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It is this attention deceit that has kept women where they are and not any patriarchal oppression. Being associated with a king doesn't make you king, queens are not kings. These women think they are like men or even better than men because men chase them 24/7 unrelenting - testosterone doing nature's work to the detriment of men who can't simply place their hands on their libido.

a man that has upheave himself to a king standard will never find problem searching and finally engaged himself to a virgin with a high dose of femininity. Other lower men can settle for repentant wh0res who wear a facade of intellect, logic, good behaviour, good character etc.

So, as a man, become high quality in every areas of your life, and only commit to a high quality woman. Settling for less is an unbalanced equation and a waste of your resources. Take a detailed analysis of her past, her sexual escapades, her social behaviour, ideologies and belief system.

I need to get something off my chest, and I think a lot of you will relate to this. Let’s talk about the financial burden men carry and why it’s becoming unbearable. I know this might ruffle some feathers, but it’s a conversation we need to have.

We live in a world where men are expected to be providers—no questions asked. From the first date to the last bill, the pressure to pay, provide, and perform never stops. But here’s the thing: money isn’t easy to come by. The cost of living is insane, wages are stagnant, and the job market is brutal. Yet, men are expected to not only survive but thrive—to take care of themselves, their partners, their kids, and sometimes even extended family.

And what do we get in return? Criticism. Ridicule. Names. When we struggle, we’re called “losers” or “deadbeats.” When we can’t meet expectations, we’re told to “man up” or “do better.” But no one asks how much we’re already sacrificing. No one asks how many sleepless nights we’ve spent worrying about money. No one asks how many dreams we’ve put on hold just to keep up with the demands.

Let’s be real: the financial pressure isn’t just about money. It’s about the emotional toll it takes on us. The constant fear of failure, the guilt of not being able to provide enough, and the loneliness of suffering in silence can lead to anxiety, depression, and worse. Yet, we’re expected to keep it all inside, to “be strong” and “handle it.”

And let’s not even get started on the double standards. When a woman struggles financially, she’s met with sympathy and support. When a man struggles, he’s met with judgment and blame. Women are encouraged to “follow their dreams” and “prioritize self-care,” while men are told to “suck it up” and “keep grinding.” It’s not fair, and it’s not sustainable.

So, what’s the solution? First, we need to change the narrative. Men are not ATMs. We’re human beings with our own struggles, dreams, and limitations. It’s time to stop treating us like walking wallets and start treating us with the respect and understanding we deserve.

Everyone around you wants to keep taking and expecting something from you. angry

Second, we need financial equality in relationships. Splitting bills, sharing expenses, and supporting each other’s goals shouldn’t be optional—it should be the norm. It’s not about who makes more or who pays for what; it’s about working together as a team.

Finally, we need to create a culture of empathy and support for men. Instead of dismissing our struggles, listen. Instead of judging our failures, offer solutions. And instead of demanding more, appreciate what we’re already doing.

Men are not invincible. We’re not machines. We’re human beings trying to navigate a world that expects everything from us but gives little in return. It’s time to acknowledge that, to address it, and to create a better future for all of us.

What are your thoughts? Have you experienced this kind of pressure? Let’s talk about it.

In the age of Social Media, this generation of women has come upon a bumper harvest of Dick the likes of which no other group of women has ever come upon in all history. Never has sex been so freely available to women than it is now.

With Feminism cheering them on; with dating apps Tinder, Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp, 2go etc delivering an endless stream of men direct to their phones; with multiple contraception methods on hand and with the best medications for various STIs, women are overdosing themselves on sex and accumulating pussy-numbing Dick counts.

