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Burnoutx:
Please I need your advice on what to do. Married to a wonderful lady (so I thought) and she gave me two kids. A boy and a girl. Been married for 7 years now and to be honest, it’s been manage this and that. Things got to bad that I decided to travel to south Africa and hustle. Seek greener paths elsewhere, come back home and bless my family. Things didn’t go as planned so I came back home with no money after two years of pain and found out that my wife is dating someone at the next street, even got pregnant! I forgiave her but while I was back she was still sleeping with the guy right under my nose. Caught her and her friends begged and I forgave her again! Yes am not working at the moment and she’s making money and cares for the family but she has changed so bad that she stays out late and make late calls. I love her but I can’t keep living my life like this. She shouts a lot and even blames me for having an affair outside!!! Any little opportunity she gets she will cause and insult me while living under my own roof. Am not holy on my own side cos you talk to me anyhow, I respond the same way but I will never hit a woman! Please house I need advice

op abeg drop your number I wan tell u something.

Op if na play delete this nonsense when you post. You dey crase Abi you get mental problems? If you have abeg to the hospital. Got pregnant for another man still sleeps with the man. Do you even have family at all?

immortalcrown:
"Hit the ground running."

The message is becoming clear now. It was a parable before now.

ground wen him don scatter

Streetmovement:
Wotoporiously speaking

See as parents dey play tinko with their kids life all in the name of custody battle and co, if I were to be those kids I will grow up hating the both of you and never to forgive for giving me such a traumatic childhood.

I hate it when two adult cannot put heads together to give their kids a good living condition irrespective of their differences.

Na man you be, you need to register to some sense into that your ex wife and yours

how? U never jam witchcraft women na make u dey talk this one. U think is all women diplomacy works for?

JASONjnr:
I should tell you the meaning of your blog?


You didn't sleep well at all....

lol 😂 he slept upside down

iwillnevergiveup:
where this kind women de sef, cause all i see this days na gold diggers

ND hookups

Make una dey serious for life na

xtheunknown:
Sold it bro. That's how messed up it got

then take a loan from ur salary account and get a car. For haulage or transportation. You don't just sit and pity party.

theamazonguru:
Hmmnnnnn.
The truth of the matter is that, this life no balance.

I got married on a salary of 50k.
As soon as I got married it was increased to 60k by my "magnanimous boss" lol. Who said, now that you are married you need more to take care of her.

It was really not easy to say the truth, I always made sure I dropped feeding money of like 25-30k. This was 13 years ago.

Then I would use part of the remaining money to pay my tithe, for transportation, extended family issue and savings.

By God's Grace I was able to start a building project at that time.
But it involved lots of sacrifice.

However to the glory of God I got a job of 150k with out station allowance of 60k, this was just 1 year after I got married.
The rest they say is history.

The most important thing is to married to your own wife, someone cut out of your own stock. Not someone who will make life hellish for you.

wisdom boss. If you marry the original version of trouble even if you earn a million you would be confused.

Ulunne777:
You and this your 55k every time.

We are tired biko

give him 200k job na.

Kingrshd3:
This is what Pit Obi should have done when he was around similar age instead of finding difficult times or problems with any new policies tilumbuubu took for the development of the country..

I can see tinubu is developing your generation.idiot

xtheunknown:
Unfortunately, yes. I really made uninformed and impulsive decisions. I'm learning better now

it's not unfortunately oo. U can do Uber or bolt for the maintime.

xtheunknown:
I tell ya bro, e no eazy but man gats strive to survive no matter the odds against am

the thread I opened about earning almost half I million and I was not at ease. This exactly my fear. When you had did you not buy a car?

Toluabigr8:
ABEG WHO CURSE NIGERIA WITH BAD LEADERS SEF , THE PERSON SHOULD PLEASE NAW

na potifer wife

ahnie:
I like to think he meant welfare....not court!

By him citing divorce...e nor necessary mean say she carry ham go court go divorce.
Getting divorced by the court involved so many herculean procedures.


Oga....with my full chest,I can authoritatively tell you that he was co-habiting with the first lady that bore him those kids.

This thing dey easy to figure out without stressing our switchbox nau.

If the lady happens to be an Igbo lady and he didn't pay her dowry before she ran away to marry her new husband who probably paid her dowry....this man cannot lay claims to the kids again because they now belongs to her new husband,and there's nothing he can do.


Tradition is tradition.

funny tradition. Deep down the new husband no say no be him born them.

ahnie:
He nor pay DOWRY....Don't you gerrit.

how them take dey marry without dowry? . To the extent she carry am go court. I thought you do traditional and registry or church and traditional?

ahnie:
What if the man is drained financially?you re practically trying to break this woman's already shaken home.

The husband has rights to complain, he's human for God sake and cannot do pass his self.

