₦airaland Forum

Richsteemit:
Yes bro, make I gain experience

Don't give all your heart ooo because anything can happen. That girl that's 'sweeting' you now can break your heart anytime sha

Enjoy it while it lasts. You obviously haven't had much of experience with women.

It's unfortunate that people hardly live to old age in Nigeria today. Living up to the age of 70years is now a big deal. Too baɗ



RIP to the dead

This is exactly why our women shy away from expressing themselves sexually. People like the op who shame women for the slightest expression of their sexual thoughts need to stop that rubbish. It makes no sense! Men cannot be expressing their sexuality freely whilst trying to suppress women from doing same.

But on a more serious note, she's right. With the way marriage is done here, men who can do all those things our culture expect married women to do for their men might have no need to marry. Except the man loves to have children, nothing else would attract him about marriage.

HelenaWills:
He has made the pronouncement.
He is going to rot in perpetual incarceration.
No peace for the wicked.
We are all happy for the sentencing, although I would have preferred death sentence. No need wasting our tax feeding his criminal ass.

What exactly did Nnamdi Kanu do to deserve the inhuman sentence He's only fighting for creation of Biafra!

In this same country, we have the likes of Gumi and other terrorists up north enjoying government protection whilst unleashing deaths and terror in the north.

Same fate would soon befall southern Nigeria and northern Nigeria would gain from it.
Drawbacks of western civilisation!

Congratulations to him!
This is the faction of PDP every sensible Nigerian recognises! The other faction constitutes a set of disgruntled elements bent on killing opposition politics in Nigeria.
Since labour party seems to be losing relevance, the Turaki-led PDP must work hard to get things right before the 2027 elections so that Nigerians who're desirous of change can have a good platform to vote during the next general elections.

I believe Regina because I know how deadly and evil an average Nigerian politician can be. Ned had better avoid all the media war and let the young girl be.

I thought they said that one reason to marry many wives is so if any of them gives trouble you ignore her and focus on others. Why is he finding it hard to move on? Nawao

debbydams:
Na gurl Bleep up, how you allow man do literally everything for you.. I'm sure he paid the house rent too..this one of the reason why I do my things myself.. I no want see finish
Remember when I got a new apartment, a friend offered to do the painting for me, i declined
Yes, I'm not bouyant.. I go buy paint buy brush
I paint and even do nice wallpaper sef.. I no want situation where someone somewhere will now say 'after everything I did for her'.. Or situation like dx.. Some men are pure monster.. Everything in my room is my hard earned money..i no want whala

Pure monster you say? What would you then call the lady that crushed his heart despite all the care and love he had shown her? Ladies turn to something else when they want to dump a guy! Their words and actions suddenly turns to hatred. You as the guy would be left wondering what you did to offend her to the extent of being so mean to you. Her words and actions at the time of the break up is enough to infuriate some guys to the point of wanting to take everything they invested in her.

Don't mind them! They'll not keep shut and avoid spoiling other people's chances of getting Visas. Those who genuinely desire to emigrate to these countries now have to face tighter scrutiny and some vicious policies. Nigerians are too loud-mouthed for my liking

Kobojunkie:
You are still not making any sense! 🥱🥱🥱🥱

I never expected to make sense to YOU. No be you again? You have a reputation here for never giving up an argument nor seeing sense in other people's thoughts.

Kobojunkie:
None of this makes any sense to me, nor do I find any correlation between this nonsense and what I posted.

A woman obtaining her financial independence does not free any man from the responsibility of catering to her needs( as determined by her) while he is dating her and possibly married to her. Her financial independence does not erase or impact this responsibility that her potential suitors should know they submit to should they engage her.

Yet when guys choose to go for younger girls feminists like yourself would start talking trash about his choice. If a so-called financially independent lady still makes herself a liability that a man has to cater for just like a broke younger girl with her beauty and fertility still top notch, then every sensible man would go for the later. If this is the case, why do you feminists start seeing it like the man is looking for a young girl he can control?