What a woman isn't demanding from you she is getting from another man. (And vice versa, what you're not demanding from a woman another man is getting it from her)

when a woman deals with effeminate men who are in their feminine (acting like women), her own Masculinity - long dormant - comes out to compensate for their lack thereof. She's forced to take charge, be in control, run things and solve all the problems - which is something that a woman rightfully resents because it's exhausting and she's not built for it. She ends up tired, bitter, resentful, irritable, short tempered, emotionally unstable and beset by high BP and depression because she's operating under undue pressure

@ ubunja reading your essay must say God bless you, we had some issues with my previous account JESHAL but I'm grateful for seeing the redpill truths in all your messages specifically this one

femininity is costly because a woman needs money to be feminine but she can't work for that money herself because working for it will make her masculine, and she can't be poor because poverty also brings out a woman's masculinity.

The more money a woman makes the more masculine she becomes (and the harder it is for her to practice hypergamy because the less men are on her level and the less she actually needs a man). However the more money a woman is given the more feminine she becomes. Because femininity is a receiving energy. Hence the stay-at-home wife will be the MOST FEMININE woman.

where a woman is worshiped she doesn't love, but where she is not loved she worships

bad boys are “men who had fvcked up mothers” or men who had their heart broken by a woman they cherished. They don’t put any value on women. The good guy, on the other hand, is a man that wants to love a woman. There is nothing wrong with this. But, he “gets fvcked when he goes after the bad girl, when he goes after the woman that will never respect him for what he brings as a man and what he values.” In a world where 80% of women have been fvcked up by bad boys, it is hard for the good guy to find a woman that can receive what he has to give. Men must carefully select their women. There are still women out there who believe in loving a man, submitting to him, and putting him first.

there is no soul mate anywhere. If you see the necessary qualities you desire in a woman----full of feminine essence and high value MARRY HER ut don't settle for non virgins or repentant wh%res. Virgins are for kings and wh%res for simps. Do not also consider a woman above 25 years of age, except she's a virgin and filled with an avalanche of feminine essence.

Women are seduced and aroused by strong and dominant men-----high tier men, and get disgusted by weak men.

If you maintain frame, women in general will worship you, and this is the whole essence of TRP-----improving men in all of life's diversification.

when girls are younger, the thugs/players/bad boys always get the pussy free while the good guy/church guy/nice guy has to spend and even then not get the pussy because the girl will tell him "No sex before marriage," "I'm celibate" or some other shiit like that. Generally if you're a good guy who's Husband Material you'll not get the sex before marriage because the girl is "saving" you for marriage. When you'll have that honor of eating bad boys' left overs.

no matter what a guy does for a girl and how faithful he is, his girlfriend will cheat if she wants to

If we claim that many women who got married to rich guys don’t really have genuine love for them, is it the poor guys they really love?
Should we even really care about genuine desire nowadays? Does it really matter?
Because the person that genuinely loves you today may lose interest tomorrow for any reason.

I pity most guys that date or marry women only when they’re rich, like it or not, the best time to meet a good woman is when you’re not rich yet, riches and wealth will attract all sort of leaches and tapeworms, and you end up confused to know who’s genuine. There are some benefits men have in their struggling days and this is sure one of them, at least you see things clearly for what they are and who’s for you and who’s not.

If many guys put the knowledge of Redpill to good use, I believe paternity fraud cases would reduce at arms length but sadly a lot of men are not redpilled. A Redpill man knows he has to settle for quality woman who’s genuinely into him or not settle at all.

Women will never find it difficult to fvck a man they desire, religion or not. The religious ones that want to fvck will always run back to God for forgiveness after satisfying their hypergamous instinct - resources and/or quality genes. But on vetting women, this even is a dealbreaker, because if she's not faithful to her God who is more superior than her man, then she will definitely betray that man at any given opportunity

With Green light alone you will get fewer women around you, compare to when you are a pick up artist. The former is highly important when you need to commit and the later when you need to exercise your sexual prowess

It is better you go for a woman that choose you (well armed with the vetting parameters) because she's highly invested and can easily submit, than the one you selected from your "whoring" adventures. Lol!

Men suffer in great silence. I remember when I was still a kid one random midnight I sneaked to d parlour to watch cartoon and I saw my dad there in parlour deep in thoughts I stood there watching him for a few minutes without understanding, now I very much understand why he was in that position.

