~Sissy~:

so whats actually the problem here? isnt she the new wife? or abi you want them to reintroduce you as the new wife and her as the new last wife or what? second wife, third wife dont matter, everyone know you were married before her why worry over that?

i throughly feel you are overacting over the whole " na me dem born first, na me dem marry first or abi second" thing. and it does come-off as if you being jealous over her getting all the "newbie" attention. so, you need to stop complaining and learn to respect yourself. she is still newly married, so it definitely too early to start fussing up over things like this now. and you also want to tone it down with running to your MIL with complains because you wouldnt want your second name to be "mrs complainer" cause it will definitely not help your "cause"

na me dem born first a.k.a i cannot carry last . . . lmao . .

XX01:

Lol at d responses. Dont mind me, i av 2 get used 2 d attention shifting from me 2 her. I am not above laughing at myself. I felt like a total  after speakin 2 MIL. Wish i could wind back time.

Anyways, that was just to let off steam cos i cant bring such a silly topic 2 my husband 4 discussion.  He would laugh me 2 scorn. I really need 2 find another job. Lol.

Poster seems to have gotten over the issue thanks to NL's tough love . . . Nairaland saves the day!!!! (For once),

Blazay:

Mu he he he he

One of those Moutallab muuzlims will inherit the congo intact when she reach God face for sure!

Shiooooooooor!

Virgin ko!
Atlantic ni!
See how 'silly' virgins end up? 
Disu wan na for civilized world o. Not to mention broke-arzzzzzzzze local champions from the jungo of Africa.
Shiooooooooor! African 'craw-fish' virgin. Make she nor go school learn to become bread-winner like powerful modern women oh?





http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/system/topicRoot/Wedding_of_Charles_and_Diana/

No wonder she ended up dead.


See who the "ay-dion-vbhan" ended up with? An "ay-deh-deh" with false teeth like his after they all planned to ge[b]rrri[/b]d of her so they can keep phocking themselves. Did they not eventually get married after she died like one [size=20pt]'Buckingham Bushmeat'[/size]?

To add insult to injury. . .after chopping her 'virgin' congo. . . with 2 beautiful boys. . . !!! Hmmmmm!!!



http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/7420541/ns/world_news/


Abeg when she reaash dia, make she greet Lady "DINAH" for me o! Too bad she will only see her sons get married and carry her grand-children from her diamond coffin where she don die dey rotten troway tay tay.

God forbid I say!
Make she shine her eyes well well o!
She ain't marrying a Prince Charles. . . mwaaaaaah!!!
Ewooooo!!!

Blazay . . . u r not serious at all. . . LMAO. . .

@ Divalishis 's COUSIN ; Blazay's posts actually have a lot of truth in them. If he doesn't respect you or trust you now before the marriage, then he's not going to respect you or trust you AFTER the marriage. Whether you are a virgin or not will be completely irrelevant to him.

Please memorise everything Inked Nerd said. Also, re-read esteduca's post to enable you to put things into perspective. But DON'T entertain the thought of still getting married to him. Girls always seem to have this "Beauty and the Beast" mentality that makes them think that by being beautiful, educated, well-bred, patient, loving and what-have-you, that the guy will eventually change and realise what a fool he has been.

Some guys do change, but to be quite honest, if he was going to change he would have done so by now. Please don't waste yourself on him , don't build your life around ANYONE! Count yourself lucky that you saw the light before signing the dotted line. Some people don't and they end up dead.

shithapuns:

mine was a 'virgin ' gal i was dating in my teenage yrs, i didnt want to hv sex wit her, cos i wanted her 2 keep her virginity, we later had a quarrel and broke up. only for me to learn that she was deceiving me all along, one dude in my strreet told him of how he b,anged her, and she was pretending/claiming to be a virgin to me!!, my heart boiled, i just pretended that nuthin happened, and then later initaited moves to make up with the girl, i succeded and we started dating again, i was then able to hv a taste of her too.and later dumped her 18mnths later!,

wud hv dumped her earlier, but she had the most amazing bre[i]asts[/i] i hv ever seen!.gosh, got hard just seeing them beauties.lol

Has it occured to you that your "dude" may be lying?

I hope you know that a lot of guys lie about having sex with girls.

Emotional abuse, that's what this is.

That man is not going to change. If she accepts this now, she's going to become one of those people who come to nairaland to complain when things go wrong , and people will say "Didn't you see all these signs before you married him?"

