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APOPTOSIS:
The Ladies have done way worse in matters like this.
More men should learn from Ladies and this Guy.
The man made the best decision. This is marriage and not friendship. The lady's statements has revealed a lot about her. That lady is not young at all, looking for visa by correspondence to park her problems.

A smart lady would use her tongue to count her teeth but she was waiting for " CANADA".
We know them. That they love you is because you are the best man in the pool available to them at a given time not because they really love you. The man was smart.

They use this excuse of "too many suitors are coming".
Physical Suitors are chasing her but she was doing online-blind dating, busy chasing unknown men🤣

Don't mind her! The last mistake I'll make in this life is pity a lady who got dumped by a man.

ChybuzzDD:
So, you're a product of child marriage and should be arrested.

Come arrest me na

Women give birth to healthier and smarter kids when they start birthing early. Don't be deceived by feminists and their lies!

JuanDeDios:
She made no such claim. He said his Nigerian account had a problem so she was helping him with some things here in Nigeria. Why are you so angry at this lady? If you're capable of what this guy did, karma will get you and you may perish.

She claimed she was sending him money from Nigeria because he claimed his account was bad. Read again, maybe this time around you'll see that part.

Reverse this scenario and I'm sure you'll even criticize the guy for wanting to cling to abroad-based lady by fire by force. Because a lady is the one at the receiving end you're trying to demonize the guy by all means. The lady should move on and cut the guy some slacks! Imagine a guy resorting to this childish attitude of posting a lady's pictures online because he got dumped. I'm sure y'all will criticize him.

Many ladies have missed the chances of getting hooked with their ordained husbands on some flimsy considerations. And one thing about nature is that once one misses the opportunity to grab that which God wanted for one, it is gone forever.

There's so much confusion and misplacement of priorities among ladies of nowadays. These ladies allow playboys who don't really have interest in marrying them to deceive them thereby missing out on their rightful men! By the time they realise what's up they have lost the genuine guys while the playboy moves on to the next gullible lady and the cycle continues. Ladies should also avoid what I call "crowd mentality" which is the tendency to fall for what everyone is falling for! This is because those things everyone wants to have in their potential ideal men are usually unrealistic, and you find out that those who set such "standards" are usually people of the higher social class (eg celebrities). When you as a random girl from an average to poor family background wants to align yourself with the celebrity lifestyles and "standards", just know you're setting yourself up for a prolonged stay in the spinsterhood market.

Be realistic in your expectations of your ideal man! Know yourself and your background and cut your coat according to your clothes... period

God bless the United States of America!

God bless Donald Trump!

Michaelajah:
A man afraid of a woman
Very funny, some men are so weak
Very weak, I hate jeje men ehn....

You've never met very strong ladies before. All women are not weak!
However, I guess the op is only restraining himself because he understands how the country he lives in works! In the UK and most western countries, men are the ones always trying to maintain peace in the house while their women are the aggressors. This is like a reversal of scenarios in some homes in Nigeria where the men are the abusers and the women are the victims .

Nonsense! Ladies have been doing worse things to guys and getting away with it. She should deal with it and move on!

The yeye woman claims she had been sending money to the guy in Canada! Please tell us another lie because this one won't fly.

If it were you that dumped a nigga, everybody would applaud you and the guy would be mocked and made to move on in the most humiliating manner, but now that a guy is the one that dumped you, you want us to castigate him and guilt trip him into marrying you against his wish. It won't work!

Zonefree:
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She never loved you.

You caught her with her real boyfriend. As long as she's concerned, you're just a "means to an end".

The money you gave her to go see her father, she used it to take her real boyfriend out for enjoyment while you're busy taking photos.

You lose. Move on.

My only problem with cases like this is that by the time that girl gets dumped by the nigga she has been cheating on op with, she'll come back claiming that men are scum! Here's op showing her all the love and affections yet getting cheated on. Girls must learn to stop blaming all men when they get dumped because they do worse to guys and nobody blames them.

macsika:
Where are the Nigerians criticizing USAID? It’s crazy that the same people criticizing USAID will come out to wail when its repercussions come up. You guys do not want US opinions in Nigeria affairs but you want its money.

Don't mind the yeye Nigerians! All the the while they were enjoying the freebies from UNSAID, they didn't know American government had been the ones bankrolling all they had been getting free of charge!

I keep saying it, Nigeria is only lucky that the Whiteman is not as evil and thoughtless as blacks. If not, it would have been so disastrous for backward countries like Nigeria!

