₦airaland Forum

hippyj: During my childhood days,in our yard then how rich your family is can be evaluated by the colour and quality of your sunday rice. if your rice no make sense,eat it inside your room.if it make sense,bring it outside and eat.
it was fun.

Hahahahahahahaha! In our home we are not allowed to eat outside whether the food is well prepared or not. My dad is one person that is against someone eating outside when you can comfortably sit inside the house and eat your food. He is so strict that even to mingle with the kids from our neighbourhood is a crime to him how much more eating outside. My dear the day he caught me and my siblings eating outside at the balcony, he made us to receive some strokes of cain according to our age .

I don't know why it's like that here in Nigeria but I think it has become a widespread or usual practice in our country. It has become a custom that every family cooks rice on Sundays irrespective of how it's been cooked. And seriously 90 out of 100 families are really enjoying it especially growing families, I mean families that still have little children with them. There is this joy that kids have in them on Sundays when their mum is preparing rice for the family, they will feel so bad to find out that they won't be eating rice on Sunday. They will be happy to eat rice in any other day of the week but will be very much happier to eat that same rice on Sunday. In fact eating rice on Sundays has become a norm especially here in Nigeria that it's only God that will explain why it is so. As for I and my siblings we don't get tired of eating rice in anyway it's been prepared on Sundays. But we do get tired of eating rice no matter how it's been prepared on festive periods especially on Christmas days.

I don't know why it's like that here in Nigeria but I think it has become a widespread or usual practice in our country. It has become a custom that every family cooks rice on Sundays irrespective of how it's been cooked. And seriously 90 out of 100 families are really enjoying it especially growing families, I mean families that still have little children with them. There is this joy that kids have in them on Sundays when their mum is preparing rice for the family, they will feel so bad to find out that they won't be eating rice on Sunday. They will be happy to eat rice in any other day of the week but will be very much happier to eat that same rice on Sunday. In fact eating rice on Sundays has become a norm especially here in Nigeria that it's only God that will explain why it is so. As for I and my siblings we don't get tired of eating rice in anyway it's been prepared on Sundays. But we do get tired of eating rice no matter how it's been prepared on festive periods especially on Christmas days.

Hahahahaha! Reminiscing those days in primary school. Mine has a food a flask to go with then. It's keeps my water cold till dismissal time. We'll it's still in the market but it's definitely not of the same quality with the one we used then. And now it comes with many colours unlike then that has only one colour.

A cheat will always be a cheat whether broke or rich.

Wonderful tips for those that reasons through their brain and believe in who they really are.

United will lose.

benromeo39: exactly.

While we wait I will be off on my bed to check back tomorrow.

Just package the one your babe gave you and put them in the fridge and eat the one your mum prepared. Then warm the one in the fridge tomorrow as your breakfast. It's better you eat your mum's food if possible eat the whole eba but if u can't, make sure you lick the whole soup. I don't know how you're going to do it but just try. You may not know how happy she will be when she finds out that you ate almost everything. You can always explain to your girlfriend about what happened and settle things but you have no explanation to give to your mum. Remember she is your mother and your babe remains your girlfriend until marriage changes her name to yours, your mum still have every right to prepare and keep food for you to a very large extent more so when you both are staying together. Then later you can kindly tell her when and when not to keep food for you. She is your mum, please give her that sense of belonging until your wife to be takes over from her. My opinion though.

benromeo39: Lmao. I guess most Nairalanders are like you since I don't see a lot of posts here.

It may or may not be so. Let's just give them more time to think and remember their childhood days. Lol

They Didn't allow I and my siblings to watch cartoon when we were young .

Our Sitting Room Is always locked with my Madam at the top(mum) been in charge of the key. It's only opened once she and dad comes back from the days work. So it's either you watch Network News or any other news or you kukuma go to bed.

donroxy: Get outa town,get busy and move on !!

Abeg leave that thing because it's easier said than done.

They better go and hide.
















Infact I no go use my mouth take talk wetin I go do them neither will I use my hand type wetin I go do them. They should just go and hide. That's all I can say for now.

Simply because SIN IS A SIN.

In case you have forgotten the meaning of the word 'SIN' I beg you to either consult your dictionary or ask Google.

