Biggermembersro:
Some people's sole aim in this world is to provoke people intentionally, I am a "slow to react to anger" kind of person and I always stay in my lane and mind my business, once I smell trouble coming from afar, I run to the opposite direction as fast as my leg can carry me, I come from a tribe where you have to respect elders no matter the situation same as what my Bible says so what gives abeg.......


My husband always praise his mum cos she trained him to med school here in U.S.A, of course who wouldn't just like I don't joke with my dad cos he did well for his six kids, so he adores his mum, praises her in every situation, always at her beck and call, I didn't see it as a big deal cos, well, it's his mum, we met here in NY, he and his family stay in Maryland while I was schooling in NY, the plan was when we get married I'll go back and forth till I finish school then move to Maryland, so I took in, you know first pregnancy how difficult it is, so one of those days i went to ML for the weekend one time, during that period, his mum had a get together so everyone is expected to be there, being in my first trimester, I was sick and told her I can't be there, she insisted and I told her I'll try, when the time came I was too ill to go anywhere so I didn't go, all for his mum to come later that night and was shouting saying and I quote "[b]when I tell my son your husband to run he will run, even if I tell him to jump he will do just that so who are you to tell me you can't come, what silly sickness, if I blow that your belly, highest is you'll loose the pregnancy and then take in again,nothing is going to happen" [/b]that is exactly what she said, I was shocked, my husband was there looking he didn't say anything, his father was there, he shouted at her that why would she say something like that, his mum shut him down saying all manner of unsayable things because she is more like the breadwinner, his sister, that one cannot talk if not the mother will insult her very existence just because she got pregnant out of wedlock but she still married the father ooo, me, my mouth was open, I couldn't talk cos I dont even know what to say, when they left hubby didnt even try to ease my mind or anything, the next day I jejely left for NY, vowing that my leg will never step into ML anymore.

Sincerely I was tempted to abort and divorce my husband because I don't understand how someone can say evil like that, even if it was a joke, that was nonsense, since then I've been in NY, I gave birth here, Dre has been the one coming here, it's not like me and his mum don't talk, she calls and we talk, sometimes I call too, all for recently, infact last week Dre says he got an opening for a job here and he wants to take it, I blatantly to him NO, because his parents couldnt work so they are staying with him in ML, him moving here means his mum will do that too, I told him no that I like things the way they are, no issues, nothing, I cannot stay in the same house with his mum because we will have issues that one is certain, he started shouting, I reminded him of what his mother said two years ago, he now said it is the past, which past? Now that I'm working I am expected to leave my babies with her, call me delusional the instinct of a mother is to protect her children, even if she may not do anything, we will still have issues and I don't want that before someone say I'm disrespectful when I talk back.

If I decide to turn American now, I'll just tell him he can't bring anyone here without my permission, but no, I won't tell him that, some of their laws here is stupid to be honest and I'm a nice person and I was born and bred in the north in Nigeria also I don't want to escalate issue, I am the only one here, my family is in Nigeria and i never mentioned any of this to them so it won't turn to family issues, now he's not talking to me saying he will take drastic measures, it will not pass divorce and custody battle of which I know I will win but I don't want that for my kids, they need their parents in the same home not divorced, my own is he should stay where he is and take care of his parents and continue worshiping his mum, is it that hard?

I dey vex abeg, pls advice on other options fam.

So funny. Dre should let sleeping dog lie

Profkenny1:


Young women are naturally attracted to older men. Women want a provider and a protector. Men are attracted to beauty and youthfulness. Youthfulness indicates fertility. This is NATURE and you can't fight it.

18 is not a kid. Most of our grandmoms got married very early, some at 18 or below.

This guy is living in ancient world. Get your daughter hooked up at 12 then, that's my own grandmother's age at marriage.

