₦airaland Forum

A 75-year-old man, Mr Kayode Oguntuase, on Monday approached an Ado-Ekiti Customary Court to dissolve his 26-year-old marriage on allegation of being starved of sex

But after completing the job, a dispute occurred when Obioha wrote her a dud check that bounced and she threatened him with legal action, but the Nigerian decided to murder her to prevent paying the money or getting involved in a lawsuit.

According to the police, the container, which belonged to the United States Agency for International Development, was heading for a warehouse of the Society for Family Health in Sango Ota, Ogun State

When it comes to romance, Nigerian men are known to be actively engaging. Apart from their culture of carrying the financial burden of relationship with women, they harness every opportunity to appeal to their lovers, be it on social-network sites, in their respective offices, religious organizations, gym centers, parks, clubs among others.

Despite the many romantic attributes that could be said of men in Nigeria, women still hold a contrary account about them. Predominant among the contrary views women hold against men here is that no matter how romantic they are, getting them to the altar for marriage could be very challenging.
So, what are those factors that scare Nigerian men away from marriage? We have tried to compile some reasons that make most men feel jittery to converse on ‘Marriage’ as topic, feel free to add yours if not in our list.

1.
No wife materials
Common among some men is the reservation that there is scarcity of ‘wife-materials’ in Nigeria. In this case, they are not referring to ladies not being in quantifiable distribution among men, what they are complaining about is that most ladies of this generation lack the necessary attributes that will qualify them for the lifetime commitment called marriage. If this is the case, time of quality search can help heal the wound of such man.

2.
They get sex freely without marriage than in time past
Realizing now that they can get sex more easily than in times past, when ‘virginity’ for women was a pass value to marriage, some men now feel lot of women today have lost it when it comes to keeping themselves whole. But, this might not be the fault of women as promiscuity is not an exclusive act than can be carried out without the consent of either gender.

3.
Nigeria weddings are expensive
In a country where a man is expected to marry a woman in three different kinds of wedding- Religious, Traditional and Court, the cost of marriage no doubt is something men find very intimidating. As of last year, the average Nigeria wedding cost something like N500,000 and the it goes upward from that to more unimaginable cost. For most people, especially in this economy, that’s a lot of money. But all we advise is that men should try and cut their coat according to their material

4.
In search of a ‘working class’
Today, most Nigerian men are in search of a wife capable of sharing financial responsibilities with them. Gone are the days when men marry ‘full-house-wives’, the increasing cost of living has tilted most men in favor of ladies who have a means of livelihood and willing to share with their man, the burden of building a home.

5.
Fear of freedom
There is a common belief among some men that marriage puts an end to one’s freedom. Single men today are much more proud about not being dependent and being on their own. They fear marriage because they will become answerable for every action they take to their spouse. That is one big responsibility some men are not ready to take up.

6.
Career
One of the predominant question most men will secretly ask themselves before making the decision to marry are, Will my partner make agitated about me being in office for long hours? Will he or she understand my love for my career? These are cogent questions and answering these questions could slow the decisive actions to be taken on marriage plans.

7.
Unrealistic Expectations from In-laws
Some parents have set certain standards for anyone who will marry their child, either way be it that such expectations are from the groom parent’s or bride, the regulations sometimes affect relationships. If the expectations are behavioral, the challenge might be little but e are some discouraging situations where parents decide the profession qualifications, properties, etc that must be acquired by the suitor before they can give out their child to him in marriage.

8.
Trust issues
Most times, people fear to get committed into a relationship because of trust issues. Some men have been bruised in their past relationships and therefore they don’t want to put themselves out there.

9.
Bad Testimonies from Married couple
Generally, most men get intimidated by marriage as a result of the testimonies they hear from those in marriage. Before getting into marriage talks, it is a common thing among men to ask their brothers, friends who are already married on how the social institution is and the testimonies they get are most times discouraging, as such they fear their marriage will be a replica of the testimonies they have gathered.

10.
Cultural limitations
Nigeria is a country with diverse culture and The diversity sometimes create challenges for men who are in search of women with similar culture. The good thing though is that those who endeavor to explore inter-cultural relationships get the opportunity to gain an in-depth appreciation of other customs.

