₦airaland Forum

TonyeBarcanista:
APC is a disgrace

Why didn't you call PDP a disgrace when they looted and plundered our common wealth?

darkenedrebel:
Joseph1832, why are you sharing my posts? Weirdo!.

I believe you know what they say about patience? Its a virtue. So, sooner or later, you'll find out.

Bitterleafsoup:
why Christ was a rebel?

LOL.

D2diff:
Definition of poverty mentality and low self esteem

Na lie! That is the definition of a woman who knows what she wants, and she's prepared to look the other way, in other to get it.

Life is not diamonds and pearls, you know.

mimzy:
you have spoilt it with lezz's nick

Don't really know about you guys but lezz i laugh in spanish

Ah lezz is an african by nature, and a man can never deny his nature.

skarlett:
Baby daddy Joe, abeg do make I come chop baby dedication rice

Nna nothing does you.

mimzy:
tbh joseph...

How many men nowadays don't cheat??

At the end... you have a point..if she can't cope, she should cancel her plans to marry him.

I'm happy to tell you many of us don't cheat, and I'll have you know, myself, lezz and postmann are among the many, because we damn well make sure we date and marry women who won't turn out to be feminist man haters later on.

rheether:
You see husband and you're complaining. Babe go ahead and marry him jhoor. He will still cheat on you anyway so it's a no win situation.

Men I think I like you for this fantastic post you made.

mimzy:
U quoted me wrong...

i said "Cheating is not enough to cancel the plans if you truly love him and vice versa".

i did not say the guy is showing her love by cheating on her... i said cheating is not enough an excuse to cancel the wedding plans

i also went further to say that "Aint saying she shouldn't express her hurts ..." and this simply means i am not in support of what the guy did and she has a right to air her grievance .

Capisce?

You think? I believe if she hates it when her husband to be, cheats on her, then she should cancel, better save herself the headache of complaining all over social media.

ilovemylife:
I met a guy of 31 through my elder sister, last year February. He started asking me out but because I just came out of a bad relationship, I told him that I am not yet ready to go into a relationship now but he hanged on until August, by then we had become good friends and we started dating.

But three months into the relationship I noticed that my boyfriend has a thing with a lady that stays in the same street with me, a lady I have known all my life cos we grew up together, I confronted him and he told me that it was just a Fling and nothing more, so I told him to please stop whatever he is doing with the girl because we know each other and he promised too. I trusted him to because I can't be going around checking up on a man old enough to take care of himself. So during his birthday this year, he told me the girl called him to wish him happy birthday and asked him hope she will be getting an invite for the party, so he asked me if he should invite her, I told him he can that I don't have a problem with that. So he invited her for the birthday party and she came for the party and my boyfriend introduced me to her as his girlfriend, in that same party my boyfriend gave me the surprise of my life when he asked me to marry him and I accepted.

We are now planning for our traditional wedding which is coming up July but I was shocked to find out that my husband to be is still sleeping with that same girl because I stumble on their whatsapp chat. I feel like my world is crashing before my very eyes, I am so confused, what should I do. I haven't confronted him yet and I am not ready to because I don't want another series of lies and deceit. This is man that has taken very good care of my financial but what of emotional and again it's not all about money for me because I am not going to be a poor wife. Should I walk out of this relationship and cancel the wedding plans? I am so confused now, because if he truly loves me as he claims, he should be able to respect me, another question I wanted to ask him is this, why that lady.

Please nairalanders, what should I do, confront him or what, I have even discussed this with any of my family member. And since this incident I have been very down, so many thought have been crossing my mind.

NB: will be 27 by August

Please listen to me, and listen very good. If cheating annoys you, then don't marry him because I can assure you that he will still continue to cheat on you after you marry him. But, if you can tolerate it, then go ahead and marry him.

skarlett:
We wish to but if a suitable husband is not forthcoming, we won't break our neck. I'm going to ignore the insult but kindly respect yourself.

Thank you

I hope you wouldn't call me a woman wrapper if I tell you this is the logic I subscribe to? I'm even thinking of having a baby mama.

lezz:
Lolz, I find your pidgin version hilariously truer.

For a woman (girl) to know this and put in this context, is pure wisdom.

That's why Feminism asking women to go after men is just promoting cheap and easy fück.

We'll always like the hunt and slight not overly resistance.

Other than the religiously strict, we'll never pass the chance of an easy fück

Aye!