Am not married yet, but I prefer to have a separate account of my own. But I have a sister cousin of mine who is married. She once told me during a visit to her house that she opened a joint account with the husband. I was like 'what'. And she said, nne please calm down let me tell you. She said both she and the husband have their own personal account but then after attending a seminar which centres on family and how to manage it's finances, they decided to open a joint account which is mainly for the family's upkeep. They also opened a three separate account for their three kids, the first one is in JS1, the second is in Primary 5 and the third one is in Primary 2. Now the husband is a graduate but due to unemployment he went into business and the wife is a worker. So at the end of every month they have a stipulated amount of money that they pay into their kids account. And she said, that of the kids is to help them cater for their expenses of tertiary institution when the time comes, the account withdrawal slip is with her mum, and then the joint account they also have a certain amount of money they pay into it as the case maybe. And they do it every month end. At first it wasn't easy she said, but now it has become a normal family routine for she and the husband. The joint account is mainly used by the two of them. They can withdraw from it but both parties have to be aware and the withdrawal must be for a very good reason. She said the joint account is for unforeseen contingencies. And they have been benefiting from it ever since. Hmmm! After her explanations, I started having a different thought about having a joint account with my husband in the nearest future. She said it must be for a very good reason. It's strictly for the family's upkeep because if you keep on spending from your own personal account then there will be no savings and nothing to rely on. So it's better to open an account that is for the family.

It all depends on people and their different perspectives to life. My best female friend is my childhood friend. She has been the best ever that people on many occasions has mistaking us for sister but no we are not. We just two people that understands each perfectly well. Not that we don't have misunderstanding, we do, but then it won't take us time to admit our mistakes, ask for forgiveness and seek for each others attention. Even siblings do use to quarrel between themselves and the same thing happens to friends. Friendship requires understanding who your friend is and knowing his or her likes and dislikes and getting acquainted with him or her without trying to change yourself just to be friends with the person or trying to change your friend so as to dance to your own tune. If both friends can't accept each other and their flaws and come to terms with each other, if you and your female friends fight and quarrel to the extent of people noticing it then I beg to say that they were never friends. It's either one is deceiving the other, or the both of them are deceiving themselves but they choose to play along for friendship sake. So these type of people were never friends but real enemy but they are hiding under the garment of friendship. Watch out, one of them will be a parasite. Well aside my elder sis and my mum who were my best female friends then comes my friend. Our friendship has brought our two families together. She is just my sister from another mother not because we are friends but because we understand each other. She knows my Achilles heel and has come to accept me that way just as I have come to terms with hers. Friendship, is all about understanding and accommodation.

It depends on the situation at hand.

But I normally take my phone,
Slot in my ear piece and click the music button with the music playing in its highest volume. . Or better still I walk away from that place to avoid saying things that I will regret saying because once am angry seriously my mouth goes out of proportion. It's a habit that am praying to get control of. So I have learnt to either play music on my phone so as not to hear anything or I walk away from that place. Getting angry is one thing and managing it is a bigger thing on its own. Getting angry is one thing that humans can't do with out no matter how hard you try, one thing or the other will get you to see the old man in you.

haibe: lol why are you surprise? I see her on almost every thread

Am not surprised. Never knew that there is someone that has noticed that too.

rozzay: Dem neva come bak from sambisa stream were dem go fetch water

! Of all the stream way dey for their village, na sambiza stream they go?

rozzay: Wat am I doin here?

Should I tell you?

Omomehn: how about leaving their men hornnny? this should be number one on ur list.

At least you have just added it.

marieolae: Lovely

MARIEOLAE!


I sight you. How you dey na.

pillan: #2....one of d duty of a girlfriend/wife is to support her man at all times....so if hes in a bad mood...its in a girls place to lift his spirit....how wud u like ur gf or wife to not show concern wen u are down??..

It's good to show concern to your gf/bf or wife/husband, but when the person in question ask you to give him/her a space it's better to let the person be. They have their reasons, it's either they don't want to bother the person or maybe they just want to cool down a bit. And believe me after that they will come around when they must have calmed down.

marioking: You make my day, My-lady.
Though it's very natural of you ladies to do most of the Don'ts you mentioned here....we guys are growing to take you people like that but believe me not all guys can tolerate that and it's not all ladies can rily takes to correction

True. We the women are also trying our best to accept you guys the way you are. And like you said not all ladies can really take correction, I think the same goes to the men. Not all of them takes correction. But I believe that when one applies love in correcting someone, the person will take the correction and learn from his or her mistakes.

Cutie pies! Me loving them.

If you can get a handle on the things on this list, I guarantee
you'll notice your relationship drastically change for the
better.

