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VPersie:
I want you to congratulate me. Marriage is an epochal event in any person's life. It is the most important day after the day of disvirginment. So I expect your wishes of a long and prosperous future and happy married life.

Disvirginment of who? You or your future wife to be?


I saw your earlier thread but I was hoping it was a lie. But at least wait for her to turn 18. Does the girl in question want to marry you as well?

hakunajay:
This is a nice little piece of nonsense! The write up is so bleep up, i wonder if this is english at all? Abeg, make u write am for broken english make i 4 understand or better still in your native language so that someone can translate it to proper and understandable english!

She is obviously panicking so she may not have been very coherent, but even a retard could have understood what she was saying.
This is much better than what some people write on this forum. And if you don't understand this form of English at it's simplest , then nobody can help you.

@ Poster ; Do you know that loving someone and being in love with them are different things?

Please look at this link and read the advice given to the person on that page. I hope it helps.

http://www.dearcupid.org/question/whats-the-difference-between-loving-and-being-in.html

googles:


you need no soothsayer to tell you she was high on sommin. . . . dats quiet obvious

i know castigation wen i see one and yes you were castigating her. . . you criticized her posts dat amounts to castigation to me, am sorry

ok since we do not live by the same philosophy there is no point going up and down different lanes then

have fun

There's a difference between being drunk (alcohol) and being high (drugs) on something that may have been slipped into your drink without your knowledge.

Have fun too

googles:
The OP posting her pictures here on NL doesnt change anything. . . . do you know how many pple have her pictures ?

Am sure pple must have made videos sef. . . . and its prolly been uploaded on youtube,facebook or even sending it thru bluetooth

castigating Whiteroses doesnt change the fact dat she was on the street dead drunk as a result of her own carelessness.

How do we KNOW she was really drunk? You weren't there and neither was I.
I am not castigating her. Telling someone that something is wrong is now castigating, right?
And because everyone is jumping into the river means I should do that as well? I really don't subscribe to that philosophy. Because everyone is quick to judge and say she was drunk doesn't mean she was because we do not know what actually happened.
She could have posted the pictures WITHOUT showing her face is all I'm saying. I don't expect any one of you to agree with me anyway.

whiteroses:
you can say whatever! i posted it, i was terrified when i saw it cos it's something i would do and it could of been me, people will learn from this only an inconsiderable person would think i've come to humiliate her, wherever she is i hope she's ok i really do. any admin should feel free to remove the pic, i couldn't care less but i hope people have learnt lessons cos i have
tank you oh, iya besira or watever she's a b1tch isn't she kmt

Actually  you are MORE of a naughty woman than I could ever be because I would have at least had the sense to black out her face or something.
And if you notice my first post, I didn't insult you by calling you a naughty woman or a slowpoke   or whatever. I told you that you  posting those pics showing her unclothed on the street was wrong and insensitive. And I still think it was because you can pass on a message without showing her in her panties.

polosco:
I do not support divorce in any way, there can always be a way out for this marriage, the man is surely suffering from a disorder which the wife can help him overcome if she gets counseling. Let her try this first. It shall be well.

How i wish I could slap you over the internet.
Do you know what it is to endure countless beatings and during one body-bashing session, to lose FOUR teeth

Let's assume he truly has a disorder . Whose fault is that? Hers?
It's not your fault. You sound like those men who say they do not support abortion in any way but forget the pains that come with childbirth.

tpiah:
i think the thread is meant to be cautionary, not offensive.

people post worse things for no reason, on nl. [b]A certain scammer and i.diot regularly spams the forum with his unclothed vulgar photos every so often. Others post poorn, photos of childbirth, fat women's butts, etc- whatever they waank to.
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i doubt the op meant to give offence but the face could be blacked out just in case someone knows the girl. Such a pretty lady too.

if it were overseas where drinking is socially expected, she might be able to live it down, but in nigeria, not so.

LMAO . . . so someone actually does that! Hilarious . . . I've never seen such here so i assumed this was a first.
I know it was cautionary but it was really very thoughtless of her to post the pictures. We don't even know if she was really drunk. Poor girl.

DAMN! This is sad. . .

I have no words.

To the original poster of this topic;


Was it really necessary to show her lying on the floor? She has suffered enough from what I can see and you didn't have to show her face and her panties for everyone to see. The least you could have done was to black out her face, and if you dint know how to do that and you wanted to send a warning across to others, you should have asked someone else to do it FOR you.
Showing her sprawled across the street is unfair and humiliating especially IF she was drugged. Its extremely insensitive of you to post all these pictures to people on the INTERNET of all places!

Dafemo:
@inked nerd you have a great sense of judgement, but if you don,t mind how old are you and can you date a nigerian, no offence

Use the apostrophe ( ' ) and not the comma in words  like the following   -  " don't" ,  "isn't" , etc.

Not on my laptop it doesn't. I tried to use green on my last post and its just b.l.a.c.k. Oh well.

michelin89:
1. I have already answered you: MEMBERS CAN'T SEND PM's.
2. When you are done posting, highlight it and click on the option CHANGE COLOUR! You have several choices.

