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fati2001:






He made good his threat
He had always used the words 'I'll kill you'
Yesterday evening, he fulfilled it!
She was 6months pregnant and she died with the baby, she died of internal bleeding and multiple injuries to vital organs!
He always beat her up at the slightest provocation not minding that she's heavy with their 4th child..
Her excuse was, 'I can't leave my children'
She prayed!!!
She wasn't a troublesome woman, very peaceful and loved by all who knew her, everyone knew she was living with a monster, almost everyone told her to leave..
Nurse, you should understand, she said..
My kids are still tender she said..
Where do I start from if I leave??
I got tired of the excuses and opted to just listen whenever she comes to have a shoulder to cry on, for she wasn't interested in all the solutions I offered, she just wanted advice on how to avoid being beaten, or rather endure the beating!

I took a last look at her lifeless body with the bulging stomach and sighed
Patricia now the children are motherless, you finally left but not with them
You left them alone!
Who knows?? They may join you one after the other by the time their beast of a father is done with them
Maybe the new wife will do it before he does
I didn't have tears left..
I just sighed...
Another has been added to the number..
Strengthening the resolve never to talk to people like her..
All I feel is anger..
Not for the man who murdered her..
She could have left, but she chose to die for children who may now likely follow suit..
All the beast said was 'I didn't mean to kill her'
Nobody accepts meaning murder, dimwit..
I have no business with you, she offered her life to be sacrificed, only that it's a waste


zzor, virginprincess mrscarter petyprincess baddiefreak.

Do women ever listen? No. Men who beat their gf/wife ALWAYS end up killing them. Its been a long time practice

Becca350:
Some thing has been bothering me I don't know if I should share it here for advise

Baby we are here for you, dont keep us waiting.

debbydams:
smiles, nobi every cloths person dey put for sun,, shit happens we meuvvvvv

Tell us naw, you abort for him? What did he do?

debbydams:
ask him o awon oniranu.. Someone disappointmented me today chai,, e pain me I swear If I say any negative word to that person no pastor go cure am o but sha I dont need to, God has bn so good to me.. We meuvvvvv

Wanna share?

Nothing bad, congrat on your marriage. You go still make money though I am angry that u didnt take my advise. INVEST AND EXPAND your finances first, its always better. Women are very unreasonable people generally but still the greatest gift to men as we are incomplete without them. Now she will want to waste your money on frivolities : clothes, cars, jewelries, expensive schools for children, her family etc (not that shes wicked, they are ALL LIKE THAT). Knowing all these, it is always better to expand finance by having a business by the side.

The only problem with poligamy is that there are more disadvantages than it's advantages. Don't think only of yourself and your desires. Think of the greater good.


Anytime I talk to people who were brought up in poligamy, their experience is always terrible. Most people on NL are small children without experience, if you follow these advice, be sure you may regret it. Please delete that woman from your mind and move on with your family. A word is enough

MacMkboy:
What city are you in?

Lag

So everybody de dere lane for this mata

Yeah but not far far older with 15 years, that’s a lot

Uncle93:
Your age is quite okay and you will easily find a younger girl of 24/25 for marriage, maybe youre in the wrong city

I am in the right city but those 24/5 girls are too young for late 30s, in my opinion

Freelane33:
Hmmmmmmm

Yeah

I’m a bit tired and getting ready to sleep so won’t write much. I am one of those guys they could describe as, late flowers. Those are flowers that bloom late, that is they bring out those beautiful colours late compared to others flowers . I have shared some of my stories in the past. Like many Nigerian guys, I didn’t get a job after graduation for many years but kept developing myself sha. Due to financial instability, I didn’t get married and of course no woman will date you for long in that state. Good job came around 36 or so, few years later things are a lot better & more stable. It’s time to get married but all the girls I keep running into are indomie and egg girls (21 -25) can barely have a proper conversation apart from “have you eaten etc.” I feel the older girls are either married or at work so one can’t see them whereas these younger slayers/students are jobless especially with COVID and ASUU so spend all day on the streets, hence, easy to find some of them are decent though but I prefer age difference of around 4 to 9 years not 15/16 . I will advise younger guys not wait cos from my experience, if you want to get married as a 40 yr old man, most ladies you will be seeing will likely be much younger. Relatives will also keep shouting and warning you to avoid 32 - 40 year old girls due to pregnancy issues . That leaves you with only 22 to 31 years old ladies. if you don’t work in the bank or civil service, you may not see late twenties ladies. Hence you will end up with indomie girls that were in primary school while you were rounding up university . Hopefully the economy get better so that upcoming guys find their footing early.

Questions:

Has anyone experience marriage with huge age gap?
Are they advisable?

I do ask myself sometimes, is our First Lady and Melania Trump happy?

Do such relationships work out well?

How do one cope with their sexual prowess later in life?

Will they eventually be able to hold proper conversations?

ZINIBANKS:
Impostor run they're coming

Lol, just advise. They either take or leave it

Greed for food.

