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Kim may not wanna go with that name.

A rapper like Kanye that raps those sweet lyrics sure can be more creative than that.
Alicia keys's "Egypt" is nice, so is "Paris" and "Asia". Who is gonna name their kid "Africa"? Why dem dey choose only "Paris" and "Asia".

anitank: *still in kim's voice*.....as long as mummy approves it

Haha

rozayx5: Born stunna, born stunna, hugh, flip a hunit keys just to ball on summer
she a born stunner, mercedes coupe for the mrs shes a born stunna
i wud personally name her MIDDLE EAST

Yeah boy, Middle East. Soon enough these stars are gonna be naming kids "water" and "fire". What the----.

It all boiled down to how it started, abusing other posters because they don't agree with your own opinion.
What I was discussing with the other lady is "Why consider others that don't agree with her opinion as having mental issues?". It concerned you in no way, you jumped in querying and attacking me for having a different opinion to you. My opinion in my post that having separate bedrooms by couples is not such a bad idea have you boiling up all over the place because I must agree with you. Why do some people come to a public forum and want to enforce their opinion on others like I can't have a mind of my own anymore? Wow. A human being that goes about abusing others for their opinion is the same person here telling others that they have mental issues. #Ridiculousness
Stay here and be making a fool of your self. Don't stop, keep bringing it on. Try hitting your head on the cyberwall if you like. It will not make me have the same opinion with you but that may help you remember more vocabs to use as bullets in your gun that is pointed at Ivy. I use to avoid absorbing/reading vilewords and bullets being used in the internet by bullies like you but that makes your likes feel like the other persons cannot stand up for themselves. Ain't any internet bully getting me down. I am standing here with my Akpobi shield girl. Keep shooting --------Odeshi (Abeg make I laugh).

Heyi! You are actually feeling like a masquarade with a cane running down the roads of nairaland flogging everybody that disagrees with you on the threads. #The-Champion-lady-fighter-fights-on-and-on. Jeez!.
Just make sure that you entertain the audience in your next episode and give them enough to laugh & smile about. The floor is open for you again----A-c-tion. Don't tell me that you are not taking this bet? You know you can't resist it? Hehehehehe hahahahaha, you are so entertaining.

They too fine o-o, they too fine o-o.
Fa mara mma na ese okwu #Sexiness

Was she not the one that was pregnant with Chinaedu Nwa fa(their child Chinaedu)? Lol lol lol

Some of these our Igbo boys sef, you want to eat your cake and have it. Nothing is wrong with you Sir, I understand how you feel cause I always see some of our boys married to foreigners wanting Igbo wives again. Naturally people like you have always known that they want an Igbo lady but go for foreigners for one reason or the other after which they will start running again looking for Igbo ladies. You should have gone for the type you liked at first. What do you want us to advise you to do kwanu?
I use to think that I won't mind marrying anybody I am compatible with whether Nigerian, white or even black Non-Nigerians (No! I have no attraction for Indians/Chinese ) but have realized how much I love my language and prefer somebody I can be speaking my language with first more than others. It's an amazing thing when people from different tribes, race,colour marry and adapt happily together yet I think that the reason we were all naturally created and yoked differently as a people is because of longings like yours as in we humans have a tendency to want our own people.

Poster you can make effort to integrate your wife into the culture of our country, teach her or get her to learn to cook our foods, that is if she is willing. There are Nigerians married to foreigners and are happy with their choice. Check yourself what are the bases of your feelings? What and what do you long for in a Nigerian woman that your wife doesn't have? Your answers to this may hold the solution to your problem.

All Southerners/Igbos/Christians should return home, Plan and proceed on the journey down south. Uwazuruike even sent buses to bring them home and they don't want to return. Na wa o-o. You have to be safe first and be standing firm on your homeland before you can defend yourself. Hanging around people with a notion to decimate us all is allowing them to fall upon you first.

They are feeling like the Saudis, ain't I happy for them?
Wishing them a successful and safe wedding ceremony there.

