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limbolimbo:
I recently showed interest in a neighbour of mine, I know she likes me, but she is a very traditional person, she wants us to go through the full cycle before anything further. But something started giving me a reason to worry about here mindset towards relationships.

She celebrated her birthday last month, and I got her a very expensive wrist watch, it cost me 94k, she doesn't know this. I also got her a really nice cake, cost me 10k, so in all I spent over a hundred thousand on her birthday. I know for some this may not seem like much or may seem like too much, I think what really matters is tat I was fine with it and could afford it. Within the same period, she would indirectly ask me for funds, she said she was broke, I could have helped her with this but I felt it was way above my position, as I am only a "To Be Boyfriend", to offer her all this after spending a 100k on gifts for her birthday.

A week ago we had a very interesting discussion, about the role of the man and the woman in a relationship, she said that "A man should be responsible for the upkeep of his Girlfriend, he should save a portion from his salary monthly which he should give to his girlfriend for upkeep". I thought that was nonsense and I quickly called her out on it, all I can say now is that I don't think we would be dating anymore, because she took it very personally, she said she thinks she would suffer if she goes into a relationship with me, because I am already showing signs of being stingy.

If I keep writing I would not end, so my question here is, is she right? Should I have instead given her the cash rather than the gift? Because to me it now seems she doesn't see the value of the gift and would rather have cash. I want adult opinions please.

(Please note that I am not trying to paint this lady as an evil person, she is really sweet, loving, caring, she loves getting attention and doesn't have any problem in showing me how she really feels about me, overall she is a great lady.)

a great lady doesn't make demands she builds and support.


imagine this scenario; a demanding girlfriend vs a supporting gf when given an expensive or necessary gift that she knows that you also need badly ,you should imagine the show of reaction.

yawning

We do not want our kids to go through what we went through or stressing themselves, would it make them lazy or laid back when they go exploring the outside world ? kindly share your opinion.

logadims:
let's look at some of the steps and measures to take:

1. ask them if they are recognized by the kennel club/association in their state.(This is one of the most important point.

2. Ask them of their social media profile

3. Look out for the someone who has idea and is well grounded in the things of dogs.

most breeders (not all) Don't disclose details and aren't patient enough to discuss with a potential buyer sometimes you may tagged as broke or called names if you ask so many questions. most won't even talk to you after purchase (follow up) hence the reason to look out for groups or select ones that patiently answers all your questions

Oluwasaeon:
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Oluwasaeon:
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Paulo3ree:
Woukedest comment, anyways who asked4your opinion LoL Jesu!

who asked you to respond to mine? is it your opinion?

her real shape is gradually coming out

everything we eat is now life threatening.

go to manufacturing plants and see how foods are produced, you won't eat again.

Lilchilz:
i'm proud to be a metallurqical and material science enqineer

science student

I need a foldable table , plastic or iron,(adult)

her real color just started to come out

bobokeshington:
None of them can even withstand my girl in terms of beauty

prove it!

lemme look at the shape of the DStv remote control.
after checking;





I comment my reserve

truth is if sowore wins a lot of politicians will travel out of this country

Elxandre:
When they won't take care of children.

it's greed bro

na cooler Dem suppose give unto patronizing them for a year unto customer dada ni

if you know you know

udontminit!

OgogoroFreak:
which one is my real account? I have a Facebook account with my real name of course. And the way I post here is the way I post everywhere even on Instagram.

I'm a business man with 13 employees. I never go to their social media account to check their posts before employing them.

I hear

IamD18:
They do fvck you and run away because sex is the only thing you can offer them.

But wait!

What else can you ladies offer aside sex?

Absolutely nothing.


So fvck off and go thank your God for giving you pussay which is the only thing keeping you ladies useful on earth.

some can help you repair your generator or give you advice when necessary

OgogoroFreak:
and it would be stated on her social media account that an ashawo prof went to jail?

bro to test the theory, kindly use your real account using your real name and continue typing all you usually say on this ogogoro freak account .

lyricalz:
if she apply to a position in my company I'll employ her.

good for you, you have your reasons

OgogoroFreak:
Who told you employers go to check peoples past before employing them?

in case you don't know, corporate organizations check social media accounts and profiles of their would be employees

going for the strongest mate to breed her isn't the problem but when the offspring ain't for her man she better take care of it.

sharpwriter:
@the bolded...Why should you be scared? If your works are clean, you shouldn't be scared, but if your works are evil, then you may be scared. Even if you toast her and she no gree, there is still no harm; but when you want to use your position or power to force someone against his or her will, the be ready for consequences.

try to understand this, you as the CEO of the company might not harrass her but others might and it would ruin your company's reputation, say for example Google inc. they even staged a protest but the real owners aren't the ones doing the s*xual harassment.

DonGtoG1:
It may look difficult for her to secure employment, but it will be easy for any organization that is well organised and law abiding to give her employment on merit. Moreover, learned or not, one can be self employed. And it is not even mandatory that she work in Nigeria. Though, i understand your view.

thank you , this is exactly what I thought others would think,.

obynno7:
how will it be difficult for her to get job.? have you forgotten some employers are feminist like her who will gladly give her work

bro do you understand the meaning of difficult and impossible?


women who are feminist prefer having males as subordinates, it's productivity they're after not emotions

[quote author= post=73953374]What a crude mentality you have![/quote]if your mentality wasn't crude you would have understood my statement

it would be difficult to get a job is different from she won't get a job, even if she does get a job , eyes would be on her to see her fail

she can start a business but men would be wary of her but women would recommend her as a p.A to their cheating husbands.


can you have her in your employ and not be scared?


modified;


say you under pay her or you treat her unfairly due to her attitude towards work and she gets hinted that you want to sack her ,she goes public and say you are asking for intimate relations before she gets a pay rise or promotion who do you think they would believe?

please answer this


if you can't it clearly shows you were gifted the capital you used in starting up your biz or it isn't yours at all, never underestimate the power of a woman

thank God the law but still it would be difficult for the lady to secure employment

wanna see women giving gifts also this season

lesson learnt