I just noticed that Nigerian ladies (girls & women) love food so much. Hence, most of them (65%) are fat, overweight, big etc. I am not here to bash. I love Nigerian women so much but I think this big appetite for food is a problem.

I have this lady who keeps complaining to me about her weight but each time I try to make her understand that it's time to eat less. She will argue and shout me down. She believe weight has nothing to do with food. Will also insist that it's genetics but she can't just stop eating.

I started noticing that it's a trend among women in general, they will say they are "foodies" trying to make it sound cool.

I also started noticing that anytime I am in a bar/restaurant, the women want to eat everything. It's almost as if they are constantly hungry on dates. You are fat, yet you want VIJUMILK, YOGURT, FRUIT JUICE etc.

When I started discussing my observation with guys I discovered that many guys feel the same way. They will be pretty as youth but will quickly become double/tripple in size upon marriage/age.

There's nothing wrong with adding weight here and there, it is natural that we do as age comes but please let's take care of our body by eating less.

Guys, cut out the beer or reduce it.

Ladies, I'm sorry but it's not cool/attractive being overweight. That is why our society have so many married men chasing after young girls who are still in shape. Please let reduce the urge to eat always. It's damaging to the body. Cut it out.

Most men are not sexually attracted to fat/big but they just manage what they have. Please let's control our food intake.

I know that some people will naturally be big and some may be on health grounds, we excuse those but for the vast majority of Nigerian women, the fat is due to FOOD.

I think rather than eat a full restaurants on date while harming your body, you can take soft drinks or water and playfully tell the guy to transfer the cash to you instead. Most guy would.

Ayotemide:
The legal age is put at 21 in many countries because they know that maturity for matters of marriage and pregnancy might overwhelm teenagers who are still navigating life with raging puberty hormones.

He might state that she is an 'adult' because she claims to be 19 but I would like to state that marriage is more than a tight vagina. It's required maturity might be missing in a 19year old.

PS:
I started an Online Petition to bring an end to indiscriminate display of uncensored dead bodies on Nairaland, please sign:
https://www.nairaland.com/6083903/signatures-needed-online-petition-end#93367853

Thank you.

This is a brilliant write up, marriage is definitely beyond thight Virginia, mental maturity matters.


I don't agree that all dead bodies be censored, people have right to view uncensored images. Please don't infringe on that because of your personal feelings

Don't let your dad stand in your way cos he's excuses are not good enough. Keep pushing for him to accept the girl, pass through your mum & siblings. Keep insisting. Having said that;

Beware that women are generally wicked people (it's a natural traits), this girl you want to marry will definitely help you see reasons why you should stop helping your family & will naturally like to keep them far from you by pointing out reasons and how finally pressed you are and that maybe you should tell your dad that this month you don't have money so please with him to wait till next month. She will make comments in passing over n over again at how that your sister is a spoilt brat who can't wash plates clean whenever she visit....so on.

Be on guard

nkemdi89:
To all those asking what are Nigerians doing in Pakistan? Many of them are student , some are workers especially in their healthcare, while some are teachers.

Stop lying, who will employ you as a health care worker in Pakistan? I use to have one of them as classmates. It's a poor country with huge unemployment crisis, them never employ their people na you go come get teaching n nursing job there? Go to Dubai, UAE etc na Pakistanis de do all the dirty jobs there due to unemployment crisis in their country.

To all those asking why Nigerians went there:
These are Nigerians living here who went there to import Agro products, garments etc, a few went to seek cheap health care. While they were there, borders were shut and they became stranded, de even ran out of money. Nonetheless, I won't be surprised to hear that there are Nigerians living there

Lalalash:
Welcome home guys, they must have gone through a lot that they didnt mind getting corona in they plane

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maiyee:
well said, you are living with your "heavily" pregnant sister and you cannot assist her with most of the house chores if not all.
Your conscience should tell you to relieve her of work as she is feeding, housing and taking care of you... What are you contributing?
How do you visit someone older than you and still be waiting to be told to getup early and clean, SMH

Shut the fk up, I dislike this type of mentality. She is doing her part, you want her to kill herself because she lives with an older sis. Read the post, her sis is not pregnant.

DenreleDave:
Sometimes back, naso I arrange appointment with a lady.. Naso the lady come, entertained her, she carry her smoke. Naso Night reach as we don do do finish, we kon sleep. Trust mi, I cud not sleep overnight. Yes I could not sleep.

Why? I have always read bad news on nairaland about someone dying in another person place and it always ring in my mind.. Funny enough, the Mumu girl is not feeling fine and she never told me...
I was almost awake through out the night checking if she is breathing, anytime I suspect she isn't breathing, I tap her and she moves her body... I was even regretting why I had to let her sleep overnight sef but don't blame me, she came in the evening...

Guys, if you get any arrangement with a babe, Pls let her come in the morning and leave that same day, probably evening.. The enjoyment una wan enjoy for night can be enjoyed from morning to evening.. Don't let any lady sleep over.