BY HENRY UMAHI (KINGHENRYSUN@YAHOO. COM)

For those who knew Mrs Cordelia Iweg­buna Idowu Okocha, it is no news that she died of breast cancer, at the age of 50 on August 7, 2004, and was buried in Septem­ber 2004. What is certainly news and shocking too, is that four years after her death, she ‘visited’ her bank and withdrew more than N527,500 from her savings account in a first generation bank (name withheld).

The statement of account of the dead woman indicated that she withdrew N500,000 by ‘self ’ on February 19, 2008. On Febru­ary 28, 2008, she made another withdrawal of N27,500 by ‘self’. She made all the withdrawals at the Awolowo Road branch of the bank.

Her only child, Chukwudi Uche Okocha, explained: “My mother died on August 7, 2004 as a result of breast cancer and my dad died on February 1, 2006. He slept and did not wake up. I am the only child of my parents, I was 17 years old when my mother died. My mum was sick for about eight months, suffering from breast cancer before she gave up. Since my parents died, I’ve been managing, trying to cope through the help of family and friends. There is a particular family that took me under their care and since then I’ve been living with them. And to God be the glory, they have been trying. I got admission into University of Lagos to study Mathematics in 2006. It has not been easy not having one’s parents around.

“My mother spent a lot of money when she was sick due to the nature of the sickness. We all know that it is not easy to manage cancer. But about a month before she died, she told me that she had something in her savings account; that was her salary account. She told me that whatever happened, there was something left in the account. When she died, she was paid her July salary. Before she died, she told me that she had over N200,000 left in her account and when she died her salary was paid into the account. So, there was over N500,000 in the account when she died.”
Chukwudi, who is now 28 added: “But being the only one, I was not able to process the trans­fer of the money to my account. My dad was unable to process it before he died. Between 2008 and 2009, I tried to process the letter of administration of my mother’s estate through the Lagos probate court and they gave me the certificate to get the money in the account. That was when I applied for the balance and they told me that the balance was about N500. I was shocked because she told me what she had left in the account before she died and I know she did not go to the bank after she told me what she had in the bank. But even if there was no money, the July salary should have been there because it was paid after she had died. And I have a copy of the pay slip for the July salary. When I met Barrister Eluma, I complained to him that there was something wrong with the account.

“When we went to see the then branch manager of the bank, she asked if I was sure that my mother was dead. But she was not ready to disclose anything. So, I felt there was foul play somewhere and I decided to see a lawyer and see what we could do about it. We discovered that two withdrawals were made from my mother’s account in Febru­ary, 2008; that is four years after she died. Did she come from her grave to withdraw the money from her account? It is a savings account, meaning that she was the only person who could make withdrawals from the account. So, how come withdrawals were made four years after she died? The withdrawals were made by ‘self’ according to the statement of account. It means that some­body, most likely a staff, who knows she was dead or knows something about her withdrew the money.

“What I need now is for them to refund the money and pay some compensation for the inconveniences I have gone through over the years. If I had been able to access the money, it would have been very useful, particularly when I was in school. Again, the value of the money has depreciated in the past 11 years. You can imagine what I could have done if I had gotten the money then. So, they should compensate me.”
Meanwhile, he has written a petition to the Assistant Inspector General of Police in-charge of Zone 2 Command, Nigeria Police, Zone 2 headquarters, Onikan, Lagos. Dated June 17, 2015, it was captioned, RE: *** Account No 2004452106; Account Name: Okocha Cordelia I. Petition On Criminal Breach Of Trust, Fraud­ulent Misrepresentation, Conspir­acy, Forgery, Stealing.

The petition, which was written through his lawyers, J.O, C. Elu­ma Igwegbe & Co, said: “By this letter we seek to draw your urgent attention to the criminal develop­ments that have taken place in the Awolowo Road Branch of (***) Plc. We do so here because we believe that you will in your usual manner clinically investigate this matter towards bringing Justice to our client and the society at large because of the public concern that may be involved.

“It is part of our client’s instruction that on August 7, 2004, our client lost his mother (herein above outlined as the account name) to breast cancer. It is therefore instructive to say that the said account holder has since 2004 died of breast cancer (see attached death certificate). Our client briefed us that his mother (now the deceased ac­count holder) shortly before her death, informed our client of the existence of over N500,000 in her account as well as the account number, all domiciled in the said *** Bank under its watch. Ac­cording to our client, his father, Mr. Luke Azubuike Okocha, died on February 1, 2006. Our client is therefore an orphan and the only surviving child of his deceased parents.

