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Music/Radio / Re: Hit Songs With Bad Music Videos by IyaBasira: 1:40pm On Jul 07, 2010 |
Ringtone - Naeto C |
Celebrities / Re: Sammy Okposo Weds by IyaBasira: 5:40pm On Jul 01, 2010 |
NubianQ: Sammy Okposo Whose life did he destroy? I thought he was a Christian . . . |
Family / Re: Betrayed By : by IyaBasira: 4:34pm On Jul 01, 2010 |
jennykadry: Are you sure about that? It seems to me that its when they were married 2 years that you can trust your wife completely and let her transfer to wherever in the world without being worried. But 2 months? I have always been told that the beginning of a marriage is very exciting but also very fragile, and its at this point that I would ask why you let her stay so far away. I think the first few months are extremely crucial. Obviously I cannot blame the poster because an indisciplined person will always be an indisciplined person wherever he/she is. But as of yet , we don't know if she actually CHEATED on him. All I saw was that her head was on his lap. Maybe she was lying on the couch and her head was on his lap . . . .I think he might be overreacting a bit. Or maybe I don't fully understand the situation. |
Romance / Re: My Bf Is Complainin About Me by IyaBasira: 11:33pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
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Romance / Re: Taking Yourself Less Seriously! by IyaBasira: 11:24pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
Let's name and shame !!!!! And then we could see who needs to be brought down a peg. |
Career / Re: She Sacked Me because Am A Lesbian by IyaBasira: 7:59pm On Jun 30, 2010 |
odiaero: ROFL . . . .!!!!!!# This thread is hilarious. Jenny's problem is not that she is a lesbian. The reason why I say this is because in the UK or the US, she could sue for discrimination and actually win the case. Her problem was failing to realize that when in Rome, do as the Romans do. She has lived in Nigeria for a long time and thus she should understand that Nigerians will always be the first to exact jungle justice - especially when it comes to homosexuality. Her boss is even considerate. Another person would have called her out in front of all her work colleagues. And THAT would have been much worse. |
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by IyaBasira: 7:51pm On Jun 28, 2010 |
Travelista: That doesn't make any sense. I'm sure when someone really annoyed you , you really wanted to shoot them with the biggest gun you could find. But did that make you a murderer? No. The housemate didn't "call you as she saw it" like you said. She was just being an uncultured naughty woman by spreading it all over town. It's one thing to make a private assumption of someone based on what they told you themselves. It's another thing to tell others who don't even know her history. That wasn't right and neither was it fair , so how can you defend it? Obviously what Lashontae wants to do is not the best , but isn't it better for you to just say, no don't do it. The way I see it, this thread is just a threat. I don't think she's that silly as to assume that stealing someone else's bf will solve all her problems. |
Family / Re: I Found Messages My Wife Wrote Toanother Man When We Were Together by IyaBasira: 6:20pm On Jun 28, 2010 |
randoman: Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww! I feel so sorry for you! But I hope you realize that this may not be the first lie she has told you. Being second best is not healthy. But you ARE going to have to be very harsh on her , especially if she continues to show no remorse. jennykadry: Do they even need proof to send their wives packing ? Mshewwww. But your post is on point you know. And besides, he needs to think very well because this could also mean that she never wanted him in the first place. |
Romance / Re: An Open Warnin To My Proud Roomie Who Treats Her BF Like Poo-I'll Take Your Man by IyaBasira: 12:53am On Jun 28, 2010 |
Man! I hate people like that! It was probably not a good idea to tell her your past in the first place . . . but all the same for her to say what she said is the most despicable thing a human being can do. The whole reason why you are about to do what you want to do is because you don't like being called something you are not. But does it make any more sense to do what would genuinely make you one? Everybody can do whatever they like in their lives, but you probably shouldn't do everything that comes into your head. Ignore that girl and hang out with other people who won't do the rubbish she gives herself license to do. |
Romance / Re: When Innocent Michael Jackson Was With A Girlfriend by IyaBasira: 2:06pm On Jun 27, 2010 |
ElRazur: WORD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
Romance / Re: My Sister Had My Boyfriend's Baby. Forgive Her? Not? by IyaBasira: 12:23pm On Jun 27, 2010 |
