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mafolayomi:
what is a wife doing on facebook? and what is a husband doing there too??

I dont know if there's really anything wrong with them being on facebook. Although I dont do face book, I dont think it's wrong for people to do it. I was made to understand that you can connect with your friends on facebook.

i hope this doesn't sound stupid b4 all of u but i love mixed children, how they look but i'm sure i don't want to marry a white man. i still love my black guys but is it wrong to want to have at least one child from a white man but still not end up marrying him?

You call that the thinking of a rational woman?

defman:
hmmmmm ,

wetin dey smell? who mess?

Familiar is not the right word. Your pic looks like a girl I saw in Middlesex at the weekend

moneygurl:
Is he not the one that was found with area boys who had charms on their neck in Ekiti, during the election 2 months ago?

Are you referring to Ayo Arise here?

I knew him as a born again christian.

were you somewhere in Middlesex last weekend?

I believe I knew Ayo Arise personally many years ago. I knew him as a gentleman who was very well mannered and had no visible guile (to me). I am not in Nigeria so it is difficult for me to comment on this thing.

Coincidentally, Faye was a kinda friend when we were both studying.

Does anyone know what actually happened here? Please let's have objectivity and not blind fanaticism.

no be small matter for naija people and our penchant for forgery

another couple in the making? hmmmmmmmmmmm  

sugabelly:
oh and sweetiepie, who ever LIED to you that Africans used to dress "modestly/moderately" is a very wicked person.

We wore very minimal clothing before the European bitches came and started making noise about nudity. It's hot in Africa, so no need for so many clothes.

So my dear, you are not old-fashioned, you are actually NEW-fashioned because your moderate dressing is actually AGAINST your culture.

Thanks, I just had to point that out.

A lot of Africans think that European culture is THEIR culture and then they start making noise about dressing. I'm sorry, but you're mistaken.

Oh okay.

so when they told us to wear clothes, we did. Now that they are dressing almost nude, we should also follow suit.

There will always be a reason for doing ANYTHING at all

I need to [size=4pt]command[/size] tell this president what I also want done

GEW:
you are not supposed to say that.

why not?

chaircover:
Buy her current affairs magazines such as Newswatch etc

Take her out to posh restaurants & shops.

Take her out of her comfort zone. She will be forced to learn.

You have to be very careful though because in your quest to get a very intelligent wife you may end up with a monster.

I use my mother as an example. She did not step foot in secondary school and went from primary school in Nigeria to school of nursing in the UK. She retired at a very senior level and her grammar even pass our own self.

I note you have mentioned severally that you provide for her financially. Please don’t make the mistake of thinking that is the only thing you wife desires from you. You say she cries every night so it means all the money you are spending is not enough to make her happy. It is your love and affection that she craves. Please do not deny her that.

true word

One of the best ways in my opinon is to seek out the best points about your wife. There will always be something about her that is admirable. If you doubt me, let her get well dressed and go out pretending to be single. . . see if no man will show any interest

Seriously, I think its an individual anything and you need to find a way of getting her to make herself always look good for you.

why cant you get married to the man you truly love and then have children that you can both adore and shower with love as they grow up?

Why do you think its such a great idea for you to have a bastard just because you think they have some kind of colour you like?

you are irresponsible, stupid, irrational and an absolute nutter!

richard10:
wow what can i say,i have time taken time to really go through all the responses to my situation and i must say i am really overwhelmed,infact i have gone through some more than five times and many of you have given me hope to go on with life(you may not understand this)you have given me a reason to hope for love in my heart for my wife and i just pray this will happen ,you people are wonderfull ,infact many of the comments i saw here has made look at the whole thing again,please permit to reply some of the comments raised here
@chaircover i am not having an affair outside my marriage 4 now,i value the the marriage insittution and that s why despite my feelings i make sure i provide for her as i make sure she lacks nothing materially
@rasputin thank you so much,may GOD BLESS YOU FOR ALL THE WONDERFULL ADVISE
@allycat u understand perfectly what i am going through@sam milla what can i say?u are a lord sent@michelin89 the question u raised about our relationship b4 we married,yes i was sleeping with her i will not deny that ,but we both knew i wasnt ready for marriage yet cos i was always drumming this into her but then i should have known better @sonye,ehie007,confilass,don paulo,gew,hackney,fphemmy,osisi and so many others thank u all so much 4 the blunt advises,u have saved a life.among the responses someone said i have a wicked heart i have been pondering over this statment i mean can one be wicked without knowing it?i dont belive i have a wicked heart ,in what sense? and one thing that is really affecting me is her educationall level i cant hold an intelligent conversation with my wife on topics like politics ,economics etc and this makes me really sad,i mean i have to explain to my wife what house of reps or the senate means or how to even use the internet i love to have a an intelectual relationship with my wife but i cant and this always brings tears to me but then as some of you has said i will try and enroll her into school again if that will work.
ONCE AGAIN I THANK YOU ALL FROM THE BOTTOM OF MY HEART,MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL

God bless you for this response. I'll remember you and your family in my prayers.

