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I have seen this thread before and did promise myself to visit later.
Just to say that I am a friend of the house and will be visiting to chat up.
I don't know what others think but I do think that the "girl child" sometimes gets unfairly treated and judged in our Naija society through (the primary school stage 6-12 yrs, the teenage years, womanhood, spinsterhood, pregnancy, marriage, divorce, widowhood, work life, business) and I see myself sympathizing with any woman going through some of these unfair judgement/views so that is the reason why I want to be part of the thread.

Hope you ladies are doing great? It's sweet of you being there for your children in spite of whatever circumstance. All in all, life is precious. You have been entrusted with a huge and divine responsibility of taking care of another life, never forget that. Know that you are not alone, G-G-G-O-O-O-D-D-D--------he walks with you! Alleluiah! Smile!

Good effort Richieboy.
I got ministered to by your thread. Thanks

Rest on in that pain-free realm of joy everlasting.

You are still in our thoughts, our dear friend.
Rest Baby.

lovemychild: thank u everyone on this forum for ur advice and encouragement. in one way or the other ur words have really enlighten me for good. pls for those who are asking to adopt my baby. thank u for ur concern, but i dont want to give out my child to a family or for that far. it's custody i want so i could come back soon to carry him and that can only be achieved if i went through social welfare but if i have the means, i would keep him with me. sorry if u send me pm and i didnt respond. i dont know how to reply it. and i dont know also how to reach the moderator to get some of ur contacts or leave my contact with as u'r requesting. thank u

Aw-aw-aw okay,
if they send you pms that come to your mail with a note that says something like "so-so and so person wants to send you a mail but cannot because they don't have your e-mail", all you have to do is click on reply and send the mail back to the sender again, that way the person will get your e-mail address and can easily communicate with you, okay Baby?

lovemychild: thank u everyone on this forum for ur advice and encouragement. in one way or the other ur words have really enlighten me for good. pls for those who are asking to adopt my baby. thank u for ur concern, but i dont want to give out my child to a family or for that far. it's custody i want so i could come back soon to carry him and that can only be achieved if i went through social welfare but if i have the means, i would keep him with me. sorry if u send me pm and i didnt respond. i dont know how to reply it. and i dont know also how to reach the moderator to get some of ur contacts or leave my contact with as u'r requesting. thank u

You can write the moderator of the section TGirl4real or any trusted person here that can carefully help you communicate with these persons that promised to help you.

@Lovemychild
You seem to have gotten some good offer of financial helps in the thread which if carefully checked and faithfully given as promised may help you a little bit while taking care of the baby while it is at the tender stage.
You seem to have waded through some parts of the problem already by carrying the pregnancy even while your loved ones are not happy about your unmarried state. A newly born child will need the warmth of its mother and if you have the little wherewithals at that time to care for that child, I will advice that you stay with the child and give it care until it blossoms out. If you still feel like giving it out temporary after the child has grown strong say a year or two so that you can work or study then you can do that while still playing an active role in the life of the child whether it is being taken care of in an orphanage or by a foster parent. I don't think that one should turn the back, break that parental bond and walk or disappear from the life of a child.

The younger ladies should learn to make good decisions from cases like this. The young man you lovey dovey with, will he abandon you to your fate after impregnating you or will he be there to love and take care of you? If he shows signs of selfish behaviour from the beginning, better avoid such.

[quote author=sweet_gala]You speak as thou you know the content of every man's heart.
I know how I feel when I hear of tragedy, of the daily bombings and terrorism carried out by BH.
I pray for that country I weep ,I yearn to be in a position to do something about it but I can't , all I can contribute is my voice with all honesty and without prejudice.

Being a keyboard warrior here on NL and inviting people to hatred and tribalism a virus eating Nigeria away from within cannot solve the problem.

You accuse me of turning the other cheek but I'm just being smart.
A wise owl says little but sees all.

Are you ignorant of the fact that there are Christian northerners and Muslim northerners who have been slaughtered by BH.

Yes the largely Igbo populated area was attacked but does that change the fact BH are a national menace. They are not a igbo only menace.[/quote]Somebody made a statement, you took offense that she did not include your people and went on making tribalist statements about the Igbo. You later turned around to accuse the person of tribalism. #Ridiculousness

There is no Nigerian that does not know that BH has killed Christians from other parts of the country, why do you have a problem that I mentioned the recent one that targeted South-Easterners? I guess we Igbos should be keeping mute and silent in the face of all the tyranny to make people like you happy huh. You lot are going about on threads hating on the Igbos after which you turn around, make tribal comments and attack me that I should have hanged my hand on your shoulder to condemn the ones oppressing Nigeria.

vanstanzy: *What manner of woman will stop talking to her man becos he refuses to buy her something?* I laugh in Chinese! Sister, u think like a learner. That manner of woman u ask is *everywhere*. Search ur heart and tell us u ve never done the same before.

