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Madam this honestly has nothing to do with spiritual husband. The connection is SIMPLY NOT THERE. There’s no love between you two. It is better you find a space, get away from him, a break of some sort, you will be able to think and find clarity. Be ready for societal battles thou as many will oppose your leaving him. Separation is better for the guy n you. Otherwise you will end up wasting his and your years

Girlwhocares:
Yes,have been dating my bf for (15yrs)he was my first nd the only one have ever loved,our problem started when my dad said he witnessed where exhibited an unruly characters to some elders and also cos of the friends he moves with recently as at then and that he wasnt comfortable with our relationship (which i pleaded and made him understand everyone deserves another chance but cos how principled my dad was he insisted he won't consent to our union)
To be candid,this is the guy have share all my life with,he's all i wanted in a man but my dad opinion ruined our relationship.

I think seperation from my husband is all i need just for clarity sake but honestly,the more i try to make the marriage work the more i drift away from him and I dont know how to go about it.

I have visited two marriage counsellors without informing my husband all in my effort to work things but not yielding results as expected

Foodqueen:
U"ve ended up saying nothing.

Surely you must agree that some of the pipo here are guilty? Criminals live among pipo.

LarryBee1k:
Rape is nothing to joke about.
What's worse than Rape is false accusations. Men are still fighting the stigma. You're here displaying your ignorance.

No one is accusing anyone here or making a joke out of serious issue. I believe there r one or two here on NL

LarryBee1k:
Come closer OP

Move closer seh naw

*loud*:you're mad!

Any confessions? How many u don force?

illicit:
someone from this forum has lied to me before

about this topic?

illicit:
talk your own

Share your thoughts/confessions

Jayy10:
Op come back here o! You never share anything. What exactly is your point? Why did you want us to know this?

Lol I want people to share their experience. And to let people know that criminals live and work among us

SLAP44:
The OP should go and collect a masters degree in the course called "Beating about the bush"

I don't understand? How?

Hello,

To many of us NL has become some sort of a community. We meet people and make friends but then again, just like in our regular communities, it is difficult to tell who the rapists and armed robbers are because it is not written on people's faces. Do you know that, that funny guy on NL, that guy that is contributing to your topic or even advising you might be a rapist or an armed robber? Yes, these vermins in our societies are right here hidding behind their phone and internet.

Many guys on here may have raped someone at one time or the other in their life? They may even be serial rapist or armed robbers. Even one of these guys reading this post right now knows within his heart that he is guilty.


Why am I writing this? A friend I had known for ages decided to share something with me many years ago BUT I am still can't forget his story after all these years. His story shows that you can never know people completely and why did he tell me? Only God knows.




Anyway I just thought I should share.

Guys if anyone of you have an experience, please share..

EkelediliBuhari:
Quick one.

I have a fiance whom I have groomed into a woman and planning on getting married this year. I also have a land with an approved building plan in PH and a small business plan.

However, am having second thoughts, planing on relocating abroad. Nigeria is in shambles, war fit start anytime, you fit even die anytime, no security or Healthcare, only churches... A wife would mean more responsibility amid these crisis...


With a financial base of N4m and monthly income of 250k what would you advice? Make I travel abi stay here marry and hope for the best...??

NB: I have 3 friends in this same deilema.. Look well self, you wey never marry, e dey bother you....

Listen, I am advising from experience. Leave the travelling abroad thing, na stuggle. I don't want to write much. Just use that 4m, remove 1m buy three fairly used Keke, give out on hire purchase as they start bringing income, use the profit to be expanding your business, with time get a bus, de increase your financial capital. Marriage is important but still shift it by a year. Marry her after a year. Not now. Invest WISELY and grow your finance.

Anyone outside Lagos n Abuja, getting 250k / month is a VERY BIG GUY IN TODAY'S NAIJA.

XhosaNostra:
Lol IDK. Probably my whimsical nature, my genuinity, intensity (I'm very expressive) & the fact that when I do care, you become the center of my universe I can be quite a starry-eyed romantic.

I like this, though with too much attention men generally feel chocked

AshiraWealthy:
He always said on too pretty and intelligent. So I guess my pretty face and intelligence..
My pointed mmm..... Pointers
The way I play a lot. I'm a very jovial person as in I can play for Africa.

Upload pic, let's judge

Prognose:
Oh so you're now condoning infidelity?

Infidelity is better than rape

Apeshy101:
Pls explain more

Cuz in our on context, she initially refused, but later agreed!


What's the different between coercion and force here?

Coercion is when you persuade a girl to have sex like in the chat of the op. She didn't want to have sex but he kept pushing and pushing (with words and pleas. It is the type of rape that ALL NIGERIAN MEN are guilty of.

Auntyesther:
Wetin i wan talk now?

Advise her from your own squirt experience naw. Don't be stingy

The danger of beating your wife is that in MANY cases the pictures below is the summary of the end. From my experience, OP HOW OLD IS YOUR HUSBAND? PLS LADY MATURITY ALSO MATTER. A 25 YEAR OLD GUY MAY NOT BE AS MENTALLY MATURED AS A 25 YEAR OLD GIRL.

Your all need to control your an

Give her a little time, she may not be able to drop all her past immediately. These things require time in some cases.

How can you just appear from nowhere and expect her to drop everyone just like that.

