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That guy in the last pic is serious #goals

Tehehe, please keep it coming

Congrats to them!!

Errrm is that man actually 52??
[/s]issa fine zaddy [s]

The baby is such a cutie! I love her already!

Just quietly call it off bro

Except you want to gamble with your marriage because she has been dating this man for years, you discovered and still married her, a wicked woman will continue seeing the married man, what will you say after that?
She may also break it off with THAT man but what if another comes or there are others you don't know of?
She might also change for good too, seeing you covered her shame n all. You know her better, do you think its worth it?

If you decide to marry her, biko it should not b bcs h pity her, let it be that you have faith in her and still love her, she will b sensitive to your behaviour if you do and trust women to be the one to scream victim first. If you marry her, don't tell this to any family member, your family will never forgive her, her family will call all the elders to placate you, the focus will shift from her to you, if you must, tell a neutral party.

You sef need a change of environment if albeit temporary, just travel sometime close to the proposed wedding date.
If you choose to leave, don't expose her secret either, just walk away.
Of course you need to explain, give a sound reason and stand your ground, but never disgrace her.

All is well

Plot twist : I don't even want to get married [/s]anymore[s]

Na wa

She's like a sis? Yet she tells ur biz to odrs?

She'll b upset if she sees how far you've gone with it?

Sis it is well with you o.
I even appreciate your desire to keep the friendship and the fact that you choose to overlook this flaw cs it doesn't overshadow her 'good side'

But please be wise, she's obviously not a person to be trusted with sensitive info, so don't.
If she finds out later, just brush it off as if its not a big deal to have disturbed her with,
That way, you keep a friend turned sis and you prevent her from knowing what you really think of her, and if she's smart, she'll pick up d message and not be offended.

Even the bible says a soft answer turns wrath away abi how dem talk am?

Permit me to put up my own view on this una friendship, if ya'all wanna b real wichoself this friendship won't last long or she'll ruin your sensitive plans knowingly or unknowingly.
Just be careful with what you tell her
Keep seeing the good in others, that's a good quality

I wish I had enough sense and patience to do that
I just throw d entire friendship out the window in a case like this
Lord help me

OP, please do well to blur out the child's face

Lol, the guy dey para gan o, he don't 'taketh by force'

As seeing, toasting,getting and marrying Bae issa longus thing, young man decided to jump all the steps and seize a family as a 'shap guys'

May the Lord b a Bae provider for him...
And the people if God shout: Amen!!

RadicallyBlunt:
Women are naturally selfish and self-centered. That's why they compete with their children over demand for care. Believe me some even get jealous of how their husbands gets to d heart of the child than she does. If they do any little thing, they'll demand for worship.

I happen to be a child of such women. I love my mother but I can't pray for her type as wife. She has never experienced what it means to submit to a man all her life of being a single mother. Now me being the first man to make her realize how a man shd be treated is just a child to her. Why would she bliv anything i say. She battered me while growing up under her...what I would term maternal abuse. She was demanding gifts from me at 100L when I didn't even have enough to feed let alone hand outs.

I had to starve myself and depend on a neighbour for food just to save to buy her Ankara and shoes..Shes a well-paid senior civil servant o. I still don't think a woman can ever love selflessly.

Bro,
what are you doing saying our family wahala on nl?

Lol you've actually just described my mom, tho she remarried

swear down, this is just her life

And haven lived with at least one other family, I say YES its true, most women are selfish, some only care about the children they labored for, all others children are thrash.
Oyo is ur case if you jam one of those 'only my pikin' women and ur own mom na 'only me'

If they are REAL Christians, they will change, but most are just follow follow Christian

Justice must be served for those children its unfair, just unfair

Lol
Tribal bigots on NL including him
Hahahahahahaha

Lol
Tribal bigots on NL including him
Hahahahahahaha

Ewu

Nope

Dem son buy market

Happy birthday!

Choi!
Disappointment!!!

Me wet no do am for my papa house upon aIl the wahala wey I use trouble them, kai!

It will pain me oooo make we talk true,
But I go first ask am aw e take happen, who give am d belle...

Its possible she was raped, especially by a trusted family friend or church member or family member sef,

Whatever the result of the investigation is will determine my response, she may have been a victim or just plain wayward.

But nna ehn, I will blame myself ooooo
I'll feel I have failed her and God as her mother, she deserved better and for that reason i'll do my best to help her pull through

Please don't send your sis to them! Please!

Marriage should not be forced, she's young, too young to be a wife and mother all at the same time

Get the police involved, make sure the commit to your sis and the baby financially

You guys support your own sis mentally and emotionally, get her involved in platforms for victims of rape n molestation

Help her so her life continues uninterrupted otherwise she will see that baby as a curse and the reason for her problem.

It is well

Sorry o, but one quick question, why didn't you take her to a hospital the minute this happened?
She would have been given something to prevent conception...

Haha haha haha haha
What's in a name really

I know someone whose hobby insisted she not only use his surname but his first name also!

So she bears something like Mrs Adekemi Oluwafemi Coker
For wetin na

When she is not a pet

A woman should be free to choose if she will retain her papas name or not

We all know the children will bear their own fathers name

Its just a name and should not be a big deal really

I even know of a grandpa who calls his wife by the shortened form of her maiden name till date (well, he's passed on actually) and he was the only one who called her by that name.