“Further to our client’s instruction, sometimes in 2010, our client, (now the lawful heir to the estate of his deceased parents and the Next of Kin to the account of Cordelia I. Okocha (deceased)), sought to obtain Letter of Administration for the purpose of administering his late mother’s estate. The probate Registry then issued him with bank certificate to enable our client to determine the status of the deceased estate including the said account with the Bank. When our client approached the bank for this purpose, he was informed that the closing balance in his late mother’s account was N500 only, instead of over N500,000 the deceased mother told him of. It is the honest belief of our client that some bank officials and other accomplices in the bank frauduour client, (now the lawful heir lently and deliberately misrepre­sented the true state of the said account to our client during this encounter, with the overall con­scious intent to steal the funds of our client’s deceased mother. ­

“Our client reasonably believe that those bank officials and other accomplices in the bank, conspired to make infractions into the account of Cordelia I. Okocha (deceased) for which our client now has Letter of Administration to administer. This unfortunately amounts to criminal breach of trust.

It added: “In line with our client’s brief we have taken necessary legal steps and made associated expenses to investigate these reckless, wicked, criminal and unlawful acts of the ‘yet to be identified’ bank official and their accomplices.

“Our careful analysis of the deceased’s statement of ac­count now available with us (see attached) revealed that on February 19, 2008, a huge sum of N500, 000 was withdrawn from this account, and Twenty Seven Thousand Five Hundred Naira (N27,500) withdrawn on the 28th February, 2008, four (4) clear years after the death of the said account holder. In your wisdom, is this not fraud by the internal machineries and mercenaries of the bank officials? Our findings reveal that the account in issue here is a savings account. It then presupposes that only the account holder can make any permissi­ble and verified withdrawal, in person. It is a monumental irony and sad financial development in this country to note from the nar­ration on the deceased statement of account on 19/02/2008 and 28/02/2008, that these cash with­drawals were made by ‘SELF’. Was it the deceased that came up from her grave to effect the withdrawal or her spirit? We shall leave this for your investigation.

“Our client being an orphan has suffered untold hardship in the absence of a mother and a father. Our client relied heavily on the money left behind by his deceased mother, kept under the bank’s custody and trust, for his upkeep and care, which unfortu­nately some of the bank officials and their accomplices have be­trayed in the most unprofessional sense as bankers. The criminal acts as outlined above have inflicted grave pains and torture on our client, to a pitiable extent that a good spirited Nigerian family adopted our client and took responsibility of our client’s education and upkeep.

“Our client’s circumstance is put forward here in order to assist you in understanding the depth of criminal infraction into our client’s account and the damag­es the bank officials and their accomplices have inflicted on the psyche of our client.”

It further said: “It is our client’s full instruction that he has suf­fered grave damages and injuries by these criminal and unlawful acts, and we reasonably believed to the highest degree that the ‘yet to be identified’ bank officials have breached the trust reposed in them, and have fraudulently and deliberately misrepresented the true state of our client’s deceased mother’s account. The conscious preparation of documents that fa­cilitated the successful withdraw­al of funds from the said account amount to forgery and stealing when in fact the account holder has since died.”

In summation, the law firm engaged by Chukwudi expressed the hope that the bank would expeditiously launch an investi­gation into the matter to uncover the identities of the fraudsters that carried out the brazen forgery and fraudulent withdrawal and bring them to book. Moreover, the law firm demanded that the said first generation bank should refund and re-credit the stolen funds with the accrued interest to the said account. The firm also demanded that the bank should pay the sum of N2 million, representing legal expenses and costs so far incurred by it in pursuing the matter.