A broken engagement is better, far better , than a broken marriage. Unfortunately she might not listen to whatever you say because I've noticed that girls only learn that there are plenty more fish in the sea the hard way. Also, she might not see this as being a big deal until it gets worse. And by that time it may be too late.

tpiah!:

Honestly, when i start mentioning the visa officers giving every single nigerian tout visas to go save some woman from spinsterhood, some people try to catch feelings.

But the way many nigerian men act even here on nl, brings more disgrace to a nigeria that already has more than enough fill of shame.

It's just too bad.

Preach it!

Wislet:

@heavy g, since she has said she wants to know wat he said, play it back for her to hear or tell her yourself. Also tel her about your findings on de man. A man dat claims to love a woman cannot irrationally shut down her life like dat-askin her to close her facebook account & keep off friends dat hav been there for her long befor he showed up! Smh

Shy - One and Wislet have said it all.

Please ignore all those people saying it's not your place to tell her what's up. What he did was a blatant show of disrespect and I think everyone deserves a chance to know certain things. If it was a guy that this topic was about, I'm sure almost everyone would have wondered why you hadn't talked to him already.
Anyway, you're right, and she deserves to know. I can't remember who it was that mentioned talking to his ex- girlfriend, but that would be a wise course of action. Sometimes people have to hear it from the horse's mouth, but I don't know why you didn't just tell her everything from the get go. The more water passes under the bridge, the more difficult it becomes to be honest.

As for those who think she knows that he is an abuser and a jerk, may God help you. It seems like you are either not enlightened or you've never come across people with those types of issues. People like this girl's bf are the WORST kind of people, not just because they hit their gf's and openly insult them, but because on the outside they seem so angelic. What do you think the word "hypocrite" means?. Please let's stop jumping to conclusions about people we may not even know. The bottom line is , the poster should tell her, especially since he thinks of her so highly.

chaircover:

^^^^^LOL 

I was fiddling with my profile a few days ago and must have given myself an online sex-change

I am a woman o!

No wonder the toasters have disappeared 

LMAO . . . Dont worry they'll soon be back.

@Poster ;

There are three things you need to do ; (assuming this story is true and I hope it's not)

1; Look up the meaning of the word "R*A*P*E".
2; After doing so, go to the market and buy a long, strong rope while making sure that there is a tree somewhere in your backyard.
3; Have you ever read "Things Fall Apart" ? Do you remember how Okonkwo's life ended? Good.  Then go ye and do likewise.

OK.


So?

chaircover:

^^^^ so in a nutshell it serves me right?     . . . .  Weeks later? although I don't recall preaching to you about anything apart from asking you all to forget it and move on; shyone included.

Genius and I have both posted on this thread since the altercation and we have both respected each others wishes & kept away from each other and so as far as I am concerned the issue is over, unless there is something else that you want to point out.

We are all different and I do not as a matter of choice insult or want to be insulted by anyone. I treat people as I wish to be treated and when 2 people are having a ding dong, I don't take sides but appeal to all parties to cool things down . . . . That is me, that is my nature and I wont be changing that anytime soon.

If I have learnt anything on this site, It has opened my eyes to the diversity in Ideas and I have come to understand that we all cant be the same; different backgrounds, experiences, life situations etc and so there will be conflict in ideas but we can all try to be civil to one another if we put our mind to it

Happy Easter 

P.S  what is your take on the topic?

Hold on, Is chaircover a woman or a man?!

harakiri:

Dude,

If there's anything i've learnt the hard way, it's NOT to banter back and forth with illogical people. Even if something is red in color and you point it out to them, they will still delude themselves and call it blue. She and the poster are making it look as if the mother and son are bedtime lovers (sick ) all because they hug and peck. I wonder how they would react in the midst of Italians,Sicilians and other European people who not only peck constantly but actually kiss on the lips a lot (not wet kisses oooo! lol. . .before someone comes and predictably misquotes me out of context).

This thread is about a woman's jealousy of the love her husband has for his mother and NOTHING MORE! It's about territorial battle and utter selfishness. Women can be so myopic and illogical sometimes and i advise you not to bother bantering with YOU KNOW WHO anymore. It's pointless,senseless and a pitiful waste of mental energy. You should know better.

End of!