Oh, Oh, Oh---it's now that I read the story very well. They actually targeted buses going to south east?

We really have no country anymore o-o. They want the Igbos and Christians to disappear from their face. Isn't it high time they gave these people their own country and all southerners return down south? It is no more wise for southerners to live or go investing up north, I am no more comfortable anymore about the safety of my relations in the middle belt Abuja. I'm not even sure that it is wise for Igbos to have properties in Abuja and other middle belt states because the way the hatred is boiling in them they may bear down on people in Abuja too. I am going to tell all my siblings in Abuja to better sell off whatever they have in Abuja and come down south east to build afresh. It is very dangerous to live around people that hate Igbos and Christians with a passion, may God deliver us from all these.

Why are they bent on inflicting injuries, disabilities, losses and sorrows to people strugglng to make a living?

Where are we heading to as a people? Should this continue? Who? Whose siblings, parents, relatives are next to get maimed and slaughtered?
This needs to be given priority in our country (while every other flimsy things are kept aside) lest it keeps festering and getting worse.

I'm very happy for you and your young family especially the fact that the woman you love is standing by you.
May God grant you healings. Amen

Does she want him back now that he is all bling? What happens when the blings are gone again?

I only smile at people like you that think that they can manufacture bullets with their word, and go about throwing it at others in the forum.
You actually feel like you ripped somebody apart? Amazing! Ewoo Ivynwa just got shot some rounds of bullets of words by you. #mostpowerfullady
Ain't I happy for you, swag on girlie!
I am stronger than you think and you can't get to me with whatever negative word in the world.

Striding on..........
#Vibezunbroken
#Vibesuntainted
#Vibespositive

I can easily abuse you back but I am not stooping to your level. If you like you can find all the abusing words of the earth and paste them here for Ivy . Go in peace Babes.

I am just seeing your post now because I wasn't really paying you attention when I was conversing with Ileobatojo. I wasn't talking/discussing with you then lady. You barged in on our discussion and started agitating and vibrating over nothing.

You seem to have time to mock around and abuse others, I don't have time for that. Go ahead, look for others to abuse and mock. My skin is hardened to such so don't waste your time. I am tempted to give it back to you the way you are ogling for but I am not allowing you tint my vibez with all that. As you can see I've got peace and love in my heart and you ain't breaking that peace. Au revoir.

[quote author=baby_123]No, I do understand clearly what you mean. You are just emotional about the mental health issue that was brought up, because at the base of all this argument. You support separate rooms. I don't think you took the time and patience to actually read our threads and understand. Besides, I am responding to you because I mentioned mental health issues here before ileobatojo did.[/quote]I am sorry dearie, I don't wish to continue the conversation as you are just talking about stuffs irrelevant to what I and the lady talked about besides we already ended that conversation peacefully. No need to keep stretching it. Thanks.

Meddler: It actually is. I guess that's one of the reasons I've never considered going back to the relaxer. I understand the needs of my hair now and that makes the whole process very easy for me. However, I can't always say that I have good hair days. I do have my jacked up hair days. And I'm quite lazy so my go to style is my infamous puff hehehehe. But then again I've thought about locking my hair it will save me so much time and effort but then again, I'm gng to miss my loose hair.

But as I stated earlier, it wasn't always this easy. I had days where I just wanted to wear a cap over my head and call it good. But as they say perseverance is the key.

Over the years I've just realized that my hair likes simplicity. Keep your routine simple and adhere to the basics. Cleanse, deep condition, and moisturize

I will still go for the locks as against the loose. A good looking loose hair/puff packed up together on the head is a beauty to behold, yet there is something spiritually uplifting and exotic about a neat and nice dreadlock. It always pulls a string in my heart when i see such. I wish you more energy to your hand as you manage your loose hair, I bet it will be hard work to comb our african natural hair. I know that I can't go through that stress though you made it sound very simple. Seems you know your way well around the loose natural hair with all that honey and stuff treatment of yours.