Pweety4me: That bolded part makes no sense whatsoever. So she is at fault for trusting her bf with her sister? Excluding her mother, are those not the closest people to her? So how could she NOT trust them with one another? The poster was not at fault in any way because its not as if her bf didn't know that that child was his. In fact, he knew and that was why he never refused to help when a situation arose. Besides, not allowing them to get close wouldn't have made the situation better, because the baby still came out in the end, and it still looked like the baby's daddy. |
Romance / Re: When Is It Love? by IyaBasira: 1:29am On Jun 27, 2010 |
Missy B: I have no intentions of doing such. Lol. Altering someone never works , i know. |
Romance / Re: My Sister Had My Boyfriend's Baby. Forgive Her? Not? by IyaBasira: 12:27am On Jun 27, 2010 |
Did you say it's been five years? Since you spoke to her? It's probably time to move on, then. Dont get me wrong. Its not possible for me to take this situation lightly because family members are as off-limits as you can possibly get. When I say, move on, I don't mean sellotape a smile to your face and act like it's all rosy. I mean begin with the first step and pray about it. As in, pray long and pray hard. Talk to God about it. Nowadays people equate moving on with either getting revenge or seeing the person who hurt you get knocked down by karma's bitchiness or living in a quagmire of self - pity where your life is lived in terms of "Oh, how I wish this person had never come into my life , my life has never been the same ". I think what your sister did was the most terrible thing any sister can do , but would you be willing to imagine how she feels now? Sometimes we don't realize the implications of the things we do until we have done them and by then its faaaaaar too late to change anything. Just speak to her the next time she calls and really talk to her. Ask her all the questions you want to ask her. You will not forgive her immediately, but at least be willing to take that first step. |
Romance / Re: When Is It Love? by IyaBasira: 11:43pm On Jun 26, 2010 |
Missy B: ***Sighs with relief*** Thanks very much. I'm actually asking this question because there was someone I used to like and was going out with. I really looked up to him and respected him, so when the news got out that he liked someone else, things started going downhill. After a while he started trying, but I'm one of those people who doesnt forgive easily , so even though he started trying really hard eventually, I was still too much of a believer in Disney fairy tales (lol) to accept that he WAS willing to change and make an effort. Normally I wouldnt even care, but I heard through the grapevine that he's just cheated on his present girlfriend. I feel a bit sad, because I think he's lost and needs help and I was once in that position to help him but I didnt. And once this news gets out, its going to be a whole vicious cycle all over again. |
Romance / Re: When Is It Love? by IyaBasira: 10:13pm On Jun 26, 2010 |
Acidosis: That isnt what my question is about and someone in 'lust' can ignore the needs of other important family members, to meet that of the needs of a girl. |
Romance / When Is It Love? by IyaBasira: 6:50pm On Jun 26, 2010 |
Hi! Ok, I just want to ask a question that's been confusing me for a long time. There are often these conditions which are attached to true love, what it should do and what it should'nt do. The way I see it , the only type of perfect love is that which God loves us with. But there's one problem. God is . . . God. And we are just puny humans who mess up in the most terrible ways a lot of the time. So when you hear ; " If a guy/girl loves you, he will wait for you " Or "If a guy/girl loves you, he will never cheat on you" Or "If a guy/ girl loves you, he will never do something to hurt you intentionally" Some people are brought up in violent environments and thus, their idea of love is twisted and their way of expressing it is just not what a "normal" person is used to. But that does't mean they aren't in love, does it? What if someone is excessively selfish and they just are not used to the idea of looking after anyone's interests but theirs due to their background? Falling in love wont CHANGE their character's automatically, will it? If anything it makes them more selfish because they may want to play the field and keep the one they want waiting in the wings but intentionally hurting them in the process. I just wonder a lot of the time because if someone was in that type of relationship, the general consensus would be "Get rid of him/ her! " or " Kick him to the curb! " as I hear a lot of people say on this forum. So when exactly does it end? I hope I've made sense but I'm just really confused about this because it seems as though everyone has their own definition of love these days. |
Romance / Re: What Do You Do When Your BestFriend's Spouse Wants You ? by IyaBasira: 2:52am On Jun 26, 2010 |
guzair: Eyaaah . . . Thats so sad. And he said he knew all along? By telling him you may just have saved your own life. Who knows? Please comfort him as much as you can. |
Family / Re: Sister In Law by IyaBasira: 8:37pm On Jun 24, 2010 |