Genius100:

You are obviously a bone headed numb skull. If she's not okay with it, does that mean she's right? What an emotional wreck. Some women are really hopeless!! I do not have the kind of relationship she described with my parents, but I fully recognize the right of people to have close relationships with their parents as long as it is pure. The poster clearly said it was pure, but that's too difficult to get into your vacuous brain.

So she did not see that the mom and son were close before she married him. Now she married him, she has no complaints about undue interference, but that he is close to his mom. Like I said, you broads need to understand the world does not revolve around your sorry a-ss emotions. If she does not like it, she can waka,  Enough said. You are obviously an intellectual midget, so I won't waste more time on you.

You know some thing, I would love to ask how old you are with everything you've just said , but I know you can't even count that high. So I'll leave that for another day. Only dimwitted yam heads like both of you would keep saying the rubbish I'm hearing.

Don't you understand simple english? Should I write slower for you or something? What in everything I wrote don't you get?

Because you don't agree with it doesn't make something ILLOGICAL!!!

God help you two.  Why won't you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you and your mum? Italians and whatnot have their culture. Nigerians have theirs. Stop trying to make black look like white for your own misogynistic purposes. Both of you probably think that by hiding under the banner of "Women are myopic and irrational" that you'll win every argument. ERRR . . . no. Life isn't like that. Women may be emotional, but at least we have a need to make sense - unlike either of you.

Please keep gabbling in your baby talk and wait for your mother to come and pick you up, ok? She's coming o! Please just wait for her. Maybe she'll help you translate your baby talk into something coherent.

You know what, I will leave you to be free and torment anyone you come across. But I will not even bother replying to you anymore. So post if you want. I don't think scum of the earth like you even deserve my disdain.

Genius100:

It's amazing how clowns like you can't see beyond your nose. She said they peck, not kiss. Like I said, perhaps you were raised in a household where your papa will slap you if you try to hug him, but let your reality be your reality and don't make the rule in your household universal. If she does not want a man that's close to her mom, then she can leave. It's that simple. Was she not aware that he was close to his mom when they were dating?

Maybe you were raised in a household where near- incestuous relations were allowed. Doesn't mean everyone else was brought up the same way. As far as seeing beyond your own nose goes, at least I can see beyond my nose. You , on the other hand, are completely blind. This isn't something that happened just once. It has happened time and time again to the extent that she is fed up with it.

You keep going on about imposing realities on someone else, but you are the one who said she was being melodramatic. THAT is imposing your beliefs on another person. If she's not okay with it, then she's not ok with it, simple. It doesn't mean she's overreacting. Oh yeah, and you still haven't answered my question. If this was happening to you, would you like it if someone called you a manipulative, melodramatic control freak ?  I guess not.

I know you still have a long way to go before becoming an adult so that's why I will remind you that not everyone just gives up on a marriage for something that can be changed.  Something can still be done about this and it hinges on the mother and son relationship. Both need to respect themselves.

Please disappear. I don't want to have to educate you anymore.

Genius100:

Nonsense. With all due respect, you are the ignoramus here. I made assumptions in the same way you made assumptions. Even in this post I'm responding to, your claims are based on assumptions suited to your biases. The single mom raised her son for decades, they cultivated their relationship and now some melodramatic woman that's been in his life for a few years is complaining about mother and son hugging each other! Please!! What she needs to focus on is building her own relationship with her husband.

Hugging and pecking your son equates putting him where her husband should be? What a display off crass ignorance. If your parents did not hug you, na your wahala be dat. Don't project your subjective realities onto others. She herself said their relationship is pure. She did not complain about his mother unduly interfering in their relationship, all she's complaining about is that he is close to his mom. As if a lot of women are not close to their mom. What she really needs to do is get a life, and stop whining about inconsequential crap,

What assumptions did I make? Kissing, and lying down with another on the bed is what people in love do! Come on, please use your head, Their relationship is more like that of a woman and her lover than that of a mother and her child.

If something bothers you, it's better to say it and let it be known that you have a problem with it. If you had a wife who was doing what her husband is doing, would you be 100% ok with it? I'm sure you wouldn't because someone like you would probably accuse her of sleeping with her dad. Fine, the woman here has said no such thing, but all she's saying here is that some boundaries have been crossed that's making their relationship a grey zone. 

You can call her melodramatic all you like, but what is unnatural is still UNNATURAL! Nobody wants a man who is still holding on to his mother's apron strings.