Here you go:

1. Flipping out if he looks at or talks to another woman. It's a
man's nature to look, getting on his case shows you're
insecure, which is a huge turn-off. If you find yourself
getting jealous whenever a woman is within his vicinity, you
need to do an honest check in with yourself. At the root of it,
there is either trust missing from the relationship or you need
to build up your self-esteem.


2. Not respecting his personal space. If he's in a bad mood or
doesn't feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be. Most
guys don't like to talk about their issues the way women do.
They prefer to pull back and work things out internally.


3. Not taking care of yourself or letting yourself go. It really
is a shame to see how many women think it's okay to stop
working out and shaving their legs as soon as they're in a
relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to
make the effort once things are more settled to keep the
attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing.


4. Not having your own life. Don't be one of those girls who
forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a
man, it never ends well.

5. Being passive aggressive. Men are much more
straightforward than women, if you tell him nothing's wrong
and then pout and mope around waiting for him to press you
further, you'll just cause anger and resentment to build. Be
honest and straightforward with him if you have an issue.

6. Nagging. No guy is perfect, no man is capable of giving
you every single thing you need. There will be times when
you're not happy with something he's doing. If this happen,
do not nag him over it. The best strategy is to tell him what it
is you want (I love it when you do X) instead of harping on
what you don't want (Why don't you ever do Y?)

7. Not appreciating him. Again, stop looking at the things he
isn't doing and look at what he is doing, and then
acknowledge and appreciate him for it! The more you show
you appreciate him, the more he'll try to please you.

8. Being bitter/whiny/grouchy. We all have bad days, it's
understandable. However, it's in your best interest to try and
be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a
negative Nancy. In general, we're drawn to people who are
happy and radiate a positive energy.

Wake up with a smile, express gratitude, see the good in your
life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in
your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.

9. Dumping your insecurities onto him. It's not his fault if
you feel fat or your skin is breaking out or you found a tiny
wrinkle by your mouth, these are your issues and hang ups
so don't turn them into relationship problems.

 If he's with you, it's a given that he finds you attractive. Don't
talk him out of his attraction by highlighting all your flaws.
Chances are he won't even notice these things until you point
them out, so why draw attention to them? Men are attracted to
confident women so not only will you be making him a ware
of your flaws, you'll be diminishing his overall attraction to
you.

10. Trying to change him. When you get into a relationship,
you need to take that person for exactly who he is, not who
you want him to be. He is who he is, take it or leave it.

When it comes to minor things, like the fact that he wears
running shoes with dress pants, be gentle and encouraging.
Don't criticise and make him feel stupid. Say something that
makes him feel good and inspires him to make that change
on his own, for instance "You look really sexy in that outfit
but it would be even sexier with those loafers instead."



Lots Of Love.

marioking: You make plenty of sense here Jennydoris gurl

MARIO! I sight U.

Please OP I will suggest you go over to my post, read the heading and the body of the post again and again for a better understanding. I never sided with anybody on the marriage saga. My topic says Lessons to learn from Pastor Chris marriage saga. It points out few things that married couples should not and never neglect in their marriage so as to avoid divorce or anything that will mar or tarnish the image of a precious family. I am not siding with pastor Chris nor with the wife because I don't know them. So please before you post a thread I will suggest you go over it over and over for a better understanding to avoid confusing yourself and the readers to.

HyperBase: Why are you guys so concerned about someone else's private life. I have not seen the Pastor in real life for once talk less being a member of his church but the way and manner you guys are over flogging this issue actually is suspicious. If you are not a Christian and therefore cares less about eternal life, then take your own belief somewhere your own religion is being talked and leave the man of God and his Jesus Christ alone. You are not God and therefore it will be stupid for you to judge



much less when it has to do with a Man of God.

Obviously, most of you who have been talking against Pastor Chris are simply bits and pieces of Satan and will stop at nothing to make a cheap meat of any Man of God you know is becoming terror to your dark kingdom. Today it's T.B Joshua, tomorrow it's Rev. King, next it's Pastor Chris. Don't you guys have a job?? Find one if you dont and get busy and mind your own business. Your cheap blackmail is really an old technique that have never worked. Of course the peanut brain of serpents are too small to be creative. Think of something else daft.

What is this one saying? Did my post say something like blackmail or mockery? Or you have something against me before now? For a better understanding I advice you go through the post again.

Mintayo: Op, they are not divorced yet na.

Please read the post well to get the message.

Omomehn: thanks MISS

You're welcome