Lumpyy:
Oga....oya sorry,stop crying,u want ribena? .

Nope. But I want you to have a brain transplant.

Lumpyy:
shame me bawo?oga its you taking things TOO personal o,i sure say the Op sef don find solution...lol.enjoy ur experiences o jere,who fighting eep at this difficult time?as you have been told...raise ur pregnant wife's leg,tie it and knock yourself out because she has a responsibility towards you and EVERY woman likes to DO in pregnancy!

Oh yeah? And you're not taking things too personal yourself Difficult times only affect people who fail to plan for it, just like failed marriages and lamentations only affect those who are too shallow minded to ask the right questions.

And if truly I decide to have sex with my wife, whether she is pregnant or not, how does it affect you? Or you secretly wish your husband should do to you, what I do to my 'supposed' wife?

Lumpyy:
see this your rant?gives you off as the frustrated one.

oh yeah? What about your friend? Funny you focused on me and totally ignored her, or did you forget that she was the one who started the insults? This gives you oFf as one who is purely sentimental and a nepostist.

Lumpyy:
expect u to believe ke?why would i do that?im saying you should not generalise ur 'experience' to the Op's wife.imagine saying she has a responsibility towards him,u think she doesnt know that?u think she likes how shes feeling?abeg no more dallying words jare.....na ur wife i pity oo,i hope shes lyk ur 10sisters too

Please I don't need your pity. You should go to the ffirst page and read my first comment before you make conclusions that will further shame you.

I believe you didn't read where I first told the OP to have a talk with his wife right?

BellaElla:
Lol. u wan fight mi ni? abi u wan flog me? Taaa gbafuo! Na today we dey see your type? Me wey don marry tey tey. See who dey talk about sentiments. myself and at least five other ladies here have told your our personal experiences with pregnancy, which is same for about 80% of women, and you are refuting us with beer parlour gist. Anyways I no blame you, na those your leaky mouthed friends I blame, men wey no get respect for their wives, that would come and run their mouths to another runny mouthed bachelor, who in turn self-services away at the fantasies of how hot pregnant women are in bed. Lmao! Oga abeg don't come for me o! Go and marry, and stop relying on those lofty tales your friends are regaling you with. When people life experiences are talking, people with refurbished round table gist would talk too..

Guy look bush! Na people like you dey believe say marriage na achievement when their husband no even send una.

If ur husband dey respect you, you for no how to talk to person, but as e be say you no even sabi yan, I no even surprise. Na so una go dey take mata wey no concern una personal, that's why una husbands no fit sitdon one place, na from one beer parlor to another. When be de last time ur husband sleep for house sef?

Because you can't read and you make it your business to jump into conversations that doesn't concern you, you show just how frustrated you are! Here you talk about me wanking, when you are physically refused by your husband, that's why he makes it his business to sleep with small small girls, when women like you have become over fattened cows with molten fat as flesh!.

Just look at how your comments are repulsive, I believe that's how you are physically and emotionally repulsive. You shame your husbands and your inlaws by being an incomprehensible git, who's an ol' hag with a frustrated life, that's why you make it your business to come to social media and show just how miserable your life is. Anyway, I no blame you sha, na the man wey marry you I blame.

Yeye dey smell!.

Laveda:
That ain't bad, sometimes moving on doesn't mean you stopt talking to the person totally rather taking your mind off what ever you both had...but not every lady can handle that so it's better you part ways.

Depends on the kinda friendship tho but I try as much as possible to stay far from my ex cause once we breakup I got no business with you anymore.

So you see what I'm saying? Lol. For me, its just best to say bye bye especially when the reason(s) given are just hogwash.

Laveda:
These ain't punishments..
Just ways to avoid your ex..

But what's the essence of punishing him You fell out of love it's better you move on and stop being petty.

Em, but what if they're the one who called it quits with you, and they'll still saying they want to be friends with you?

ronald4lif:
Punish? How do you punish someone who has moved on?

By ignoring them or telling them to shove it. Know that some of these women always like to eat their cake and have it. Moving on is never enough for them as they'll still want to be friends with you.

Kindly read my letter to nigerian women, and you'll understand this. Just check my threads, and you'll see it.

Adanna86:
The nerve of her to even say such, I swear some chicks are heartless lol. To be frank she has no respect for you, basically saying your incompetent.

Now this here is a lady, who says the truth through and through.

Respect ma'am.