Genius100:

Correct yans, my guy. I'm almost sure what happened was that the man simply gave his mom hug while she was on the bed. Guess what, the emotional woman has turned that into cuddling on the bed with his mom. Nonsense. Instead of the woman to cultivate a better relationship with her husband, she's busy being jealous of his mom and whining about it. And you have all these clownish women on nairaland egging her on,  Na real wa for women,

The same women whining on this thread probably have a similar relationship with their moms, but all hell must break loose because a guy is close to his mom. His mom took care of him for 27 years, now someone that just came into his life wants him not to be close to his mom. Nonsense!!

I hate to say this but you guys sound extremely biased, not to mention ignorant. It's one thing to say that there are 2 sides to every story, but another thing to say that you're almost sure that she's lying. People have different perspectives of situations and because she doesn't like what's going on doesn't mean she's jealous of her mother in law. If you don't know what you are talking about, then keep quiet. She's just said that she's uncomfortable with this situation, not that she wants to raise hell.

The reason why she's here is BECAUSE she wants to cultivate a relationship with her husband. Also, contrary to what you just said, I do not have a similar relationship with my mom or my dad for that matter.

Also, it is no secret that some single mom's turn their sons into the husband they never had. Single mothers tend to pamper their sons and treat them like princes in an attempt to compensate for the father who just isn't there. I'm not saying that all single mums do this, but what is happening here is clearly a case of a woman putting her son where her husband/ boyfriend should be.

Why do Nigerians always have to insult others who are simply looking for advice?

I don't know why some people on Nairaland like to belittle another persons feelings. It's a very stupid thing to do. What might be ok for you may be unbearable for someone else.

@Poster ; Are you brave enough to talk to your mother in law about this? If you've spoken to your husband and he's vexing , let him continue. In the meantime, it might be a good idea to talk to your MIL directly. I'm sure some people here will cry " Off with her head!!" because I'm saying this but really that is the only option you have , aside from walking out of the marriage.

flak:

@ify,

yea quite long. i actually wanted to get an insight to his real and inner thots. thru his reaction i am seriously beginning to think that he has a serious insecurity problem. behind all those ego and control nature, lies a deep fear. or how can i explain his reaction. after letting him know my decision and the modalities about our kids, where i intend to stay. he says its ok and leaves the house and sends this text message: 'my thought was that i could trust u will never leave me, i never knew your love was so conditional, you have made me feel so empty,thanks for everything'

does my wanting to  work or showing distaste for his abusive nature show conditional love? i dont know what to make of it. does he think trying to instill fear in me thru his spiritual bigots is going to keep me with him?

whichever way, i have made up my mind to stay away for now for at least 2 weeks, i really need to relieve stress of my brain. he can think on what he really wants

What he's trying to do through that text is called emotional blackmail. He's trying to make you feel bad about taking your own decisions. Personally I feel that you did the right thing. And you should know that that was the smartest decision you could have made, so don't feel guilty for leaving him. He's trying to make you totally dependent on him and I don't think anyone should put up with that.

I mean look at what he said " I thought you will never leave me". That explains his actions so far. Telling you not to work, insulting you by calling you a witch was all part of his propaganda to see how you would react. I think that in a way, he was trying to gain complete control over you so that he could feel secure in his marriage. Some people are control freaks and are not content until they can control every aspect of their lives. It's very annoying to have people like that around and unfortunately it just means that there is going to be a power struggle between you two over everything (but I guess all marriages are like that anyway).

To be honest I have noticed this trend as well , especially among Nigerian parents. When their child does something bad, they try to defend them and make up silly excuses.

In other continents it's just as bad, if not worse. There was a news story not too long ago about an 11 yr old who was gang violated by up to 17 young men. And the most sickening part of the whole thing was that one of the mothers was saying " Well everybody's talking about the boys and what they did, but how about the girl? What about the girls parents and why weren't they supervising her? " Essentially she was trying to say that the parents were to blame for what happened to the girl , forgetting the fact that she wasn't supervising her son when he was despoiling another woman's child. That's how dense some parents are.

I think that no-one ever wants to admit that their child did something wrong, because it automatically makes them look like a bad parent. I can understand this because  people always think that a bad child equals a bad parent and that's not necessarily true. There are good parents and bad children, the same way there are bad parents and good children. Everyone has a choice to turn out good or bad, it's not necessarily down to the parents and the upbringing of the child in question.

