₦airaland Forum

Hello everyone,

We all know how this country is now. I have a job with a fair Salary but in Nigeria you can't rely on salary if you really want to live well. I know a guy who uses his car for Uber after work and makes about a 100k by the side apart from his salary. People are hussling in order to cash in on the economy.

I have always like transport business but Nigerians are generally very untrustworthy and wicked when it comes money. If you think I am lying, simply borrow your neighbor/friend money and see if they return it without a fight��.

Now to my reason for posting.

I have been asking Keke drivers questions and also doing my research. From my findings, it is a very lucrative business, if you can get a good driver. I want to start this business, get the Keke and give someone to ride. They pay 3k/day but I am concerned about the safety of the Keke as someone gave his Keke to a driver and the man disappeared with the Keke till today.

My intention is to start with one Keke and then expand to 10 gradually. I don't have the money right now but will raise the money for one then raise for the second then continue until 10 with time. I will try to mordernize the business by including Keke as private taxi, delivery and normal mass transport. Now the issue is that I will be using people and since Nigerians are generally insincere with anything money, I would really need to put trackers in the keke so as to be sure. Does anyone have personal experience with CHEAP and effective trackers. The key word is cheap & affordable & reliable trackers that I can buy? Please I really need advice on this.


I also intend to grow the business into interstate buses and mini trucks/tiper for carrying goods.

Casalindal:
Hi guys... so as we keep self isolating ourselves please let remember to also keep full precautions as self isolation is not enough stay safe everyone my thoughts are with you all.

So my weeding is so right at the corner and there have been this issue between me and my fiancé about my male friend being my maid of honor, He has been my bestie for years and I feel if there is anyone I have had this total connection with? It will be him I love him so much. His sense of humor and judgement are so exceptional... I have found a great friend with him but my fiancé is saying he doesn’t want him because of his sexuality, now this is the latest drama in the house and I am not going back on my stand my bestie is walking me and that is final. Guys what are your thoughts

You want to get married and you saying "that is final" marriage is full of compromise o. Now that you've started with I am not going back on my stand... weldone

pmoye:
I feel your pain and your shock at what our society seems to have become. But you got a number of things wrong which I will treat point-by-point

1) the economy is never to be blamed for ladies who are materialist. Otherwise we can also go ahead and use the economy to justify why yahoo boys, ritualists, religious leaders, politicians, and armed robbers go ahead to rob people. Economy or no economy individuals reserve the right and the choice of their response to it. Some ladies respond with hard work, smart investment and building businesses, while other ladies choose to become entitled to other's money.
2) physical beauty must never be an important fact in choosing a lady. Once she feels entitled to what you have you have to cut her lose, except the sense of entitlement is mutually tolerated and exercised by the two of you. I don't have to point it out that many of our men too are too damn entitled to the possession of their friends, families and partners.
3) stop painting our mothers in holy halo: some of them are worse than the ladies of our generation. In summary, it takes a ph.u.cked up mother to raise a ph.uck.ed up daughters, and many of us men are also a culmination of our fathers. Accept that ugly side of the truth and then we all can admit that many of us have been messed up by the very parents and society that produced us. In fact a large number of Nigerian men and ladies are choosing not to marry because of the examples they have seen in their parents growing up.
4) A man should only marry when he is financially able to take care of himself, his wife and his children. The same goes for men that have reckless sex and later insist a lady should terminate the pregnancy. Only a stupid man makes such a mistake, and a dumber lady allows herself to be put in such a position like this by a man who has no plans. It doesn't matter how long it takes you as a man to become financially capable of marrying, make sure you are before you are married. It may take 1 year, 10 or 20 years: this life is not a competition. And it is highly irresponsible of you to try to marry and produce children when you are not economically equipped to do so. You end up producing materialistic girls that tax prospective suitors out of their mind, and boys that are subjected to the kind of hussle that their fathers should have done.
5) Yes, money is pretty much everything. It is only a freakishly rich man or woman who is qualified to say money is not everything. You may think it is not everything, but it damn well answers all things.
6) This is my last point on this. There are no rules for relationship or marriage. Each lady you meet as a man is different from the last. So, be kind enough to treat them with respect, of course until they mess up and show you that they are not deserving of that respect. We all have met great girls who give no rat's ass how much you have, and they are only interested in your vision. So, can we cut down on the stereotypes against women? Shall we?
And no, I ain't married either, but this hasn't stopped me from meeting some great ladies. And yes, I have had nasty experience with Nigerian babes. The entitlement mentally is almost strictly a Nigerian thing (some, not all though, but a significant 'some'). Many of the European girls I know would get offended if you even as much as try to pay for their meal.

