₦airaland Forum

wunmi590:


Both of them are not serious, are these not something they should have done before they walk down the aisle?

Absolutely true. They are both irresponsible. They should even do it as soon as they start thinking about having unprotected sex, not to talk of when they start having thoughts about marriage.

Maybe the man just delayed sha so that he can officially chop the woman small before using running away.

Lifestone:
Certainly not the owner. The careless sales girl should bear it. I'm happy she resigned, let her start her own business and see how it hurts.
For other sales girls resigning means there was a conspiracy, I'm happy the owner dodged a bullet

Who should bear it? It depends. If the sales person received fake naira notes, then the fault is absolutely with the sales person. If it was a fake transfer, then the sales person would be at fault only if she was supposed to receive the bank alert or if he/she breached some established policy to accept and approve the payment. For example, was there an established system to not receive transfers over a certain amount, or was there a policy to call and confirm payments before releasing goods?

I think the punishment should be managed within the context of existing policies, but of course this is Nigeria. Anything goes. It is all about the survival of the richest/strongest.

dapsoneh:
Awon eleribuuu
So that they can steal the Nation's treasury via their wives
Iku gbigbona loma pa yin all these corrupt politicians
You will see the speed at which those God forsaken people will pass that bill

Please stop cursing them o. God's children don't rain curses on people, but this one wey you don release will be delivered to them in Jesus' name.

tulabh:
It's not the matter of wicked mindset. Why did he collect the house rent at first when he know he want to renovate the house

Getting a house that suit your taste is not easy this days.

Taking about when I become a landlord, I am one already and I am telling you base on experience

It is a different thing if the landlord wants the tenant to move out with immediate effect while the rent is still running. In this case, the landlord has not done anything against the law. He simply played by the rules. I empathize with any tenant in this position, but the landlord is entitled to his rent for everyday the tenant is in the building.

BarrElChapo:
Lol... SMH

.... Stop shaking your head at the comments here o. Otherwise, you'll start having serious headache. I think this is just a reflection of the evil mindset we have as Nigerians - always looking for opportunities to cheat other people out of their sweat.

Lomprico2:
He is! Such notices should start reading after the rent has expired.

And who pays for that period? The law is not designed to make tenants live free of charge and deny landlords their right to rent.

Justnation:
Go and read the landlord and tenancy law before commenting further

I have read that particular section of the law a few times. I am only trying to be fair. The most important thing is that I can confidently pray that I would always meet "my type of tenant" if I am on the other side of the table. Do you pray the same for yourself or you want those that will use all their sense to ensure you do not enjoy the rewards of your labor?

erico2k2:
The way people talk about law will make you laugh and fall down,imagine enjoy rent and the serve 6months notice untop no rent.I wish these guys know how much it cost to build houses nowadays, Nigeria will turn to places like Uk where individuals now cant build and instead rent or buy via mortgage!

Small time they will say landlords should take monthly rents like they do in UK, US and other oyinbo countries. Unfortunately, they don't know that in most cases you start with a security deposit (usually one month's rent), which means you are paying 2 months rent in your first month of stay. Then, your subsequent rent is due on the 1st of the month with a grace period of 3 days. Once you don't pay after 4th, you start incurring penalties. If you don't pay by the 15th, you are already looking at eviction. Meanwhile, by the time the landlord sends you out at the end of the month, they are not really out of pocket because they technically have the month's rent.

samebony1:
By virtue of Section 13 of the Lagos State Tenancy Law 2011, The Landlord is within his rights. All you can do is to plead for extension of time, which he is not obligated by Law to grant.
If you are in doubt, please read the law. You can download it on the net. But i have included the relevant portion below

