mayten30: do u think love just happens suddenly?many people just spit the word "I love her I love him" without knowing if truly the feelings they get is love,love deserves patience?love is for the strong-hearted people not for the weak
,am not saying anyone should wait but what am saying is that love does not happen suddenly,so when you love someone and he or she is not loving back do not feel dissapointed

noma beeee: then u need a serious deliverance.hw cn u luv jst ur familymembers.dts selfisHness.u nidto hv a beta undstandn of love

k2039:
Whether suddenly or with time, I don't think it does matter.

Infact when a person loves with time, it's because he discovered something about the other person. In most cases it's intrinsic and he may not be able to pinpoint it for sure.

But then if your life is controlled by feelings, what happens when the feelings fade away?.

The day my life really changed was the day I realised, I'm not my feelings or emotions, I had absolute control over it. If my feelings or emotions controlled me, it's because I abdicated the responsibility to take charge to such emotions.

I can go on loving someone for my lifetime because I realise it's a choice and when it comes to professing love, I have to stay committed to the other party. Infact, the major problem with most relationship is that there is lack of commitment.

A man/woman who is controlled by her feelings and emotions is always likely to get hurt and devastated when the other party isn't treating he/she well. If your feelings control you, you will only empower it.

Now, I understand humans are creation of emotions, but then if they don't control/take charge of it, it will more likely destroy them.

Look at this illustration, what happens if a man catches his woman having sex with another man on his matrimonial bed (worst still it was raw se.x). Are you implying since the love is unconditional, he should just take the woman back wothout considering the pros and cons. Bearing in mind since she is not faithful she could get infected with sexual related diseases and that makes her a killer by default. In that case are you implying the man shouldn't love/consider his own interest first.

If that mad dies as a result of sexual related diseases, then it's simply because he was plainly exhibiting the apex of all stupidities.

You don't have to agree with me, most times we are blinded by prejudice (preconceived mindsets), but then if you take time to reflect on my post, you may actually see a lot of sense in it.

That's not to say I don't get your point, I quite understand you perfectly, but then one is always likely to get hurt than not because your destiny (happiness/joy) now lies with the other party.

Mindependent: Sorry to vent on here but don't you girls or guys just hate it when the person you gbadun doesn't feel the same, or maybe is in a relationship or even worse does not realize you feel that way or even exist!!!!

Arghhh the life of a woman

Men have it way easier to just be able to walk upto a lady and be like hey you, my room tonight. Don't be late and not get judged

mayten30: guy when u truly love someone u will put them first,self love na wash sometimes,are u a christian?did u see what jesus did in the bible?he gave his life for you and I,didn't he think about self love?did you see that he put other party ahead of himself?and we are the other party

bad meat: ,read the pure art of seduction by badmeat,if need it just mail or drop ya Pin

Linqsz: here z ma story.
i fell in love wit a girl. I approached her,we talked for a while an she gave me her number....we started talking on phone buh she has never called me b4,so I do all d calling ...problem started when I told her my feelings for her...she hardly pick her calls,she won't flash after seeing my missed calls,she doesn't reply ma txt,msgs on whatsapp and Facebook ....
NAIRALANDERS,make I still dey try?

wandeykul: I'm a victim...in my case,we were alredy dating n it lasted 4yrs buh I was d 1 loving more,.ds month,he acts gud,nxt month,na anoda thin,I do most of d callin,text etc...ladies,we realy nid to knw our worth smtimes,I'm in anoda raltionshp nw where d luv is mutual on same level,I v learnt my lessons tho

xoctic: that book is for deception, why nt advice them 2 play calm, if the guy notices you he ll certainly come 4 u. All u av 2 do is let ur sef been seen

El Guapo: Havent we grown past this bullcrap?

Dying and crushing inside while the other mate goes around giving his/her partner a hot Bj service!

Likes repels, you alone dont just have to store up those loves - there should be a 'link' that connects the both of you.

If he/she doesnt finds the need to establish a mutual relationship with you or isnt fond of you, then chances that your proposal would be declined spans from river nile to the atlantics

xoctic: that book is for deception, why nt advice them 2 play calm, if the guy notices you he ll certainly come 4 u. All u av 2 do is let ur sef been seen

Mindependent: Sorry to vent on here but don't you girls or guys just hate it when the person you gbadun doesn't feel the same, or maybe is in a relationship or even worse does not realize you feel that way or even exist!!!!

