₦airaland Forum

Ishilove:
I hope you get your heart's desires.

Amen ... same to you

Ishilove:
I think you should know someone up close and personal before you make such a huge and life defining choice as marriage. I'm saying this because people may be scoffing at your desire to marry her but in this life, never say never. You may be presented with that opportunity in future, before making a woman your wife, make sure their values align with yours. Get to know Regina with your heart and five senses, not through the deceptive lenses of social media

I understand the point you're making but I have my way of recognising good people even from a distance. I have known Regina right from her beginning days in Nollywood and her personality aligns with the kind of lady I would want to marry. So, this is not about celebrity crush but an honest truth. I don't care what anybody thinks or says but if I have the chance, I'll marry her over and over again!

Thanks for your counsels anyway.

Emily244:
Nawooh you want her to leave her marriage and come to the street, what is she looking for a again,last last they will resolve the issues

Would you rather she dies in the marriage?? If she feels it's okay for her to remain there, it's her decision to make and I'll respect that. But if she thinks leaving the marriage is in her best interest, the decision is equally hers. What I wouldn't want is for her to remain in the marriage just because of what people would say and the fear of not finding someone else to marry.

Ishilove:
Interesting. What qualities does she possess that convinces you that she will be a suitable wife material for you?

She's intelligent, beautiful and she has a good heart! She was just a victim in that marriage arrangement.

pocohantas:
You want her to leave, so una go say na me advise her to leave? One here is already mocking her with loneliness. The girl is the victim, but somehow she is the one already being threatened with loneliness and a lifetime of sleeping with small small boys. Nigerians are not real people.

I just hope she'll not go back into that marriage because of what people would say or to avoid being mocked. She must prioritise her peace of mind, freedom and general well-being.

She must not be deceived by those who are mocking her with loneliness. There are many of us who would give anything to marry her if only she'll accept!

pocohantas:
Lol! I can see your eyes is in this girl.
Don't worry they will settle.

Settle now and get beaten tomorrow again? Is this what you'll do if you're in her position?

Infidelity and domestic violence are the only valid grounds for one to divorce! If Osinachi had taken wise counsels earlier and divorced that beast of a husband she would have been alive today.

If you investigate very well now you may discover that these couple are quarreling over insignificant things. The man should think twice and settle amicably with his wife. So long as it is not infidelity or threat to his life, he should forgive his wife and mother of his six children and restore their marriage for the benefit of all.

Men still forgive cheating wives and remain married to them let alone when cheating was not involved. Anybody who is going into marriage must learn to forgive because marriages thrive on continuous forgiveness of one's partner.

Say no to divorce over flimsy excuses! Let's restore the institution of marriage to it's glorious place and intended purpose.

CoronaVirusPro:
He should also compare the bills and tax!

Does he know his entire annual salary in Nigeria is the mortgage or rent for what you can call home in the UK?

How many people live in homes in the UK? Many reside in Kennels called homes. Small things we can’t call BQ in Nigeria.

Does he know price of energy and taxes that follow after those numbers he quoted?

I am not saying Nigeria is better than the UK, but the true reality of the difference is not much.

Do you know the cost of living same life you were living in Nigeria under that low salary, with that of the UK?

Many can’t even live that life. It’s a party after party champagne campaign in Nigeria with the lowest we earn. We build houses to taste and own outrightly. We not chased by banks.

You people should stop this senseless talk about expenses abroad abeg! No matter how much one spends from his or her salary in the UK, he'll still save enough money to make investment back home! My sister who could barely make ends meet while in Nigeria is now well off in the UK. No matter how much she spends with her family over there she still saves to solve problems she couldn't solve back home while in Nigeria!