Good luck searching for Ms Right.

Thanks, I agree with some points raised here

dauddy97:
I am still an undergraduate. What are the needful?

after NYSC, look for a little stability and get married, don’t wait to have all the money or comfort

Williamsesco:
did u have anyone because am over due @40years

Which kind question be that? What about her?

U1:
Well, it depends on the taste and preferences of the man. Quote me: that 50k will take care of MY average monthly needs, including the ones you mentioned, with some money to spare. It's about cutting your cloth according to your cloth.

I have heard of a man and his wife who earned 25k each from their teaching jobs - maybe the wife even earned less. They had children.

Husband and wife on 25k?
Nobody wants to live that kind of life. It's a life of struggle. In Lagos, 20k out of that 50k will go for transportation. You will have 30k left. What about rent? A good sef con will take 200 & 1 bedroom apartment cost 300/350k. So what's the point?

Ballary:
This your story is pathetic, imagine 13 years without a job, that's were naija have put us in.

It will be much better to look for an understanding girl without liability and settle with, and see how it goes.

I agree with you on this one. Going abroad will take him another 6 years to be ready. Then he will be almost 50 and still a bachelor. Guys be wise o

TOPCRUISE:
It's a 50-50. Others that concur with op unfortunately get heavily indebted and they borrow with deception to finance their family with no intent to repay. Majority of Nigerians fall into this category. I am 37, graduated 13 years ago looking for a job but found nothing. Started a business but business is failing. I am broke and with a bsc degree I am doing ACCA to reactivate my career. Every opportunity to make money and settle down and move out of this country is my focus. God forbid I impregnate a hustling lady. I am finished

I no fit laff abeg, why travel out now to start hustling abroad? You can make it here. What is wrong with impregnating her? Ona go ruff am together. There's more to life than money. Family love surpasses most material things

Walkingkilo:
Very thoughtful and conscious write-up I must say!

Hommie, i'd be honest with you

The truth is you cant win! You just cant win! You need to make peace with that fact.. The society we live in is in a sorry state of squalor!
Both ways, you're fvcked

You date/marry an unemployed and avaricious lady, bills go kill you

who be this guy? Sir, it's good to be positive. Besides, better to have her power tussle or not.

Rukkydelta:
Are you rich yourself?
And when does being broke becomes a crime

Maybe she's not living in Nigeria.

U1:
@Impostor...that username, though.

I agree with a major thrust of your post: getting married earlier if you're lucky to have a supportive partner. It reminds me of a topic I created last year.

Lucky that you finally got a decent job. There are many guys out there who are still unmarried because they don't have such. Good luck.

But that your friend, though. Complaining about 50k for a teaching job in a country where teachers (especially those in private schools) are underpaid? The typical salary I hear about is between 20k and 40k. You may even be surprised that some of these teachers are family people with children.

An outstanding username . To be honest, 50k cannot give any grown man a decent life in big cities. Transport cost is huge, house rent, you need to feed, you need to subscribe your phone etc, nothing will be left at the end.

cerpvad:
Chai bruh, you don suffer enough waiting for all those years before landing a decent job. But my advice is that please don't be hell bent on settling down only with a working class lady. If she is not working, that is the only way you get to press her mumu buttons very well. Look for a lady that your current economic status can impress not the one who will look at you in the face and call your bluff after marriage just to prove she is a working class like you too

10 years na nothing for Naija. This country go humble you lol

evil1:
I currently have the same mentally.
I'm 26 this year, no job yet, though I'm a graduate.
I have a girlfriend she has good home training and very good but the only problem is that she loves material things and stuffs like vacation with the family kind off stuff. though she doesn't disturb me but I'm thinking she might be a problem if I settle down with her considering if I can't provide what she wants at a particular time.

Don't settle with that type of a woman, you will have issues.

PrimadonnaO:
When you find a girl who really loves you and believes in you, you'll be really fine.
I had my first boyfriend when I was in Uni. I loved him so much that I was ready to get married to him ASAP. I knew what the future held for him... and for me. We'd have been okay. Bur uncle wanted to make all the money first. We broke up at some point.

Years later, he's trying to get serious and wants us back. But I've moved on.