The life of a man is hard. Women hardly care , society barely cares , nobody understands a broke man , nobody. When He tries his best and yet nothing changes , people would call him all sorts of names.

That's why as a man , if you are ever gonna get married make sure it's a woman that loves you and not the woman you love, make sure you spoil yourself when you can. Go on solo vacations , buy a nice suit , eat good nourishing food. Drink good wine. Cause honestly nobody really gives a Bleep about a man in today's world. Take good care of yourself as a man.
Prioritize your Peace of mind, invest in yourself. Before you spend a dime on any woman make sure you have more than enough first , yes. Women can collect money from 200 men but one man can barely collect money from 5 men , be wise.

Nobody cares about the male gender. As a man if you're not successful or powerful or have total control of your life, you will be treated as shit by even cats and dogs. Nobody cares about you! No f^cking advantage, if a man fail to use his brain and strength, nobody is coming to help him. Man is not pitied for being man, where he can no longer perform, there he will be abandoned.

Society is already programed to cherish and care for women and children. This is as a result of their intrinsic weakness. Men will help women and children but will leave other men to hunt, fend and care for themselves. Why? Because society will praise you for helping the "weak" and no wonder there are motley of women and children empowerment program, exorbitant amount of money towards women's and children's healthcare, different support group for women and children etc.

Remember, majority of men are still at a disadvantage economically, in fact, powerful and rich men will sample different women and choose the most fertile among them e.g Ned Nwoko, Oba of Benin etc. H0es and damaged women will become leftovers for the majority of men at the bottom and they will be happy about it thinking that at last they've won the hearts of their best friends. How many h0es these days even settle down for broke men?
When it comes to the sexual game women have the upperhand because both rich simps, poor simps, rich alphas, broke alphas, the law and society are at their disposal.

In this sexual game, women will always win. Do you know why? All men can't become and will never become redpilled! Same as all men can't become rich and powerful. Pareto principle holds well in every game. Women are born manipulators, they will f^ck their prime years away and still leverage their wasted years to anchor to a well-to-do man. Men with money and power don't waste time to bring out money to f^ck and marry as many h0es as they want. They simply don't care because f^ck is f^ck whether by arousal or attraction.

Still on the economic sector, men will still settle down for h0es because of their low economic and financial status. A broke guy doesn't have an option, he will be happy to have a l00se woman around and will not bother about her infidelity or sexual history because in his mind he's even lucky to have her with little or no money. He thinks the woman is doing him a favour and no wonder many grooms either shed tears of joy every Saturday or dance joyously as if they've just won a golden boot for the first time.

Chai
Even open promiscuous women are expensive and have standards
It's crazy our ancestors didn't witness or experience these nonsense , slaving hard for under valued goods because they are the majority non virgins and promiscuous/ damaged women like I said the bottom 80% would settle down with them

Women or not, men must provide, either for their family or themselves. It is because of this eternal burden to provide that makes them dwell less in the emotional domain. That emotional plane is for women because nobody expects much from them

Nigerian men are dating according to broke girls' standards.

It's a pity.
Just because they want to marry and reproduce

Female virgins of marriageable age are valuable, respected, scarce and as a matter of fact rare.

Male virgins of marriageable age are seen as losers, women don't respect them as they lack the experience to give them the big O, and as a matter of fact your male friends don't respect you and male virgins are common.

Removing masturbation and paying for hookers and sex workers, I strongly believe true male virginity rate among unmarried adult male will be more than 70% now.
The last stat pre-pandemic shows 27%

In my bluepill days, I used to think women who are virgins or lack experience will love to get involved with a virgin male, but the reverse is the case as the poster above revealed. The more experienced, the more toxic you are, the more women want you and the can instinctually smell
your level of experience before you even open your mouth.

Sadly, In the upside world we live male virginity is nothing to brag about.