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May God comfort your heart dear.
It hurts deeply to lose a parent, God will take away the pain and make everything
alright. Amen.

Why do that over ordinary parental consent on his marriage? I would have even respected him more if he had ignored the parents' selfish stand and married his woman. So many people suffering in our country with strict belief and mentality, having themselves enslaved by their thinking and the the teachings of others. Some flexibility here and there people biko. If you ask his parents now you will be surprised to hear them say that they disagreed with him because of "WHAT OTHERS WILL SAY".

The enterprising nature of Nigerians seems to be intimidating some African countries nowadays. This harrassments narrated here are too much, are we not the same African brothers and sisters?

Where is Pendo my friend? Girl, why are your people doing this to my Naija people? I dey vex for them o-o. We don't treat Kenyans in Nigeria like that, do we?

May God see you through, Child.

I was moved by your unhappiness. May God be with you and your son and make everything alright in Jesus name, Amen.

The only funny difference between Naija lyrics and other foreign lyrics is simply the "o-o-o-o-o" normally at the end of our lyrics like in "You make me high-o-o-o"-----in the sky-o-o-o-o.
I still love our Naija songs with all the oooooohs and eeeeeeeeehs. Thank you.

The great God that did it for Kate and William (and have them smiling with their baby in their arms)will do it for you brother. You too will carry your baby in your arms and smile with your wife. Amen.

slimmy05: I celebrate the babies born today in Nigeria in hospitals without doctors, to mothers without healthcare and fathers without jobs

Yes dear, we celebrate them all.
All babies born today to people nobody cares to know their name. We celebrate you all along with Nwa William biko.

Please poster if this is a work of fiction kindly indicate that. Don't write this in the internet and have the whole world believing that Nigerians pound babies as dumpling and eat human tongues for dinner. What is this?
Is this real? It can't be.

I thought that she was dating the Chiny(Asian) fella they showed their picture the other day. I was like "they look exotic together" and also connected her recent China tour to a visit to her Ndi Ogo/in-laws (lol).
Nigerians and Ghanaians seem to be getting it good together nowadays, what with Nadia/Jim Iyke and Yvonne Nelson who have her eyes on all the sweet looking Naija celebrities. Now I am gossiping like Linda Ikeji, Mu-che-che Mu-che-che ma oburukwa Calloti. Hahaha, abeg make I laugh.

CFCfan: If the Naija lady can 'bruk wine', there won't be any problems.

Oh, okay.

Afam4eva: Here's the girl:

These pictures show the marriage of Ceawlin Thynn, Viscount Weymouth, to the daughter of a Nigerian oil tycoon who will make history when she becomes the first black Marchioness in Britain.
The future Marquess of Bath yesterday married Emma McQuiston, who says she has been snubbed by the British elite because of her ethnicity and background.
The former Miss McQuiston, daughter of Nigerian oil tycoon Ladi Jadesimi, admits her relationship with the aristocrat has caused upset.

I thought you were joking Afam but that is not Eliza's main royal family sha. I am sure that some of the people upset by the Nigerian girl's marriage must be seething under their breath and saying stuffs like "It's not even enough that she is black but she has to be from that Nigeria of all country" hahaha.
You dey mind them? They should wait till the world start running down to our end to rub shoulders with us Naijas too and they won't snob us anymore.

Oh my God!
Thank God she got saved. Jesus Christ!
Those two men that saved her put their lives on the line too. The one above could have lost balance while trying to catch her, the one holding her feet was almost kneeling on the window. He could have fallen too. #Selflessness

Afam4eva: I heard that one Nigerian girl married into the royal family in England and i was wondering why her own delivery was not carried live. Abi, na Eze Ndigbo of London she marry wey she dey call royal family?

Afam what are you talking about?
Eliza for use broom chase her and her black a*s out of their family. Americans can tolerate a black president but I am sure that the brits will cry to see any black marry into their beloved royal family.

Thanks to whoever pasted that Eliza's family root picture, it showed clearly how her family are related.

Alleluiah! I am happy for them
So the watch is over?
I was telling a girlfriend yesterday that I don't want to be in Kate's position and have the whole world waiting on me to put to bed.
Thank God for safe delivery.
Aunty Eliza must be excited to have one more great grandchild. I'm happy for her.

