Oluromantic:
Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.


This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

CotenantNIG:


is this necessary, you could pay your message without insulting any tribe

Mekudi:
what is the real gist

chiemmanuel:
dumbasses everywhere

chiemmanuel:
have you heard of satire before

SlayerForever:
We have warned them severally. This is only the beginning. The seriki must be allowed to return to his dwelling for peace to reign.

chiemmanuel:
The fulanis are extremely peace loving people


They can't be the people that burnt his house

Fulanis can't hurt a fly......

I BLAME THE IPOB FOR THIS,

THOSE PEOPLE ARE EXTREMELY VIOLENT

The Igbos ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR ALL THE ATROCITIES IN NIGERIA
THEY NOW LIVE IN THE BUSHES AND REAR CATTLES

sonofjos:
Dear lagosians,

Please pardon the grammatic errors.

Being born and bred in the north, I am conditioned to a certain societal behaviour that the first time I went to Lagos, interacting and seeing the people was a bit of a cultural shock to me. I've travelled to many states in the North and few in the south and almost all seemed just about the same as home.

But the first time I visited Lagos a few years ago I had many experiences that made it seem as if was in another country entirely. I'll share a few notable ones.

Please note that I'm not looking for trouble, I'm just giving a honest opinion

It was as if everyone seemd to converse harshly over very simple transactions. One would think they know each other from somewhere.
Many people in the public seemed angry as a default mode. I wondered why.

I boarded a bus to computer village and a primary school kid later joined and was later exchanging very hot words with the conductor who was a very muscular guy over some trivial amount. I watched with interest and it got to a point where I feared for the little guy because If that conductor decided to as much as slap the small boy, there won't be much left. But somehow the conductor calmed down as if he had met a worthy opponent. That boy seemed to me as if he had super powers.

I joined another bus and a fight broke out between the conductor and a passenger. Both of whom were muscular. None would hear sorry. The fight got so bad that the both ended with broken faces and the passenger got a rock and shattered off both side mirrors of the bus. Since I intended to join night bus home, I kukuma dropped and joined okada (it was legal then) which was much more expensive but worth it. I don't know how they ended.

I noticed many young people are muscular body builders. I wonder why.

I was walking on a street at computer village and a guy started threatening and commanding me to come over. At first, I thought he was speaking to someone else when I realised there was no one around me, and he made it clear he was referring to me. Till today, I don't know what confidence made me to keep walking. That was how I escaped O.

Everyone seems to be in hell of a rush.
I even said that if rapture takes place, Lagos would not know anything had happened for two weeks.

But Behind all these seemingly negative atmosphere, I discovered that lagosians are very kind people. Always willing to help.
As a stranger, I found it difficult to find places and routes. But almost anyone you ask is very willing to show you directions. I've had instances where people left their comfort to walk me to places where they gave me directions. Very welcoming set of people to strangers I tell you.

All these mixed experiences made me say that Lagosians are Indeed a very strange people.

Many other things I've experienced at Lagos over my other subsequent visits, but Lagos has remained strange to me.

I mean no disrespect to anyone, I'm just a fellow countryman who wants to better know my country.

My question to you guys is, why is Lagos the way it is?

Is there anything I missed or misunderstood about Lagos?

Thanks

tamdun:
Enough of this nonsense abeg, the propaganda is just too much, u want people to support you without evidence, u want people to support you blindly?

SilverNorGold:
Nonsense! I hate hypocrisy! You want it to stop because of what? Covid-19? Something serious like NIN should be suspended because of Covid-19 we don't know when it'll disappear? What happened to Covid-19 safety measures? Why not enforce them?

Most Nigerians don't believe in the existence of the virus - they are "atheists"! .. They don't adhere to the safety measures as prescribed. Why NOT impose another LOCKDOWN? People attend weddings, churches; go to the markets and see how crowded they are - no social distancing! Go to garages, they're crowded! Yet it's something like NIN registration that's the issue, eh? NONSENSE!

THE NIN REGISTRATION MUST CONTINUE! If you want to stop it because of Covid-19, then IMPOSE ANOTHER LOCKDOWN: shut down markets, churches, schools, banks, and large gatherings!

May God heal Nigeria.

