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Martinez39s:
I am ready. I was attending to a guest who gave me an impromptu visit.

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Well, I have always supported that men need to up their standards. I support the idea that female virginity should be a standard for marriage. A young virgin is the least of all "evils" and most reasonable pick, though female nature still persists. Nothing, not even religion, should make anyone settle for less.

The basic issue with living the traditional and patriarchal lifestyle today is that times are now different. The social norms and social situations are now different. The social pillars, era and norms that enabled the traditional lifestyle are virtually nonexistent. These pillars are:
(a) the acceptance of automatic male leadership and lordship in the home. Society and it's norms now frown upon such and label it misogyny. Even when a woman says she wants a man to lead, it's usually because she is trying to give out a false nawalt signal to hook unsuspecting men into commitment. One thing women who say they want you to lead cunningly omit is that the leadership must align with what they think and it should be under their supervision (you see the game here).

(b) the submission and cooperation of the female to male. We know how society views this now; "equal partnership" is now encouraged. Women today usually frown on the idea of submission. Women today saying that they will submit is usually a facade before marriage.

(c) the mandatory requirement of virginity before marriage. Simps and women have thrown this to the dust. Being a slut and nonvirgin is not much of a shameful thing today.

(d) the automatic ownership of the children and wife by the husband. Even during divorce, the children used to belong to the man and hence full custody to the man. Thanks to the Tender Years Doctrine and feminism, which all had a global impact with time, the reverse is now the case. The laws today don't follow this traditional view. Also, as the husband, you owned your wife's body and she had better not weaponize or deny you sex... it's different now.

These things and other practices were accepted by society back in the days. The man had all the leverage in the home and the women were dependent on the men; men simply had a lot of factors working for them that enabled the patriarch lifestyle.

Besides, even if you embrace these ideas, you will still need a traditional woman to make a traditional home. We don't have traditional women today, what we have at best are chameleons. The absence of the old social norms, and the way woman are today, means that your traditional lifestyle starts and ends in your home. The woman might camouflage before committment and once you get married and kids start pouring in, she might start pulling some bait and switch, leaving only you in your traditional mindset. When that happens, it becomes difficult for many men since the women, laws and society (and its norms, pillars and court of public opinion) are against you and do not buy your lifestyle. No man is bigger than his society. Even the churches and many religious institutions are now modernised. Even if she was young, sheltered and raise in a traditional setting when you married her, who is to say that her exposure to social media, what is going on, and influences from friends (also, peer pressure) won't give room and arsenal for her female nature to run amok? With time, women change. The Fear Of Missing Out and the willingness of jumping of social trends are common with women. In many instances, there are cases of grown-up women regretting not exploring their hoè-phase enough.

Even your children, especially your daughters, will likely buy into the ways of the modern times no matter how traditional you try to raise them. Social media, school, friends, TV, etc are all there to keep them abreast of what is going; the internet is becoming indispensable in this age. Even if you cut social media and some of these things from them, who can say that children won't find a way to do certain things behind your back? You won't be following them 24/7. Peer pressure is also another thing. In as much as people hate to admit, society also contributes in raising your children. Times are different.



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