Arghhh the life of a woman

Men have it way easier to just be able to walk upto a lady and be like hey you, my room tonight. Don't be late and not get judged

Mindependent: Sorry to vent on here but don't you girls or guys just hate it when the person you gbadun doesn't feel the same, or maybe is in a relationship or even worse does not realize you feel that way or even exist!!!!

Arghhh the life of a woman

Men have it way easier to just be able to walk upto a lady and be like hey you, my room tonight. Don't be late and not get judged

fabulousfortune: Really. Hmm, dat means it's been long u've been in dis business o

Bryan12: Am crazyy.i love girls that doesn't like me.hate those that gbadun me.....what am i

you just answered yourself. You said you're crazy.

xoctic: that book is for deception, why nt advice them 2 play calm, if the guy notices you he ll certainly come 4 u. All u av 2 do is let ur sef been seen

Mindependent: Sorry to vent on here but don't you girls or guys just hate it when the person you gbadun doesn't feel the same, or maybe is in a relationship or even worse does not realize you feel that way or even exist!!!!

Arghhh the life of a woman

Men have it way easier to just be able to walk upto a lady and be like hey you, my room tonight. Don't be late and not get judged

Wu Zetian: I remember when I was a sophomore, I used to crush on this guy called Ryan. He is an Alpha Phi Alpha, Alphas are just cool, period! I'm sure if I post a picture, the ladies would understand the torture I was passing true.

Fortunately or maybe unfortunately for me, we registered to the same class spring semester. He was a senior when I was a sophomore.
Very early into the semester like 2nd day of classes when most people haven't bought their text books, he came to sit down on a chair beside me. I was already dying inside, stealing glances @ the god beside me. My professor then made reference to something in the textbook.

I don't understand the liver I chopped that day, I mumbled something and made gesture to my textbook. He moved closer and I shifted the textbook a little so we could share. Na so liver fail me oo.
My people, I could not move as in, I think I stopped breathing. I just focused my gaze on my professor, I was scared to move a limb. I just sat down glued to my chair, scared to breathe or even cough. I don't think I have ever been so tensed in my life. When the class was over and he said, "thank you", I couldn't say a word. He said it like thrice, I just nodded and focused on putting my textbook in my backpack.
I couldn't look @ him. (No way, he would see right through my melting heart) I was shaking inside, trying to recover and this mofo was trying to hv small talk KAI! I hv suffered!

I swear when he dropped the class, I was happy ehn, having such hotness around was torture.

usermane:

Hmmh,story of my life. But overall,u girls have it easier,u have other guys texting,showering you with praises and flowers,you have other guys to take his place in your heart. If i tell u my unrequited love story, u will understand my opinion better. Sometime ago, you loved someone who was a friend but madly in love with another guy who treat her badly,cheating on her,yet she would choose him anytime,anywhere over u. Yet,u can do nothing. Hoping and praying that one day,u will be considered more than a friend, you will be hers and the future will be the happiest man on the earth, but year after year of day dreaming, it only get worse. U have no better option than to go back to your bedroom and cry yourself to sleep because love in most cases isn't sweet. It is bitter. Because one day,you had to say 'bye',you had to watch helplessly as the only girl very dear to your heart had to finally move on, the girl of your dreams for 5 yrs is finally gone and your heart is completely shattered. 5 good years of your life wasted,5 years of rejection and dejection, an half decade of your existence destroyed. U feel broken, you lost in the end big time and that won't change. Now, you v lost everything, the dream, the hope, the friendship, did i say everything? U clearly are alone in this whole earth, despite all the people around. U 've bcome a downtrodden loner.

kayClt: Its a normal tin,u don't always eat ur cake n hv it,if u get rejected,take a walk bck to th river n throw ur net,U will catch another big fish.

sunny t: Why wud u love someone who dosnt love u in return or someone who belong to anoda person?

Its d most stupid tin any livingthing will eva do. Live is too short to waste ur time crying ova d height of mt. everest.