RichDad1:
As dirty as this area looks, it’s one of the most expensive places to olive in Lagos

IamPlato:
They Are Really Taking This Serious Sha.


This Same CNN wey Americans hate, trump Even Banned Them From White House Press Conference because They Go Out And Twist Every Thing He Says


Na This Same CNN nigerians Won Worship.

Hope they paid you plenty for this nonsense you spewing


CNN is Not Your Friend.

SilverNorGold:
Although I am an avid supporter of President Buhari cos of his many stellar achievements, honesty and integrity, it's things like this(his softness) that's making me not very happy with him. Why sit and watch wicked elements and fake news purveyors run this country aground? What's stopping him from declaring war on enemies of Nigeria and fake news merchants?

President Buhari is TOO SOFT for my liking.. If he were Obasanjo or Yaradua or Goodluck Jonathan, would criminal elements like Sowore, Aisha Yesufu and their cohorts dare attempt one quarter of the nonsense that he (President Mohammadu Buhari) has tolerated from them?

This is sad.. President Buhari should do something to nip this nonsense in the bud as quickly as possible before it gets out of hand!

And by the way, what happened to the Social Media regulation bill? Seriously, I am not happy with the way things are going.. I just hope Nigeria survive the wrath of these fake news vicars before PMB comes up with a decisive solution.

May God help Nigeria.

od501:


They are already married. In Igbo land, when a man pays the bride price of a girl, she automatically becomes the wife. All other thing is a mere cerebration, thus, if you don't cerebrate, the law if the land is not against you. So, officially, they are married. Na the cerebration remain, which is not a must.

Okoroawusa:
In as much as I disagree with their roles during the#ENDSARS protests, I think they have every legitimate right to support whosoever they like politically.
Atiku is not an enemy of the state so he must definitely have supporters.
That's my honest submission on this case.

virginprincess:
All this broke men creating nonsense tread self , haven't you people see real men that get married then ask their wives to sit at home, that is becoming full time housewives, those men do they have two heads? are they not the one taking the whole responsiblity? mtcheeeeew.

Kobicove:
Rubbish!

Why is this lady not yet under arrest?!

The government imposed a curfew which you and your co-travellers disobeyed!

That is the reason why we have this calamity on our hands.

As a result of your disobedience of the government's order innocent lives have been lost and people's businesses have been wrecked rendering them bankrupt!!!

Mokason28:
Weed is written all over her lips

kenny1111:
Good afternoon everyone,

please I need advice from all parents and Educators and parents on Nairanland. today I just realized my 3years old son cant even read Letters A to F talk less of A to Z but can read Figure 1 to 10, I am seriously worried.

I don't stay at home except for weekends as I am working outside my state, but due to the curfew I find my way back home yesterday so I was able to discover this problem in the early hours of today.

I know the mother is trying cos I have seen different live videos where she was teaching him and working on his assignment, most times I pity the boy so much because of the beating from his mum alone makes me sick but I can't really complain since I know is for his own good and I know how stressful it is for a mother with 2 kids to manage her time and all that....

I called his teacher immediately and she told me my son will be going to Nursery class when the present term is over due to his age, sadly she didn't say things I expect to hear from her so I told her I will visit the school once the curfew is over, I need explanation, is private school that bad these days ? my son can't even write 2 and 3

I have bought Video CD, bought many play book materials containing letters and figures displayed boldly, I bought counting and so on when he was 2 years so i expect a better result by now.

pls sir and ma, I need help on how to guide this boy to learn better, what should I do and how should I go about it.

Note: any time I am home, I always go through his books, assignments and read his school rhymes for him.

pls Help

concerned Daddy

Abouwaza:
Obasanjo did worse when he was president too
Make nobody come form say he dey with the youths now abeg
Thurnder faya you all
You are all evils

sodiqapril:
If you believe the end SARS protesters released the prisoners then you should also believe anything lie Mohammed says.. the prison is a high security one , how do protesters climb those high walls peacefully, how did they know where the prisoners are kept, how did they find keys, how come there was no restraint from prison warders? Those are the questions you should ask yourself, the Benin prison is well secured that you might book yourself a room if you're found loitering around the outside environment.. the simple answer is the government is empowering thugs and hooligans. The thugs didn't break into the prison. The prisoners were released illegally by authorities to pin it on the protesters.