You need to get it out of your belief system that it is your husband's responsibilities to take care of your siblings. May be when you do, it won't hurt much that he is reluctant to do it and you can get to appreciate it if he makes any effort at that. Marrying you doesn't mean that he has to pay the bill for your siblings. See how you can organize for something to do or sell. Your not having a job may be the greatest cause of your unhappiness and if you project an unhappy aura it might affect the people around you and beget more unhappiness. If your husband is belittling and abusing you emotionally find another way to get him down to discuss it out with you if he refuses to talk. You can speak to him thru a mail or letter and raise a point so important to him in the mail or letter that he can't help but want to discuss immediately. A friend or family member (that is very close to both of you who have always stood by both of you and who you are not ashamed to share with) can stir up a conversation in the direction of things when they appear in your family home.

The communications may help but if it doesn't and he continues, you can talk him into going counselling with you hoping that that may help too.

Note* If he lays his hand on you/beats you (in case you were uncomfortable to open up on that here) please FLEE before you get killed.

agiboma: I feel for you. If you want to stay in this marriage then you got to make some changes in yourself, so you can maintain your sanity and rebuild your self worth. It seems like you have lost yourself to an extent because everything in teh marriage is all about your hubby and revolves around him which is wrong and it should be about the two of you as a married couple, You need to start by empowering yourself, do you have any skills, you seem educated so its possible to get a reasonable job or start your own business and become more self reliant, that is the start of course. That way you can give to your family without hubby being directly involved. From getting your own income you can begin to do other things that bring joy in your life. Do you have any children? Its not doing you any good being depressed about this husband daily, regain your own happiness, work on becoming the sourse of your own true happiness and not hubby, so that way if he does good or bad it wont matter because you are your own true source of happiness. Truthfully op if i where you i would get hubby to assist in starting a business for me and begin to have some savings incase of anything that may come along in the future.

Aw-aw-aw-aw. Nice advice there.

@Poster
Be strong girl, it's going to be alright.

dayokanu: So because she and her partner were stoopid not to use protection she should now bring an innocent child to the world to come and suffer the consequences?

Do you know what becomes of such children in most cases? They would be abandoned either with aged parents or on the street

Is the pain the child will be made to feel while dying not worse than whatever hardship the child may suffer on its way of being raised by a poor single mom?"

MsDarkSkin: ^^didn't know you were into the natural thing.

but I have always told you in your other thread how i am growing my natural hair in order to lock it up and how once I had cause to retouch my thick grown lot for a certain event. Started growing another thick lot like 3 months ago.

carmelion: No sensible lady,would tell a guy the real reason why she left especially if it is something beyond his control like stammering,k-legged.e.t.c

the guy that said something about her fore head is simply IMMATURE.I mean what does he want her to do?Hit it inside with a hammer?.By the way,where is the forehead sef .hmmm.....,you guys are yet to see fore head na

quote me.
Blanche darling,dont mind them,you are hot!i mean hot like chinese food.i like your hairdo,by the way

The bolded made me laugh baad.
@Carm
I thought before that you were harsh, now this is harsher (If there is an english word like that, yeah but there is)

It wasn't nice and refined of the man to disrespect her like that. If I were to give the guys a piece of advice, it is "Don't you ever tell a woman that she is ugly or that you find so so and so part of her body unlikeable". I am not saying for you not to be honest but there are ways to say stuffs and stuffs will sound real soft.
If a colleague of yours for example does not dress well and you want to tell her to start dressing better you can say it in a way like "Girl, you know you are a beautiful woman. I will really like to see you wearing such fitted skirts and sweet gowns that will enhance your beauty real good". A woman that hears this will never feel bad and think that she has just been told that she has bad dress but that is what you told her without making her feel bad about herself.
Another example is this, an obese/fat lady friend of yours that is too lazy to work on her overweight can gently be coerced into (taking better care of her body) by telling her something like "You know you are a beautiful woman with "killer" hips and waist. I can only imagine what you will look like when you shed some fat that will have your hips and waist well defined". I bet the lady may not wait for work to close that day to hit the gym quickly and go get her "killer" hips and waist defined out and toned down. Lol. You succeeded in telling her "Girl you are too fat and needs to do something fast" without hurting her feelings. Many hard messages can quickly be imparted in others and have them smiling away if the messages are relayed sweetly. It works for me.

carmelion: He did exactly the bolded,that was exactly what he did.He left without an explanation.
In fact he never came in.He just felt like saying something.

