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cheris skenzy: My fellow nairalanders, I really need your advice. I have been dating this guy for 3yrs and I must say that I really really like him. I won't use the word love cos I don't think I can die for him. Bt recently, I have been having suitors(plenty of them), but you know how it is naa...when your heart is with someone else, you find it difficult to give another a chance. This has brought a very big problem between my parents and I. I discussed this with him(my boyfriend) and he didn't give me a straight answer. He said " all I have to tell u is that I have good plans for you". I just don't know what to do, plssss!!! I will really appreciate some advice.

Why are you leading these so called suitors on because I don’t understand how you will be getting suitors if you are in a committed relationship.

Ask your man the damn question on what plans he has for you as per marriage and when if marriage is important to you.

If his answers aren’t favourable then do the honourable thing by breaking up with him. No one is going to crucify you for knowing what you want and gunning for it.

I just don’t know why people don’t have these talks in relationships.

BTW: Have you finished uni and working? (I’m only asking so I can understand why your parents are mounting pressure on you to get married)

rant over?

Let me get this straight, are you asking for advise on how to go about breaking up with your girl or how to make things better for you two?

Whatever the case may be, you don't go into a relationship without having the flexibility to embrace and accept your partner's flaws.

Perhaps you think you are God’s gift to women

Perhaps you think you will always be in high demand since you are such an essential commodity

Perhaps you have a phobia for making commitments that span >= 93 days

Whatever the problem may be, I will advise you do the following in no specific order:
1) Get off your high horse. You aren’t the most handsome and cuteness or whatever is directly dependent on age so as you grow older you are more likely to become less attractive
2) Focus this wasted energy of yours on getting a good job. A hard working man is more likely to attract a girl that will cope with your excess
3) Boy, drop the arrogance and embrace humility. It will help you in the long run

Wu wu whipping 'em bois
Whoop whoop

maclatunji: Rushing to get married because you want to have sex is unwise. This is another reason for failure in marriages. There is a lot more to life than sex.

How do you know that's the main reason why he wants to get married?

@loretta u

Would you be comfortable if he addressed you as babe? I know it’s a term used for someone one is comfortable with but people tend to be able to break the ice by using such terms like that when approaching a lady for the first time.
I personally wouldn’t but I sure can understand why they do it.

I think you could have dealt with the annoying guy a lil better. A firm “Thanks for appreciating my beauty but I don’t give my number out to strangers neither do I like being harassed by one so I will appreciate if you stop following me.” I know some knuckle head guys might still not get the message but in such scenario then the best thing to do is just ignore him.

A cheap woman is one that is willing to trade her body in exchange for money.

Onwe101: not considerin †ђξ risk involved?

Why don't you tell me what they are cos i sure don't know
Besides, are you creating these risks in your head or you are the type that worries over every single damn thing.

Is it a one way thing?

It's a job isn't it?
If you are dating someone with strong values then worry not

samffizy: Hy buddies...I ve got some worrisome issues 2 share wit fellow nairalanders...I ve experienced dis wif over 3girls nd its quite weird...y is dat aftr been intimate wif a girl....she start cryin nd bcomes shy of lukin at u..she gt angry wit u nd she walks out on u angrily as if it wsnt a mutual agreement btwn u guys...nd shez nt jst herself at dat period of tym nd may evn brk up wif d guy...ladies plz I need 2 knw wats behind weird habit...tanx

You really wanna know what’s weird?

What’s weird is you indirectly gloating because you’ve slept with 3 different women

What’s weird is you not being able to type properly and in turn absolutely incoherent

What’s weird is you having sex despite the fact that you’re a lil boy that’s supposed to focus on his education or what not

Is it acceptable they form a lil then since folks also complain if they appear easy

Sorry sisters, it seems the relationship game in naija is a lose lose situation

olawalebabs: There is this challenge a brother is facing right now.

There is this lady he is engaged to, both family are in the picture of what is happening. The man is a graduate and well do, the lady is an undergradute in one of the university in the country, this brother is willing and ready to marry her now, but the lady father insist she have to finish her school before any talk of marriage. this is almost costing the relationship. What do you advise?

If he is such in a haste to get married, why can't he just make arrangements to move to the city that the fiancee is currently studying @?

It appears education is important to the dad and rightly so. He needs to actively look for ways to meet the dad in the middle

Emmadani: bros jay y u ban me?Watin i do u?I dey vex o.

we are a happy family in the romance section so inciting tribal hatred is seriously discouraged

No vex ehn it is what it is

factright: @Mrbrownjay,With people like you, you'll only stir issues up rather than contributing your helpful cent to it. Based on my level of understanding
and the level on how to handle things, I wont take your insults such as 1 that I can respond to. But I can quickly tell you that
you probably do not understand the whole situation even after reading my post. I plainly said I do not show my emotions when she hurts
me with her words, rather ,I absorb and move on, in terms of showing my emotions that I care and love her naturally has
always been there. I am a man, not a boy just like you would say, so I see no reason to fret over the hurting words a woman spew, na their way.

It was never my intention to get back at her when I had a dirty chat, I felt so lose and didnt feel any remorse whatsoever, I was psychologically disconnected and therefore my actions thereafter werent ones I can consciously account for. and questions about her trying to get me to react because she called her ex isnt a game, she has been communicating with him behind my back for over a month now as I am just finding out, and there are too many lies in between what she says now and what she says next, I nor be mugu oo Mr brownjay, so make you know the kind dust wey you go kick against me.

Finally, we have settled and and talked things through, I only came on here to clear out there air and to make posters and readers know how the whole issue happened, a one sided story is less than nothing.

Dude, be a man and go and sort your home out. You both have identified there is an issue that obviously needs resolving.
It’s obvious there is gap in communication so the most natural thing to do is addressing the issue offline with your wife. It’s as simple as that

Orikinla: I met her and forked her thrice and she wanted more.

I just hope you didn't give her belle

Expect to be banned if you are caught inciting tribal hatred.
You have been warned

[quote author=Mrs.Chima]And you are rolling with her huh?[/quote]You jealous

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Dude is sudanese and he isn't seeking attention by any chance

scientology: JESUS is the final sacrifice for mankind...NO NOTHER SACRFICE CAN BE MADE except that of the slained SON OF GOD.....U HIDE THIS POST U WILL BE CURSED

Why can't you guys just let people be for crying out loud?

Do you and let others do whatsoever pleases them.

It's a free world and everyone is entitled to own choice

Your man is simply enjoying the attention if he can't frankly tell the other lady that he isn't comfortable with whole ish.

Barkah d'sallah