₦airaland Forum

busolayemi: in dis days wen u can hardly find a well brot up maid and one dats not even possessed...nd bringin in family membas to live with u frm eida syd isn't an option eida....nd men dat r supposed to help er claimin men of d ause....u r def learners...women r wisin up abeg

I`m sorry, but this kinda writing is hard for me to understand.

Could you either write in better english, or maybe someone can translate it for me? I just get some of this, far from all..

meetchalz: GUys slow down. D mother who left her 5month-old baby i̅n d care of a stranger did far worse than d nanny who slapped d baby. Meanwhile if U followed dis argUment from d beginning, U wld agree with me that 'Cooger' & 'Efemena' hv a chemistry. They should do a date @ least let's see how they pair.

And how did she do wrong here?

OCTAVO: Pointless!!!

...how?

busolayemi: Sumtyms I wonda aw dis men cope b4 dey got married...its ppl like dem dat kip a dirty room nd patronize mama bash's stupidly prepared meal...gosh!

Probably getting their old mother to clean their dirty underwear, cook for them, clean for them..not good.

For those supporting FGM, this might do some good.

LesbianBoy: A househelp(preferably ekaette ) would do all that, not the man!

If my husband spend our money on a househelp that I never met to come and help me while I was sick instead of taking care of me himself..well, that is not what I consider a nice thing to do. At all.

And that would make me look at him as lazy as well.

thorpido: I would do all these for my wife but I'm not sure I'll marry a woman who talks like this.

Who talks like what? Saying things straight out...?

If you think I do not appriciate it, you are very wrong. Still, that way of writing how WE do it in our house, is more easy than: I am so blessed to have a husband who understand how nice it is to be equal around the house, I have a man who cooks and cleans as much as I do, he even takes the baby in the night, smoochie-moochie-overload. See what I mean?

And bendazum...If I can wash my husbands dirty clothes, he can wash mine. Neither of us see the problem. How will you do of your wife get terribly sick, and can`t move from the bed, and it`s coming out the mouth and the a*s? Sit down and let everything get nasty, or clean everything, and her...?

Ulueme Frank: You all are bloody fools. This woman has done nothing harmful to that child

....say what now?

ebamma: Nonsense,my mum resigned from her job to take care of my juniour sister till she was 1 year old, that's what you get when u value your job more than your baby

In my country, we can go up to 9months at home, and get as much payment from the goverment every month as we did when we were working, or 12months and get 80% every month.
But, very few countries have that. Most women really don`t have a choice; it`s either kindergarden/nanny, or no food on the table.

coogar: you need adult classes.....peruse the op's comment again and read where she felt the hubby is keeping secrets.

Still does not mean you need to know EVERYTHING.

BUt things that consern her and the marriage as a union? Absolutely. And in my book, buying clothes for your ex, would consern me a whole lot.

coogar: i am saying if the footage had shown a woman beating up a man, people like you would still find a way to blame the man - he must have caused it.

A defence less man would mean f.ex a man laying in a hospital bed without any way to defend him self. People would react just as much to that, as this.

A child can not defend themself against a grown up before they are in their teens, and should not be slapped or beaten like this.

Sybellah: How come? cuz according to statistic Gambia is 40% mandinka and only 16% wolof
it's a fact, i dun understand where the argument come from

I have been googling here and there and everywhere, and the percentage is different from page to page

I do believe the wolof is much bigger than only 16 %, since wolof is the "common language" between the different ethnic groups. Not everyone talk mandinka, but everyone talk wolof.

I don`t know much about nigerian culture on how men do with their ex-wifes, maybe someone else can enlighten that...?

I know that in my country, you never give the ex-wife any money, only the kids, when she have full custody. And that is not something to argue. A man who takes care of his kids is doing good, not bad.

You need to have a true talk with your husband. it IS your business that he spends money on clothes and shoes and rent on her..why does he do that? Ask him, straight out. No fighting, no judging, just ask, and see if you get a response.

