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Players don't kiss or hold hands in public
How else are you going to prove their cheating ways without having solid evidence.

booblacain: I'm a guy.

Motivation level dropped

Focal: I have notice this for sometime now that Nigerians don't kiss in public except in weddings and they don't peek while greeting each other like they do in other countries. Why?

Why don't you be the trend starter?

Behave mr cork

We don't want to start a new year with you know what

I'm home

[quote author=Mynd_44]I did not say the rumors are true, I even praised her for ignoring them but his getting the maid pregnant gives a lot of substance to the rumors and at that moment, she should have stopped looking at it as a rumor[/quote]We are not privy to the dynamics of the order of events.

I'm just frowning at your insistence of blaming the woman rather than the dog parading himself as a husband

[quote author=Mynd_44]and the case of the rumors of the other girls she chose to ignore? Does his actions with the first maid not confirm these rumors and yet she chose to forgive him.

In my books, that's silly of her[/quote]I await the time you get married and start getting accused of cheating just because your eyes wandered about

[quote author=Mynd_44]I love that you mentioned intent. What intent could come from cheating on his wife? A mistake? I think not. You do not cheat by mistake except of course you want to argue that you are drunk or drugged out and the fact that she has had news about his going around with girls already shows he is not new to this.

How can you ask if it was a wilful act. Did he sleep and get the maid pregnant by mistake? If she had taken action based on the rumors she heard then she is at fault as she should trust her husband but when he gets the maid pregnant (her cousin at that) he just showed that he does not have any respect for her emotions or her health[/quote]You cannot rule out the possibility that he was intoxicated.

We don't know the details Sir

[quote author=Mynd_44]You might be right with the last sentence but consider this. If someone poisons your food or shoots you even though you did not die from it are you likely to give the person a chance to do it again?[/quote]Key question is the intent bro?
Can i prove beyond reasonable doubt that her intention is to kill me?
Food poisoning could have been as a result of her sub cautiously using used by products

Being shot could be as a result of accidental discharge

You don't act on impulse when love/family is involved. Decisions that has negative outcome on a marriage should only be taking after every available measure has been explored

[quote author=Mynd_44]I am not blaming her for forgiving him of a transgression but the transgression is too huge to forgive and walk away from. He willingly put her at risk health wise and she forgave him and gave him a chance to do it again.[/quote]How do you know it was a wilful act?
Besides, each family is unique and thus forgiveness threshold shouldn't be benchmarked


[quote author=Mynd_44]Now you mentioned they might have stopped intimacy and stuff while living together but do you really believe that's true considering the nature of Nigerian marriages where the family and church has "settled their ish"? Cases like this abound where she keeps forgiving and he comes back to infect her with HIV[/quote]

[quote author=Mynd_44]seriously. This goes beyond cheating to total disregard for the woman's health. If he got the maid pregnant then he was obviously not using protection, which means he could have gotten HIV and sent it to his wife. Such men are dangerous and dont deserve second chances[/quote]The woman is silly because she gave him second chance?

How do you know the woman didn't stop intimacy with the man after the first ish?

Besides, they could have been living together whilst being separated emotionally since the first ish

Anyhoo, marriage isn't necessarily something you can just pack up and go after any transgression whatsoever

[quote author=Mynd_44]Silly woman. After the first one got pregnant, she should have learnt her lesson and thrown the dog out[/quote]Seriously?

Gloximazz: tnx.but i dnt knw how to approach him though.dnt want to make him feel bad.

Just tell him politely that you'd appreciate if he addresses you as jane/helen the next time he tries such prank with you

You a boy or girl?

He is only trying to be familiar

If you don't like being addressed as such then simply let him know

Post on topic henceforth

Harbosede02: Op,u are daft#no offence,u knw y i said so?cos of d way u tink,wtf!!how dare u generalise!itz nt all naija babes dat ask their guy 4 tinz,every1 has a different way of thinking some gurls tink wen they are dating a guy d guy sud spend all he has on them,while some tink d orda way round!carry out ur research very well next tym b4 u cum hr and start spitting awt trash!
#compliments

Phew

Can you not type with a lil textspeak?

xynerise: Rastaferian hair is rare

Tears of joy na good thing oh

xynerise: Mongolian hair?

who wants to look like Chinco?

Mongolian => peruvian <= obvious similarities

The rarer the better

I'd say greed

Those in poverty don't worry about recharge card or Mongolian hair

Stop trolling

https://www.nairaland.com/1481057/just-one-night-stand-should

What's there to discuss?

If you are in a relationship because of the sexual benefits you are to gain then Nope


Determine and define boundaries of relationships before getting into one


It's as simple as that

[quote author=Elli-dude]Can i say something MOD JAY-BEE? With your permission..[/quote]Go ahead boss

Sorry?

Are you seriously getting worked up with what these characters post online?

Experience they say is the best teacher. You should know that mondy