But I have noticed that women are more guilty of this than men. A lot of women like treating their sons as if they are kings and never make them realize that they have to be responsible for their actions.

On the other hand, with regards to the murderers you mentioned, it's possible that the children told their parents that they were innocent even though they were guilty. I was watching a show the other day about a man who had committed a murder. He was put on the death row for 18 years and he was about to be executed  in a matter of weeks. Throughout the trial and their 18 years he was in prison, his wife stood by him, why? The man on death row told his wife that he was innocent. And it was only when he was two days away from being executed that he told her the truth, and his reason for lying was because he was scared that she would leave him.
This is obviously a slightly different example, but the reality is that people do lie to their loved ones and to themselves. Parents convince themselves that their children can do no wrong , and eventually the children convince themselves of the same thing.

As much as I hate cheaters and their ilk, I have to say that the cheating is not what would upset me the most. I am willing to accept that some people make mistakes but the sad part is that so many people say that they made a mistake when they knew what they were doing all along.

If a boy cheated on me, I would be really upset, but it would not be the end. It would be the beginning of the end because his behaviour after that would determine whether I should stay or not.

The truth is that if a person cheats but wants to change, you can always tell from their actions.  If a person genuinely cherishes you , his remorse and his actions after the deed would be obvious. So if a boy cheats on you and still wants to be friends with the other girl he slept with,  THEN  you should leave because it means you're just an option for him and he's trying to keep the doors open for the "other girl". That would mark the end of our "relationship", not the cheating itself.

Ujujoan:

Na wa oh . . . . .

Well, I doubt if you really have a choice in this matter. He has given you and ultimatum . . . You just have to give in and let the job go. Obviously your husband is suffering from a huge case of inferiority complex and you just have to learn how to deal with it.

People break their promises all the time, it's not enough to give up on your marriage and your family.

Sad, but that's what Nigerians marriages are all about . . . . slavery at it's best.

Give it a year or two and then try again. For now, let him win!

I completely disagree with you oh. If she lets this fly now, she may not be able to get back the right to work.

What if he decides to kick her out based on the advice or these pastors? What if these so-called pastors tell him again thats she is the one hindering his progress?

Please go back to work. No one should ever be able to take that away from you. And tell your PARENTS!!! If he can drag his mum into things, so can you.

pro01:

Lol. I just noticed that you have too much in common with corpses. You're just as brain-dead and, like a decayed corpse, you stink to high heavens. What kind of woman gives birth to a corpse like you anyway? Or could it be that you (over)stayed for 90 months in that polluted womb, and thereafter dropped into the world as a certified living corpse? Smh. Your life seems convoluted with too many unanswered question. Being dead would  certainly be a more attractive option than being you.

Well, I see you're enjoying the attention you lured me into showering on your stinky a.r.se. I can even sense the attraction growing, the high hopes. . . .unfortunately, I don't do corpses. Find yourself someone who does. It's been a pleasure. Permit me to leave you alone to stink your putrid self to death.

R O F L M A O. . .


ME 

An attraction to YOU

Now I get it. . .  but unfortunately I have more in common with human beings to bother with the likes of you. The same way the refuse dump is always destined to remain in the ground is the same way you will always remain in the same place - the gutter is more suited for you than wherever you are in life now.  Leprosy - ridden fleabag.

I think I've educated you enough about the lengths of your own idiocy. You're only a few cells short of a brain so i think I've made my own contribution to society by helping you. But it's been really nice talking to you. You've reminded me that no matter how bad life gets, I can remember this conversation and feel some comfort that my life can never be like yours.

I would however advise you to ask for a full refund from whatever academic institutiions you attended. Once they notice your intellectual poverty, they will most likely oblige.

I'll try being nicer to you if you try being smarter, ok?? And don't take it to heart so much when people tell you that you're a m*o*r*o*n . After all, it's not a lie to call you a d*i*c*k*h*e*a*d . But I'm really, really bored of you now, you've made me laugh so much .Take care of yourself and enjoy the rest of your lunacy.

LadyT:

Yawn once again there are some real silly people on this forum.  But I guess it feels good to be a big man online doesnt it Pro01? Reply with your usual insults I dont care its a shame you cannot understand how insignificant you are. Do know the sad thing about you is that you can chat  S H I T online because in real life you are a loser. Why do you need to be an online gangster? when in real life you cant hurt a fly try being true to yourself instead of posting utter nonesense for the sake of it and because it makes you feel better about your pathetic life in the REAL world.