[b]13.-(1) where there is no stipulation as to the notice to be given by either party to determine the tenancy, the following shall apply-
(a) a week’s notice for a tenant at will;
(b) one (1) month’s notice for a monthly tenant;
(c) three (3) months notice for a quarterly tenant;
(d) three (3) months notice for a half-yearly tenant; and
(e) six months notice for a yearly tenant
(2) In the case of a monthly tenancy, where the tenant is in arrears of rent for six (6) months, the tenancy shall lapse and the Court shall make an order for possession and arrears of rent upon proof of the arrears by the landlord.
(3) In the case of a quarterly or half-yearly tenancy, where the tenant is in arrears of one (1) year rent, the tenancy shall lapse and the Court shall make an order for possession and arrears of rent upon proof of the arrears by the landlord.
(4) Notice for tenants under subsection (1) (c), (d) and (e) of this Section need not terminate on the anniversary of the tenancy but may terminate on or after the date of expiration of the tenancy.
(5) In the case of a tenancy for a fixed term, no notice to quit shall be required once the tenancy has been determined by efflux ion of time and where the landlord intends to proceed to Court to recover possession, he shall serve a seven (7) days written notice of his intention to apply to recover possession as in Form TL5 in the Schedule to this Law.
(6) The nature of a tenancy shall, in the absence of any evidence to the contrary, be determined by reference to the time when the rent is paid or demanded[/b]

Thank you o. I'm surprised that there's no like or share for that post.

"Fixed term" is another language that may be hidden in your agreement. Although, we all know that tenancy is over once your rent expires. The fixed term language sort of makes it clearer and enforceable.

AlphaNugget:
You are not getting it, how can you expect him to park out just at the expiration of his rent?
Why not give him an extra 3 months' notice, the 3 months' notice will start counting from the day his rent expires.

Chief, what exactly is your definition of "notice"? A rent free period?

BOUNTYDOG:
My thoughts
What if he does not leave after the 6mths when his rent just expired
What will the landlord claim as his evidence for giving quit notice when ur rent is still valid.
I doubt he can take any legal actions on him, cos I wonder which Ballif will follow home to execute it

If your rent is not valid, then you are not a tenant. There is no law that is designed to deny someone payment for the goods and services they rendered (or are rendering). It is not suya that you will ask for jara or taste small before you buy.

tulabh:
He is suppose to refund 6month money for you out of your house rent.

Or

You will stay in the house for another 6month after November for free.

Goto rent tribunal for clarification

This is a wicked mindset. Do you pray to have tenants like this when you become a landlord or do you pray that you have a similar outcome for your investments?

ceejay80s:
He allowed u to pay in December, the man is a wicked man

He is a wicked man for collecting payment for services rendered... Who do us this thing?

Entanglement:
who is feeding you this lie

Once them give you notice prior 6month to your rent expiration! If you try extend it to another 3month after your rent expire, you go pay for that 3 month and you must to park your load or tribunal go help you park your load go under bridge

People just like to be difficult and cheat other people out of their sweat. That is why they misinterpret laws and take undue and ungodly advantage of loopholes.

We should all aspire to be the kind of tenant we would want when we become a landlord.

When I had a similar situation, I ensured that I was as Godly as much as I could.
- Agent increased rent, but it was too close to the expiration of my tenancy. I told him to give me 6 months to move out and I paid for the 6 months at the going rate. Eventually, I was too busy and I didn't move out as planned. So I asked for another 3 months but I paid the new rate.
- He asked me to paint the flat after moving out. I told him I would paint only after removing the new wiring, mosquito nets and other improvements that I installed. He quickly told me to forget it.

He may not like me, but he could not fault what I did. I would also not cry foul if a tenant did the same thing to me in the future. in fact I would be extremely grateful if I had my type of person as a tenant.

Justnation:
Absolutely correct 💯, you cannot use his rent period to serve him quit notice he is entitled to enjoy the rent in peace, at the expiration of his rent you can serve him notice of r 6 months for a yearly rental tenant

It is absolutely not correct, and your explanation makes it worse. Every other thing being equal, you should renew your tenancy (pay your rent) before the tenancy expires. So, unless there are other issues (such as financial problems), quit notice is highly likely to come when your tenancy is still valid. Once you stop paying your rent, you are no longer a tenant and that is almost another discussion on its own.

You will be a landlord one day.

Elohorp:
You don't know tomorrow be careful in this life is all I will tell you

Absolutely!!! When God picks his call now and he has one promising investment and God sends "his type of tenant" to him, he will now be running from pillar to post.

Jodesky:
Whatever you mean by being 'into the legal system' is not equivalent to being a lawyer. The Notice in this instance is clearly in accordance with the Tenancy Law. If you pay your rent yearly, you are entitled to 6 month's notice to quit.
Where the term expires and your rent is in arrears, you will receive only the 7-days Notice.
That the court system could be manipulated to prolong your stay in a house is a dying culture in Lagos now. Pray you don't tempt a wicked landlord with this jungle plan as you may find yourself on the streets without knowing why.....