Kobojunkie:
. She says she deserves better. So, yes, let her go, and you, too, can move on to finding yourself a woman well within your range. Work on getting a woman you can afford, or better still, put all of your energy into building your financial capacity and strength so you don't run up against the same issue again.

Can you now see that it makes no sense for women to delay marriage on account of trying to build her financial capacity because on the long run she still expects her man taking care of her just the same way younger girls do?

chariisGRACE:
While it is true that some '30+' ladies are single because of their promiscuity, we should look at a reason that is not much talked about.

The truth is, some of these women are victims of the 'wickedness' of a man whom they invested all their love and affection into.

What do I mean?

A man would approach a lady in her mid 20s, ignite a relationship. Not only igniting a relationship but, giving the said lady an "I will marry you" vibe, and because women are very emotional, they'll stick with this said man and before you know it... Boom!! 💥 The lady has clocked 30+.

Oga no like her again. There is this fresh 20+ lady that oga is laying ambush for. The 20+ lady has a firmer skin, perky breasts, outward innocence etc but to get this new girl, oga has to get rid of the already 30+ lady.

Once the now 30+ lady has been evicted from oga's heart, with her hope of oga marrying her smashed to the ground. Already devastated and sad, not knowing that , there is more devastation and sadness lurking around the corner.

Time passes, oga is now with a 20+ lady, and 30+ is now on her own.

She grabs her phone and opens an Internet app only to see that, she and her ilks are now labelled as Evening Newspaper (ENP), wh*re, h0e, etc by men. That is a severe case of devastation.

She was only a victim of a man's bosheit. A victim of hit and run by a man's vehicle.

You all need to stop generalizing. Not every 30+ was promiscuous.

This boils down to wrong choices! A girl would reject all the responsible men asking for their hands in marriage and then accept one playboy who has no intention of marrying them. They usually do this for mundane reasons and when they get dumped they'll expect me to pity them. I don't pity such ladies. In fact I usually applaud the playboys when they break their selfish hearts!

Lalami3232:
You're right in some points!!! Not every unmarried lady in their 30s were bad.

The majority of them were bad with decision making and thinking that they can just marry at any age

They overestimate their Worth! Even the fugly ones among them would be desiring handsomeness, wealth, character etc in one man despite having nothing to offer.

I usually laugh when I read them talking about choosing a man when they're ready as if they can just pluck the man like a fruit whenever they want.

Honestly, I don't pity any 30s plus ladies who is not married because in most cases they wasted opportunities nature presented to them when they were younger. You'll see a girl having different men asking for their hands in marriage while they suffer these men. Then once they turn 30s they start going to Shilo and disturbing God. However, at such older age, women are highly undesirable to men and any man who marries such ladies is at risk of inheriting the burdens of infertility and having to go from place to place in search of children. He might even be wrongly accused of being responsible for the infertility!

Many of these ladies don't know that ladies as they age they become less desirable to men. Smart ladies understand this fact and capitalise on their beauty to hook up their men latest in their 25s while the unthinking ones would be busy dating and comparing different men until time is no longer on their sides. Then when they discover that they're no longer desirable to men they start getting bitter and trying to get younger girls to delay marriage so that they can become as miserable as they are. You know the saying that misery loves company.

MrEgghead:
so you are telling us that you know the management of a patient more than the person who took the history of the patient and must have even done Examinations and investigations??
Everyone makes mistakes. Don't think you know their job more than them.

I know the aspects of drugs far more than them ! And mind you, I'm not talking about one off mistakes but gross errors that shows a clear lack of drug knowledge. It is more common among graduates of private universities!