Big-Man: But she's only asking . . . If she's not Nigerian she may not be familiar with the culture at all. I have often heard it said that "The stranger who asks questions will never lose his way". Obviously she's going to be resistant to it because she doesn't like it very much and people are always resistant to something that is foreign to them. |
Romance / Re: Men Who Are Sweet by IyaBasira: 10:14pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: *** Oh My God . . . I must have run out of that potion that the babalawo gave me so that no-one disbelieves whatever comes out of my mouth . . . I am DOOMED!*** (Back to reality) But why? Why dont you believe me? |
Fashion / Re: Naija Fashion Police by IyaBasira: 8:30pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
The girl in the backless outfit tried now! Haba! Her back was spotless!!!! Would people prefer it if she wore the dress and we could all see the innumerable black spots on her back?! The dress was just faaaaar too short for my liking. Thats all I could see that was wrong with it. |
Romance / Re: Men Who Are Sweet by IyaBasira: 7:51pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
Faher: How did I 'almost' convince you? |
Romance / Re: Men Who Are Sweet by IyaBasira: 4:30pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
Sweet is nice in a person's character but is often masked because it screams vulnerablility. The sweetest ones are sometimes those who look the hardest on the outside. However I think that for most people, after having met someone they like, try to make it easier for the other person to get to know them and not do things on purpose just to push them away. I heard some people do that though but it doesnt make sense to me anyway. segzi cres: That isn't true. 1 Like 1 Share |
Romance / Re: Help! I Met A She-devil: by IyaBasira: 3:19pm On Jun 22, 2010 |
Is it that difficult for you to figure out what you have to do? Ignore her like a plague for the rest of your life. And tell your fiancee about her if she ever shows up in your life again. Assuming that this story is true anyways. |
Romance / Re: 'Ladies, where is the Love?' by Laide O by IyaBasira: 3:04pm On Jun 21, 2010 |
She made a whole lotta sense. Kudos to her! |
Romance / Re: The Right Reasons For Being A Virgin. by IyaBasira: 6:00pm On Jun 19, 2010 |
BlakkBoi: Please don't get it twisted. This topic is not meant to make anyone feel bad or to anger anyone. I just think that a few people are doing things for shallow reasons. The purpose of this is to educate and not to judge anyone. |
Romance / Re: Am I To Tell My Friend? by IyaBasira: 5:48pm On Jun 19, 2010 |
This is a moral dilemma to which the only answer is YES. There is a way of doing things in which you can force your cousin to reveal the truth without getting your hands dirty. Step 1; Call your cousin, talk to him and let him know that you know what he is up to. Let him know that the fact that this woman is your friend is the reason why you will not ignore it and hope it goes away. Give him a time limit of a week or two to tell his wife. And let him understand that you will not waste any time in telling his wife if he has not told her within that time frame. Step 2; Cut off all contact with him for that week or two and let him stew knowing that you know. (If he is the hardened type he may not care but lets hope that is not the case). After this period of time has passed, ask him if he told his wife. If he has , then lucky you. If he has not, proceed to Step 3. Step 3; If he has not told his wife, then you will just have to keep to your promise and tell her yourself. Its not a nice thing to do but it hs to be done if you feel that great of a responsibility towards her as a friend. |
Romance / The Right Reasons For Being A Virgin. by IyaBasira: 4:18pm On Jun 18, 2010 |
I saw this article written by an amazing bloggist and I hope it goes a little way to reducing the mistaken idea that men somehow respect you more for being a virgin . http://sugabelly..com/2009/02/of-virgins-and-virginity.html |
Romance / Re: Relationship Is A Disease! by IyaBasira: 11:29am On Jun 15, 2010 |
pro01: Not all girls are like that. Any girl who does stuff like that is just not worth even 1/ 1000000 th of the effort. But on the other hand, some girls I know do lend their bf's money and even pay for their phone contracts and stuff. And this doesn't seem to stop their boyfriends from cheating on them. |
Romance / Re: Insecurity Or Selfishness? by IyaBasira: 1:24am On Jun 15, 2010 |
Insecurities often lead to selfishness in some aspects of life , so I'd say it's both. I never really thought of marriage to that extent. Previously, when I was thinking of my wedding all I could imagine was all my best friends and how bad I would feel if they couldn't be my bridesmaids or be at my wedding. |
Music/Radio / Re: Nigerian Artistes That Should Quit Singing(time Up) by IyaBasira: 11:57pm On Jun 14, 2010 |
msb247: ARE YOU SERIOUS? Ty Bello ? How dare you This means that someone will soon mention Lara George's name. But by that time I will be armed with rat poison. |
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