ITbomb:


In case you didn't notice, 30 years old man is still a guy while 30 years old woman is an Aunty

I'm 35, my wife is 25. If I were to marry my age mate or even a girl of 30, they will be calling her my senior sister if were to walk together.
Not to talk of when I'm 45 and still agile and some mama will be answering my wife. No!

You married someone you will control not because of the lousy archaic African excuses you put up there. The fact remains that Africans are known for child marriages, we are used to seeing younger wives in africa, it has erroneously became a norm, that's why a supposedly educated man will give this as an excuse for marrying a girl ten years younger than you. You, and as well as most men needed maids that will submit to your whims and caprices, so marrying your agemates often scares you shirtless because of the fear of being outsmarted by a co-intellectual.
What happened to Obama and Michelle. Mark Zuckerberg and his wife, Bill and Hilary even our very own NOI and her husband and a whole lots of Nigerian intellectuals. They left an indelible impacts.

Let's ask Trump how he is faring with his model.......



Nauseating excuses.

ITbomb:

Not everyone loves old cargoes, some people love their wife to grow with them

Someone he will grow with? The guy is already old damnit.

Men gives women too much power unknowingly. "Her baby". That's why women wins in and out of courts when it concerns children.

Makes the baby look like a corpse. Not good. Not good at all.

Abcruz:
Children are indeed a heritage from the LORD, and the fruit of the womb is His reward.--psalm 127:3


You were rewarded with an innocent child but you and your husband decided to kill him/her gruesomely. When some couples are praying day and night just to conceive.

That's not the point of the thread sir.
The point is this, if she is not treated now the other innocent child born alive will have no mother. You understand

Meanwhile, Hightail yourself to a hospital and get cleaned up. It will also do you well to differentiate between a quack and a registered nurses in future. We try very hard to maintain boundaries. No RN will delve into an abortion knowing how dicey it is and the propensity to lose her license if anything goes wrong.
An RN would've examined the woman and directed her to a hospital.
The case of the lawyer in Abakaliki who murdered his wife by forcing the baby out of the womb comes to mind. It was done by a quack. Stop patronising quacks people.

imitateMe:

Why are you so aggressive? You ought to encourage her to pray and love her husband more, cook good food for him and submit totally to him. Please reconsider. Thank you dear.

No sir. I am a business minded person. Any breach in contract leads to throwing the culprit out of the window. I don't believe in praying for someone that wronged me as it is totally impractical and hypocritical.
Remember, this is me.....not the op.

Juliearth:



Divorce isn't always the way out. A child is involved, have you thought of the effect divorce would have on this child. I know you are entitled to air your opinion,but let's be guided on the kind of counsel thst we give because this woman is broken. Inasmuch as domestic violence is not involved, she needn't leave. As for the mental abuse, a revamped self esteem would help counter the after effect. She needs to build a world of confidence around her and get something doing to keep herself busy. The man is a prodigal son and when life deals him some blows, he definitely would trace his way back home( they always do).

Your opinion ma'am.
They will kill each other, either he kills her or she poisons him, that's the much I know. She is set out on vengeance and I, being a none vengeful persona won't advise her to stay and soil her hand.

Bossjakande:
u are getting it wrong and I feel sad

Why na . Please don't be sir

kennygee:
Dear woman, I can imagine the emotional and psychological pain you're going thru, however, making a decision right now might not be wise cause it will be an emotional one.

Just keep praying for him and ask God for strength to overcome. It is only when there's a crack in the wall that a lizard can enter.

Start working out the little way you can, start dressing really nice, so nice you'll get compliments outside. It will improve your self esteem, wear make up, smell nice. It might not stop him from cheating but it will build up your self esteem and confidence so much that you'll see you're not the problem.

You'll be in a better place to decide if you want to stay with him or leave.

All the best.

I hope you have a job or a business sha?

Cause the best security a woman can have is her own money.