Already? You NEVER answered me before. Thanks for letting me know that anyway.

Maybe you didn't read my post well.  I will highlight it again for you.

IyaBasira:
Hi! I posted a topic on Nl some time ago asking how to send PM's as I dont have that option anywhere on my NL page.
I have been to the help pages and checked all the posts regarding personal messaging but I dont have any way of using it. [b][b]Also, I cant use any colour other than black when making posts. I have tried several times but it just doesnt work.
Help please?[/b][/b]

Do you see my point now? I have done what you just said several times BUT IT DOESN'T WORK.

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[quote author=coal_coal link=topic=486381.msg6465922#msg6465922 date=1280325912]maybe the girl in question is finer than his wife and that could be the more reason she is feeling insecure.

but then, truth be said. the guy should have known better by not allowing the girl to come to his house after his wife showed displeasure.

what is the age of this girl? is she an undergraduate? a single se.xy lady living in the compound looking for some wanna be?

my advice to this poster is to solve his domestic problems and stop whining on the pages on an internet forum[/quote]I wonder if people cannot read sometimes. He said he told the girl to stop coming and she COMPLIED!!!! Jeez.

But your wife . . . went far too far in doing that. And everyone just stood there watching right? She really should be extremely ashamed of herself.

Sagamite:
I am afraid if the immorality access to internet does not improve, I might have to restrict it at home to an extent.

Definitely, the TV and internet will be strictly in the sitting room until they are older.

I still wonder how retarded parents can be so daft to say they are allowing pre-pubescent children to be chatting on internet when they risk paedophile grooming. What the hell is a child gaining from internet room chatting?

In regards to public display/innuendo's of indecency, that is a cultural war. We must fight the so-called liberals. The "Sex is not a big deal, calm down", " the "if you got it, flaunt it jare" retards. Hopefully my Boko-Harams and Fire-Salvation brigades will last the war.

Mate, don't jump into conclusions. Who told you I came out good? 

LMAO . . . Sagamite knows himself.

honeric01:
Information i repeat, if the parents were the type that informed their kids never to do anything of that magnitude without consulting them, this wouldn't have happened.

I know parents who tell their kids never to go for any abortion nor encourage any of their friends to do it, the parents must have kept this info away from the girl.

Why did i say this? if there's an healthy communication relationship between kids and their parents, things like these wouldn't happen because the kids won't in any way hide it from her parents

Another thing, parents who takes proper care of their kids tend to notice any slight changes in the ways/character/body structure/ strange body languages from their kids and i am talking from experience.


Parents should try to build a talking relationships with their kids, it helps alot, if a child knows that she can talk to her dad or mom in any situation no matter the level of offense, they won't take grave decision such as this without informing their parents.

You have a good point. But how many Nigerian parents bother to really TALK to their children  rather than  order them around ? Discipline is the way forward and it has always been but not to the point of dictatorship in the home.  And that is actually what drives a child into such a situation.
Now look at this story. Did she get herself pregnant? No. Where is the man/boy in question? No where to be found. And he is obviously never going to come out and say this. I'm sure he will even be happy because its a situation dealt with, problem solved.

Oya what is it this time around;
Are you trying to find out if the man sleeping on the right or left side will make a happy marriage?


Anyway things like that don't matter as long as you sleep in peace, do they?

Sometimes it seems as if MOBO444 AND Mr Cork are one and the same person.

Please ignore this fellow. Things like this are called cheap publicity stunts. All he wants is his 15 minutes of fame. Don't even bother with him as from now on, abeg.

I like honesty and someone who can admit to making mistakes. That's a good trait.
Yeah you messed up . But don't make a second mistake. It seems that you guys are a _bit too close .

Hi! I posted a topic on Nl some time ago asking how to send PM's as I dont have that option anywhere on my NL page.
I have been to the help pages and checked all the posts regarding personal messaging but I dont have any way of using it. Also, I cant use any colour other than black when making posts. I have tried several times but it just doesnt work.
Help please?

190. and Omolola are they really in love or is this just one of those things . . . it seems really serious.

Ujujoan:
LOL

I think the man will do well to take some responsibility here. How could one young lady despoil him? How is that even possible to begin with? Did she drug him, tie him to a bed and hold a gun to his head?

He slept with his wife's sister without protection and got her pregnant. I'd say 50% of the fault is his.

Exactly.
I'm not even going to talk abt the sister cos she ain't worth mentioning here.
HE is the issue. cos She isnt married to her sister, is she?

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=496356.msg6565329#msg6565329 date=1281681267]Dear Agatha,



I am in a very hot soup and what is happening to me appears to be like a story from a movie. I am still hoping to wake up from this nightmare. I have gone to several places to seek help including a radio programme, but my problem persists. And with each day, it becomes more complex and too confusing for me to handle.