@meine its a shame Toni Payne was make to look like a monster when it was her husband at fault how can he sleep at night knowing his son celebrated his first year of life in a hotel? I cannot begin to try and understand how that is acceptable. They were homeless shes just lucky she has money and good friends.

Thank you ooo. . . . Thank you. After all the poor woman went through he still deemed it fit to be calling her Paine in the Arse.

Intellectual pauper. KMT.

pro01:

^

So this empty trollop thinks she is qualified to judge another's level of intelligence. I guess your head must be filled with mucus. I'm not one to indulge in cyber-bragging, but I'm obliged to tell you with all honesty that your entire extended family's aggregate IQ is no where near my 12 year old nephew's. That's why you can only use your battered puss.ie as a meal ticket - your intellect is nonexistent.

I didn't even know who 'you' were before you barged uninvited into my business on this thread; it tells a lot that my 'unintelligent' posts have been so engaging that you've been following me like twitter all along. You this illegitimate child coming here to look for who to pour your life's sorrows on. Have you been able to determine who your real father is? I advise you clarify your paternity first before anything anything else. Miserable daughter of a renowned harlot.

Replace my name with yours in this inane paragraph and we'll understand why your family is a generation of defunct losers.

I honestly cannot believe that out of 50 million sperm , you were the fastest.

My intelligence begins where yours is at its highest. Have you ever heard the fable of the monkey and the moon? The monkey keeps looking at the reflection of the moon in a pond, and convinces himself that he has gotten to that level . Meanwhile, he's just dreaming of what can never be.

Someone told me that you went for a brain transplant and the brain rejected you. That is most likely the reason for your incoherent babbling.

So you think my head is filled with mucus? Hahahaha . . .  My head has something in it, (unlike yours), but it's called a brain , you sorry little fool. And it's not made of mucus but only a r*e*t*a*r*d*e*d ghost like you would make that kind of mistake.

You don't have to know me for me to point out that you are a simpleton. Any similarity between you and a human being is purely coincidental.
So please learn from the mistakes of whomever you call your parents and use BIRTH CONTROL!!!!! It would really spare me the misery of having to engage in discussions with dimwitted beasts of burden like you.

For the last 3 lines you kept talking about illegitimacy and whatnot . Right. I've had better insults screamed at me from people with Down's syndrome. Your non-sensical ramblings encourage your own pathetic idiocy.

You are a contaminated little maggot and pure filth incarnate so do Nairaland a favour. Go and hang yourself, you asshole.

flak:

hi everyone cc,dayokanu,jenny,mutter all pls i really need your quick help on this one. I think i have been deceiving myself all this while.

my husband has dropped the bombshell, he said i should choose between marrying him or not working or leaving the marriage. every part of me wants to leave this minute. Am i making a mistake? is pursuing my career worth it ? but this guy is too verbally abusive.

his complaint? i have drained my self in looking for a job and putting my job search above him. what can i do after such bitter experience.

he has asked for a reply and i told him i will think about it. he got mad saying i have to think about it again meaning i cant stay with him thru thick and thin. help me oh before i go crazy. imagine summoning the meeting between him, my self and him mum. i felt like my world has crumbled.

i know its not my parents business but i can swear on my life that my dad will rather die than to hear that he has told me not to work. God help me i should not have gone to school oh maybe i wont feel like a looser right now. which kain wahala i put myself

O Ga O. . . .

This is very serious.

' Poster ; Your husband sounds extremely insecure. I think you have to take a stand now. Whatever you cannot take now, don't tell yourself that you will endure it. Because you are married to him does not mean that he has the right to tell you whether you can work or not. If you want to work then that is your choice. Some men don't want their wives to work but if he didnt want this from you then he should have said so a long time ago.

pro01:

You wouldn't know sense even if it bites you in your flat, rash-ravaged yansh. Before you start acting all prim and 'victim-ish', remember I was minding my own business before you needlessly called me a m0ron. I repay bad with WORSE, no regrets about that. In life if you throw dirt at people, you MUST be prepared to receive a torrent of dirt in return. As bad as I have been on this forum, I don't directly attack anyone FIRST! If you throw a fistful of mud at me for expressing my opinion, then don't complain if I choose to throw a bucket of hot shyte back at you. Once a post contains insults thrown at me, I would be very foolish to reply to whatever arguments you spiced up the insult(s) with. . .that's my policy.