I would not be comfortable with my husband paying his ex-wifes rent, buying her things, etc. I do know that f.ex in the states when you get divorced, a wife can apply for alomony, where she get a certain amount of cash every month, and then some if she have the kids. Maybe this is something like that? I have no idea about the rules in your country..

But still, hiding things is not a good thing. And moving the kids in without talking to you about it first, is not a good thing either. In a marriage, both of you need to agree on things, nt one over-driving the other.

Sybellah: Mandinka i believe.
Senegal=majority wolof
Gambia=majority Mandingue

Anyway, wrestlemania a la africaine, is popular with these 2 but not with all the other WA countries

True, they never seem to agree on wether it is mandinka og wolof, though..

CAMEROONPRIDE: ^nope, definitively not as part of the culture of the country , maybe a single group does wrestling but it clearly does not represent the identy of the country unlike in Senegal. Gambia is a Fulani coutry , they don't have wrestling in their culture , i might be wrong but the one i know(nigeria and Cameroon) don't do that

Fulanis is not the biggest group in Gambia.

12 inches!:
Very shallow thinking... how old are you?

Where is the shallow thinking there?

CAMEROONPRIDE: not that much , how many west af countries have wrestling as part of their culture the only one i know is senegal

And Gambia.

Plarp: You are not a woman, you are a bytch. Like i said earlier a real woman is worth more than her weight in gold, someone like you is worth less than her weight in feces. You are worthless. Too bad your so-called husband cant see that.

But I already know he is a die-hard coon. Imagine a Fulani that would only marry a virgin in Africa, goes to Europe to marry some washed up cuum-dumpster skank. Tell him to shoot himself

And why am I a bytch..? Cause I stand up for myself, and others? Really?

My s*xlife does not consern you, nor do I have a reason to sit and lie on the INTERNET, dude.

Not my fault your mama raised a damn, un-respectful excuse for a man.

abifoluwa: I support women right o. Any lady that respects me get respected. That is why any crazy lady that thinks because she is a woman she can walk up to me and talk shit or act like a fool, at worse lay her hands, I always retaliate. We are equal in the eyes of the law. Same go for guys, if you lay your hands on a female, you should end up in jail. I don't like a hardcore feminist. Don't get along with them, never will.

Agreed.

Many women seem to think that they can act a certain way and get away with MUCH simply because they are women..

He works, I works.
He pays, I pay ( house, food, bills. )
I buy my own beauty-things with my own money, he buys whatever he needs with his money.
I clean, he clean.
I cook, he cook.
I get up with the kid in the night, so does he. ( After breastfeeding stopped.. )

And for me, that is how I want it. I do not wish to go to my husband and ask for money for clothes, shoes, or a coffee for that matter. And I do not wish to put the whole responsibility for bills on him either.

Hygienic? Water.
Easiest in a effing cold country? Paper.

Plarp: Didn't i tell you to keep quiet?

All you did on here was beg the world to accept your prostitutional behavior, is that statistics to you? You have swallowed so much se.men that it has saturated your brain and now you cant even think properly. Wanna talk about numbers? how about you try and count how many dicks you sucked from the ages of 7 to 14.

Everything you have written on here has been disproven. You r a washed-out feminist who holds on to BS believes for self esteem.

thank god that mugu you call a husband doesn't have any.

Lol. Nice try, guess I hit a raw nerve with the mama-comment?

And I was a virgin at that age, sweetie. Talk for yourself and YOUR action, don`t pretend like you know any of mine.

Oh, and my husband..? More of a man that you could ever dream of being. Hell; I am probably more of a man than you could ever be. A man that does not show respect to other women, I can only wonder how he treats his own mother, and how his mother would feel about him talking to women like you are doing.

kmcutez: @JallowBah, arguing with religious fanatics is akin to going on a journey with no end in sight, so it is better to quit while you are ahead.

It's been awhile I associated with such, and have forgotten how tedious, argumentative and temperamental they can get.

I can see that..science is of NO matter here.