₦airaland Forum

[quote author=Mrs.Chima link=topic=585108.msg7526063#msg7526063 date=1294948546]What is "groosly"?[/quote]yipeee yipeee
welcome back Q
missed ya  

Yo blacksta, where r u getting all these Info from?

Same old recycled shyte Mobo  
You honestly need to start coming up with better poo
I'm sure you are educated enough to understand/appreciate the significance of categorising all African women as cheap.

jennykadry:
Why should she pay for all of these?I mean why are alot of men giving out their responsibilities to women? if a woman has to pay for all of these then it is a 50-50 relationship jaybee, is it compulsory for a woman to take up the responsibilities of her husband?

A man has to work his butt off to pay for all of these even if he has to go for two jobs, now it is then it is left for the wife to tell him to do one job and they pay the bill together. A man IMO should never expect a woman to help him out to pay for what he's got in his home especially if he is the one taking her out of her parents house, and bringing her into your house.

So what will be her contribution to the household if those things are too much to be asking for?
Mind you, i am going to be a husband that will not be demanding to have food on the table, clothes washed or whatever else most typical African men demands.

In my own self written books, for a woman to gain my full respect then she has to be ready to contribute towards the family.
I don't need a woman to give me emotional support and neither do i need to get married all because i expect the other half to satisfy my sexual needs whenever needed.
Marriage is a partnership whereby both parties should be able to have equal claim in it so that no one feels cheated.

Yes if i'm the only one with compatible blood type to her.
No if my main reason for doing it is cos i feel indebted to her.
Things are meant to be done for the right reasons

Like seriously, why do some Nigerians always flock around the only person that's rich in their respective family. I get really pissed hearing about people that struggle but yet still have the audacity to have more than 2 kids.

Anyhoo, you've been a gentle man with incredible patience. Going forward, you have to warn your mum about taking such decisions in your absence. It's always good to help but not to the extent that you going to allow it affect you.

Food should be less than 300 quid a month based on a family of 4

If the combine monthly bills => £3K, I would expect her to cough out £1.1K monthly.

You have to agree with me that 'em figures are fair.

I CANNOT and WOULDN'T marry a woman that will be totally dependant on me as i simply won't respect her.
For her to have a say then she gotta contribute

A typical household
The man should pay the following:
Mortgage
Children's school fees

The woman should pay for the following:
Council Tax
Food
Children's upkeep
Utility bills
Land line phone & Satellite TV


If it's not a big mortgage then the man can had the council Tax to his list.

Just ma preference Mrs CeeCee

1. Can you tell just by a few minutes after meeting him/her that he/she is the one for you?

She might come across as the one but it's very important to know if we are going to be compatible. This is why courtship is always advised.

2.Can you tell a husband/wife material just by spending a day/a few hours with them?

It's somewhat dangerous to conclude without proper analysis. We are talking about a life long commitment so I'd expect to over-analyze on this issue.
I need to know her bad habits and see if i can overlook them

3.How long do you think a good courtship should last? how long is too long?

This depends on where the man or woman is at the time they meet each other.
I wouldn't expect to court a woman for years if I'm in my middle or late 30's but will be required to if I'm in my early 20's.
It's hard to place a minimum duration on it but one thing is a certainty, if you spend good quality time together then surely the good/bad/ugly will come out and it's now left to the parties involved if they wanna take it a step further

4.Men/women would you rather be in a 50-50 relationship or have one person play the part of the "head of the home" ?

I am a strong campaigner for the 65/35 sharing ratio as i have a great need to feel I'm the head of my household and doing 50/50 (equal relationship) might just throw up problems in the long run especially in this western world.
Although, even with my preferred sharing ratio, I'd still make sure life changing decisions are discussed and both inputs taking into consideration according as i was never brought up in a dictatorship environment

5.Men: Do you think taking money from your GF/wife makes you a lazy person? Especially those in a relationship and not yet married do you really think accepting money from your GF makes you a lesser being?is it right to take money from your GF?

Yes it will make me feel a lesser man if i had to depend on the money.

do you like him? If yes then nothing stops you from taking the lead. You've known him for quite a while and he obviously adores you so stop playing the waiting game.
The words coming from his mouth won't make any difference. His feelings towards you is what matters

Walks in and zooms right out

Bang on point Q

Intelligence is always hard to measure so my minimum requirement is always someone who can read/write and i sure know u excel in that department. lol

Wow . . . . .
Always knew you is one smarty pants.
Be rest assured this dude doesn't need no navigation tools to navigate the south pole.
I am natural like that

Depends on the region
North or south pole?

yeah yeah whatever. lol
Next time, stick with your peanut butter Never mix PB with Chocolate spread hun

Cherios => food Q   u should know that

Yeah i did and guess who picked it up?
I'm sure u know who i'm talking about

Are you the husband snatcher Q?

Omolola1:
Jaybee, abeg! lol. . .well, i took a wild guess because d poster said its been going on for 4years

Wrong. They have been dating for 4 years which suggests dude is not an addict for her not to have noticed except they hardly see each other which i seriously doubt.

Omolola1:
That is what am not sure of coz the poster didn't say

hahahhahaha GBAM. You are now in a corner Lola.
How can you advice her to dump him without being sure if the dude is actually addicted to weed. For all we care, the weed could just be a recreational occasional spliff.

Omolola1:
very true,its nt easy 2 dump d one u lv,bt an addict?its not easy 2 help an addict,it takes tym nd i dnt av dat patience

I doubt the dude is an addict as addicts don't hide their bad habit.

You have no business with the lady.
Ask your husband to come clean. Looks like the dude has moved on so stop pestering the other woman and focus more on your child and how you going to better your life going forward.

Personal thought or preference?
Even with preference what are the implication of dating a guy that lights-up?
I know in naija it's mostly acceptability issues but my point is if you love someone u don't just dump them, you help them through things

Oh i 4got that weed is a big deal in naija.

And what if the dude is the perfect partner (less the weed) she has been praying for all her life?

Omolola1:
Dsense, i see you are in one of your periods! @jayb, ofcourse! wuld u advise her to stick wiv smone who iz an addict

Why not as long as the addiction ain't indirectly affecting her physically,emotionally or financially.

Would you advice a woman to divorce her husband cos he smokes weed?

Does he make it obvious?
Have you complained and he refused to stop?
If you feel disrespected then let him know you ain't gonna be going on dates with him if he doesn't clean up that act.
Looking alone is not enough to dump someone

^^^
Dump someone because they smoke lil weed?

@OP
Confront him, ask him to come clean they offer to help him drop the bad habit.
Do you have a problem with smokers?