It is a public forum, and I enjoy the liberty (just like everyone else) to express whatever opinion I deem fit about any topical issue, anyhow I deem fit. One is already overly inhibited by the burden of political correctness and imperative of decency in real life. . .such inhibitions are the least of my worries here in cyberspace. I'm not in Nairaland to win a 'most liked' popularity contest.

I don't see how you can hate from the outside of a club when you can't even get in.  Likewise, I don't see how you can call my "yansh" flat and rash ravaged when you haven't even seen it . I wouldn't let a psycho like you even get 10 miles near me.

But if you understand the principle of getting what you give, then why is it such a surprise to you that I called you a not-so-smart person?  I have seen enough of your senseless posts to know that you are a halfwit. Judging by those idiotic comments you made about 9Ice's ex- wife, wouldn't it be "politically correct" to call you a bonehead?

But you dont even have half of the sense of the average dunce so keep talking , perhaps someday you'll say something intelligent.

No one is here to win a most liked popularity contest but no one is here to win the most unintelligent poster of the year award either. Oh, that's right! You already won the latter award. My apologies.

Yes you did attack someone who didn't deserve it and I'm happy you know that you have been a bad person on this forum. And for some obscure reason you think that will earn you some respect? Ok no problem ! All Hail Pro1 !!!  The magnificent , the misguided, std- infested misogynist !

I love how your policy is to repay fire for fire but not to make sense on a public forum but there are so many retards like you on this site, you probably feel at home here. I know you're dull, so take your time trying to understand everything that I just wrote. There's no point damaging your puny little brain any further.

Outstrip:

Sometimes I feel like I have outgrown nairaland. People just do not know where to draw the line. So disgusting

Trust me, you are not the only one in this ship.

pro01:

Na your drunkard father and your (un)born autistic son be m0rons. By now you people ought to know better than attack me directly with your halitosis-ravaged mouth for expressing my opinion (that does not concern you in any way) - or when did you become the official defender/spokeswoman for that Paine-in-the-a.r.se? Make thunder fire that your rotten mouth wey you take call me m0ron. Old hag.

Lol,  I presented an argument and here you are insulting my father. Shows you have nothing whatsoever to say in response. Obviously I won this round so I'll let you run back into your little kennel with your tail between your legs.

I became her official defender when people like you started calling her Paine in the arse. What can justify all the silly things people have said about her (including wretched lepers like you) based on nothing other than a SONG?

Maybe other people have cleared the way for you and your misogynistic comments, but it doesn't mean I will. I love how people say baseless and insensitive comments and say "I'm just expressing an opinion" . Sometimes I think there has to be an IQ test before entering Nairaland. There are far too many psychos on this site.

One last piece of advice ; The next time you ever want to argue in public, argue with sense.

pro01:

Don't mind some yeye people here. As if a young man just wakes up one random morning and decides to divorce his young wife with whom he has a son - for no tangible reason. 9ice has never come out publicly to deny that paine-in-the-a.rs.e never cheated on him, forget the so-called phone conversation with Ruggedman. He knows more details than we do about his wife's dishonorable exploits, and I believe THAT is the main reason behind his angst, and justifiably so - in addition to her reported domineering ways. Which man wants all that poo, least of all a young, well-to-do celebrity. The peeps who are blindly supporting that paine-in-the-a.r.se are just probably as promiscuous as she was(is). Some shallow fools are even mocking 9ice for not being from a rich or 'Behind' family. . .what can I say about such smug schmucks.

It depresses me that some nigerians cannot read and comprehend.

Where did you read that he was the one divorcing her? She is the one who has filed for divorce! Obviously if she was ok with the other woman being there , wouldn't she have ignored everything? And he would be enjoying the best of both worlds.

And by the way, why should we forget the phone call? Because it points to the truth and morons like you would rather stone an innocent person without trying to get all the facts right first?

If he decided that she was too domineering for him, then why didn't he just divorce her rather than getting another woman pregnant? Why did he and his family feel the need to kick her out with her son rather than just letting her go her way quietly ?

So what exactly makes you think you are better than those who are "blindly" supporting her ? Nothing. Just bias in favour of an artiste and that makes your point of view right, doesn't it?

dayokanu:

Is the man to blame that your friend a grown as5 woman cant think for herself?