Don't mind them. They are always looking for ways to stay in people's house for free. They usually interpret the notice as "6 (plus x) months free rent period". They want to go to court and continue to stay in someone's house for free until the case is determined. Yet they are also praying for blessings and returns on their own investment. May God help all of us in this country.

Afonja2000:
Wouldn't that make it look like she is guilty of the unfounded accusations against her?

I will ignore the details about what is going on between the couple and focus solely on the Police invitation.

Please let her go with her lawyer. Forget about the optics. Let them presume her as guilty. It's OK, the lawyer will handle that.

It would have been a different case if she was invited as a witness, and she shows up with a lawyer or if she was invited as one of many suspects and she ends up being the only suspect with a lawyer. In this case, she was invited because someone reported her, so what else do you want to hear at the police station?

In saner climes, she has the option of keeping mute and requesting for a lawyer if things did not pan out as expected at the station. In Nigeria, on the other hand, it will be a little too late if she's not influential.

Conclusion: It's better to err on the side of caution - she should go with a lawyer.

and like someone mentioned - she should not show up on a Friday o. Police will dribble lawyer self to make her spend the weekend in detention if they are determined.

DevilsEqual:


Tanya or Tania
Who she be??

Anyways, that old woman there is a proof that beauty isnt forever

When one finally marry his Queen, I still wonder if i will find my old wife attractive by the time we both pass the 60years mark

Don't worry, attraction will have a totally different context/basis by then. Even for those that will still be looking ravishing and regal, the main reason for their being attractive (to their spouse) will be deeper that their outward looks.

bennybuhari:
What about Abacha's son? Former Minister Ishaya Mark Aku?

And...
Prof. Claude Ake, Pastor Bimbo Odukoya, Prof. Pius Adesanmi,

Jennyclay:
Somebody took me to this place I think last year or two years ago, I was so scared passing through. But it was really fun!!

Nigeria can kill you before your time . They keep buying sub standard materials to build stuff like this .

Thank God it was noticed.

I'd rather blame the current condition on poor maintenance culture than substandard materials. That structure has been around for roughly 30 years since the very early 1990s. Substandard materials that lasted for that long has tried.

letout:
If it’s about emptying the trash, washing plates, cooking food, cleaning the house I do that from time to time on a regular basis and my wife hasn’t left me, and we are in Nigeria

The reason why the women left is because Nigerian men used the society to control their wives period.

I like your style jare. When they ask you what you bring to the table as a man apart from money, those are valid things. I have said it from when I was young that I don't agree with the saying that "all women want is money". If that is true, women will never cheat on wealthy guys or even leave them totally. Leadership is very important. period.

Stephen2324:
If you've been hitting it raw with your babe and pulling out EVERYTIME, and one day she asks you to "pour it inside", someone else has poured inside recently and she wants to pin it on you.

Sounds like great wisdom.... until I realized that my refusal to add my pour to the initial pour does not protect me from whatever STD or other yanmayanma diseases that the other pourer has exposed her to?

If you're "in town", it is safer to just use protection. There's nothing like exclusive with a lady that is not your legally married wife. Legally married wife self, na to dey use style observe some of them. I think it is better to just stay away from problems that come in the form of enjoyment.

Uptheante:
It's clear you don't really know how these bitches really are
There's no woman who cannot bring pussay in addition to whatever intellect she seems to have, unless she doesn't rate you as someone deserving of her pussay. That's why such a woman will never show you her sexual sides & avoid anything that will lead sexual tension with you.
She'll be very strict with you
Meanwhile, there's another nigga by the side banging her carelessly with little or no effort.
I'm giving you this advice for free, any woman you rate as being intellectual & is not free with you sexually, such a woman doesn't rate you as one capable of drilling her kpekus.
As a real nigga, you're supposed to be sexual with a woman not intellectual, even if you wanna be intellectual with her, make sure you're banging her puna first. You should rather be intellectual with your fellow man.
Whatever she's bringing to the table should also come together with her pussay.
You're a man not her fellow female friends

I have no business with who is banging who. My life is my life, mine alone to run and I manage it jealously.

By the way, thanks a million for the free advice. Unfortunately, at my age, I don't think I can use plenty advice about pussay again. It's too little, too late for me. I've been there, done that. I know enough women - my mom, wife, plenty sisters and lots of female friends.

