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Only base animals can develop homosexual tendencies. Olochi people

I think its a waste of tax payers resources. Why are they wasting time and energy chasing shadows cast from Nigeria?

The onus is on the police to prove that the money he had on him is illegally earned or possessed. It's not up to him to tell the police anything and as long as he doesn't say anything to incriminate himself (providing nothing incrimating can be found against him), he'll walk.

It a case of misplaced priorities by the Met. God knows how many thousands of £££ will be wasted on the exercise.

God knows how many like him exist all over the place

That man is a Black American by nature

You knew him for 8 years before marrying him and you still did not know him well enough. You did not realise during all those years that he was sneaky (as you described him).

Anyway, keep chasing him. Devote another chapter of your life to chasing a man rather than moving on with your own life. If something uncomfortable results from your attempt to chase the past, you will still blame it on him, wont you?

na wa for this kind way of life sha.

Marriage don finish but una go dey find remnants to chase rather than move on and forget the fuy. God knows the psychological effect that will have on you afterwards.

Na so oyinbo girls sef dey chase men all over the place for vengeance and, in the process, they destroy their own lives too.

what is rick warren?

why should anyone like to marry a violent person?

These things I dont understand at all. How is it that you did not know that your ex husband was married to someone before you?

How is it that marriages are contracted without thorough knowledge? Did you not meet memebers of his family? Or are you one of those who marry a man and say it is between two of you so you dont care about his family? Surely his family must know he was married to someone else before you and someone would have mentioned it to you.

or am I being naive?

The little girls are playing out fantasies or living in dreamland because of the affection which the older man tends to give younger girls.

The older men are oiling their egos by dating very young girls. Just proving to themselves that they can still pull younger babes. It happens everywhere in the world.

chaircover:
The same question in a different scenario

Will you marry someone you met in church without looking at the full picture just becauser you met him/her in church?

Yes I could. . . after dating her for a while and understanding what kind of person she is

The boys looks very cute.

By the way, are you a muslim? Just asking cos you named him Malik which is a very islamic name. . .

What have you contributed to Africa as an African?

Are you just looking for something to gain? Some people have contributed their sweat and blood for Europe and America which is why their citizens now enjoy the 'good life'. if no one is ready to contribute anything, no one should expect to gain anything

wetin dey do these pikins dem sef?

If you think you're an adult and want to be doing adult things, get your own place and start paying your own way. . .

Trust Nigerians to shift the blame and avoid their own responsibilities.

its on Setanta 1

Wonders of the world!

JJYOU:
i agreee with most of what you said however i am totally against going into relationships with people you dont love and old women not even paper is worth it. our people should know there is more to life than having residence permits abroad. going into relationships and create kids is taking this to a new and dangerous level. there are too many messed up mixed race kids about.

@JJYOU
I also used to think that way till I saw what some of those guys go through with these women. I know at least 3 guys who were willing to just stay married to their wives even after getting papers but the way that they were treated like slaves and fools during the period of waiting for papers made them change their minds (so they said).

Secondly, many of the women are using vulnerable boys to satisfy themselves after being married and seperated severally. So what is wrong with the boys also using the situation to their own advantage? I spoke with a boy in Lagos on my last visit and he told me about a woman he had been chatting to. . .whom he met when he was studying abroad. . . he said that the woman is his only hope of going abroad now and he desperately wants to leave Lagos. According to him, the woman was not particularly desirable to many of the guys in that area and so he was heaven-sent to her in her search for love.

She clearly is using him to satisfy her craving for love. . . why cant he also use her to get what he desires?

2 don cut 2!

The reason many of these foreign women keeo up their stupidity is the fact that no one ever dares tell them the truth, they are mostly daft when it comes to relationships.

What do you expect of a scum from anywhere who is desperately looking for ways to survive in life? The warning signs are always there for these women but they chose to ignore such signs and then they scream foul play later. Nonsense!

Sometimes, the Nigerian boys are actually the victims but these women come out and blow their rubbish snouts in public. The boys are young, vulnerable and desperate seeking ways to make ends meet; the old often-divorced with children foreign women grab them and get them to marry.

The desperate boy sees a chance to improve his lot in life by getting papers to stay in the country and he grabs the chance. Throughout the relationship, it is clear that this woman sees herself as doing an African man a favour. After getting his papers, the man decides to move on. . . why should he stay in a marriage where the woman just sees him as someone who is fortunate enough that she is helping him?
None of these women will ever paint the right pictures about the kind of things they do to the men.

Is this not one of the reasons that marriages break down rampantly even among white couples

JJYOU:
may God help you. most people here can vouch i am not an apologist for some good for nothing nigerian men.

i have lived in england long enough to remember shows like kilroy and the likes in the 90's to know there are some good for nothing scum bags amongst your lovely english. if you watch day time tele or read the red tops you will almost conclude lying, cheating and jumping from one relationship another is what the english people do best. what fills jeremy kyle and the trisha shows of this world? would the sun, mirror, express and mail newspapers sell without you people washing your dirty linen in public?

fair you were not smart enough with your Phd to know a con artist why pour all your vernom on nigerians? look back you will see where i wrote my best friend and my ex griend marrying for 9yrs. it is not nigerian thing. we do not hold copyright on these things.

when i started reading your story in some other thread i had enormous pity on you however the more i read, i came to the conclusion you are one of the "gracious" white people doing the under priviledged black people a favour marrying them. some of us had the opportunity we said no thank you and passed the opportunity cos of the baggages your types carry about.

i am beginning to think we should do a big poster @ MM warning some of these vulnerable young boys you people take advantage of to beware of your types. if i ask you how old this boy is after spending 15yrs in another marriage maybe you are old enough to be his mum and you expected him to be with you forever. was your ex a nigerian too? how did he survive 15yrs of you?

next time marry an english man or a polish for that matter and probably go read building good relationship101. it does help.

you have made a bad choice so live with it. NL did not choose for you ma'am. when you were enjoying his foolishness what did we gain from it?.

Bless your soul for this post!

redgalusa:
Just Good. Why are you so negative? The tone of your replies have routinely
been cynical. Why not well wishes instead of sarcasm, not all Nigerian men are bad.

Whoever said Nigerian men are bad?

Millions of Nigerian men and women enjoy very happy and successful relationships. You should examine yourself first.

I wait till then. . .

It is obvious why this woman is unable to stay in her marriage. what a load of rubbish!

I wait for the day you will come back to tell everyone what happened.

You're not the first and you wont be the last!