There's no comparison! Even the current economic reality in the country has further worsened the suffering in Nigeria! Not even ₦300k salary in Nigeria assures financial security in Nigeria today yet you guys want to compare black with white?

oluwaahmed:
You will just kpai for nothing. Are you not aware that Ned nwoko did igbo magun for her. Dem tell you say magun sabi wetin be divorce? No allow ur prick kpai you ooooo

Reserve that advice to small-minded people, not me! I'm too mentally empowered to believe in rubbish things like "magun" or whatever Ned did to scare Regina and have her stuck with him

Even my humble self would soon relocate abroad to ply my trade over there! It is too bad that after years of suffering and reading lots of books in school you'll end up earning peanuts and working under the harshest condition in Nigeria.

pocohantas:
Did I say all men are bad?
I said let her breathe small. She is just 24. She has been married to him since 19. Left to me I don't endorse teenagers having romantic relationships, let alone marriage and I have told you this many times. I did think this man was treating her like a new bride, but as it is I am disappointed. I hope she gets out of this in one piece because that old man can seize her kids. I remember when the Moroccan wife left. He cut them off and she had to apologise publicly before he took her back. I cannot remember if she left with her kids or not.

It won't be ideal for her to remain single for long after leaving the marriage. She'll need to remarry sooner than later so as to have a soulmate to help her completely overcome the trauma she's currently going true in the name of marriage.

Raf4:
You wan lick the remaining soup for her pot? Your target here is to become a stepfather to Sen Ned Nwoko's children. Stop pretending.

You see your life? You're shocked that a guy is willing to marry her against your wish that she remains unmarried and disgraced should she leave Ned Nwoko so you can mock and ridicule her!

People with your kind of thoughts are the reasons why I believe that she'll need a man who can take her abroad if she wants to remarry! Even before Ned married her, I had always being on her matter so your thinking that I'll want to marry to become step father to Ned's kids is just an attempt to shame me into deciding otherwise. But unfortunately you're talking to a guy who doesn't care about what you think of him when it comes to what he likes!

pocohantas:
Your next plan is to push her inside another marriage? Una no wan pity this small girl?

All marriages are not bad! There are good men out there who would give her peace and genuine love if they marry her!

Some of you ladies would deliberately walk into the arms of bad guys and when such guys are done dealing with you you'll tag ALL men as scum. All men are not scum! You're the one who made the wrong choice!

SamuraiXXX:
Una go just dey talk nonsense?

Will you agree to marry a broke single mother of two if you're relocating abroad?

I'll marry Regina in a blink if I get the chance! That should tell you how much I like her. I may not do same for other single mums but for Regina!

Deal with it!

pocohantas:
Smh...

Why shaking your head? She'll need to be taken far away from Ned and the prying eyes of Nigerians to enjoy maximum peace.

SeaTrade:
I've never seen anyone succeed by DAMNING THE CONSEQUENCES.
The consequences should always matter to any progressive mind that wants growth.
Ned don't need Regina,Regina does need Ned,so she has to act like it bro and take all the shit that comes with being with Ned.
And oh,survival is everything in this world,know this.

And who says she can't survive after leaving Ned? She'll enjoy life and live free if she leaves that marriage! All she needs is to remarry a guy who can take her abroad away from Ned and other Nigerians who might want to poke nose into her affairs. Mind you, there are guys like myself who're willing to marry her at a blink if she accepts.

SamuraiXXX:
Make she come out make better hunger waya am

Remember she's a talented actress. She's got connections and she's beautiful, so getting a job won't be hard for her

Tenrack:
You won marry single mother

Yes, single mother like Regina. I've always liked her even before she was pushed into that marriage by her mother.

Tenrack:
GOD ..SEE This one

See what? All over the world, ladies remarry after failed marriages! Why would her own be different?

One thing about me is that I don't pretend about what I want. I go for it!

Sammy101111:
Anything way done make woman born 2 or 3 way no they husband house she go suffer from men hand alot because no man will take you serious they will only want to get hnder your pant for fun and not love you

You're wrong dude. I'll wife up that girl at a blink if she lets me. I'll then take her straight abroad to start a new life and give her all the love and comfort she'll ever need.

This is just to debunk your claim that no guy would marry her if she leaves Ned now.

Jokerman:
It may not matter much to her now... Na she know wetin her eye dey see, but I doubt any young guy will be interested in her naw except the money

I will marry that girl sharply if she lets me!

ufotunang:
..so it's the money she married not the man ?🙄

Obviously! And her mum pushed her into the marriage!

