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luminouz:
I have been watching Kevin Samuels videos on YouTube and meeen....I have gained more wisdom from his videos. You should see how illogical and downright delusional some of the women he interviewed were. One was almost 40 years old and had kids but says her cookies are worth the wait for any man ready to marry her?

One comment said 'Even the cookie monster don't want her fûcking cookies'

RIP Kevin Samuels

Martinez39s:
Once men can put their ego and delusion aside, and start thinking, they will adapt.

In addition to the need to propagate their genes, most men want the be and feel like the "boss man", the traditional "boss man" like ancient patriarchs with submissive wives. This ego, the need to spread gene, and the blue pill delusion/assumption of thinking their spouses are different (and wouldn't do what other women did to their husbands) keep men on the rigid life path that hasn't acknowledged the massive changes society has gone through.

In pursing this path, they forgot that the ancient patriarchs not only enforced the traditional conventions in his household, they also had social pillars and norms that encouraged and backed them up in their patriarchal roles. The modern societies don't have these social pillars and norms, in fact they frown on them as misogynistic and backward. Ironically, even most modern men who want to live the patriarchal life frown upon these too. Also, the type of woman the ancient patriarchs had are different from modern women: women of old were bred to master home keeping skills, they had no equal rights as these men, and they were to submit and rever their husbands. The men, in turn, didn't just have a free ride: their unquestioned leadership and authority came with huge responsibility and sacrifice for their society and families; they had a huge burden of performance and had to earn their post.

> (Patriarchal male) + (traditional woman of old) + (traditional society and social norms) = Smooth running patriarchal households.

> (Patriarchal male) + (modern woman) + [modern society (especially a gynocentric one) and social] = a project doomed to fail for the patriarch trying to enforce traditional settings.

> (Patriarchal male) + (traditional woman in modern day) + [modern society (especially a gynocentric one) and social] = (a project likely to fail for the patriarch trying to enforce traditional settings. This is probably due to bait and switch and ease with which the woman will acquaint herself with the norms of the modern society and break off from tradition. Women are highly social animals that follow and adapt to the latest trends)

Either men can swallow the red pill, drop their ego, and flow with the trend and social norms that are here to stay and are not going any time soon (just like Ubunja, Skepticus, Zabiboy), or they can make things difficult for themselves by threading the old path. Even if men, especially those in gynocentric societies, want to get into relationships and marriages and retain their masculinity and peace, they must sit down and plan how to fix social situations that will impede these things eg. changing the marital and family laws, setting high standards that they will enforce to make women sit up, changing laws that are biased against fathers' rights, etc.

Unfortunately, men don't do this. They just jump in due to reasons I listed earlier; they think they don't have to worry about anything happening to the social norms since they think their case will be different and they will just find the right woman. Most men are like kids playing with the abacus when others are using scientific calculators.

CaveAdullam:
Let me see if I can make it 25 harshest lessons:

Opening: we will all die. In the deepest part of our hearts, we know all these struggles aren't worth it. It all ends in death. But we must struggle.

Ok. Let's go:

1. Family background is a determinant of success. Success is ultra slim when you are raised in a poor household.

2. Time spent is time gone. Wasted time rolls with streams of tears and regrets.

3. At adulthood, love becomes conditional.
Your family still loves you deeply. However, love is now predicated on what you can do.

4. You'll always reminisce about childhood. Because the tales of adulthood aren't what you're currently experiencing.

5. Independence is expensive.

6. You'll always act like Patrov's dog when you are trying to find your feet.

7. You are at the mercy of the rich man when you are sitting down like Lazarus on his table.

8. As things get difficult for you, the distance between you and the people who say they love you expands.

9. When you are low and poor, you're deemed nothing. You are seen as a worthless fellow.

10. The metric for success in the eyes of the average man is luxury. You'll face bigger challenges when trying to pass your wisdom when you're poor.

11. The amount of respect accorded to you is status-inclined. That's average human for you.

12. Things don't always go as planned.

13. No matter how disciplined and faithful you are, when life wants to fvck you, it does so hard and at the worst and painful orifice.

14. You may be a victim of an attack or a victim of an offense not committed. You may be a victim of the recklessness of others. Your freedom is one luck away from.

15. Nobody is coming to help you.

16. If you want help in life, you must offer help to people.

Don't say you are too poor and empty. Leverage your poverty.

17. Poor people are irritants to the well-to-do.

Even if you are at the bottom of the hierarchy, don't abandon your life to it. Relaxation at the bottom is where the irritation oozes from.

18. Appearance matters. If you don't look presentable, beautiful, and appealing to the two naked eyes, you'll be treated poorly.

19. You become a pain in the ass if you always beg.

Do you want help? Offer your little help first.

20. You alone are on this track to your destination.

Others would love to help you had it been they didn't have any mission.

But life is a race. Everyone is on the track. So don't get upset when you don't hear from others.

21. It's the people you don't expect help from that will eventually emancipate you.

But you'll spend the whole of your time with people you are familiar with but will render little or no help.

22. No one is gonna teach you how to live life. You have to discover that for yourself.

23. Life is a jungle. You must acclimatize to the field to understand the ways of beasts and predators.

24. Those who fail to follow their guts live with regrets thereafter. Never fail to take the risk. However, be wise and pragmatic.

25. It takes extra time and work, and great difficulty to become a balanced man, a man of honor and integrity, a man of strength and valor, a man whose reputation echoes when being called.

If you want to become such a man, be ready to do the extraordinary. Be ready to walk in the dark. Be ready to walk alone. Be ready to walk a long boring distance.

Bonus:

26. Only you can sustain the fire burning inside of you. Don't get tired.

27. Success isn't guaranteed for anybody.

But you must be optimistic enough to make trials. You may not get what you want, however, will move from where you used to be.

28. It's faster to get your needs and satisfaction if you offer your soul on the altar of materialism and falsehood. It comes at a cost though.

29. Everybody talks about the truth. But they are under the covers of lies, treachery, betrayals, deceit, manipulations, and falsehood to fulfill their dreams.

Thanks.