I don't need to search my heart much more say whether I've done the same or not because that is a behaviour of the low minded ones. I shouldn't be caught meddling with your "search and tell" stuff.
Hope you are good, Mr Vanstanzy. Hey, are you not that poster that always brings on very sensible/mature posts? Now you shouldn't also be caught pulling legs with that big joke. Take care sir.

The ethnic hatings/rivalry are getting worse and more sickening.
One may need a break of a week or two from all the rancour and hatred. It's suffocating, time to search for inspiring sites to hang out online and read home news.

Is that her recent picture? If that is, she looks great and very different from how she looked some weeks ago. I am very happy that she is recovering.
Glory be to God.

Donchyke39: seconded,infact na correct mugu be this...try check wetin she use save your name,who knows? It may be mugu 5...

Funny

@Poster

Are you waiting to sell off everything you have and finally die for her? If she wants to kill you shouldn't you run for your life.
What manner of woman stops talking to a man because he didn't buy her what she demanded for? Dey there they announce that she wants to kill you. Abi you wan make the announcement first before you kpeme

@django1

Power for mouth alone. Make una dey make a fool of the country before the whole world yabbing yourselves.

django1: There's a good chance that you're presently resident in SW nigeria, aint that right?
You lot take us for granted too fxcking much.

I don't wallow in the gutter of petty hatings like you and your lot neither am I living in the place you stated.
Go in peace and hey! Don't go effing on me dude.

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We mustn't let others create an aura of hatred around us and unconsciously instil hate in everybody around.

mpumalanga: Progressive South Africa is presently using Achebes things fall apart to inspire their young once in SABC 1
while some Nigerian as usual, are wasting their time trying to elevate non heroes and pull down
real heroes.When will Nigerians free themselves and start appreciating their gifted humans instead of
wasting time every time to celebrate false equivalent due to tribal differences. Africans are loosing
their patience on you people.

You (all the way from south Africa) understand the embarrassment of all these on us Africans, my brother.
I'm out of the sickening thread/atmosphere----let them keep on hating.

The tribal hatings in some Nigerians eroded their conscience to the point of blabbing and bringing down a man that just died hours ago.

What are we all doing yoked together as one country with hate simmering at the bottom of some against others? Let's face the truth and part peacefully/ amicably-----that way there will be no bombings, no tyranny, no hatings, no tribalism. There won't be need to abuse others knowing that you don't have to suffer them as your countrymen. Right now, Nigeria is looking real jokey abusing and embarrassing themselves in the internet before the face of the whole world. I can't even stand a thread as sickening as this.

Yeah, you lot can go ahead and denigrate him. I know you can't wait to dance on his grave, sorry you may have to wait a few more days for his grave to be carved out----as that isn't available yet you can get on and continue with the dance here.

Is this all the pictures they have for us? blurred and unclear too. Abeg make i visit Linda's place go see better better picture, I'm sure she will have nice pics.

ivynwa: What a time indeed! I am still mad mad angry over the way they bombed that Kano bus parks and humans and vehicles in it headed to South East, and he has to die now of all times. Na Wa o.

[quote author=sweet_gala]Southeast and Lagos. Very sure there must have been some Yoruba, Hausa,ijaw efik etc in those buses however they are all Nigerian. And we should persecute justice on their behalf as Nigerians. Igbo people can't keep kicking up ethnic dust in the faces of other Nigerians and expect silence.[/quote]Speak for yourself dude and let others speak for themselves. When christians were bombed plenty times in the past, I speak against the massacre of christians in threads here. The recent one was clearly directed at the southerners. I mean even Soyinka and others saw that clearly https://www.nairaland.com/1234292/kano-bombing-may-caused-achebes.
Are you angry that I did not include your people? People like you keep quiet in the face of this tyranny going on because none of their friends and families have been affected and when they see others react to it, they attack them maliciously. You are not feeling it like I am feeling it, if you are you will be speaking out against this wickedness. Make we dey do siddon dey look and be watching this country crumble like cookies.

obowunmi: how does he explain to his kids - that he loved another woman better than theirs?? #strange #self-control is much better than dealing with consequences of your actions.

I was just wondering how these kids will feel reading "Pero cannot stop Tuface/Annie from being together" as if Tuface does not have a mind of his own and was charmed and handcuffed when he was frolicking with women. I beg to differ here, I see his relationship with these other ladies as the same. I am not glorifying any of them above others to bring the others down. He dated them like a young man dates and finally made his choice of his new wife.
I am happy for her and that does not make the other ladies "the bad ones that were coming in between their love". All of them were shining their eyes to get a promising young man as husband. Thanks.