Oga tell the lady to go get a job kawai,no sugar coating the bitter truth.

You Don't know how long the husband has bn telling her to get a job and help easing the burden.


The truth's the man is seeing someone else.
The lady should try get a job and mind her she deals with her husband shikina.

the way you comment shows you are one from the 80's. Where morals are instilled in you

SouthSouth1914:
I just pray Nigeria’s oil gets finished! All these excessive wastage by government will end.

abeg nooo.

Op. The problem is not lazyness it has to do with mental health issues.

ChybuzzDD:
This is pure rubbish and you'll end up creating more problems for this lady with this kind of utterance.

There's a huge financial pressure on lots of Nigerian families at the moment and many lone earners are getting frustrated day by day.

If you're married and living in Nigeria, you should understand.

and what's your recommendation.

Caseless:
Issues everywhere...

Just try to get a job.

Don't make trouble.

job is not easy to come by. If you don't have strong connection in this country hmmm.

Op. Sit down go through your contacts solicit for help. Start a business any one you can as far it brings little money. As for your husband have a serious discussion with him what he did was nonsense at this point you should be careful with pregnancy.

What did in just read. A woman changed your childrens name and you are alive. Op abeg send me your number.abeg

Maddict1:
association of deadbeats don come again

i kuku get una strength

madman you don't know the meaning of generational name I wonder the kind of useless children wen dey graduate this days. Your father useless does it mean your forefathers were useless. Mention me till infinity guy u no get sense finish.

Zonefree:
Don't bother changing your surname now, wait till you get married so you can change it to your wife's surname.

epic . Or your wife's father's name.

casualobserver:
When I say power below, I am referring in you ability to attract the best in the opposite sex.

A woman’s power ends by the time she is 35. A man’s power begins in his mid twenties starts to fade 55-60. At that age if you have not secured a good man, the men you rejected at 25 will toss you around because you are of no use to them. At 35 you will struggle to find a life partner of the caliber you turned down in your twenties, at 40 it is almost impossible. At 35 you will realize you need a man but at 35+ you will have to marry below your status, or put up with things you thought you would never do to find a husband. 90% of the single reasonably attractive single women out there are side chicks to married men. I am a married man, I know. Many of them from good homes and I always ask myself how did a girl like this end up a side chick. The answer is usually poor mindset. At that age there are not many options for a single woman. The marryable men are married, if you want a single man, odds are he is struggling and will continue struggling, probably the type of man you rejected when you had power.

God did not design this thing by accident. The purpose of a woman having power in her youth at a time when a man is weak is 1) to have choice of the best suitors 2) to secure the gratitude, loyalty and eternal love of a man at his weakest knowing full well that is what will sustain her when her beauty/ fertility fades and other women come after her husband. It is more difficult for a man to value a woman he that came into his life at his peak.

Don’t waste your youth, don’t waste your power or you will be the one doing the begging. If you know what single mature women go through in the hands of married men, you will not abuse your power. We dont have time for you, we have families, we say come when it is convenient, we say go when we are done. We call you when it is convenient, we dont pick your calls, some of us pass you around. You are a convenience and not a priority….the worst thing from your point of view is you know but you can’t do anything about it, if you leave one married man you will jump into another married man. it is even worse for those of you from decent homes because you don’t want people to know so you take it or endure loneliness or go to single men lesser than the men you rejected in your youth. The Beyoncé and all others that are deceiving all you women with “independent women” are married.

you said everything that needs to be said.

Stevenbright:
Mr Sense. No point trying to use the format of attacking me! Just tell the OP to give you the contact of the girl. Case closed.

I told you you would end up fooling your self. You no get sense bros no vex. Sense no gum your head at all

Stevenbright:
Don't mind that guy. You know truth is bitter, right.

Otherwise, why is he the one doing the marketing?

A girl did something similar here sometime ago. She stated the fact that the lady in question is her elder sister who is no longer motivated about relationships, reason why she is doing it on her behalf.

This one is here marketing without clarifying grey areas. I raised one of such points and he is mouthing....

lol jack of all trades.

Fountainofyouth:
Only your mother and her lineage

you guys should create a thread to insult yourself please.

Kingrshd3:
What does she lives or base and beside u can share her pix to me 😉

she stays in Benin . Final year student of mass communication. She is a good cook. She has her own fashion shop. She is well spoken. For pics I can't upload her pics.

Kingrshd3:
Abi because it's only a virgin that can advertise that she needs a husband 😂

men plenty how many ready to settle down? Deep down you have to be ready.

Stevenbright:
I can see. She is your fvckmate but you don't like her but been deceiving her that you will get married to her once she finishes school. The time is near and you want to discharge her by linking her up with another person while you may still be by the side as a fvckmate. Hmmmm

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