her. Told me all her life history, she was comfortable with me. No problems whatsoever. This girl even tried to convince me to have sex indirectly by saying she doesn't want to return home. Why then was she crying....

Ater that encounter, we kept in touch on phone but I lost interest in meeting her cos I knew I didn't want Anything besides casual... I eventually lost her number.

khia:
I'm trying to understand, I'm not Nigerian. My point is, if you have a traditional wedding wouldn't it make sense to use your extra money in securing a home, or saving for the future than to spend the money on a second wedding? I think I would treasure a traditional wedding over a western one if I were Nigerian.

The problem is that women like vanity, hence, you must spend that money on white wedding in order to make them happy.


Another reason, colonialism and the love for white people makes us believe less in our tradition. This general belief that if it's not foreign, it's not good, is a major reason for white weddings.

Lol @ your refund comment. Return of bride price is a symbolic gesture.

Traditional weddings are usually more colorful.

khia:
Others seem to think a white wedding is the most important so why have the traditional if you are going to have the western wedding. I'm just trying to understand.

Haven't you noticed that everyone do traditional marriage before white wedding while some do just traditional. Nobody does white wedding and leave traditional. So that tells you which is the most important. White wedding is merely a ceremony.

MedicH:
Customarily, the village chiefs and clan heads and elders who actually have most of the say in this setting consider the offsprings as legitimate products of a union they witnessed and raised their beer at. However, it's important to differentiate between legitimate and legal. If legal has to imply being constitutional and backed by state law, those kids can't be said to be legal because the union that produced them is not backed by a court.

Wrong, in Nigerian laws there is something called customary union/marriage. It is governed by customary law of marriage. Google it. Remember white wedding is English tradition. It is wrong to hold English tradition over your local custom. Don't speak from your head. Do your research NIGERIAN laws have what they call, customary law of marriage.

khia:
Good questions, do you have the answers? A friend said she has a traditional marriage but it's not legally binding.

Traditional marriage is dissolved through return of bride price.

The evidence of trad is not a paper but family elders who were present at the marriage

Ishilove:
I don't have energy for long typing.
This article deals extensively with the processes, validity and dissolution of customary marriages under the Nigerian constitution.

Nigerian laws recognize traditional marriage. In court all you need is oral/pictorial evidence from family members

Cc khia

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/339687110_THE_RULES_OF_MARRIAGES_UNDER_CUSTOMARY_LAW

khia:
What is the point in having a white wedding as well as a traditional one?

Traditional marriage is the most important in NIGERIA

robosky02:
Paulolee story fits our discuss
As a guy dt i am...let me twist the table in dating a married woman unknowingly last year in a boutique....she lied dt she was once married bt now a single mom, neva allowed me visit, neva allowed me ask about her lifestyle and kids and noticed she created a new f.b and watsap id, started aving mixed feelings when i was having strange dreams, for example seeing a strange angry man's face in my dream each night whenever we had sex.....didn't tell her but i told my keyboard fiend who did some findings and tracked her office and said shes happily married for 5yrs with 2 kids but the husband is the travelling type n thats how my feelings died because am a fan of dating matured woman dt is far older then me and she have that petty size and sharp curves...how it ended?? I jus blanked her after collecting a sizeable amount from her with format dt i want to invest in an upcoming project and after that alert, i texted her my findings n dt i would inform her husband if she calls or visits and dt was it...saw her early dis year in a mall with her kids n she jus smilled n said she really missed me...nt proud of wat i did, my friend adviced me to it and i pls dnt judge me bcoz the woman self no complain after that alert and besides she also broke me emotionally and mentally...allow GOD judge pls..

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A self confessed criminal, if na abroad now, police go trace your location. Na like this those guys for crime stories de start.