WHAT IS THIS FOR CHRIST SAKE
She should pray for him to do what exactly? To continue hurting her by being an African man?
Pray for him for hurting and body shaming the mother of his kids?
It is her fault that her husband is a community penis

This advise is beyond unbelievable.


Op, you are hurting deeply so get out of that house before they kill you or you kill them. That horseband of yours will open the door of your house for his concubines to kill or maim you when you least expect it.
Be careful.

Acidosis:


So what happens when another woman sleeps with your husband? Na same same sex na abi? Two people are gaining something in return, and that's all that matters.

Exactly. If I sleep with another man aside my husband, I am gaining something too same with the man.

Bossjakande:
dont get me mad abeg love is love wether in marriage or relationship. prostitude dont care if u are blind or get smelling mouth or drunk.dey dont even love or know u. some dont even kiss.just Bleep and go. but relationship is different we are having sex cos we love each other and are in d mood. and DAT we both enjoy it and agree to do it at DAT time. is prostitude always in d mood? can a dey sex witout money. abeg talk sometin else bros. Neva u compare a girl in a relationship with a prostitude. my girl is fateful to only one man unlike a normal ashawo.

Oga whether you fvck cos of love,money or sex they are all the same thing in the grand scheme of things.
You are gaining something from the other person. You fvck for love you gain personal fulfillment or commitment, you fvck for lust with man-prostitute or woman-prostitute..instant gratification and then for money you gain financial fulfillment.
Nobody should stand on any high moral ground to condemn anybody except you are untouched and unsullied.

Op, I love your wonderful submissions. Another way to view things

. You saw her watching porn and ran to nairaland to narrate the tale instead of joining the game. For her to relax when you came in shows she wants action.

You are a disappointment.

The writer is s confirmed efulefu.
His distortion of facts makes it impossible to read all. Spits!!!

Olohijie:
You forgot to add that they require Nigerian nurses to pay them 2 million upfront. What type of recruitment and sponsorship is that? Instead of them paying you you are paying them!!!!

I did mention about the 2 m payment
And this "PS-Please only for those with the initial deposit of 2M should contact us"Please read it well,its towards the last line ,there is even a link for more info dear
I know what we are offering .
All info is there
For those who don't pass nclex at one sitting the money covers up to three times flights ticket to USA,Philippines or India,IELTS,VISA fee,a place to stay in the US ,a job in the US,review material and personal instructor and etc pls check the attached link
Thank you.

Which every other agencies offers their candidates without them paying a dime. No agencies require money from Nigerian nurses except yours and you expects us to cower and accept it.
This is not an offer sir, it is a ripoff. Any nurse with up to 2 million in his/her account can as well be self sponsored and contact a much viable agency than the ripoff you're offering.

Owojuyi:
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I trust you are based in Lagos as I would've love to purchase all three. If that is the case, please pardon my intrusion and admiration. I am based about 500 miles north of Lagos.

[quote author=Olohijie post=78741055][/quote]I won't indulge you. You knew quite well that you are offering much less of a ''service"" than other agencies.
Shearwater, Avant, O'Grady Peyton, Inter staff to mention but a few has nice packages that does not include any fees. Yours is a ripoff and I'd suggest you keep it away from my unsuspecting colleagues.

Thank you.

IamD18:
Marry a bad wife and you'll forever be sad till death.

They should please separate for the man to have peace of mind.

How is the wife bad? You hid your small irrelevant pe.nis for an unsuspecting innocent woman and still have the gut to call her bad.

What do I know, it us always the woman's fault!!!! Even the defaults of creation is a woman's fault.. Smh.

sloye5:


just look at your reply..this shows the kind of person that you are...i pity any man that would ever come near you because you are a confirm destiny killer

Your post can also lead someone to suicide. Just so you know she is a a nairaland veteran and way above the threat of dying single in this lifetime. The title also had me in jitters.

Thanks. Nice piece. I can relate especially the luring part.

ALS and the presenting symptoms does not sound right. Who made the diagnosis?