P.S The people y'all are dating who want to wreck you financially don't love you. If all they do is ask ask ask, even when it's obvious that you can't conveniently afford what they're asking for, then just know it's not a love relationship. They have no other reason being with you. So if they must stay, the cash must roll.

This is the absolute truth, they don't love enough so why not cash in on the relationship. That is the mindset. I have come to terms with this.

Gandollaar:
See Lamentations!!


A thread for broke guys.

Helinues Sarrki.

You wrong, not for broke guys. We just sharing like experiences. Besides I was onces a broke guy, it takes time but every broke guy you see today will not remain broke

WhatIf:
I saw her when she 18, trained her on Desktop publishing, and I thank God, the rest is an history.

She was 18, you were 33?

unibenakpos:
in Africa the goal is to get married and raise kids, we want to be 38 when our children are leaving the university. As for me, I'm too patient to run into anything i cant afford, i wont get married until i can afford to do so simple. I'm even eyeing age 40 for marriage

nazablossom:
Look for already working ladies now. They plenty wey dey find husband. Some are even ready to share bills with any man that is down for marriage.

Agreed, but in a population with mass unemployment, you are more likely to run into an unemployed lady than employed one. If you randomly meet someone on the streets, she's more likely to be unemployed. Even the churches are the same.

24kmagic:
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OP, if you know such type of girl who is in her early twenties, pm me. I will just date her for six months before doing the needful lol.

E be like say OP never know the situation weh we de face with 9ja girls.

9ja girls? Just forget.

If you no get money, ordinary greeting you no go see for road collect.

Me as I de like this, I just de pray make hustle pay.

If you don't have a job, you don't know how useless and irritating you look to a Nigerian girl.
If you don't have a source of income, just respect yourself and remain single.

you are indirectly saying all Naija girls are greedy for money. I don't completely agree because while I was unemployed, I had one/two loyal girls (they married with kids now). They are there, you just have to keep looking, like I am. Besides, these girls are also broke like most guys so they have device a means of living comfortably by living on multiple guys

generationz:
So, you mean to tell me that where you work, there are no single working class ladies willing to settle down abi?

They are mostly married except for a few corpers serving there

vickydevoka:
My own problem is different. I handles my dad business since de are old , I have money buh I can't marry bcus it's my dad's shop. Old men don't play with their money n property de even need money all de tym for burial n medical bills.
N for me to start a lucrative business I need enough capital to buy off a good position

You can start from there, you have a place where you are making enough to feed a family. You don't need to wait for one capital. For how long will you wait? The earlier we realize the direction of this country, the better

namiji2598:
I read through the thread, It's quite nice and I agree with you sir


But as for me am not settling down until I am financially stable, even If its gonna be 10 years later because I passed out last year

I pray you don't wait for too long. Thousands of people graduate every year in this country, NO JOBS for them, no loan to start business. I STRONGLY ADVISE ALL YOUNGER GUYS TO DO THE NEEDFUL NOW. This country will delay you, if you wait.

WhatIf:
Another man food is another man poison.

I don't have a job when I met my wife, I am a hustler when I gave birth to my first daughter and my second son. Still, up till now, I don't have a stable job, my first daughter will sit for her W.A.E.C this year in one of the best private secondary school in Ijebu-Ode. What If I tell you I am living in my own house, will you believe?
What pains me most is that I got this knowledge very late, but All glory be to God.

That's what we are talking about, at 38, If I had gotten married at 28, my child will be 10 now. I commend your boldness to have started a family. If you wait till you are comfortable, before you realize that this country is sick, time would have passed.

Hello NLders

I just want to share my experience. I want people to learn from others.

So recently I started dating and meeting women with the mindset of getting married as everyone around me keep shouting that I am getting overripe. Some are even wondering if everything is ok downstairs lol. How can you not be married up till now? You know those types of comments. But how could I have gotten married when unemployment no release me until 36? Nigeria is something else. It was at that age that I finally landed a decent job. I am even lucky to be where I am now.

So many youths are underemployed/under paid. Less than a month ago, a good friend who is also my course mate messaged me to express his frustration at teaching somewhere for 50k and he said he's now ready to make money anyhow even if it will take someone's blood . It's just a threat out of frustration.

The problem now is that I don't know if there are still good women like our mothers in this country. I have met so many young girls that I have stopped trying, the quest and hunger of these girls for money is just too much.