Disadvantages:

1. She may be possesed (medium risk)

2. She may die in your care (very high risk). Imagine a young guy like you with a bright future going to jail for something u don't know about....

3. You yourself may die.. Hence endangering the lady's life. ...

I remember going to Lagos high Court for affidavit and I saw prisoners about to be judged coming down from the prison bus, mehnn. I knew some of them are accused of what they are not guilty for.... I pray that none of us will be unfortunate ooo

Nigeria is already messed up.. Notin like doing a forensic autopsy to ascertain the true cause of the death...

Advantages of avoiding sleeping over :

1. Peace of mind, even if she wan die overnight, she go go die for her place but pray she wunt die after leaving ur place for home

2. Any style u wan do in the midnight can be done in the day time

3. Her moaning wunt disturb the neighbors cox them go dey busy


Be wise.. Don't ever invite a lady over, any sex u Wana enjoy overnight can be enjoyed during the day..


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Wow very sensible post. Good to know there are sensible guys here

Raeheemwayne:
The same husband that raped you, Is also an HIV patient.
In essence, you're also a carrier - sorry, I pity your condition.

what is wrong with this children? This forum is getting messed up. Where did she say rape

Casalindal:
We got married months back.. a “court wedding”
His hiv status

Why naw? That is a very sensitive information. I'm a man so I will tell you the secret, if you love him be persistent. Continue calling with new sim, text your apologies. He will calm down if you continue to show interest

IvarDboneless:
You made a valid point, can one easily say we are one people when you put all this together.

No we are not. With Buhari we are even more divided

Unfortunately I will tell you the truth. It is not ok. Don't be a weak man, you are her elder brother. Like someone said, tell her off. It is not ok at all. What is this world turning to? Your parents will become a laughing stock and will be so ashamed of her. How can you give her your blessings without putting up a good fight? I know how my dad will be so persistent on issues until you will finally succumb, that's parenting. How can you just encourage that shit so easily? Even if you will finally support you are supposed to exhaust all options. I'm so disappointed. What are our generation of men turning to? We r too weak unlike the days of our fathers. Don't let anyone tell you that it is ok because it is not. You love her so you have her support. Even Ukrainians are not completely open to homosexuality. This is wrong. Biblically and morally

Truth be told, Yoruba, Igbos and Hausa are very tribalistic. Infact I discovered there are just a few Yorubas and Hausas living in the east(Igbo land). Igbo man will not let you trade comfortably in Ariaria market, Yoruba people think only of themselves and their fellow Yorubas. As for Hausa, don't even go there, they are SO SO TRIBAL, they can even kill you

AlphaMajestic:
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yea nice advice but i dont mean to brag, i go use dana so your calculation no balance..the thing with forums is that you cannot direct topics to a particular class of people...even almajiri dey get access to every topic...sha you people should not kill me, i no well

Abeg shut d fuc up, lol @ Almagiri. Well like you can c most people are against your going and so am I. Normally ladies who are really interested in you would fly from US & back just to see you. What the hell is service that she can't take a few days off? Besides I have been in situations where women would say no sex but would usually leave small window of opportunity. Telling you outrightly with a Stern tone means you don't mean much. She's just curious and want to meet you, nothing too serious. I will suggest you give her attitude by not calling frequently to see if she will be worried at sudden change of attitude. Take note, she will see this post.

Additionally, YOU STAND THE RISK OF CONTRACTING CORONA VIRUS wether you travel by air, road or water. Use your head for crying out loud. Her pucy may even be smelling after risking your life to travel all that journey. You guys make all these girls to feel too important thus creating problem for guys. Carry your self like a king and watch you fk women anyhow

Lol, she feels so entitled.

Joycekkh:
Yeah, whatever! She is still a teenager.

Yeap, a willing teenager. Absolutely nothing wrong with it. Old enough to be fkd. So no big deal.

Joycekkh:
Then how come you meet a 19years old girl randomly in the street and the next thing is you touching her, you don't have the moral standing to call yourself a non sexual person.

Calm down, I know myself much more than you think. People meet themselves everyday and fvk the same day. It happens all the time. I'm not saying it's right. That I tried sleeping with her the same day does not mean that is me, it was a random event. More out of curiosity and the temptation to get laid. I certainly don't go sexing everyone I meet. I have had girls with accommodation issue sleep in my house for days.

Prognose:
Op a girl cant be mourning for joy.

You meant moaning. Moaning for joy, not mourning.

Meanwhile, yes, some young girls do this. It's an emotional thing. They cry cos they feel guilty and yet they tell you to go ahead. E good say you run sha.

Oh yes, thanks. Moaning not mourning

Chuky7:
my own is...jokingly told her to ride with me...What's the Scope...

those who know knows

Iamundisputed:
Yea, she might not have been a prostitute, but she's obviously randy and randy girls easily carry diseases and spiritual problems... This is a fact.

NIGERIAN mentality