Cold, pain and weakness..... Persistent Malaria, sickle cell disease, pernicious or aplastic anemia, fibromyalgia, heart disease to mention but a few. ALS is too extreme and no mention of the characteristic symptom of it was made by you either.

So sad. Sorry for your loss. She must have had a preexisting condition that was exacerbated by labour. I fear childbearing like crazy....even sex scares the hell out of me...

Take heart sir.

Electroweb:
Please has anyone made payment on CGFNS with our Nigerian debit card? On their website they say they only accept credit cards.

Use our master card. Submit once to avoid being deducted twice

Now IMO state,? This happened in Cameroon.

Neural tube defect as a result of folic acid deficiency. Proencephaly.

Damn!!. So sad

Richy4:


Vertigo that I know of and had suffered from was quite different from the One u were talking about here dear...
The first time I left the soil of Nigeria to study abroad.. I had it....According to the Doctor the reason was that I exposed myself to the severe weather conditions...leaving my head and other parts of my body unprotected even when using heater to sleep...hence the dizziness...as if the house was upside down or moving...

Besides there was no specific drug or medicine for vertigo....
The way you were trying to find faults from the Guy, I wish that he can just come out and tell you that he was abusive, characterless and a scum.. so that you can relax... I never knew anyone that wouldn't put grudges aside and save a spouse when in danger... especially when kids were involved...

We all have varied point of views. I have expressed mine so also you. Let the guy check himself. Something happened and he's trying so hard to downplay it.

Richy4:


Forgive me for asking u this because I don't really understand your problem...Are u deliberately looking for a fault from the OP or is it a comprehension issues that was the problem here? .....

OP said that they were leaving in different town... he took money that he should have used for himself and sent it to her... Asked a friend that was leaving in that same town as the wife to quickly take her to the hospital..... And This happened when she has already abandoned him...Haba!!!.. What is it that u don't understand in these now... What has Cunnyman die... got to do with these?

This man is writing half truths and my comprehension is intact.
Had it been he was a woman, the question would've been, what did she do to the horseband to warrant this unfair treatment.
Do note that one of the central causes of vertigo is traumatic brain injury. Was the OP abusive to his wife for her to run when he needed her the most. You both suffered debilitating ailments within a six month span. Dude, man up and fess. Something happen of which both of you are as guilty as hell.
What do I know, the dangers of a single story!!!!

Jesus is lying or what? So mere mortals has come to the point of retelling or resaying what Jesus taught his disciples.

grandlexuz:


Life is just so complex. Two good people have been known to give birth to criminals and vice versa. Six months after my wife abandoned me I got a call from her. Apparently for a couple of days she had been extremely dizzy with spells of vertigo. It was severely hampering her daily life. I got so worried about her situation and asked her to immediately go to the hospital. She couldn't walk with the risk of falling because of vertigo. Besides she had no money. I had very little myself and it was money for my medications. That not withstanding I had someone go pick her up ( I live in a different town) to the hospital. I sent all I had and called every now and then to get updates. The story is longer than this, but I only wanted to give you an idea of how far I can go for her. Despite my hurt and pain I will never abandon her if she needed my help especially in a time of bad health.

I certainly thank God for the chance of life and for me now it's really about my kids..

You see. You never visited nor cared for your wife while she was sick with such a debilitating ailment like vertigo but you are wailing because she did not wait on your arm and foot. You sent money while she needed you to be there or close to you.
Cunnyman die cunnywoman bury am. Who knows how the poor woman is now. I just hope it is not Menieres she is suffering from.

A good woman will never leave a good man to suffer vice versa.
Enough of the sob story, go and find out what is going on with your wife if you really want her back.

We are all selfish animals. Most men will bundle a sick wife to her parents and abandon her there but a wife is expected to remember for better for worse....hian.

Lucky you. No aneurysm, organ failures and CVA. You've been given a second chance to make things right for your kids.