You are unemployed and you want me to buy you an iPhone of 150,000 Naira and she was making so much noise about it. Meanwhile I use a phone of 30k lol. Almost all the ladies I am meeting are unemployed and expensive. I met one girl awaiting NYSC, she told me straight up, that I will have to be taking care of her, that she's tired of dating broke guys so she has decided that any man she wants to date will have to be responsible for her completely. It sounded like a transaction. Though she's a very pretty, tall girl but I am not even after all those facial beauty.

Another lady told me she has half of her rent and she's looking for the remaining half. The stories are so many, I could write a book with them. I don't even know how to get working class ladies. But I have now realized that Nigerian ladies are not even the problem, it's the economy. Many young ladies are struggling just like guys and the only way they can meet up with their bills is by dating 3/4 guys.


Advise from my experience.

After my NYSC, over 10 years ago, I had this mind set that I won't get married without a job or funds to take proper care of my family. I think that mindset MAY be wrong, so many people still think this way.

I will advise you look at it again because it may take you 15/20 years after University to become comfortable (not your portion). Let me be sincere with you, this Nigeria is getting worse by the day especially with the type of leaders we have, who think only of themselves and their families/tribe.

For example, you can see for yourself what is happening with the outbreak of Corona Virus in the country. After 2 infection, people started advising that we should stop foreign flights, they refused until so many infected people got into the country, now they are running up&down. If we are lucky to get good leaders after now, it may take another 30 years of continuous good leadership to save Nigeria.

My advise is that after your NYSC, if you have a supportive family and a good/understanding girl friend, just marry her and start your family. You two will Hussle together and God will bless your hustle. You may ask why? Because most people finish around 25. If it takes you 10 years to become stable and get married, if you are lucky, you will have your first child at 36, 37. By the time you are 50, your child will be in junior secondary.

Be wise money is not everything.

etebefia:
If you have 650-700k to invest in business, never look the way of keke. But if you want to try, go ahead but there's 98% chances that you will come back to this my post after 3-4 months.

This advise is base on what? I am making my research and the people I spoke to confirmed it is profitable.

SassyGem101:
See how everyone is carefully avoiding this thread because it didn't say, " lady opens her bum bum" or mention sex. It shows we really need help in this country. Like enforce a law against indiscriminate and premarital sex. Hmmm

I am with you on this one. What do you think can be done to help? Can we come up with a plan?

Interesting

Extract from a book on sexual satisfaction...

Premature ejaculation have simple solutions. Information they say is power.


I have come across many post on premature ejaculation (PE). Most of these posts either misinform or attempt to take advantage of sufferers.

If you are a 6 seconds man, you need to know that you are not alone. P.E is fast becoming one of the biggest sexual health disorder among men today and the bad news is that it is going to get worse with the advent of cheap internet.

There are about four main causes of P.E:

1. REGULAR MASTU. BATION
2. NATURAL SEXUAL DISORDER
3. OVER EXPOSED/ OVER ACTIVE SEXUAL LIFESTYLE WITH MULTIPLE PARTNER.

I will summarize only the first cause.

Although the internet is one of the best invention of our time, it also gives men/teenage boys access to cheap pornography, this means that at every hour of the day, millions of men are ejaculating somewhere by rubbing lubricants on their peniss while using their hand to act as a hole to which their peniss is penetrate in a back and forth motion. This process sends a signal to the brain that you need to achieve the height of sexual pleasure which is ejaculation.

The only problem with pleasing your self to attain sexual satisfaction is the number of times you do it. Those who fucck themselves several times in a day will over time develop P.E as the brain becomes programmed to associate sexual arousal with ejaculation. This is the main reason why some people ejaculate even before penetration.

Solutions

Unfortunately there is NO PERMANENT CURE to PE. However their are many harmless solutions to ensure optimum sexual pleasure. There are multiple solutions.

1. Solutions that really mainly on deceiving the part of the brain responsible for ejaculation.

2. Increased blood flow to the pennis using multiple methods (one of which includes medication that causes heart attack).

3. Numbing the pennis during penetration

4. Specific exercise ( I will explain them)

5. Reverse missionary style during sex while pretending to wee/ absent mindedness

6. Specific medications that doesn't increase blood flow

Etc

I don tire to type. It's a lengthy book. Let me know if you want me to type the full summary. If the numbers are many I will look for a cheap way to download the book here

Did any of you guys try this? Only one testimony, not good enough

Okoroawusa:
Op you see even woman no say you no make sense

Ok, maybe e no actually make sense. Make we close thread