Vic2k3:

God hve mercy o. So iyabasira u no wan give her the benefit of doubt?

Vic2k3:

@iyabasira
Na only 1 cousin she get?

oisehumen:

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Don't u think u are likely to be seen as a very BAD wife who has come to destroy the family?

Ujujoan:

As much as I would like to believe that men are jerks, I dont think this story is entirely true.

C'mon, she dated him for three years and only realized he was a bully the month after they got married? She is either really dumb or living in a fool's paradise. I bet he was beating her even before they got married.

I always tell people that marriage is not by force. She forced herself to marry him and now she wants him to change by some miraculouse explianation. It doesnt work that way. She mad her bed, she should lie on it!

collinsfbi:


@ Iyabasira, @ Ujujoan,
All these i don't really what to hear at all, what the guy did and called vengeance is wrong and am sure his friend won't be happy to hear that but do Ladies don't sleep with someone's dad? why stressing on someone's mum? what is the diff btw someone mum and someone dad? abegi spear me d wahala joooo but to be sincere d poster must be a goat, what if it was his own mum someone did that to? what will he do?

Mrs. Siena:

Lol CC. Baby Sienna is fine and no she doesn't have colic. She only crys if she wants a feed, tired or needs a cuddle she doesnt even cry when she is wet.

Thanks oh the suitors dey plenty more oh i always refer people to our thread to see the requirements you have laid down.

I do like Van Vicker the guy fine oh. But I like Majid more. . No vex oh cos i know say na your backup bobo.

netotse:

so you saw OP mention that she leaves home at 5am, comes back at 10pm and writes report till 12am (without even hinting at the fact that she might be willing to tone it down). . .majority of the folks here hinged their reply on that fact.

as i said earlier, this thread should have been posted in family, not in romance.

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[size=13pt]Nigerian Men and excuses, I meant Nigerian woman and their FISH BRAINS![/size]

Beync:

we both work in same campany, then he asked me for a date i told him i never wished and won't date where i work. he said i shouldnt mind what people will say that what matter is that he want me for real.i told him i will not be confortable dating someone in my office. he decided he will get another job and leave the company to make sure we go out. he was so persistent that i couldnt help but fall in love with him thou on platonic level. he never invited me to his house but he told me the area where he stays. he cares, makes me feel loved and happy, and he is so happy with me, he cares everything like God sent. one day he told me he want to see  me for a talk on which he started by telling me that thou his close friend said  he shouldnt tell me now but he doesnt no how to hide anything from me that there is a girl he was about marryin that after introduction betrayed him by sleeping with her former boyfriend and now that she is pregnant she does' no who owns the pregnancy and for the fact that he has done some introduction on her she is under his care right now in his house with his mother till after birth when they would ascertain the owner of the pregnancy. i felt so bad and told him to go back and reconcile with her since they have started something but he dint want to hear this. then i started looking for ways to free myself cos i dont want to come inbetween their mariage, as i  tried avoiding him, he noticed and told me dat am the only thing he have now that if i leave him he is finished. infact fews day before he got  new job and left our company he told me that the girl has deliverd a baby girl that after six weeks test would prove who owns baby and after which she will leave  whether or not the baby belong to him or not. today he called me from where he works and told me the uncle said the baby belong to him and he should get ready for some traditional stuff. Now he said he is making arrangement to travle out that i should get ready to move with him that he can no longer stay here, i have tried to calm him down not to runaway that it wont solve the situation but he sound so hurt, he said i want ot get maried to anther person thats why i dont wont to run with him. pls my fellow nairalanders is dis relationship heathy? what do you think i should do, i l appreciate your candid advise, thanx.

jennykadry:

you are nt making sense,you know why? Because you talk to much iyabasira

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hehehe, sharp guy!

jennykadry:

@iyabasire

Did u just quote my post and call it some meaningless insult? Are u bored or just plain hopeless?

Mad_Max:

I hate the kind of psychological vampirism where a parent thinks he's done you a favour putting you thru school, and waits to recoup his 'investment'. His dad is not ill or in want, he's not being neglected, he's wasting his son's financial resources as he deems fit on business schemes,because he feels entitled. The poster's been working for two years and doesn't have his own place or a car. His money is going towards meeting these sort of obligations and 'investment payback' mentality demands. One understands people who are projecting their own fathers on the OP's and responding from that, but a parent that sends a child to school is responsible and one that doesn't is irresponsible; it doesn't make the child an indentured servant because his dad gave him an education. The poster has been made to feel he owes his father, and feels guilty because another demand is being made and he can't do a thing. He's angry and frustrated and unhappy.

Maybe your dad doesn't realise how much strain you're under. Maybe they feel they should get as much as they can from you now before you get married or something. You don't need to feel guilty about saying No, even of you have the money. You have your own life. Start planning for it and aiming for what you want. Take care of your father's NEEDS when you can. He can take care of his own wants and his own business schemes. A parent wouldn't put a child under such strain. You're supposed to enjoy taking of your father, while he appreciates you, not pander to a sense of entitlement where he takes everything you do for him as his due and sees you as his personal money-producing factory. Tell him you can't help out this time. Start saving for your own place. Move out. When he needs you be there to show your love. When he wants to waste your money, like now, say NO and don't feel guilty.

jennykadry:

You wanna work 24 hrs and neglect your wifely duties? Have you ever heard of women that go part time just to be there for their family?

hiss

johnterry4:

@op,
am sure u v been waiting for my post.d truth is dat something is wrong with our women.u allow them a finger and they put the whole hand.who says u cant combine being a careeer woman with being a good housewife.i think u are d lazy type.if cant combine both successfully then u are a FAILURE.hope u even satisfy oga in bed.if u cant,then i` suggest that u get him a househelp who will be taking care of him(cooking his meals and forking him).

johnterry has spoken

opribo:

This lady is not qualified to be called a wife, she is a contract wife and as such no serious advise is required. If she wants to be a wife then she should learn the basics of been a wife.

kaecy5:

shebi u are working, so u can afford a househelp so why come to internet to nag and continue wat u did not finish at home

abeg go and make your marriage work and stop complaining to the public, i wish i read your original post.

maybe u are looking for excuse to go outside, sorry dear it is not that simple anymore

ayodele123:

I disagree with you
There is no ground for divorce.
Divorce is defeatist.
Stay in that marriage and build it.
Divorce does more harm and is no good.

presido1:

Am sure any good child wouldn't want people to see the parent as a begger.

Siena:


The OP said he has no more money to give - what do you want him to do? Beg? Borrow, or worse, steal? [b]The well has run dry!!
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