Felimax:
No chance to prepare because I actually underated her.
I tot I have done a good job after some hours. It was about 2 am when she asked if it was not too early for me to sleep. Omo I slept off o, I won't lie. At this moment no much strength again.

Leave am, she has skills.
We went to the morning working nonstop. If I try to sleep she is on me again.
I tot I was going to die!

Lolzzzzz... You remind me of the saying "When Warsaw saw war, they war no more". Na that kind lady fit some of these guys here wey dey sabi make mouth about how great they are in bed.

Felimax:
That one nor be woman. That one na man wey get *ussy.

You for no allow her defeat you, guy. There's a way of handling those kinds of ladies. You prepare yourself very well before doing the do.

DoctorStanley:
So what do you make of these below posts from 2007??
He says he's based in US

Nothing in the post you quoted suggests that she's a man! Or do you think that "almost killing the man herself" implied that she's a man? She's only saying that she almost killed her abusive dad herself.

Gumi is one of the jihadists! We have known him all along as a supporter and sponsor of jihads in Nigeria!

We stand with the USA against Islamic jihad in Nigeria!

#SayNoToJihadsInNigeria

#WeStandWithPOTUS

#WeStandWithTrump

#WeStandWithTheUSA

Silentgroper:
She's in the states..

Ohhk... but nevertheless, she's a bitter EP

Samantha125:
Okay, then what do you normally do to bond with your woman?

I go on dates with her, buy her surprise gifts, join her in the kitchen to help out when she's cooking and also listen to her gossips, I take her to the salon when she wants to make her hair and wait until she's done. The list of what couples can do together to bond is endless and these have nothing to do with age differences.

Samantha125:
What else would they do to bond as couples during their spare time? Just stare at each other in the eyes likes strangers?

They must not have the same hobbies from the beginning. Hobbies can be leaned, remember. So, something as simple as hobbies shouldn't be used to determine marriage or dating compatibility. For instance, I like watching MAN U games as a hobby, must I wait until I come across a girl who also likes same thing before I date or marry?

This is what we have been saying! Many have been killed in this jihad but the evil Nigerian political class wants to deny the obvious!

Such are my types of girls. But we have to space the action to at least weekly encounters. Seeing each other everyday will make the relationship boring af

Felimax:
I can relate!
Not everything are worth saying.
Lol! 🤣🤣

Have you met a lady that has high sex drive and has the strength to pin you down and drain the hell out of you?

Na me lock door na me con dey find way to run out but no way. 😂 No

Bros you fall hand. Brotherhood is not proud of you! How you go allow woman defeat you in the game of "ikwokirikwo"

DoctorStanley:
He's been here a looong time. Go check his old posts. He can't be female

Kobo is a female based in the UK.

DoctorStanley:
HOW did u know Kobo is female??

Kobo is female bro. I've known her on this forum for a long time

Samantha125:
Since when did one's occupation had anything to do with his or her love life?

We don't bring our professions at home after we knock off from our different places of work... When I look at my husband, I don't see a medical doctor, but my best friend and the man a fell in love with.

I'm referring to hobbies here.

Okay, the "interests" you wrote about in your post were merely hobbies? And you think people must have the same hobbies before they can get married?

Fenrir:
You speak of marriage as if it were the joining of two ships from distant seas — each with its own sails, its own winds, its own waters — and indeed, you are not wrong to say that differences can be bound together by love. Yet I say unto you, with the voice of the North and the wisdom of winters uncounted: it is not differences that sustain a voyage, but the trust between sailors and the truth that binds the ship together when storms rage.

You see, in my homeland, when two Vikings set out to sea, they did not first ask if their ships were carved from the same oak or painted in the same color. No — they asked, Can I trust this man when the night falls and the sea roars? They asked, Will his hand hold the oar steady when my strength falters? This, my friend, is what marriage truly is — not a festival of sameness, nor a competition of contrasts, but a covenant of endurance.

You speak of love as if it can tame all difference. But love without truth is like a fire without air — it dies choking on its own smoke. Love without trust is a ship without a keel — it will drift wherever the wind commands. And love without shared understanding — not sameness, but understanding — is like two warriors fighting the same battle, but each in his own fog.