lalasticlala

It was the annual 2015 graduation ceremony for the students of the International School for Creative Arts. Honorary President of the school Professor Jimmy Choo was guest of honour. Certificates were presented to graduating students and awards given to outstanding students one of whom was our very own Tumisola Ladega .
Even though 16 years old Tumisola was not in the graduating year, she was one of the two students honoured by Professor Jimmy Choo with a certificate and a Bursary Prize for outstanding work in Fashion and Design and for making such remarkable progress in the short time she joined the school for A levels.
Tumiila is a fashion label founded in 2012 by UK based young designer Tumisola Ladega. She was 14 years old at the time but decided she didn’t want to wait to begin her dream. Prior to this, her individual designs have featured in competitions from the age of 12. She has since produced a series of collections as well as individual garment projects.
Through these years her designs have graced the catwalks of major fashion shows and fashion weeks in Miami, Maryland USA, Lagos Nigeria, South Africa and of course London. As a developing label, Tumiila touches all areas, from high end couture to urban, and from evening to ready to wear. Tumisola is now 16 years old and her work has also had the privilege of recognition by the honourable Joan Burstein and Professor Jimmy Choo.

lalasticlala

When I returned from prison, I was jobless when Olayinka came and lured me into it again.

Pictured is a Nigerian soldier excavating an improvised explosive device buried on the road as mine to stop troops in the northern region of the country...


Meanwhile, Troops of the 3 and 7 Divisions of the Nigerian Army on Wednesday cleared some roads in Borno State for motorists and other road users to ply.

The Spokesperson of the Nigerian army, Sani Usman, said the roads linking Biu- Sabon Gari – Damboa in the state have been cleared of mines and insurgents for public use.
“The public are encouraged to use the road as adequate security measures have been put in place for their safety. Similarly, efforts are on for the clearance and reopening of other roads in Borno and Yobe States,” Mr. Usman said.

Brytawon:
I was walking around when i saw a cashier hand
this little boy his money back, the boy couldn't
have been more than 5 or 6 years old.
The Cashier said, 'I'm sorry, but you don't have
enough money to buy this doll.'' The little boy
turned to the old woman next to him, ''Granny,
are you sure I don't have enough money?'' She
replied, ''You know that you don't have enough
money to buy this doll, my dear.'' Then she asked
him to stay there for just 5 minutes while she
went to look around. She left quickly.
The little boy was still holding the doll in his
hand. Finally, I walked toward him and I asked
him who he wished to give this doll to. 'It's the
doll that my sister loved most and wanted so
much for Christmas. She was sure that Santa
Claus would bring it to her.' I replied to him that
maybe Santa Claus would bring it to her after all,
and not to worry.
But he replied to me sadly. 'No, Santa Claus
can't bring it to her where she is now. I have to
give the doll to my mommy so that she can give
it to my sister when she goes there.' His eyes
were so sad while saying this, 'My Sister has
gone to be with God. Daddy says that Mommy is
going to see God very soon too, so I thought that
she could take the doll with her to give it to my
sister.'' My heart nearly stopped. The little boy
looked up at me and said, 'I told daddy to tell
mommy not to go yet. I need her to wait until I
come back from the mall.'
Then he showed me a very nice photo of
himself. He was laughing. He then told me 'I
want mommy to take my picture with her so she
won't forget me.' 'I love my mommy and I wish
she didn't have to leave me, but daddy says that
she has to go to be with my little sister.' Then he
looked again at the doll with sad eyes, very
quietly.
I quickly reached for my wallet and said to the
boy. 'Suppose we check again, just in case you
do have enough money for the doll!'' OK' he said,
'I hope I do have enough.' I added some of my
money to his without him seeing and we started
to count it. There was enough for the doll and
even some spare money.
The little boy said, 'Thank you God for giving me
enough money!' Then he looked at me and
added, 'I asked last night before I went to sleep
for God to make sure I had enough money to buy
this doll, so that mommy could give it to my
sister. He heard me!'' 'I also wanted to have
enough money to buy a white rose for my
mommy, but I didn't dare to ask God for too
much. But He gave me enough to buy the doll
and a white rose.'' 'My mommy loves white
roses.'
A few minutes later, the old lady returned and I
left with my basket. I finished my shopping in a
totally different state of mind from when I
started. I couldn't get the little boy out of my
mind. Then I remembered a local newspaper
article two days ago, which mentioned a drunk
man in a truck, who hit a car occupied by a
young woman and a little girl. The little girl died
right away and the mother was left in a critical
state. The family had to decide whether to pull
the plug on the life-sustaining machine because
the young woman would not be able to recover
from the coma. Was this the family of the little
boy?
Two days after this encounter with the little boy I
read in the newspaper that the young woman
had passed away. I couldn't stop myself as I
bought a bunch of white roses and I went to the
funeral home where the body of the young
woman was for people to see and make last
wishes before her burial. She was there, in her
coffin, holding a beautiful white rose in her hand
with the photo of the little boy and the doll
placed over her chest.
I left the place, teary-eyed, feeling that my life
had been changed forever. The love that the
little boy had for his mother and his sister is still,
to this day, hard to imagine, and in a fraction of
a second, a drunk driver had taken all this away
from him.