SeaTrade:
They should've kept all of this private tbh...
They're the biggest losers here.
Regina is young and will most likely lose her marriage because of this,lose her lifestyle and also come back to the wicked streets.
Her brother on the other hand is praised to be a hero for his small mindedness but will be nowhere to be found when the consequences of his actions make the sister lose her benefactor,security and lifestyle. No be to talk be man oo ,your sister bills dey come no worry.
Also ,cut the crap about touching Ned kid,you can't!
Ned will only throw some money around to silence the case and weaponise his wealth and connections against Regina.
Taking the pain when your cards are too feeble to play a firm hand is also a part of adult life.

Just imagine what you're typing! So she should remain a slave in Ned Nwoko 's house because of money and lifestyle? In this generation where slavery has been abolished and people now live freely??

All she needs now is to come out of that marriage, get a job and stay on her own. She's beautiful and I can assure you that there are many men (including myself) who would marry and give her all the love in this world if only she'll let them!

I'm very sure that she'll survive and become a happy and free human again if she leaves that marriage!

See this girl I wanted to marry that year. Her mom pushed her to go and Marry Ned Nwoko, now see what he has turned this beautiful girl into...too bad!

Kobojunkieee:
WOW... you think the tales of bad marriages out there are told by people who wish to demonize marriage? 😩😩😩

Also, do you think telling these unbalanced stories of what you consider to be examples of good marriages—many have rightly pointed out that these tales in the OP read more of tales of men doing all the sacrificing — is right as it seems more an attempt to invalidate the fact that the vast majority of marriages out there are bad? Why

2. Sure, there are good marriages, but they are only a handful when compared to the numerous examples of bad marriages out there. So, what exactly is your purpose for trying to claim that there are those out there demonizing marriage when married couples are all the evidence for why marriage is not for everyone?

And one of the world's notorious Enemy of Marriage just quoted me!

There are more good marriages than bad ones ! The fact that people seldom talk about the good ones don't mean they don't exist! The bad marriages attract more attention than the good ones because people like you would give them all the publicity in the world to discourage others from getting married!

Ishilove:
Bad news sells. A LOT. Which is why most people will click on stories of bad marriages because it reinforces the increasingly popular, albeit demonic worldview that "marriage is outdated."

I am sharing some lovely stories here to encourage the singles that there are still good marriages out there, you just need grace to meet the right person. People don't talk about good marriages, so join me in celebrating these ones I'll be posting here.

You are very much right, Ishi!

Those who missed out on getting good spouses and those who have passed their prime without being married would tell lots of bad tales to demonize marriage and get young people scared of getting married.

There are good marriages around but nobody talks about them! Me I'll be very happy to meet and marry my soulmate soon and enjoy marriage

Couples who are still inlove wouldn't be arguing like this. The marriage between the couples in the above post is headed for the rocks if they don't work hard to rekindle their love and restore things before it becomes too late.

How can I be arguing with my lovely wife over things like who pays for what? Unless I married a lady I'm not inlove with for whatever reasons.

You must have married a lady you ain't into for reasons best known to you. If a guy marries a lady who is his spec, he never gets tired of making love to her.

As usual, an Igbo man becomes the scapegoat!!! The hatred for the Igbo tribe in this country is very glaring.

This is a good development if properly implemented. Government should also work towards harmonizing wages in the country such that private and public sectors pay uniform salaries for same job descriptions. This would reduce pressure on government in terms of employment.

After foolishly getting pregnant for some useless Playboys while ignoring and rejecting advances from responsible guys, they'll now come with sob stories and expect me to waste my sympathy on them..... never!

This is one of the consequences of girls jumping after irresponsible playboys while claiming some useless "love"! Stop throwing yourselves at aszholes and wait for responsible men to find you attractive and come for you so you can dictate the direction of the affair and get the man to marry you first before sex, they'll not listen!

It's 21st century were women think they're now woke and deviate from time-tested ways our forebearers used to get things like marriage to last and avoid problems of single motherhood. They have to suffer the consequences alone and stop seeking pity party!!!

Zionmdde:
Nigerians and wickedness

A good business person in this country will put more than 3 layers of security to ensure that no one person can just successfully divert your money. I pity the woman sha

The wickedness goes both ways! The employers are majorly wicked while some employees are equally wicked!

It is only in Nigeria that private sector employers pay staff peanuts despite the huge work they subject these staff to.

There are many evil private employees that really deserve this kind of treatment! As for the woman, if she was good to her staff but got treated in this manner, may heavens come to her help.