This Leilah get yawa o

sexyLeamon:
hey sweetpie can you shut up with this virgin stuff IF YOU ARE A VIRGIN GOOD FOR YOU

you seem to have a problem with her mentioning virginity.

If you feel so badly about it, you should have preserved yours. I hear there are surgeries for hymen reconstruction. . . you may wish to try one of them. It is good for pretend-virginity - though you will know yourself that you're not one

who rates books that are not written in English?

sweetpie23:
maybe his friends complain about her some guys are stupid you have to impress their friends

It may not be about his friends. There could be a number of things at play and the guy is the only one who knows this.

lekwas:
Does he not at least owe it to her to let her know what the problem is, instead of leaving her to guess? This guy walked upto the lady and proposed to her, if he thinks it is no longer what he wanted why not free her by releasing her from his grips as it were. The problem is whenever she calls, he says things like i will talk to you later.

Harsh as it may sound, he doesn't owe her any explanation. He's made it clear by his actions and the lady needs to take the cue and move on with her life. She should be thankful he is not the kind who will keep playing with her forever and then get married to some other girl.

Ralvy:
I feel, infact I know that we should not choose to be with a person merely because of love. Understanding and compatibility play a key role in a happy married life. If you have a great comfort level with someone,you are bound to love that person and hence be happy.
Poster, you need to understand that love is not instantaneous. It is a seed that grows over time, when two people commit to each other the goal of becoming one person. A symbiotic relationship. From him the woman draws strength and logic. From her, the man draws emotion and compassion. This is not something that happens overnight, or even in a few months. It can take years, provided the right beginnings are met. In your case, I can't say the right beginnings were met, but you can always try to fix things, if not, a divorce may be the only way out. I feel sorry for you

wise

Sam Milla:
I am sorry for your condition, its is bad for you and hers too
but we must sometimes take control of our own problems.

The idea of whether you love her or not comes from your mind.
You can always change it if you want.
All you need to do is to be sensitive when dealing with things that concerns her.
You are lucky that she loves you but since people dont value what they have until they loose it,
I will advice that you find a way to love her.

She is a woman which means she needs a lot of care from you.
Dont allow her to continue torturing herself with crying.
Look deep into your sub-conscious mind and find a way to love her.

Its your game, so play it well bro,

well said

blacksta:
Before anybody bites my head off . I think it is only a Naija thing where people drive with bare feet. Bare feet driving is so dangerous as there is little or no friction. In my years of driving i have never met anyone outside of Nigeria who drives with bare feet.

I have met many people here, mostly ladies who drive bare feet. There's no rule to it. I remember a discussion where one lady said she needs to understand how much pressure she applies on the pedals with her bare feet. Each to his/her own. But to say nowhere else does it happen may be incorrect

i am yet to meet a guy who wants to marry a virgin. i think that is old school. Most guys actually prefer a lady to know what she's doing. Easier to learn new skills from there instead of teaching from scratch

What is old school? The guys you meet are the ones who dont want virgins. . . perhaps they tell you that because they know you're not one.

Which man wants to have the city's remnant for a wife except those who are calculating what they stand to gain?

Ejadamen:
This makes me wonder if all virgins never gave a Mouth Gig before getting married

You honestly think virgins go around giving blowjobs? where did you grow up?

The man has discovered some things which have made him change his mind and he does not want to tell the lady directly. Its not unusual.

back2back:
and you think they have respect for us.

Days of master /slave relationship is gone.

Unfortunately, those days are still very much with us. There are too many of us who will dance wildly and with reckless abandon whenever the master plays any tune.

link?

He bought the condoms to use on you cos he doesn't think you should make another baby just yet

My wife would not do that unless she's made up her mind to have another husband.

Which kind yeye facebook be that wey you dey display body like ashy?