nyabinghi:
[s]Someone said 83 percent of ndigbo are bastards[/s]

If you and your partner are planning a pregnancy, then the health of your sperm is very important. However, you need to understand the various factors that can affect male fertility, and that’s why you need to consider the following steps in order to help your sperm become top performers.

1. Do not have unprotected sex. Sexually-transmitted diseases, such as gonorrhoea and Chlamydia, can damage the sperm-producing cells that block the tubes carrying sperm from the testis to the penis.
2. Avoid pesticides that control pests in the garden and on the farm. Such chemicals can damage the sperm-reproducing organs.
3. Avoid insecticides that are usually sprayed to kill mosquito. Such chemicals can damage the sperm-reproducing organs. Therefore, if you must spray your room against mosquitoes, allow at least one hour before going back into the room.
4. Avoid exposure to lead fumes generated in the manufacture of small cell batteries and in bullets. Such fumes can reduce sperm count through their negative effects on the hormones and the testis.
5. Avoid exposure to heavy metals like cadmium from the manufacture of heavy batteries, as they negatively affect the hormones.
6. Avoid exposure to paint fumes and plastic softening chemicals like phthalates; hydrocarbons such as ethylbenze, benzene, toluene and xylene, as they destroy the sperm-producing cells and hormones.
7. Minimise exposure to electromagnetic radiation, as the sperm germ cells are very easily damaged by the gamma rays.
8. Minimise exposure to radiation, as the sperm germ cells are very easily damaged by radiation.
9. Avoid fumes generated by welders and iron smelters, as their heat can affect sperm production and lead to low sperm count.
10. Avoid exposure to accumulated old newsprints, as the carbon can lead to low sperm count.
11. Avoid wearing tight pants and trousers, as the heat generated can cause low sperm count.
12. Avoid children with mumps, as having mumps in childhood can cause irreversible damage to the testis. Therefore, never allow a male to visit other children that have mumps.
13. Minimise your consumption of alcohol, as drinking to excess can cause low sperm count and also reduce libido, causing you to have a low sex drive.
14. Do not smoke, as cigarette smoking can damage the testis and lower the sperm count, lower the ability of sperm to move and lower the lifespan of the sperm.
15. Do not eat too much saturated fat, as they reduce the efficiency of the hormones and enzymes that help in the sperm production process.
16. Do not eat food or supplements with soya beans, as soya beans convert to the female hormone oestrogen, which tends to neutralise the male hormone testosterone, which is needed for men to reproduce sperm.
17. Minimise your intake of refined carbohydrate such as white flour, white bread and white rice, as they reduce the efficiency of the hormones and enzymes that help in the sperm reproduction process. Instead, eat more of the unrefined carbohydrate such as brown rice, wheat bread and oats.
18. Do not become constipated, as this can obstruct blood flow to the testis. Therefore, eat more dietary fibre.
19. Do not eat a poor diet, as this affects the quality of the sperm. Instead, eat more whole grains, vegetables and fruits.
20. Do not take artificial sweeteners such as nutrasweet, candarell and sweetex, as they reduce sperm count.
21. Avoid excessive consumption of raw lemon, as this may inhibit the enzymes responsible for sperm production and libido.
22. Do seek immediate medical help if one or both of the testes are un-descended from the abdominal cavity into the scrotal sac, as this can significantly reduce sperm production.
23. Do not sit for long periods of time in one position if you are a long distance driver, drive a small sport car, or a chief executive having many board meetings in leather chairs, as this can increase the temperature around the scrotum which can reduce sperm count.
24. Avoid traumatic injury around the testes, as this can damage the sperm-producing cells.
25. Avoid bicycling, as this can damage the tube carrying the sperm.
26. Avoidd stress, as this can decrease the sperm count and lead to production of abnormal sperms.
27. Avoid obesity, as this can reduce blood flow to the testes, making the sperm production process more difficult and significantly reduce libido.
28. Avoid substance abuse like cocaine or heavy marijuana use, as this can lead to low sperm count and deformed sperms.
29. Avoid poor nutrition, as this affects the quality of the sperm.
30. Do not have children at a late age, as the quality of the sperm decreases with age, leading to more difficult conception and greater possibility of having children with deformities.