At this point of my life, if I close my eyes in death, I will rather have many women miss me because of what I brought to their table, what I brought to their life, what I did to their mind than because of what I did to their body. And before you tell me I should do the same to fellow men, I actually do.

I admire your choice, but like I said earlier, the fact that I am not like you does not mean that I am wrong or that I am a whimp.

Uptheante:
Bro, honestly, you are a whimp & I'm sure that girl will never hold you in high regard no matter what you claim. The hallmark of dominant virtue in a man is being able to bang & conquer a pusssy even if it is offered on a platter, without catching any feelings.
A real nigga bangs pusssey with no emotions & no commitment
That's the kind of nigga these bitches respect, not a whimp like you

Real niggas respect other people's choices even when they would have done things differently.

Most people that shout "real nigga this, real nigga that" do not know about anything other than the pusxy. When a lady has nothing to offer apart from pusxy, una go complain, but most of the people that call themselves real niggas would be clueless if they meet a woman that does not bring p'ussy to the table because they don't know what to do with anything else. If they now perceive that the lady is intellectual, na to abuse am be next thing. Anyone that is not like them is a whimp.

Kontinuu

Nlandmodesfku:
coward because he didn't Bleep a girl? Are u high?

Leave him o. They are the set of men that will ask what a woman is bringing to the table. Meanwhile, the only thing they bring to the table as a man is their prick. That is why they consider it a great loss and act of cowardice if they are unable to showcase their sexual prowess. Meanwhile what if the guy actually slept with the lady and just decided not to play the "kiss and tell" game like small boys would do?

...

DDIA:
Just fvck your shrink to ease the tension.
Or you can get it from the streets.
To find man wey go service you no be hard thing.
To hell with your husband.
Make yourself happy.

Trouble dey sleep, yanga wan go wake am.

For some people, the guilt of adultery will only complicate their issues. It will be like jumping from the frying pan into the fire.

Nigga44:
The lesson to learn here as a married woman be say nothing dey outside........many single men would promise you marriage, and encourage you to leave your home. But once you come outside........everybody go disappear.

I think he encouraged the woman for too long.

I had a friend from way back. We reconnected (on phone), we were both now married with kids and we live in different towns. I don't tell anybody what is happening in my marriage. Actually, for some strange reasons in my head, I drastically reduce my interactions with ladies when I'm not in good terms with my wife. Anyways my friend kept talking about her marriage and I was always listening and encouraging her by giving her with the word of God that we both grew up with. I also supported her financially once in a while. We are good like that.

Then one day she called me up and told me she's tired of the marriage and she was going to visit her sister in another town and she plan to just stay there - away from the husband. I told I have nothing to say since she's the only one that is facing the issues in her marriage. I also let her know that I would be breaking every form of communication with her once she leaves. She was so angry with me, but I was adamant that I would not be seen as the one that encouraged her to leave her marriage or her sponsor as a single parent.

Make I no lie, the fear of having to support a single parent financially was highly instrumental in knocking the fear of God into me. My stinginess has been keeping me on the straight and narrow path since 1400bc

bugativeron:
This year august will make 10years that i have been married. But our sexual life has been very fantastic. We can't wish for a better sexual life.

So nairalanders what do you do to spice up your marital sexual life?

Since you have succeeded where most couples have failed, don't you think you should be the one telling the secret to a healthy sexual life for married couples?

O ya. start writing. we are waiting.

***modified*** I just realized that I responded an 8-year-old thread. Nothing spoil. If you're still there, share the secrets.

Jewessgratitud3:
Hmm .. now that I already bought it 🤔 🤔 🤔. I'll just avoid using it on days I go there.

why are you now bothering our heads if you don buy am? you don give am self. Na wah for Nairaland o

Jewessgratitud3:
Like him? No way!

He's always taxing me because I do some small businesses at work that pases through his table. So he's always like I should settle him and all that and truly I've never settled him since I Ve been doing that bizness. Thats why I said let me just do it for him.

Wetin I want take married man do?

I believe a gift from you to the man would mean different things to both of you. So you need to be careful. Buy him a commensurately expensive item. Something that could be easily consumable and easily perishable, pay for a meal or something like that. Even as a guy, I am always careful about giving ladies anything that they can hold on to and say "it reminds me of you" or something they can show to their folks to say "he got me this".

Don't walk into his trap.