Stuffyj:
And the pharmacists they churn out from this university won't be half-baked right? Must u make ur hatred against doctors glaring in ur comment? Haba! It's evident u don't know doctors don't generalise treatment but individualize it. Instead of u to seek for clarification if u see any prescription that appears incorrect, u prefer to show ur hatred like u did in ur comment. What u hv failed to realize is that, d same prescription u presumed erroneous may be the correct one for the patient depending on what the patient is being treated for. Guidelines for treatment of various ailments differ and even change at intervals in some cases. A pharmacist once called my attention to clarify a prescription and had to visit the pharmacy to explain to him and even showed him guidelines to justify what he presumed was incorrect and we both appreciated ourselves rather than creating unhealthy rivalry. Nobody is immune to mistakes and don't assume everything ends on ur table because u know it all about drugs. I have good relationship with pharmacists/Technicians and we engage ourselves well on how to make patients care safe, efficient and better for everyone. Error can come from anyone whether u r a doctor, MLS, Pharmacist, nurses and others even in the developed nations due to many factors (including exhaustion from work, fatigue, e.t.c) and not due to incompetence.

My friend, what I encounter mostly are prescription errors and it is becoming too much hence my concerns! When we see correct prescriptions, we know!

Very soon they'll start churning out half-baked medical doctors who'll be giving us extra works in hospital pharmacies due to their lack of knowledge of drugs.

NUC and MDCN should be very careful with the way they dish out accreditations for medicine and other healthcare courses. My eyes have seen it all with the gross lack of drug knowledge our resident doctors and even 'consultants' display in my facility. It's too mind boggling!

I can imagine the sort of terror this man must have felt for being wrongly accused of such offence. He would be trying all he could to explain his innocence but judgemental Nigerians wouldn't listen to him. All the aproko feminist groups would be on his case and calling for his head!

Thank God for coming through for him and making the evil woman to confess. The man would probably have been sentenced to jail for an offence he never committed!

This is why many guys believe that women are evil! Imagine! This is a man I'm sure must have done so much good to the woman and even her family!

Our mothers and foremothers marry early in their teens and still enjoyed their marriages. This generation of women would rather deceive young girls to remain unmarried until they are too old to attract decent men.

This problem is common among Christians in southern Nigeria. Muslims in the north are far better than us in the sense that they instill in their daughters the need to marry early. With the way Nigeria is structured, the south would continue to decline in population while the north thrives.

Girls should learn to set their priorities right and marry early. It doesn't stop them from achieving whatever they want to achieve. They should stop setting unrealistic standards for their choices of men. They should rather look out for guys who have potentials and work together to make wealth.

That officer was very professional in his conduct during the whole altercation. He deserves commendations.

This is a very big lie! If the writer said that they no longer love their husbands, I may agree. Implying they married whom they never "loved" is a fallacy because these days, ladies mostly choose whom they marry. The problem here is knowing what "love" really is! Getting infatuated with a man who tickles her fancy in terms of physical attraction or wealth is NOT love! Any lady who married for the above two reasons will definitely get tired in the long run and people like the poster of this thread would start saying that she was forced to marry whom she never loved.

DrFunmisticGlow:
Pointless thread.

You can't be coercing women to carry babies ehen they are not ready to for men who are not responsibleenoughor ready for for fatherhood.

If you want women to have babies early, then most will be single mother, and grqndmother youngerthan 40 years, others will marry early, give birth early and divorce early or become a widow early. Then those who will marryned nwoko age mate because their mates are still doing yahoo yahoo and jumping from skirt to skirt.

Last last women will give birth when they are ready to and in due time, not because of your thread.

My message has been passed and I'm sure those with wisdom would grab the point I'm making. Thanks for your contribution though

Samantha125:
So you're basically encouraging the baby mama culture... You say women should get married and have children early as if by the time they turn 20, they'll find marriage with their desired spouses waiting for them.

You guys are the same people complaining of how women nowadays should have sources of income since life is generally expensive, but you still want to guilt trip them for getting married at their own desired time knowing very well that had they gotten married early, many of you guys would've tied them down as housewives... And if it happens that you meet your demise before her, your families would come and claim everything, leaving her with nothing since she'd have sacrificed her prime years for your selfish fragile egos.

And my sister started having issues with fibroids are the age of 21 when she was still in varsity, would you have suggested that she had children as a teenager? What was your mother's occupation that she started having children early? Because you can't have your cake and eat it.