lalasticlala

When we got here, the doctor told us she was going into labour, and that we needed to move her to the General Hospital. I was confused. Then I called my sister who also came with her husband. But we heard the policeman who had come there telling the doctor that she was okay. The policeman told the doctor: “She’s okay now. You will write everything that she is okay, and that nobody beat her.” So the doctor certified her okay, and that she was not in labour again, that he had put everything in order.

onatisi:
there is more to this story. The man may be impotent and it may likely be an agreement between the man and his friend plus the woman . What bust the bubble was the underage the fake father wanted to marry off. In order to save the teenager the woman went to seek refuge and protection from the real father. How can someone have 5kids in a house and the man won't have even 1 if he is healthy .

By Ugochukwu Alaribe
ABA—SOME officers of the Naval School of Finance and Logistics, Owerri-Nta, Abia State have allegedly forced 15 workers of an oil company in the commercial city to lie in mud water and drink it.
One of the victims, Opara, an engineer with the oil company, Stock Gap Fuels Limited, which is building a mega petrol station/gas plant on Elizabeth Avenue by Aba-Owerri Road, GRA, Aba told Vanguard that on Tuesday morning, they came to work on the site. He said at about 2.00pm, he left for the bank to withdraw money, with which to pay the people who supplied them sand.
“It was while at the bank that I got a phone call that about 12 Naval men were maltreating workers at the site. So, I quickly left the bank and when I got to the site, I saw 16 of my workers, including our secretary, a female inside the mud and the Naval officers were stepping on them and ordering them to drink the mud water.
“So, when I tried to approach the commanding officer, who was at the site giving orders to his men, he told his suborbinates not to allow me get close to him and based on the instruction, his boys chased me away and I had to call my office in Port Harcourt.”
The engineer disclosed that he stood from afar and watched as the commanding officer ordered his men who used their bayonets to puncture the 40 tyres of tipper trucks supplying them sand.
Narrating her ordeal, the company secretary and store keeper, Juliet Enwereji said that during her lunch time , she heard the Naval men who incidentally share the same fence with the company, ordering workers at the site to go outside.
Enwereji said immediately she came out of the office, a naval officer pointed a gun at her and the commanding officer ordered her to lie down in the mud water.
Other workers who spoke to Vanguard said this was not the first time the Naval officer, who had previously shown disdain for the structure being erected near his house, would be maltreating them.
According to them, “there was a time he came and reported to the site engineer that he would not want a higher structure within the vicinity of his quarters.We didn’t know the reason. Some three weeks back, a pay-loader came to the site and as it was driving out, the commanding officer called his men to beat up the pay-loader driver and took him inside his compound and detained him.”
Efforts to get the commanding officer, Navy Capt. Ejaro, to react to the allegations proved futile as Naval ratings at the gate of his quarters on Elizabeth Avenue, GRA, Aba, refused to allow our correspondent access to his residence.

lalasticlala

Atlantian:
For every insult meted out on the Jonathans, a pipeline will go up in flames.

vugaman:
no wonder dis country is like dis,the kind of fools and imbeciles without thinking faculty in dis country is alarming.for whatever offence they alleged she might have committed,why did she not follow them to the station then contact her husband,a lawer or even human right activist,instead she resisted so you expect the policemen to salute her and allow her to go.it is only stealing that nigerians know as offence,any other offence do not warrant arrest.if every body in this country begins to resist arrest because of one reason or the other then let me see how offenders both civil and criminals will be arrested and prosecuted.go to civilised nations and see how reasonable people obey police order.if the policemen are wrong in arresting her then she is right buy slapping and biting them.if she is somebody's wife,they are not somebody husband.