Prognose:
The funniest thing is that

If he had agreed for the sex to happen later, it would have been the begining of sex postponement and eventually lack of sex over flimsy reasons in the marriage

Common don't justify evil. You will have female children. If she deny him of sex, he can always get it from outside. Raping his own wife is extreme

Nigerians r impossible. Did you not read about the RAPE? He tore her clothes and raped her. Beat her to his satisfaction n RAPED HER. That was extreme to a new bride. A new bride that people pamper n carry like eggs in those days. If not for the now rampart premarital sex. How can you beat n rape your wife. Wife beaters hardly stop. This is how it starts n then becomes the norm. If she's working n able to fend for herself she should leave. It's too demeaning especially cos he's not sorry

This post is highly underrated. Though I have a problem, all the ladies I am seeing are unemployed. One particularly is so beautiful, she's just rounding up final year and as usual with Nigerian girls, she's reading one of those useless courses but she fine die. I keep thinking if I should date her but I think I will leave her cos unemployed ladies are not advisable.

mzcamii:
That's the thing, am still in skul. i can't get rid of it, I'm scared, i dn't knw what to do

Well we all make mistakes sometimes. It has happened, now you need to act fast since it's only about a month old. Remember it is dangerous, don't go to a clinic alone or with any of the guys. Tell your parents. I repeat TELL YOUR PARENTS. They will blame you, get angry with you but will take you through a safer route

Mstick:
Oga if you’re running nuts like you claimed you wouldn’t add all the flimsy details about giving your wife money knowing fully well how much it triggers the boys on this forum, after all if you don’t give your wife money who will?

I don’t understand why you need to add the “she practically doesn’t work” part if you really don’t want your wife to be insulted by kids on this forum.

Your sex life is NOT anyone’s business and it’s also not for public consumption so why do you need to add that detail?

If you feel your wife doesn’t love you, don’t you think she’s on the best position to answer that instead of exposing your family to ridiculous advice from never do wells?

I saw someone quoted you below with a very harsh response. Maybe you have deleted or modified but I pity you.

Look at you calling others never do wells. If we investigate properly we would find out that you are one of those girls from very poor homes forming what they are not online. What is wrong with someone asking for advice on here? You will be surprised at the quality and level of people here. I am here and I have asked for a sort of advise/opinion on various issues because I actually needed to know what people think. I have also contributed to other people's topics, I have a job and I am doing well. I am sure it's not the same for you and your brothers. It's your type that goes on dates looking for meals that their fathers cannot afford. Forming something online. Get lost abeg.

Edo women believe that pussy pays the bills. Simple as that, I know them. An Edo guy once told me he can NEVER marry an EDO woman. We know that Nigerian women mostly heap all their responsibility on guys but it's worst for Edo women who believe that as long as you are sleeping with them, you must also pay all their bills. Na Hussle for them

Davvy001:
I'm 35 and i Bleep girls between 10 to 16 in Aka ibom. most of them start having sex from 9

Oh my God! You should be arrested. He’s even boosting

pakingzzzzz:
I am Kingsley Obinna by name, Igbo by tribe, 5.8ft tall, Chocolate complexion, self employed and I am based in Lagos..

I am seeking for a female partner from any tribe, excluding Hausa, to settle down with.
Anyone who is based in Lagos would be preferable. Should be a working class, and could be any complexion. She should be kind in heart and matured in mind too.
I can be reached via SMS or whatsapp; 08164679552 .
Scammers and impersonators please stay clear!!

Why did you say excluding Hausa? Do they come online too?

makydebbie:
Hmmmm okay.

Pretty girls @ dp. You n your girls?

StaffofOrayan:
All of una go beg for break up soon.
You think you are talking to a rational man?

Meaning? The North will never. Oil money sweet

Just today the president said "I have kept my promise of ending Boko Haram"

https://www.nairaland.com/5672491/buhari-kept-promise-end-boko

Margy:
See op... if you are truly in love with your wife, and you are sure you are the father of those kids, and your wife loves you but can't stop flirting.... and even after counsel she hasn't changed. And you truly want your family to work.

Take this advice!.. when having a heart to heart talk with her... boom.. do a blood covenant.. who ever flirts..cheats or in any sexual mood with any person...madness straight.. make sure the blood is flowing plenty during the covenant.. i swear.. this will put fear into her!

Which lady wanna be mad��

Don't listen to this fetish Yoruba woman. They r always spiritual

Your wife is manipulating you, she knows that you will always accept her back. The only way this will end is by letting family and friends know what has been happening. IF YOU WANT YOUR MARRIAGE TO WORK THEN YOU MUST EXPOSE HER. Don't cover up for her. You are playing with fire, this is dangerous. If she meet one of those guys that can fuk brains out of a woman, she might endanger your life. Don't joke with this. Give her another chance, if she still doesn't change then you have to leave. Divorce should be A LAST RESORT cos of your family but you must now stand your ground and be a man. Put a stop to it. Hide her phone when she is sleeping. Don't give it back. Stand your ground now


Pls carry out a DNA test on your kids ASAP.

Your story is difficult to believe, I hope you are now wasting our time. I she respectfully add that u are A WEAK MAN.

A. DNA test,

This Buhari is a calamity

The honest truth is that Nigerians are tired of these never ending robberies. To make matters worst, these robbers sometimes shoot their victims. Buhari has made everyone poorer, the economy is harsh for most Nigerians. Many people are just managing with the little they have, yet some people have made it a duty to take the little you've worked hard for via robbery. Being a victim of armed robbery is a traumatizing experience that nobody should be made to go through. If people are caught in the act, I think they she be beaten thoroughly to act as a lesson then handed over to the police for prosecution. Jungle justice might result in the death of innocent people.