Don't mistake it for the other.
Go to twitter and see the videos for yourself

Cvwriter1:
My pity goes to the civil servants. They should please allow them to pass. Na our papa and mama them be. They no commit any crim

Built2last:
#WorthReading
Whistle~Blowers in Police Force Speak Out on #EndSars

Kayode Ogundamisi:
So a Compatriot who is serving in the Nigerian Police got in touch with me. The officer requested that the publication of the following, this was after a 30 minutes plus conversation. ����

For safety I will keep the name of the Police Officer out. Hoping Nigerian President and the Police can take note and verify independently.

1. The extortion of members of the public including #SARS is not with the Police personnel on the road, it is institutional.

2. He claims Police Commissioner's embezzles security vote meant for the upkeep of operational officers. Police divisions are meant to get welfare funds but it never trickles down to low ranking officers who now buy their own uniform, fuel car from funds extorted from public

3. Every Police operational team on checkpoints, raids makes a targeted KPI weekly monetary return to their commanders, DPO's and HOD's who in turn makes return to the CP of the State or the CP in-charge of the unit. These CP's makes return to IGP. The PMF is not exempted.

4. The posting of Squadron Commanders is not by merit. They all make returns monthly by deducting money meant for their boys on special duties (Security covers for Celebrities, rich individuals, escorting night bus for transport companies, securing social party, banks and others).

5. He Advised the Nigerian government to immidiatly ban Police officers from operational "stop any arrest" based on expiration of driving or vehicle license as it is a money making scheme. The VIO or FRSC should focus on this and transfer cases to Police if need be.

6. Police is highly commercialised from top to bottom, funds budgeted do not go to the rank and file, police equipment are meant to be repaired but long abandoned and they get votes every year, officers simply look for funds outside of the force to survive and live.

7. "I have a Phd and head a Police Tactical unit, myself and my unit work with pains and bitterness because they work under pressure to give returns to those above and nothing for them. I can not stop the boys so I lecture part time to make up for my upkeep. The rot is huge"

8. "They should probe training funds, they should ask why Police officers have to bribe to go on study leave. If you do not have a godfather you can not go on essential trainings, when you go, you pay back part of your allowance to the admin team in the office"

9. Nigerian Police get international supports for training officers, when the slot comes, you never hear anything, all international courses are shielded in secrecy and you only see privileged people go, office based staff are sent for tactical command weapons training abroad.

10 The problem of Nigerian Police is not just about fund, it is about accountability, a wholistic probe into the existing funds and then reform.

An average constable drives an expensive car when a DSP who chose to be honest walks on foot, the moral is low within the service.

11. High Returning Divisions: There is a division in Abia State called Ndiegoro Divisional Police Station and Eziama Divisional Police Station. Personnel of these stations just like SARS situated at Aba North LGA goes around on mini buses (Suzuki Every) with POS machines.

12. �� Every young guy on dread or rugged Jean is a fraudster or suspected kidnapper. A certain Bishop and a Police man called Malaysia in Eziama division takes people on gunpoint to ATM and push them out of vehicles late night. These bad officers can be located by Nigerian Police Force.

13. ��Anyone entering Aba late night is at risk. These men have been reported on many occasions but only asked to refund the money and nothing happens. The reason they are invincible is becouse senior Police officers get returns. To stop the rot, start from the head.

14. ��Ohuru-Isimiri Division in OBINGWA LGA is a nightmare to tricycle and motorcycles riders. You can visit to ask members of the public about all these stations in Aba. What happens in Aba is replicated across the other Police divisions across the country.

15. The public are also part of the problem of Police officers when officers do gallant jobs, we are seeing as just doing our job, even when we lose officers. Nigerians have made up their mind that we are all corrupt so even those who want to be honest ask why should they bother.

16. The public must fight for Police officers, do you know we rations ammunitions and guns, the weapons we use against robbers with automatic weapons are outdates, when did anyone offer to visit a Police Station or barrack to see how we live.

17. If #EndsSARS or #EndPoliceBrutality is to be successful, the reform must include speaking with officers who do the dirty work, right now everyone is having a conversation about us but no one is talking to us. Police are Nigerians too, we have to build trust with ourselves.