What are the chances that the man likes her but seeing her weakness like the one she displayed so far decides he deserve better than this.

She is your friend and I wont like to call her names.

Uju would you have acted that foolishly, Later come and blame the man for making you act foolish.

Abeg who no like Mugu for this world? The man told her in plain terms that she was a booty call only good for weekend romps and she accepted. Abeg wetin be the man fault here?

DayoKanu, I hate to break it to you but you are sounding extremely ignorant.

Every guy knows from at least a year into a relationship whether he would like to marry a girl or not. Regardless of how gullible she was, he knew he didn't want to marry her and he STILL led her on.

A con man relies on the gullibility of his prey but that doesn't mean he has no "fault" like you said. Obviously its typical of a man to want to protect his own kind and that's why you're using such arguments of "blaming the victim", because as usual men never want to take responsibility for their actions.

Also, you asked Uju if she would have done what her friend did. She probably wouldn't , but since you put it that way, let place the shoe on the other foot.
What her friend's "husband" did was not good, but would you have done it? Maybe, maybe not, but it still doesn't excuse the action.

We have all been mugu's at some point in our lives and I'm sure you would be disgusted to hear someone say the like of what you just said.

WOMEN          !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Read this and see what lies in store for you when you get married.

Ladies, big lesson for you there. It is good to play the fool sometimes. Family ties cannot be broken. Do not try to mess with your husbands' family members. She confronted 9ice's brother because of unaccounted money for the building of their house. This will certainly not go down well with the family members including 9ice's mother. No man will love a woman who has a condescending attitude towards his family members. Believe it or not man's extended family members have some level of influence in his nuclear family dealings. Ladies, endeavour to have good rapport with your husbands' family members because when your men start to misbehave, they will help you call them to order.


Imagine, stopping her inlaw from doing something and yet she expect good relationship from the rest of the family. She refused to let any crew travelled with 9ice including Jahbless(9ice`s close pal) to London for Mandella`s birthday show because she was 9ice`s manager then.It revealed then that all 9ice`s friends were not happy and blaming him for choosing his girlfriend as his manager so IMO is smell Me and my Husband behaviuor here and in Yoruba land, it`s not accepted but Still can`t judge her but with all these points, am sure 9ice would also has a lot to say.


So . . .  just to be clear, when a woman gets married, she's supposed to ignore money that went missing which her brother-in-law could not account for?

And she's supposed to turn a blind eye to strange occurrences all in the name of " gaining her husbands family's support" ?

I wonder why women are so eager to get married if this is the kind of raw deal we are expected to digest. Keeping track of your finances is not condescending! It's smart! If the money belongs to you and your husband then you have every right to supervise where that money goes, don't you?

Come on, people. Anyway I hope all of you are done insulting Ms. Payne over a publicity stunt. Even a not-so-smart person could tell that all 9ice said in the song wasn't true. Even if it was, for God's sake it was just a freaking song. If you believed every line of every song every artiste writes, your mind will definitely go haywire.

Errm , why is everyone saying "pass the baton to 9ice"?

Why 9ice and what has he got to do with this?

I sincerely think he has found someone else.

This is how guys behave when there's another girl involved. One foot in, the other foot out.

I feel very sorry for her and I hope she gets over it eventually.

hackney:

One day, marriage will be old fashioned.

What do u mean by that ? 

ifyalways:

Seems the man is still bent on sowing wild oats.
Is this friend even married?
Insisting on going with them is not gonna work,how long wud u baby-sit and monitor him?

He should decide to live responsibly without you fussing over him.
I think its time you really confront him upfront and tell him exactly how u feel and what u think of his behavior,he just cant be treating u shabbily,disrespecting u and the vows u made.Now,i don't think u should be satisfied with his so called "coming out clean" . .  .its more of  informing you of the latest development so you won't be caught unawares,a wake up call; get used to it or walk 

Have u guys been having marital problems before now?Does he want out or wants to frustrate u out of the marriage?
The goalpost just shifted,he shifted it anyway. Play a spectator for sometime and see how it works.

Now I actually agree with that but it seems like people are disposed to hate the friend. Let's not do that because whatever the friend tells him, the husband should definitely know better. I still think he only told her 1/3 of the story. She will only find out the truth when she gets to talk to that woman. That "Sister Mary" is actually the key to figuring out this whole thing.

And all she can do for now is wait and watch.