When poster opened the other thread lamenting how verbally abusive her man is, I read the utterances of both of them and asked "What the hook really is" in the relationship if the man was listing all kinds of weaknesses on the girl's part and the girl was listing the man's own.
Fastforward a year later and this couple are still listing weaknesses with things getting to a violent head.
Mr. Portharcourtboy in the other thread I told you that you are domineering and you are proving it again and again. Each time she opens a thread, you storm there and take over the thread from her insulting her with "she can't do this, she can't do that, my mum is not a lazy b*ttom a*s like her, She can' t cook food etc. The same person that can't boil rice last year haven't learnt a thing all these while and still can't boil rice today? It seems like you are being too fault finding, note that you did not grow up in the same home with her and the methods of cooking used in your different homes cannot be the same. If she can't cook it with the same measure of ingredients your mama use to cook that does not mean that she cannot cook please. All you need do is show her how much ingredients to mix up the way you like it and you don't have to insult her like that while showing her that.

How did you know that she opened this thread if you were not making checks on her too and you had to beat her like a worthless person because she couldn't resist the temptation of going through your phone. The same lady you make love to and say all the endearing words to. The woman that carried/gave birth to your child and you dared lift your hands to beat her. Mister your posts portray you as a man with a strong character who is faultfinding too. You are telling her that when she leaves that there are enough women around to take her place. What happens if another woman takes her place and runs again when the fire becomes too much for her? ----that is when everybody will realize that you have your weaknesses too. You need to calm down a bit for your wife. You are not perfect yet you are always listing the girl's fault. What you and your wife are doing right now is like assembling plenty people in the street and each of you narrating your side of your problems to them. You will get all kinds of advice for sure so it's better you both sit down, nip this problem for the last time and give peace & joy chances in your home.

I read that she broke your shoulder and broke your tablets too. We were not told what made her do these things not that she should get violent too. It is not good for a man and woman to live in violence because someday one may kill the other, you are even better off on your own without being exposed to violence than being yoked in it so if you want to remain married know that violence has no place in a loving marriage. Decide against it in your marriage, pray and work against it. Work at weaknesses that the other partner wants to be improved on and make each other happy. Please you guys must never hit each other again, we don't want to see another thread with shattering news. If you want to keep hitting yourselves better separate and stay alive. Each of you may come across people with cooler demeanor. I haven't seen a man and woman that are always nullifying each other out and are still glued like "You are the most terrible man/woman on earth but I am stuck on you". There seems to be a hook here, you can as well make whatever it is that binds you beautiful even with the teeming imperfections and weaknesses than living the rest of your lives being at each other's neck. There is no perfect husband or wife out there without an atom of weakness in them.

Great bod, girl.

Gumsu should have known better than to be disrespectful while rolling in the $100million remnant of(Nigeria's stolen money) that Obasanjo was made to forego to her Mama. It's like she drank plenty rum and champagne and was drunk when she tweeted that. Wallowing in stolen money and dissing a man that worked hard to build his reputation. What's wrong with her?

[quote author=tha_originator]Mumu gal ah looking fi attention me guess she ah fi gwan get some.
Battyman abacha weh a fi loot wi treasury a lon time ago. Mi nuh send nuh battybwoy ya hearr mi faya burn dem. Mi gwan![/quote]Who be this Jamo wannabe?
The bolded is funny.

Who are the people calling these twins Mgbeke?
I am sure you won't sight their "getting-sophisticated" back in a year or two. The twins are getting sophisticated real good.

ibkaye: I've been at the lowest of lows but never contemplated suicide, it's sad what life's struggles can drive a person to do, nice topic

Stay Strong okay.

sanniemoe: Not until last year, I was very suicidal. As a matter of fact,I feel God somehow just kept me alive by mistake cos I was real a depressed and pessimistic person. After 2 failed attempts,It didn't matter how I died but I just wanted to die,the only reason i think im still alive prolly cos i wasnt strong enough 2 stab myself..Thank God I'm getting better now but I pray I get over this totally someday soon...