I'm not implying that they should not try to improve themselves or do other stuffs. The point is that those who are desirous of having children should know that the earlier they start, the better. Also, I'm not encouraging the culture of baby mama, instead young girls should set their priorities right and marry early if a responsible man comes.

pocohantas:
I hope they listen to you.
Young girls these days no dey hear word.

The wise ones will always listen while the foolish ones continue to wallow in their delusions until time is no longer on their sides.

I remember while growing up, my mom used to have some episodes of stomach pain. It was usually so severe that it gets everyone around her tensed up. On one occasion, she was actually diagnosed of fibroid.

However, the doctor said there was no need of carrying out surgery on her since she was already bearing children. The doctor emphasized that the fact that she started bearing children early helped to suppress the growth of the fibroids. This goes to show that, against the feminists campaigns for women to delay child bearing, starting out early actually has alot of medical benefits.

Fibroids is a common problem among women in this part of the world and it is largely responsible for cases of infertility among couples. There's a trend of married ladies not conceiving after years of marriage. I can count many of such couples that I know personally. This trend is a reflection of the fact that ladies now delay marriages sometimes to their 40s!

By the time she gets married, it becomes difficult for her to conceive. Her husband is now dragged into the problem and sometimes even accused of being responsible. He's made to start gulping different medications both orthodox and herbal. This is because, the couple is usually "treated" together. Some go from one herbal treatment to the other, taking all sorts of concoctions in the name of herbal medicines. To make matters worse, many people believe that the so called herbal medicines are more effective treatments for infertility than orthodox medicines. For this reason, they rather continue taking herbal stuff than go to hospitals! These herbalists do not know how to properly diagnose the condition to know what the issue really is. It is usually based on trial and errors while the condition is given different names like "infection", "staph", spiritual problems and so on.

However, many of these cases are usually due to fibroids which have grown and taken over a huge part of the woman's reproductive system. Some of these fibroids are so terrible that even after surgery, conception is still not achieved.

So, in order to avoid all the hassles of trying to conceive, getting married on time can help ladies who are desirous of having children to avoid all the problems and emotional trauma associated with infertility.

There's also the benefit of witnessing your children's successes as they grow and thrive while you're still alive. Therefore, you'll most likely live to enjoy your children's wealth and not have others rip the fruits of your labor when you're gone.

Therefore, the next time feminists groups come to discourage you from having your kids early, pay no heed to them as many of them are frustrated bitter women who want to project their inability to marry and raise great families on unsuspecting young girls. Thank you

SpencerForbes:
Even guys too. I wonder how some men sleep with girls that aren’t physically attractive. How do they look at the girl’s face in the morning

I love physical attraction and I think average looking girls should only be recommended for one night stands

Exactly! Those average girls are meant for sex-starved boys. They are the types that guys usually cover their faces with pillow during knacking

hatchy:
The State can not do everything in the society. They will do their part, while the citizens do their own part too.

How much investment have you made in the public health sector as a citizen? You'll rather put your money into MMM that will give you quick return rather than invest in a sector that will compliment government's efforts in the provision of basic needs like Primary health care services.

Complain is part of Nigerians problems. Always complaining.

Imagine excuse!

Enugu State today is one of the states where citizens are heavily taxed in Nigeria, yet you're still talking about people doing their bits Much as I support the Peter Mbah administration, I cannot help but point out how lame your comment above is.

Besides, the question the guy you asked was right. Enugu state has not employed qualified healthcare professionals since the inception of Mbah's administration. Even the much-talked-about type 2 primary healthcare centres are still largely a mirage. The other time, they fooled many healthcare professionals by making them apply for a purported job in the type 2 primary healthcare facilities. People were made to traveling from different parts of the country to attend one useless aptitude test. Despite all the stress they were subjected to during that sham of a test, nothing has been heard from the government ever since.


The commissioner for health later released a list of his kinsmen and villagers whom he claimed were successful at the test, but even as I type this, none of them has resumed work. So, the guy you quoted clearly knows what he typed.