Carm you harsh o-o.
I d' rather not hurt a person by spelling things out if i find something about their body build that i don't like. I prefer to let people down easy.

missblanche: *whew*

I'm loving your business already, thumbs up.

Meddler: Can u upload a picture of ur hair let’s see it.
I have a feeling u have my type of hair. In general there are some basic rules to natural hair care
1. Ur hair is natural not relaxed, stop applying the same methods u used to treat ur relaxed hair
2. Always detangle your hair while it’s still wet (some also prefer when loaded with conditioner too - I've tried both method and prefer the wet method better)
3. Never ever comb your hair while it’s dry (ure asking for trouble)
4. Always twist or plait hair after detangling to stretch the hair out and prep for whatever style u choose to wear.
5. Always sleep with a scarf or net (some suggest satin scarf or net - I don't really have the time or strength for that. I'm good as long as it’s tied up)
6. Only use a wide tooth comb. If u must comb/brush hair while dry (even though I don't recommend it) always start from the ends. Comb gently making sure to work thru all tangles if any and work all the way down. Make sure u're combing in sections. (Again I wud not recommend u comb hair while dry - it can cut ur hair)
6. MOISTURIZE!!!!!!!! I cannot stress the importance. Find what works for u. Shea butter and coconut oil works for me
7. Deep condition!!! Again I cannot stress how important this is. Deep conditioning can be done with any cheap hair conditioner and mix with coconut oil and honey. Or u can do a search online to find out homemade mixes for deep conditioners
8. lastly, take it easy and relax, you just started your journey. Its going to take you a while to figure out ur hair. I've been natural since 2007 and still haven't completely mastered my hair.

I'm so following you like twitter, I like your twisting method but I had in mind to get my hair locked when it grows out more. I love the lock/dread look especially when packed high on one side of the head. Natural straight won't be easy to manage but you make it sound easy and fun, that your twist is beautiful too. You have me wondering whether to go for the natural and straight sweet African hair or the locked one.

Yield: Evidence. Make sure you can get some proof: record her without her knowing.
Be vocal and tell her you don't appreciate her actions.


Off topic, where in Kwara are you from?

Exponental: ok....try record a warning conversation with her for reference purpose. Also, try convince ur mother why as a young man u need to buckle up n be ready for independence.
what level are u now n hw old are u dat u cant be alone.

Yeah such a woman deserves to be told on, a combination of these two posts above will be excellent, A record of her trying to seduce you and another record of a warning conversation with her for your tight defence when bubble bursts.

If this thread of yours is really for real know that the fact that she hasn't conscience as to want to seduce you means that she is going after every man that tickles her fancy. How will you turn your back on your brother knowing what type of person he is living with. A cunning woman that cheats him, i only pity the children if she has some yet. They are the ones that will suffer her waywardness when her cheating comes to light. As for me, I will not close my eyes if i see my brother's wife cheating. I will tell and tell again with good evidence to prove. A woman that is cheating/deceiving my brother is deceiving/mocking and making a fool of my family but that is not our portion please.

She is beginning to look too plastic for my liking.

He mad orrrrrrrrrrrrrrr? or what?

You know, I find it hard to believe that Beyonce sang that? It seems somebody annoyed her and she is hitting 'em bad.

The song sounds disrespecful to her husband too in the "don't think that I'm just his little wife" line. It all sounded as if she is feeling relegated to the background because she is now a wife and all of a sudden angrily lashed at the likes of other "bad girl musicians" like Rihanna,Britney spears, JLo with a tone that sings "I can be badder, raunchier and even talk dirtier than you all, don't you dare think that I'm just his little wife".

Beyonce we still love you even if you have plenty kids and is married. Chill B-Baby.