You may worsen things by incapacitating yourself through stabbing and other means you attempted. Things will be terrible when you become bedridden and unable to work hard and better your life so you see---it makes no sense attempting to harm yourself. Why don't you just have fun with life and sail on, someday it's going to be bright and sunny okay Baby? Stay strong.

[quote author=zele---]Ooosh!! I would have been a better person had i known this nairaland forum prior this time. This ain't funny but for me here i'm just living to die. My heart is heavy for many years and it's been saddened. Saddened? Dat is understatement. My steppy has even called me a saddist which i concurred but what do i do? Even though never believe in existence of God. I see every religious as old history in which we are just using to hold societies in peace. My issue is as a normal story but i dont know why it turnout on me to this extent sha. Who to trust? Love to pour out everything here but i dont know how it will turn to be. I just finished service and exactly a month today,it is as if the whole world is against me. I think my weakness has always been self pity, self hatred and shyness. I always look into mirror and any form of such 1000 times in a day. Funny enough all attributes/factors you've all mentioned are at work with me. Need help atleast[/quote]I will recommend that you read such positive books as ones written by Dale Carnegie and Norman Vincent Peale, they will help you develop a positive mind set. You choose to be happy. If you cling to the unhappy thoughts, they will remain in your mind and keep you saddened so clear your mind of the things that are preventing you from being happy. Take out time and go to places that give you sweet and positive thoughts, the sights of billows of the ocean unwinds me. I have heard others say that such sights in beaches affect them good too. A good experience in a good church, the praises and worship the songs and inspiring words of God cool the mind too. You can try cherishing that if you are a christian.

The period after Youth service can be hard especially if you have no job doing. You have to do your best to get a job to do or use a skill you already have to fend for yourself. Remember that you choose to be happy.

married2awizard: yes I recently started thinking of ending it all
I have 3kids and I am married,my husband hits me,hates me,tells me I am bad in bed,and my food is tasteless,same food and sex he enjoyed before married has become bad to him.He is broke now so I spend for the home.
I have an embarrassing issues healthwise that seems to have no cure.
How long can I continue to love a man that hates me?everyone says you have to stay in your marriage for the kids.--- men are the most heartless men ever,no sympathy or empathy in their dictionary just their dirty ego and empty pride,their wife means nothing and their family means evertyhing.

I cant go on

Please stay alive for your children okay, don't harm yourself.
You mustn't continue accepting being hit cause your life is precious to you and your kids. Address that hitting part seriously, don't fold your hands and keep receiving it. Bring in families if possible and pass on the message that you ain't tolerating being hit again. As per the hatings and maltreatment part can you try disarming him with kind and humane treatment when he talks down on you instead of getting angry too and both of you using unkind words at the same time or something. It may give him thoughts that may have him thinking deeper and getting remorseful enough for peace to return. Don't let unhappiness of heart, bad words etc take away joy from your life, overcome them with a good heart and good words.
You deserve an aura of happiness around as you mentioned that you have a health issue, No you don't have to share it in the forum as somebody suggested if you don't want to. They have doctors in the forum that you can search for in health related threads and seek advice from in private if you so wish, the problem may have a cure after all. Don't believe anybody that tells you that "you have an incurable this and that that can extinguish your life soon etc". Your life is in God's hands and in God's hand alone and so is your cure too.

You can try out different recipes and cook different things that is if he is finding the foods monotonous or something, better still you can lure him into the kitchen and ask for his input on how he wants the food----that way you are indirectly cooking together and I am sure he won't dare say that a food he helped cook tastes bad .

It must be hard fending for the family now that he has no source of income. When you come online you can help search around for jobs for him. Somebody made a good post of how he survived joblessness in this thread https://www.nairaland.com/1355537/how-cope-family-man-after/1. He can use the method the man used. Bad heartedness is not a trait found only in one tribe in our country. There are Igbo men that marry their wives well so don't feel like that about the tribe okay.

The middle picture with one of them sitting legs apart isn't very feminine.

Good carriage, my girls----good carriage.
You gotta carry that body like a lady. The first pics with the bags isn't bad though they would have looked better holding the bags downward instead of over their shoulders but they struck a good pose after all.