18. Those talking about Police officers on the streets should check how much a sergeant is paid, not to talk of a constable, you can not pay an officer 59 Thousand Naira a month, he buys uniform from it, transport and feed family and you expect the best from him.

19. The number of Police officers is very small, even if you reform, the number we have can not deliver the kind of magic Nigerians want the police to give. The people should not be anti police but separate the bad from the good.

20. I am telling you that the Police officers adopted by some States who pay them extra are doing very well, crime is low and they are dedicated. Nigeria should withdraw police on 'special duties' with VIP and those with money and influence.

21. The Abayi divisional Police officer recently assaulted a lady sexually and detained her for stealing his money. Let the CP investigate him. Let all SARS personnel be sent back to Police Colleges and Training Schools.

PART 2 of Thread!����

As Young Nigerians continue to lead #EndSars #EndPoliceBrutalityinNigeria yesterday, a Police Officer opened up about his experience. I have since had conversations with 3 other officers.*Statements not independently verified.
Key points here. ��

I will call this particular Police Whistle-blower Officer A. He's based in one of the South West State, ranked as a Chief Superintendent of Police (CSP).
"This ( #EndSARS ) protest is the best thing that has happened to the force, tell them to take inventory of custody files"
"We write the name of suspect on ledger, if your DPO is corrupt, you will have 2 custody ledger, one is for official, the other one is for suspect that will roga *bribe and then they will be released, so it is like they never came to station"

"Tell them to Probe STS and IRT under Police Force Headquarters, if they are serious, let EFCC check bank accounts of officers from IG, AIG, CP, DIG to even sergeant, any policeman with balance of N5Million is a thief, they can start now."

"People should visit Police College Ikeja, or go to any training school in Nigeria, no way you can produce good officers from those places. I hear the IG praising the tactical college Ila Orogun on the way to Oke ile, is he joking? The place is a disgrace"

"You put Police with their family in poultry and call it barracks, even to get 1 room in Police barracks you have to bribe, if you rent in town, you will hide yourself from criminals and your neighbours see you as one of the bad police, the problem is big"

"Let me tell you, when I joined police, we have fuel dumps, where Police operational vehicles will collect fuel daily and it is full up tank, when you come back from patrol, you record mileage and refill, now no fuel dump, you have to look for money yourself"

"When I joined police, we had tailoring department, we had mechanics, they sow the uniform, they repair Police vehicles, now everything is to contractors, they should probe why Police can not keep subsidiary services, is it not civilians that take Police contract?"

"I have safer highway personnel attached to me they need over 80K periodically, service tyre themselves, change engine oil, service van, where do you think they will get the money from when the official money is not coming in?

"Regular Police officer, your course mate posted to EFCC or as ADC or orderly to Politician or to Celebrity will buy land and build house in front of you, so everybody is lobbying to leave fighting crime, if they are serious, send everybody back to beat"

"Armed robbers and criminals are afraid of #SARS, wait till November and December if we don't have something to replace them criminals will strike, Police can not do without a strong tactical team but SARS has turned on innocent people, that is the problem"
Even in Police, other officers fear #SARS. They have become a cult within Police, a lot of officers are celebrating but we know we need a tactical team. Government can probe the officers, sack the bad one create a new discipline outfit"
"If they round up all the SARS officers, look at their bank account, interrogate them on what they have done, what they know about killings, separate them from the command, some will confess."
"Do you know civilians with money approach Police to exchange family members who have committed crime with innocent people? The person making the proposal and the Police are all guilty, that is why I am now happy the young people are fighting for us"
#EndSARS

https://mobile.twitter.com/ogundamisi/status/1316750434833510406

SLAP44:
Buharri can rule you till 2099, the north can become Yemen while the south start to chase Dubai and Singapore.

That is why we are asking that the south must separate from the north. You can restrict your wicked policies to your compound and not drag the South West, South South, Middle Belt and South East down with you.

AsomughaChuks02:
This story looks incomplete. No mention of what the son did that led to his arrest.

myBraine:
Typical Nigerian mentality.

Can't an accomplished politician prosper in peace again?

A man that singlehandedly built Lagos from scratch doesn't deserve to own a mansion. Now I know how backward people's reasoning are in this part of the world.