I don’t know where to start or how to solve this problem facing me in my marriage. My husband impregnated my sister. After her Youth Service, she requested to come over to Lagos to stay with me. My mother didn’t particularly like the idea of her coming living with me in my matrimonial home, but being my sister and one I like very much, I overruled my mother.

It didn’t end my mother’s concern as she kept calling my sister to behave herself without causing troubles for me in my marriage. Curious to know why mother was always cautioning her against causing problems for me, she just laughed over the matter and dismissed mother as being paranoid. Since I didn’t really grow with them, I have lived all my life in boarding schools outside the country. I know very little

I honestly didn’t have any reason to suspect she was having an affair with my husband until I noticed she was pregnant. Not that she told me about her pregnancy, I chanced on her antenatal card and asked if she was pregnant. She told me yes and when I asked her who the man was since I noticed she had one or two men always around her. She told me the owner of the pregnancy is someone I know and who I would approve of.

Bothered that my husband may not like the situation of her staying in his house with a pregnancy. I told my sister to hasten the process of bringing the man home to meet my husband to avoid problems for me in my own home.

To my surprise she told me not to worry about my husband that he wouldn’t mind, because the owner of the pregnancy is like a twin brother to him. Her attitude was at that point beginning to irritate me so I decided to inform my husband myself about the development. I had expected him to be enraged with anger, but he instead broke down in tears begging me to forgive him. [b]That my sister practically despoiled him on one of those Saturdays I went out.[/b]

He said he has been begging her to abort the child when she came to inform him of the pregnancy but my sister says she cannot afford to go through an abortion again. According to him he has done everything to erase the incident but my sister appears determined to hurt me for a reason he doesn’t understand. To demonstrate his helplessness, he even went to the extent of buying her a ticket to travel abroad to save me the pains of knowing that she is carrying his baby.

As if wasn’t enough shock for me, when I confronted my sister, she told me its her turn to pay me back for having everything she has always desired as a child. She said whereas, our parents made her stay in Nigeria, I was given the opportunity to school abroad. For the first time I experienced real hatred from the eyes of the person I love with all my heart.

My parents especially my mother is devastated by what my sister has done. She is currently on admission for high blood pressure. My father and the rest of the family have disowned my sister just as my in-laws too have also disowned the pregnancy. My husband is sending everybody to beg me to forgive him, but my sister remains adamant despite pressures from everyone that she terminates the pregnancy.

Agatha, I have always trusted my husband and know that he would not deliberately do anything to hurt me, but how can I share him with my sister or explain to my children that their cousin is actually their father’s child? All his friends are also united in my favour. He went as far as getting his managing director to come and beg me to forgive him. I am really confused. I have known my husband for over 18 years and never has he once betrayed me even when he had all the excuses to.

Should I quit or remain and fight for the man I really love?[/quote]She practically raped him??
Ummmm . . . seriously?
I guess it all depends on body mass.

What goes around truly comes around, doesn't it.

Anyway tell him the truth hopefully you will be able to marry the guy you love. It has to be done and he is going to feel bad either way. But please, please, and please do not get married immediately after dumping your present boyfriend. Wait for like a while before doing so.

Sorry but your friend is very daft.
I hate it when people try to play love games!
Why did she try to test him like that?

Anyways she should just calm down and remember it was all her fault. Hopefully she will forgive herself and him someday.

When I first started reading this thread I felt very sorry for you and I was actually surprised that some people were saying that she was smart.

But then I saw where you said you knew of her zig-zag habits for 4 and a half years. I will outline 3 things

a) You never actually told us what those habits are ( I would really like to know so I can judge better)
b) Even if you found some things you didn't like, no one was saying that you should have dumped her on the spot. But you could at least have let    her go with dignity. If you had broken up with her like 2 months after you discovered those habits , wouldn't it have been better?  I'm sure you would have gotten over her by now.
But to be going out with someone you know you have no concrete feelings for is just cold.  Sometimes you need to forget about teaching people a lesson and just do what is best for you.
c) It sounds like you liked her but just didn't want to admit it to yourself.


I don't like it when people are jumping from one guy to the other but at the same time,  you messed up . Your plan backfired before you could get your revenge on her for her 'zig zag habits' . You were trying to play the cool, vindictive guy and it didn't work. She has gotten married but we all know what goes around comes around.  So to be honest,  I don't think either of you are smart, you or your ex - girlfriend.

Sagamite:
Not as much as if I were a woman especially if I have wad.

With wad, if I hit town I will get enough attraction to my fill.

Rich men are the best looking men.

WHAT?!
Not all the time oooo.
Some rich men are like sandpaper on the eyes . . . chei.

bawomolo:
i'm confused here, the God of the quoran said i can marry four wives.

na that kin God i dey worship o  

You are confusing Allah with Jehovah. I'm talking about the latter. Did you marry 4 wives?

All I can say is that he's probably sending them chat messages as well.  Put the ignore button on him forever. And this is a very good example of why rotten apples never fall far away from the tree. Beast.