Dani93:
Should I quit the relationship ? I'm confuse seriously
I'm planing to go see her parent after her NYSC.
But d problem is that she doesn't have I'M SORRY in her mouth. She never apologize, and
She can argue for African, she throws insulted words 2 me sometimes, is like she don't have control over her mouth, if I complain she will just laugh it off.
And said is just a joke. I got angry with her
And she knows I was angry but she never apologize rather, she laugh and said it was just a joke
I don't understand that kind of behavior
I'm scared of after marriage she may not have respect for me yes. And for it not to grow to violent.
What should I do ?

You have to be careful o. Too many stories of women and men killing each other these days so be careful. I don't think she's 100% ready. I will suggest, talk to her about your concern then secretly watch if she takes correction, go for it but if she insist on arguing for Africa abeg let go

Don't worry, when she deliver go for test. Don't loose a good thing based on MERE suspicion. Be sure, when she gives birth do a DNA test. Now you must also tell her to cut everyother guy off

OBelz:
I've been in a very serious relationship with an Igbo guy. He's nice, handsome and we've been dating for 2 years. He talked about me meeting his family and I was very excited little did I know that it would turn out to be my worse nightmare.

I met his mum and she seemed really nice, but her attitude changed when she realized I'm a Yoruba girl. She immediately told me to my face that I can't marry her son. Her reasons weren't clearly stated but she said she doesn't like the Yoruba people. My heart melted, hot tears rolled down from my eyes; I'm Yoruba and I'm in love with an Igbo "mummy's boy".

I spoke with him about it and he keeps assuring me that it would be fine. It's been almost 2 years now and the family are still not in support of our union. Every time I try to move on he comes begging that everything would be fine and that we will get married. I really love this guy, why I love him I don't know because clearly he hasn't done anything to deserve my heart but... He doesn't have a good paying job yet, so I carter for most of his financial needs and even send some food to his village during festivity.

Just recently his mother called my parents to tell them that I can't get married to her son and asked that I should be warned to stay off her son.

He has travelled to his village for a week now and honestly I don't know where I stand... I really love him but what do I do?

Fake account and story. This story was shared on Twitter weeks ago

QuinModah:

Nailalanders , know now that QuinModah & OBelz are one and the same account.

Not too long ago, a colleague recommended this his cousin to me for possible marriage, we fixed a venue to meet. I arrived there before her, when she finally came, she wore something like a singlet and was sweeting seriously. She didn't look like he described, I gisted a little and made excuse on why I needed to leave early. God forgive me cos I didn't pick or text back afterwards.

Saintmary:
Are you sure this guy is not using yyou for sex?
You cried over sex?

Why are you surprised? Is se x not important enough to cry over?

Casandra25:
I have been with this guy for 2 years. In the beginning, the sex was just okay but just as it does it started to fade off. He got mad about it. He made this huge wahala about it at the time and it really changed the way that I saw sex in the relationship it went from a natural expression to a task I had to fulfill. I tried doing it just to make him happy, but he didn't want it unless I wanted to which was not going to happen every day like he wanted. Something you should know is that I have never had an orgasm with him at all Asin at all at all.
He can have me like 3 times a day and always sleeps after. Therefore, whenever I go to visit him all he wants is just me having sex with him all day and napping in between which is not fun for someone with a brain and feelings. He sees the fact that I want to go out and do things with him as something that friends do and not partners. I feel really used since sex is so one-sided. I have gone to doctors for my new low libido, but they are not helpful. He is not as talented in bed as he claims and says how he has never had any issues with other girls. He just doesn't want to listen to me and my needs, but gets very angry every few months by claiming I am making excuses for not wanting to have sex. I truly am tired because I have a full life with a lot of responsibilities. The last thing I want to do at the end of the day is to deal with this and the pressure. I just want to relax and not have the pressure of someone touching me and asking me for sex all the time. What do I do? How do I close this massive orgasm gap with someone unwilling to change?

He doesn't love you, a guy who loves you will not brush aside important complain as this. He is using you for sex while waiting for love