Yes, two souls from different worlds can meet — a man from the snows of Norway and a woman from the red earth of Igboland — and build a union that the gods themselves would envy. But they do not succeed because they ignore their differences; they thrive because they build bridges of truth across them. The bridge is not made of mere emotion, nor of fleeting interest, but of honesty, loyalty, patience, and trust — these are the iron nails that hold the bridge firm.

You say that shared interests are not necessary, and perhaps that is true — for a farmer and a singer can share a heart if they share a spirit. But if one’s joy is alien to the other’s soul, if one cannot laugh at what brings the other laughter, or take solace in what gives the other peace — then their union is built on shifting sand. Common ground, however small, is not about hobbies or careers; it is about values. It is not whether both like the same music or food, but whether both honor the same truth — whether they kneel before the same altar of respect, whether they cherish honesty above comfort and loyalty above pride.

You see, in my father’s land, a Viking and his wife shared the hearth — not merely as man and woman, but as comrades. The woman was no servant, nor the man a tyrant. They were partners in the long winter. When storms howled outside, they kept their flame alive by trust and companionship. When famine came, they shared equally the hardship. They did not survive because their differences were ignored, but because their bond was stronger than those differences.

So, my friend from the rich lands of Nigeria, let not your wisdom make light of the sacred truth that what binds two hearts is not only love, but truth and trust. A marriage without truth is like a longship with a cracked hull — it may float for a time, but the sea will find its way in. A marriage without trust is like a voyage without a compass — both may set sail with smiles, but the horizon will swallow them soon enough.

You are right that love can cross borders — aye, it can cross oceans and centuries. But love that endures must be rooted in something deeper than emotion; it must be anchored in integrity. And trust, my brother, is not born from difference — it is born from shared truth.

So I say unto you as one whose ancestors rode the storms:
Let love be the sail, truth the mast, and trust the hull.
Let your differences be the winds — wild and unpredictable —
But never forget, it is shared purpose that keeps the ship afloat.

So much wisdom here. I appreciate your response

Good that the leader of the fact-finding team is not another corrupt Nigerian politician but an incorruptible man in the person of Sir Arnold. Otherwise, the Nigerian government would have financially induced the team and influence the outcome of the findings. Thank God for the white man!

All the reports and recommendations made by the team are apt and I fully support these recommendations. Nigeria cannot claim to be a secular state and still have its territories under Islamic Sharia rules! Sharia laws must be abolished and all Islamic jihadist groups disbanded. People who have been displaced from their ancestral lands must be returned to their lands while those in captivity must be freed! Every region in Nigeria must be carried along in governance such that the people would feel a sense of belonging. Otherwise, Nigeria would implode in no distant time.

Samantha125:
You can be from different nations with different cultural backgrounds, but still have common interests... A lot of black Americans have some similarities with Nigerians character wise.

The point is that marriage is not necessarily about common interests but the ability to accommodate and manage differences from the other partner because you love them. This is why people from different professional backgrounds still marry and make great couples. If it's about interests, then one must then have to marry from one's profession eg doctors vs doctors, lawyers vs lawyers, engineers vs engineers etc

Samantha125:
What does race has to do with having common interests in a union? You can be of different race, but have similar characteristics and interests.

From the beginning of time, marriage has got little to do with common interests or characteristics but being able to marry individual differences together. Someone from American with an entirely different culture and someone from the Igbo tribe in Nigeria have little in common in terms of culture and individual characteristics but they can marry their individual differences together and thrive in marriage. That's what marriage is about! Besides, being 15years older or younger doesn't mean they can't have a lot in common!

I wholeheartedly support the US on any action to end Islamic terrorism in Nigeria!

Thank you Trump!

Samantha125:
What do you have in common with someone whom you're over 15 years her senior?

Marriage is not about what you have in common. If that's the case, there won't be interracial marriages!

This is why the likes of kobojonkie have not gotten married until she has turned into a bitter woman in her fifties whose stock in trade is discrediting marriage and making it seem like all married folks are suffering.

Nigerian women really need a strong reorientation on how modern modern relationships and marriages ought to work.

folake4u:
Lol and what body type is that?

Well, physical fitness is important, I'd add flexibility too.

Yeah, the average Nigerian man would label a sexually expressive woman a sl_t.

Stop saying the average Nigerian man please. Instead, say primitive Nigerian man. I don't think any modern Nigerian man wouldn't want his wife to be sexually expressive in bed because that's where the fun is. As far as I am concerned, there's no fun in the act if the woman cannot express her needs in bed. It becomes monotonous and boring if she just lays there without participating.