So it shouldn't b a concern to give you sleepless nights Sir

There are sound advise here!

Oga, please just chill till baby is born and secretly do d DNA test tho its a bit expensive.

Just curious about the so called gynae that calls her 'luv' and wants to know when next she will 'come', it is suspicious but quit letting her in on the suspicion na, act normal and keep watching

You'd find out soon enough if something had transpired, or is still happening

Cheers

Congrats in advance on the baby if its yours

SirVintageCock:
Rent an apartment and move in with your kids. Make it explicitly clear that she will be welcomed there if she changes. And if she doesn't change , remind her to initiate the divorce proceedings and serve you the goddamn papers.

Weldone Sir,

Mr OP, the quote above is my advice for you.
If you can, please I'd encourage you to 'hold body' till she initiates the divorce and its complete.

The situation is already a mess, don't make it messier and harder for you and the kids by bringing in some other woman

Take the kids and leave

Talk to your kids, let them know what's going on, but NEVER tell them negative things about their mother, God willing they will discover the truth at a matured age if Iyawo refuses to change

So far uncle, if what you are saying is the truth, then you have tried, really tried, but you still have work to do
May God help you, help the kids and help Iyawo

I desire and pray that all will be well with your family.

[s][/s]I actually feel marriage, love, family and all the gbogbotigbo are overrated, good ones exist, and those are the ones that make me feel like it may be worth it[s][/s]

No fainting allowed

Yea, we all won at some point if you think of it, so no one will win, but we are all winners

1,3,10,&6

Hmmmm, I think it matters ooo.
At least for the early stage of the relationship especially after leading to marriage

But somehow, everything balances up eventually, especially with money.
Imagine being married to timi dakolo, with the way he looked back then bony face n all and look at him now! All fresh n cute, who would say no to a brother like that? Even if your spec is a light and tall brother, a cute , handsome man answers all teehee
same with a sister, imagine how tinrigbeku sista Linda of banana 'Iceland' was and look at her now! If I was a man, I'd b more attracted to her now than b4 regardless of liking them short or yellow.

But much later age will dabaru everything, so i feel its necessary to keep up the spice in a relationship, but not necessarily to sustain it 'till death do us part'

For me to leave my own house and travel allll the way to a different state to witness a wedding, then at least one of them must be a very dear friend.

So I understand it is a sacrifice, a big one that overshadows stomach infrastructure , e no go too pain, since they are blossom friends and I've already gone all out for them, its not like they personally refused me a meal, so I'd just ignore it.

Butttttt if they aren't close to me, omo that event will fling them even further from me
Nansense

Maybe that's where their 'fishbrain' comes from....

Give this two years and another study will come again with a different source of the said DNA hence an entirely different conclusion. #oshi!!!


In the mean time

We girls should keep our legs closed until le hubbs comes and no one after him...cheating back on a cheating husband is like pouring hot water on yourself because someone refused to help you boil the water

Stay happy, drink milk

As long as both parties are free of STIs, faithful and CLEAN, then I see no health issues

Happy married life in advance

OMG a hundred likes please!

I was just thinking of this yesterday!
Our parents need to be counselled in this regard
You cannot punish your offspring for your own irresponsibility

What if the said firstborn decided to be wayward and instead bring in an illegitimate child?

Our parents should learn to celebrate initiative and responsibility in their children and assist them to be established in life instead of being the one to drag the children down because that's what they do


Also, we the children should borrow sense abeg
You are responsible for yourself first, take good care of yourself and ensure all is well with you. Stop sacrificing your tomorrow because tomorrow you won't have anything reasonable to sacrifice, that's just the truth.


If your parents tell you to send your younger sibling to school, tell them you will support the said Sib full stop. After all they didn't raise you to not have common sense!

Rubbish!!!!
When they were sowing wild oats they were unbothered

So why do you have to pay for it?

Its worse when you are female because both you and your husband will sstruggle to build the family up yet you won't be regarded especially in terms of inheritance because you are bearing your husband's name, yet na you suffer pass yet no thank you while alive, no consolation after death


So just do your bit for your own blood, but never sacrifice your potential for them bcs if you do, you won't be able to help them in future, you become a liability and guess what? They'll get help elsewhere anyway so who is to loose?
African mentality is a killing mentality

Awwwn
Mother n son

I'm always amazed to see some mothers side by side with their son

You'll see one giant of a man and see a diminutive woman he calls mother and I wonder how she was able to nurture him allllll the way! Lol of course with the help of the father, but I'm still amazed nonetheless

And so to the birthday boy
Happy birthday and God bless you.

I understand what you mean, tho I'm a lady, and we have domestic help at home, I've never given them my clothes to wash cs I think they will ruin them, no matter how busy i am. When washing, I can rinse them like 4times b4 spreading on the line, I rarely use detergent, and its been helping me cs my clothes of 3-4 years still look good, I end up giving them out instead of turning to rag cs they still look good.
You might as well wash your own clothes even when married tho your wife may feel slighted sha, or better still, teach her how you like it to be done.

Na wa! That's very poor of her.

Just avoid keeping it within her reach, change the lock pattern, jokingly ask her to pick either using your phone or buying her a new phone... just to pull her legs

BTW, doesn't she have hers ?
Or isn't it internet enabled?

Anyho, just let her no you don't like it in a friendly but stern manner, she'll get the message

All the best